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Read 1st Thessalonians 5:4

You really think Pastor Chris doesn't know what he is talking about? I am yet to meet a more scholar of the word like Pastor Chris.

Outbursts like yours reminds me that the Bible says the rapture will occur like the floods in the time of Noah.

Noah went around announcing the flood and he was jeered at.

Many years ago I remember Pastor Chris mentioning that the rapture isn't anywhere close from what Bible prophecy reflects. And that once the rapture of the Church is close, he will alert the Church.

And that's what he is doing now.

1 Thessalonian 5:4 is clear: the rapture isn't meant to take those who are in the light unawares.

Pastor Chris isn't stupid. He knows what he is talking about.

Shallom!

uote author=ENIGMATIC2023 post=93930356]Pastor Chris Oyakhilome : The Rapture won't exceed 10 years.

Thought the bible said, No one knows about that DAY or hour, not even the son of man?

But 10 years is approx 3,650 days. �

It's a fake news or probably a message of doom����


“But concerning that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father only” (Matt. 24:36, Mark 13:32).���[/quote]

Read 1st Thessalonian 5:4.

uote author=Michellla post=93895103]"No one knows when that day or hour will come —not the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father"[/quote]

Longevity and material gain you say? Pathetic!

A man was mimicked and did you notice the calibre of people that stood in his defence and ready to die if need be?

When you impact men, they will be willing to die in the stakes for you.

How many people are loyal to you? How many lives have you impacted?

If Oyedepo coughs today, do you have any inclination as to how many people will rise up?

That's impact.

If I were you, I'll ask what is it about this man?

It is God that honours a man. And honour begets honour. Promotion doesn't come from the East, West, or South but from the North.

Oyedepo is a blessed man. You don't have to fancy it. And in all honesty, your opinion doesn't change anything.

To the next five generations or more, Oyedepo's offspring can never know lack or want. Can you honestly say the same for yourself?

And you speak against something you should crave for yourself. Sad!

"What you attack, you will never attract.
What you hate, you will never have.
What you don't like, you must lack"
- Dr Paul Enenche

quote author=ChiefJusticeFuc post=93872391]There is this general rule of thumb in the criminal world that the longer a crime boss evades Police arrest or avoid prison the more likely he is a snitch .

Same rule applies to these fake pastors. The longer they remain in business, the more deeper they are with satan.

Jesus only ministered for 3ys

God took Elijah and Enoch away to avoid the devil tempting them

Longevity plus material gain is all these scammers have to show .

Well, if you serve the master of this world as they have, their god(Satan) will reward them with earthly pleasures.[/quote]

Hmmm...you may be right. But if the Bible is the topic of discourse, then you're wrong, because it wasn't fashioned out by men, so it's rid of sentiments and gender bias.

The Bible is a manual from the manufacturer of man on how he can live a fruitful life as he transitions on earth.

So even if the manufacturer is mistaken, or the manual flawed, wisdom says I should stick with it if I want to live.

I can't say the same for any book authored by man.

akdjr:
Truly when they say women are their own enemy . It is high time people start looking beyond just believe and think logical too. Can't u see that most laws back in the days were made by men just to subject women to their control. Open ur mind, come out of what u were program to believe and reflect on what I just said. I am a man but I can go on a debate with anyone of my gender that men made laws just to keep woman under selfish control.

If the Bible is what you seek to follow. Then, yes sir; the submission of a woman should be total.

Maybe you should read out the relationship of Sarah and Abraham. She called Abraham, Lord.

If marriages are to be enjoyed, then let everyone play their role wholeheartedly.

Act your script well irrespective of whether the other chooses to or not.

I think we undermine the power of submission. Submission is a very powerful tool; much more effective than insisting on your way.

God knows this: and He gave women that weapon to offset their husband whom most often times bask in ego.

Submission will always paralyse ego.

In the end, we're all accountable to God who rewards us accordingly.






quote author=bkool7 post=93765223]Is this man saying the wife must submit totally to the husband but the husband is not obliged to reciprocate?

You just want a "Yes sir" wife.

Is that a union or companionship?


That's more like a boss and slave relationship.


Even Jesus honoured his disciples by washing their feet. And that's Jesus o[/quote]

I truly don't see the need for all the back and forth. Freeze clearly has his audience, so does Papa Oyedepo. If any Christian chooses to be confused, it is clear that the problem isn't Freeze or Papa Oyedepo, but the Christian who wouldn't check out the scriptures.

Marriage is sustained by knowledge, understanding, and wisdom- (Prov 24:3-4). I believe strongly that people who debate who should submit first are those who have issues with pride.

We may not like it as ladies, but a woman isn't a partner with her husband. Her husband is her lord, for anything that has two heads is a monster.

God instituted marriage and set order. You have issues with your hubby as a wife? Then dialogue, and if he disagrees, report him to His Lord; who is also your Lord.

If you have issues with trusting God to deal with your hubby, then it means you have issues with your salvation in the first place. There's nothing more unappealing than a lady who always wants to have her way. It takes off the poise, charisma, dignity, and charm you have as a lady.

Let the man lead. And here's the obvious: Don't marry a man you cannot submit to. I believe it's that simple.

I truly am lost for words.

The kind of hardship that's about to befall some Nigerians is better imagined than expressed.

Is there any justifiable reason for wanting to take someone's life? The worse she could have done was run away from her madam or resigned.

Squote author=SegFault post=93022263]What was the reason first before I land?[/quote]

Can you please, please just be quiet? It sounds like an appeal, but it truly isn't.

You have the impetus to talk about private jet. I don't think you have an inclination of what you are saying.

You should be weeping that with all the tax you pay, that hasn't bettered your life in anyway, your country is still the headquarters of poverty in the world.

With all the increment and a higher standard of living, you truly think the private jets acquired by any pastor should be your concern?

This is truly sad! Who is holding government accountable? How has the tithe or the private jet bought by pastors affected you in any way?

How much of your offering was used in acquiring the jet? Tell me. Calculate your offering and ask yourself: can it buy the tyres of a jet, let alone a seat?

Yet you're weeping over pastors acquiring jet. Those who truly give to God know they are being blessed by giving, whilst those who are broke complain about pastors jet.

Forget about pastors jet. Give your way into prosperity and stop speaking against the things you desire for yourself.

Were pastors elected to better our economy? In what way do freewill donations and offerings affect the state of our country?

Are pastors jets the reason pump price is threatening to increase? Are pastors jets the reason government increased VAT while salaries remained the same? Are pastors jets the reason those who looted your economy haven't been brought to book? Are pastors jets responsible for the insecurity or high standard of living in the land? Are pastors jets the reason for the nonchalance and cluelessness of our government?

You are giving government a nod to go mess up the church's treasury like they have our nation's.

I say No! Let them go and hold themselves accountable for all the tax we've been paying.

If I have my way I will gift more pastors private jets. If nothing, for the order and decorum that runs in our churches.

You know what? I beg you again to just hold your peace for good.

quote author=BabaRamota1980 post=93030551]

The churches brought this upon themselves.

There are many muslim communities just like Zakzaky group in North. They mind their business and never get involved in govt issues. Zakyzaky stays in govt business all the time. Thats why he is in trouble now.

Jonathan set a bad precedence when he will have these pastors meddling govt business. They got too comfortable and started commenting on what govt is doing or not doing. When you are a tax exempt organization, stay away from govt the best you can. Put a long distance between you and govt. Govt has all the rules and ways to fvk up anyone, if they choose to. These churches did same thing Zakyzaky did, started fvkng with govt. So now govt wants to fcvk with them too. Its unfortunate but its reality.

There is a pastor in America called Pastor Dollar or something like that. He used to condemn govt and live large and flaunt. One of their legislators got on his case and wanted to probe him and his church. The Pastor got the message at that point.

If CAMA can bring out same result in Nigerian pastors it will be great. The money they waste on acquiring jets and building for-profit private institutions should be better used in promoting wellbeing and supporting needs of communities and people. At the end of it people benefit when churches come to their aid in time of distress and need.[/quote]

Like seriously? Be careful what you ask for? You want to press towards the mark of the high calling? I don't think you know what you're asking for?

How can Christians be so gullible? You truly long for the government to dictate what happens in churches?

If these churches were being run the way the Nigerian government have been running Nigeria, I truly don't think there will be anything enviable left in the church for them to covet.

Having run poorly the economy, they are looking to run churches that have board of trustees in place that have run smoothly for years without hiccups.

Hear me: they are crazy and everyone else that supports their useless bids.

seunlayi:
Govt can control churches. Can should shut up

Those quoting that the Church should obey all of the government's instruction against it, because the Bible says so, are grossly misinformed.

The Bible also states to give to God what is God's and to Caesar what is Caesar's.

The monies we give as donation and offerings have already been taxed for Christ's sakes.

What's the government doing with all the monies in their coffers? Except bagging the poverty headquarters of the world, with huge debts on its neck.

The Church was the primary means of livelihood for most homes during this pandemic, whilst the government orchestrated plans to siphon funds that could have made the lives of the masses better.

How much more money does the government need? VAT increased with no increment in salary amidst the aggravated hardship.

Take it or leave it: the Church is the most functional entity in Nigeria. Their employees are paid on time, and you hardly hear of a church that has gone bankrupt.

This should tell the state something:

In the Bible, the Prophet Daniel of old upheld God's Word and was ready to burn in the stakes instead of obeying a government's injunction.

So, daring the audacity of the government by Papa Oyedepo wouldn't be anything strange-- for the state is overstepping its boundaries.

If these mega churches had squandered the monies received by members, the government will have nothing to be eyeing.

Lazy government. Kindly go and take a long sleep for on this one, you have failed.

Lauretta and co, should go and imbibe the ways of the Church and be wise, for a progressive Nigeria. Envying affluent men of God is completely unnecessary.

If it's easy to get people to be gullible, everyone would have a thriving church.

Nevertheless, I believe that until the church rises up as one and speak with one voice, the state may keep advancing.

I truly wish we had more Christians like Papa Oyedepo and Pst. Chris-- with audacity.

When the state started dictating how services should be run all in the name of COVID19, I knew there would be more stringent rules coming, as they have been tasting their might.

Christianity isn't "zombiesm". No! It's not.

If you're a Christian and you're applauding this move, I am truly sorry for you.

Know this: persecuting God's church is tantamount to persecuting Christ, and there is the warfare dimension of the God we worship.

We shall surely overcome.

Is there a president in Nigeria? Your bias stinks.

[quote author= post=92853476]Is there a governor in that state?

And the figure head there is even proud to be campaigning for another term.

There was a state![/quote]

"No one is perfect", you may have heard some people say, as a way to make excuses for their lapse or the shortcoming of others.

The question becomes: why aren't you, or what are you doing about it?

There's a huge difference between saying: "I'm not perfect" and "I'm working towards perfection"

Whilst one is an excuse, the other is taking responsibility for an obvious shortcoming.

And as we know: excuses have never been known to improve anyone or anything - Never!

Don't gallant in your imperfections, talk instead about what you are working towards becoming.

It's even more sad when Christians flaunt they aren't perfect like there's a scriptural verse that justifies it.

So I get:

You lie because it's your weakness.
You cheat on your hubby because you are clay.
You beat up your wife because you are just a man.
You steal because you aren't perfect.
You fight in your neighbourhood because you are made of humus.

But I also get that:

The kidnappers, murderers, rapists, paedophiles, corrupt politicians, scammers, etc also do these because they are made of clay.

Why do you share their atrocities on social media and shout "tufiakwa" but excuse yours by claiming, "no one is perfect"?

Or is there a thermometer to measure which of these imperfections is greater?

I tell you the truth:

Every supposedly heinous crime carried out once started as a suggestion, a subtle character flaw, a mere imperfection.

That your imperfections doesn't seem grievous doesn't make the sanction on it any less.

Please and please.

I humbly admonish us:

If you don't look like what the scripture portrays you to be in character, then weep and ask for grace, not flaunt your obvious character flaws and blame it on being clay.

As Christians, we have been called to be perfect *(Matthew 5:48),* and if you aren't, let that be your desire daily instead of confessions of:

"I'm not perfect" or "No one is perfect."

Please say boldly at all times:

I walk towards perfection, and I am mightily helped of God to be perfect in all things. I am a symbol of perfection; I am perfect and free from character flaws, in Jesus' Name.

And as you consistently declare, it will become your reality.

If you cannot see the objectivity of their posts and the insensitivity of the Nigerian government, maybe you should hold your peace.

Who visits the markets? Is it not people with money?

How do you take people's means of livelihood without palliatives? Isn't that also equal to death?

Did the government stop PHCN from bringing bills? How do they pay? Would their stay home prevent landlords from coming to request rent when due?

You are either grossly wicked or as insensitive as the Nigerian government.

Let me add:

All these guys in government haven't stopped earning salaries one day. Yet they put other people's lives on hold in the name of fighting a so called virus.

If the virus only kills those with underlying ailment, then there truly is no reason why life can't return to normalcy.

ThatFairGuy:
Year 2020 is gone. Only God can judge covid-19 Sha,.

Before talking trash, it is he who lives that seeks education. Life is a priority now, not education.



If market places are not open, is it your faeces you will be eating?

I just can't understand the rationale behind the actions of the Nigerian government.

Most churches have already put measures in place to comply with their directives, and you truly think the churches are a threat?

This looks more like a segregated attack.

People queue up at ATM stands, markets, offices, buses, etc. With no respect for social distancing, and they don't have an issue with that.

Saw pixs from George Floyd's memorial service in the United states, and not an iota of social distancing was observed.

How come we are the ones carrying this thing on our head?

These churches have employees and there are some pastors in full time ministry. True, God always takes care of His own, but I don't see any objectivity in this move.

Besides, with all the so called increase in death rate and way people are contracting the disease, it's kinda strange that one hasn't come across someone that knows someone who knows someone that has died of corona virus.

If all deaths from corona virus is linked to underlying sicknesses, then they should allow people lead their normal lives, especially those who clearly know they have no underlying ailments.

If at least one person has been cured of this virus, why not make available to the public the prescription they used in curing the patient?

All these unnecessary hype these guys are giving this pandemic is what I can't get.

You guys should just allow normalcy to life.





quote author=Mixt post=90737746]

https://www.channelstv.com/2020/06/16/breaking-lagos-govt-stops-planned-reopening-of-worship-centers/[/quote]

You breathe blasphemy in the name of wanting to write. Is it truly worth it?

LaEvilIMiss:
GOD Almighty has either placed this disease on the world or.... he has caught COVID19 himself and is in an isolation center

A virgin is someone who has never done it before -- Dr Myes Munroe.

Oh...it's absolutely fine if "it" in that definition means sex to you. However, "it" could mean a variety of things.

If you've never driven a car before... you are a virgin to driving cars.
If you've never anchored an event before...you are a virgin in that area.
If you've never cooked before, you're a virgin in that aspect.
The list goes on...

Now, I believe the definition of virginity in this context is clear.

Here's the thing about God.

He's very interested in virgins. He hardly ever gives people tasks or assignments on things they have experience in.

And you know why?

So, you won't carry out the task without depending on Him. If the assignment God is calling you to do looks like one you can find the answers on Google, then you need to be doubly sure that God is the one sending you to embark on it.

Mary the mother of Jesus was saddled with the assignment of birthing the messiah-- she was a virgin as far as that assignment was concerned.
Elizabeth the mother of John the Baptist was tasked with birthing the forerunner of Jesus Christ at old age-- clearly a miracle child and a virgin project.
Jesus insisted on an ass that no one has ridden to drive him into Jerusalem.
God declared everything that opens the womb of man or beast sacred.

What do all these mean to you?

The purpose for which God created you is akin to you, as it was with Mary and Elizabeth, which is why He always directs you to who can help you nurture it.

And the Angel Gabriel said to Mary, ...and Elizabeth is pregnant. Why didn't he say, your brother's wife is pregnant or one of your girlfriends is pregnant.

He was key about Elizabeth, because who helps you nurture the vision or purpose for which God has called you can either break or launch you.

Don't give up on that vision God has laid in your heart. Ask God where your Elizabeth is who can help nurse your dream to fruition.

Most people choose mentors by sight and spiritual leaders by the size of a congregation. This is so wrong; don't be a part of that.

If Mary were to choose a mentor, I believe you wouldn't have chosen an old barren woman. Don't forget Elizabeth at that time was hiding inside the house ashamed of being pregnant at old age. So, no one knew she was with child at old age.

But the angel knew that Mary's assignment and immaculate conception could only be believed and nurtured by someone who was also carrying a vision that was similar to hers.

If Mary had talked to friends or people who weren't tasked with a similar calling, they would have either jeered at her, calling her a cheat or made her think the vision she was tasked with was impossible.

Ask God to choose your mentors to help you nurture your purpose. He gave you the assignment, He alone knows who would better help you nurse it.

The angel didn't send Mary to Anna...remember her? The woman who became a widow very early and resolved to stay in the temple living her life by praying and fasting for the coming of the messiah.

Anna was a spiritual person living in the temple, but God didn't send Mary to her.

Don't choose mentors because they look spiritual; some people's call no matter how spiritual may not align with God's calling for your life. So, instead of nurturing you, they will feel threatened by you. Remember the story of David and Saul?

On the other hand, if you have no idea what your purpose on earth is, I urge you to go ask your maker. Because God is only committed to providing for His vision in Your life. And as sure as He lives, He wants you to know why you are here. And by the way that's what the definition of purpose is: Why am I here?

The only constant thing is change.
And that implies people, places, things, etc.

So, don't be surprised when people (loved ones inclusive) act weird today and all funny tomorrow.

(In fact keep a special place in your heart for such occurrences; they call it MOOD SWING) or worse, the MOOD remains on a SWING that never returns.�

Don't feel overwhelmed when an app you just purchased suddenly needs an update, or a certification exam you paid heavily for suddenly have a newer version.

Don't feel dejected that a place you visited just a couple of months ago now looks totally different; making it look like you have dementia.

Change they say is the only constant thing.

But there's someone who's immune to change

Yes! He is the Lord!

And He said: I am the Lord, I change not (Malachi 3:6)

You want assurance? Then, that's the real assurance right there.

He's the same yesterday, today, and forever. He's mightier than swings in moods, and awesomely anti-update.�

Oh....you need Him; especially in a world like ours where everything and everyone is ephemeral and transient. You need something REAL.

So, embrace change and create space for it. But much more, embrace the Certainty & Assurance found ONLY in God.

if you want to be remembered long after your body expires, while you live write something worth reading or do something worth writing about. SOm people will live just in time, others will still speak long after they have transcended into eternity. That decision is made while the person is alive.
When you watch movies and feel inspired by it, only to realize the person who featured in the movie has long died, that is someone who still speaks even after being dead. When you listen to songs that were sang by people before they died, that's them speaking even though they are dead. When you read books of authors who have translated to glory, that's an author speaking to you even while they are gone.

The dead won't concern themselves with the language any longer, but they had already made sure they settled it before their body expired.

Dtruthspeaker:
It is the living who speak and have languages not the dead!

Those who die now without Life, shall never have to be concerned about languages after dying

"Lord I want to change the world for you", "Lord give me the nations for my inheritance"... I would pray.. Psalm 2:8 out loud.

Most times, after I finish those long exhilarating prayer sessions and filling cool with myself that I have prayed. I will hear deep in my spirit:

"The world includes your compound, your street, public transports, hospitals, markets... Have you changed those places for me yet?��

Many times, we are concerned about doing great things for GOD, and ignore the little things that we should be doing that makes our world better.

Your faithfulness in little instructions and tasks is what graduates you for more.

Yesterday, the world celebrated the life of Rev. Ravi Zecharias and how much impact he made in the world while he lived.

But he didn't get there until after being tried faithful in little acts of worship.

As I went through excerpts from his book, I suddenly became aware of a man who was dead but still speaking.

Funnily, I didn't know "jah" about him until he died.�

So, what are you working on presently that will keep speaking after your body expires? It doesn't have to be huge; just ensure though that it is YOUR assignment.

You want to take over the world in any field of endeavour? Don't ignore starting small and being faithful to the process.

God bless You.

Most people bashing BankyW obviously didn't watch the video clip.

He was addressing stewardship and only used his experience with his chef to elaborate.

And he did caution his chef when he was first caught stealing. He relieved him of his job only after he was caught a second time.

So happy he is becoming spiritual. Talking about the influence of his very spiritual wife.

You were born into Christianity, you say. But in truth, Christianity isn't something you are born into. It isn't a religion. You become a Christian by accepting Jesus Christ as Lord and personal saviour, not by birth.

Service in church doesn't make you a member of God's family. Only salvation in the one and only name-- Jesus, does.

How you pray will largely be dependent on how the Holy Spirit that comes to reside at the time of salvation leads.

Cause our words are empty without being empowered by the Holy Spirit. Even Jesus for 30 years didn't say anything that was worth writing about until the Holy Spirit came upon Him after His baptism by John.

Remember that even God didn't say let there be light until the Holy Spirit had hovered over the waters.

My point? Your prayers are empty words full of emotions without the Holy Spirit.

So, start from giving your heart to Christ, and take it up from there.

This way, when you pray, you will pray in line with scriptures, because you are God's child.

The baptism of the Holy Spirit is a different matter. But after salvation. You should ask the Holy Spirit to come infill you. And this happens with evidence of speaking in tongues. In my opinion, this is when you truly start enjoying Christianity.

When you pray in tongues, you don't pray amiss or carnally. You pray with precision and exactness. And that is where God desires to bring each and everyone of us in our walk with Him.

Shout or pray silently? Well, this will be dependent on what the Holy Spirit is leading you to deal with per time.

Shalom.

Exactly my thought.

quote author=mulante post=89585190]This is strange.

How can you behead something that looks like a child?[/quote]

Some years back, I observed that a building site was perpetually at the foundation level; even though labourers were always busy working on it.

Not being able to contain my curiosity anymore, I opted to engage one of the labourers for clarity.

"Oga, why una still dey for foundation level for this building till now, the other building just beside this one have been completed since, but na this one dem first start?", I enquired.

"Hahahahahaha....
madam no be so o, that building and this one no be the same na.

Na high rise building we wan construct for here o, so the foundation needs to be very solid, else the building go collapse o. The other building na bungalow" he said, laughing at my ignorance.

"Hmmm...Ok", I responded getting the picture clearly.�

See, I don't know where you presently are in your life, and it seems like it is taking God forever to birth your heart's desire.

You have fasted your stomach sour, sowed seeds till your bank account is reading red. And you have almost began to question your faith.

Yet you probably have watched those who are far from devoted to God get His speedy answers, and now, you're like: Hello Lord, I'm still here; when will you deliver on my project?

But the more you pray, the more sealed your heavens seem to be.

Hear me, please:

God is making out of you a mighty edifice.

When an edifice is being erected, it takes months, or possibly years to get completed -- but when it stands, it can clearly not be ignored.

He has said for your shame you shall have the double. For all the years you have been looked down on. All the years you've bee. laughed at. All the years you've cried your eyes blue. Yes! For all the years you have waited for a change, God knows a bungalow will hardly suffice. And that's why He has promised to restore.
*(Joel 2:25-32)*

Restorations don't come without BONUSES. Else it isn't restoration, but replacement.


Your high rise building will stand for all to see, and you will be celebrated.

It doesn't matter the area it has been delayed. You will jubilate...hallelujah.��

Caution! Caution! Please.

While you wait, do what waiters do: *serve.*

Your faithful service is your memorial.

So, don't let anything or anyone make you temper down on it, and as surely as the Lord lives, you shall testify.

Congratulations!

And that's where you are wrong. No pastor owns a church. The Bible is clear on that one: Jesus said I will build my church and the gates of hell will not prevail against it.

So, if your prayer is that there be a falling away of the church, you can be sure that you are fighting Christ.

And you know what Jesus told the overzealous Saul (Paul), He said why do you persecute me?

But on a flip coin, know this: several people are running to the foot of the cross now more than ever. And as sure as day, your prayer will not see fruition.

Oyedepo isn't your problem; the church isn't your problem either. You are your problem.


quote author=TheAfricaQueen post=89260763]Mr Oyedepo, now more than ever, the Nigerian Church has shown it's self to be extremely non-essential. At the start of the year all the Nigerian churches proclaimed that 2020 would be our year, a year of GREAT HEALTH, GREAT WEALTH AND MAGNIFICENT BLESSINGS.

Well so far 2020 has been awful, and Nigeria and the world are staring at a recession/depression. So pastors of Nigeria, why didn't you people foresee this pandemic? Why are you not healing the sick COVID-19 patients? It just goes to show you all that their miracle shows are carefully choreographed drama shows.

Post COVID-19 expect empty seats in your churches, the people are waking up.[/quote]

Well said.

In my opinion, you seem to brood over everything. Nagging over things you should overlook.

After 6 years, you are still upset over your birthday that your wife consistently forgets. Haba!

She remembered to buy you a gift afterward, and you snubbed her and her gift, yet you have been praying for her to change. How does your action help?

Some people will never keep birthdays in mind, not because they care less but they aren't fashioned to place value on birthdays.

So, why not remind her about your birthday to ease things up? If the birthday is that important to you.

It often takes two to argue. You said you guys argue over almost every thing.

The question now becomes: why do you indulge her? She is in her natural habitat like you mentioned. You met her so. Which means she enjoys being alone and by herself. You said you liked her and went to marry her, and now you want to change her.

Abeg, you're the one craving for a change, so be ready to put in the work.

Hear me: there's no woman that doesn't have a price. As long as the reason for her coldness isn't another male interest, then you can win your wife.

But will your ego let you? Allow her win every argument she wants to initiate. It doesn't make you less of a man.

You desire peace, then pay the price for it.

Am I applauding her? Nope! But she is just being who she is. She is probably wondering why you have issues with her personality. After all, you met her so, and you can't change anyone. So, influence her and see her do your bid.

All the best!

quote author=bukatyne post=89149605]

You realize that the error is all yours for not choosing well.

For that, you are half way there.

You mentioned that you married in the Church: brother you know that except adultery and I will say abuse, you can't divorce your wife.

You have tried counseling, reporting her to family etc. etc. and it has not worked.

Now, I want you to try changing your reaction to her attitude. You have been married long enough to 'predict' her actions/inactions.

She forgot your birthday, fine. Celebrate yourself. Go out with the kids, go out with your friends etc.

She tries to keep malice, apologize and move on.

I know it is hard, it is abnormal even however you need to build a shield in your heart so that her attitude doesn't get to you anymore.

Don't beg or cajole her to 'change' or 'be better' or whatever: you are telling her that she has power over you.

Thank God finances are not a thing: treat your self, go on vacations, do the certifications or courses you wanted to. Channel your emotions into the things you have always wanted to do, pick up new hobbies, go to gym and workout youf frustrations etc.

And prayers work: if not for her to change, for you to be whole mentally and emotionally.

It is well.[/quote]

When a lady can comfortably make nude pictures of herself and send to a guy she hasn't met, and then goes ahead to profess love to him, it only shows that is her profession. And you aren't her only prospect.

For you to even consider patronizing a lady that proposes a relationship to you through her nudity, also says a lot about your own moral inclinations.

What am I even saying sef? You guys deserve yourselves. So hurry and delay no further in proposing to her already.

What absurdity!!!

professing love relationship withquote author=Promise47 post=88936473]I have not being in any serious relationship only one girl I dated Facebook but we are yet to see Face to Face but the girl usually send me her nude pictures and she said she love me guys should I believe her or not which one[/quote]

Sometimes, we may not really have the full details to issues.

But the story clearly states that the lady had to go cheat to confirm where the problem of their inability to have kids was from, since her hubby refused to go for a sterility check, in spite of several push from her.

He knew he was impotent, but was satisfied with his wife being seen as the barren one, whilst he posed as a man of God that is faithfully supportive of his barren wife.

I can only imagine how the lady had to hide herself in shame and her voice silenced, for her inability to conceive.

And her leaving without looking back also suggests how much she must have gone through. The man didn't touch his wife for months. What kind of relationship did they have? Soured I tell you.

The lady was patient. And the story further explained that she found love in the guy who impregnated her. So, staying back with her hubby wasn't an option any longer.

The dead man was insincere. And it's clear he took his life out of ego that was hurt. The height of selfishness, again.

He pushed the woman to adultery, in my opinion.

cococandy:
I think she also knew that he was aware. long before she told him. Her telling him over the phone was more like a formality.

I believe the best thing she should have done was to have the conversation with him. Look we both know you’re not the biological father of the child but we can still be married and you be a real life father to this child. And that could have been between them instead of her making it so public like that.
As long as she didn’t tell anyone else, something tells me he would have been okay with the arrangement.

Some men take infertility and impotence as the end of the world that it shouldn’t be. Especially if it’s public knowledge.

You seem pained like you were compelled to use the app.

Kindly let those who requested for it enjoy the app. With all your rant about church collecting money, and your not giving yours, has it stopped the church from being prosperous?

The church doesn't need your money. Please, keep it!

quote author=YorubaKinging post=87814070]God will punish Oyedepo, the false prophet
Very selfish bishop
A man of Satan
When everybody is trying to get as many food stuffs and supplies as they can get
When people are losing thier jobs
You still want to collect the little they have

Well it's not your fault
But your foolish church members that you've deceived
But God will surely judge you[/quote]

This is the fear I harbour against Amotekun. I pray silently that they don't become the nightmare of the southwest.

quote author=Gidah post=87747158]I live in ikd this vigilante are very stupid imagine they saw someone at his gate and started interrogating him he said u saw me at my house in front of my gate the next thing they pound on him and started beating him then we heard noises we went out saw them beating my neighbor we engage in fight with them, we stopped there korope(those new small mini bus) so they can't go, the guy that led there squad has his left hand amputated and he's the one that started the fight cos he head butted my neighbor funny thing this was around 8pm, a vigilante was asking that he want to go through someone's phone when he didn't answer he broke the phone, that's what caused the fight and they were even bragging that they are working on fed govt instruction just sick and tired of this country lawlessness.[/quote]

I truly hope that at the end of this pandemic, those in the corridors of power would have learned a thing or two.

Atiku's son would probably have been on his way out of naija for medical attention, but for the closure of the borders of these countries.

Now, the high and mighty are all stuck to our quack medical services they have abandoned and refused to invest in.

Indeed, what goes around comes around.

I pray that beautiful and progressive lessons be learned from this setback. And that at the end of all this, we will become wiser and more patriotic as a people.

Let me be the determinant of that. Anyways, thanks for stopping by.

Davash222:
If this is not fiction, then I’m sorry, this is a waste of good writing skills.