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sorry no excuse is ever acceptable

smooooooth:
1. man cant leave by one soup alone
2. i love slim girls, now you out of shape
3. i'm a man, its natural
4. she seduced me
5. i am an african man, cant do just one woman
6. you are too reserved, i need some action
7. she raped me
8. it was the devil
9. i was too drunk
10. i thot she was you.

pathetic. i can never trust any cheater. if i ever discover it is over. a cheater is never worth it

zinco:
Though i married at 33 while my wife at 23 but the issue is that early marriage is the best there is no two way about dat, if I had my way I would have married at 24yrs.

May God provide for the men financially.

marriage is not meant for the young that is where we get it wrong. money will help but i dont think marriage shouls be entered into lightly. money or no money

newbride:
jjyou thanks for the encouragement
Olagbedu this is me dealing with my issues i dont knowabout daniel but thanks for spotting it out for me

i found this article insightful  it may bless you too
God's Pressure Cooker, Pt.1Practical Help from 2 Corinthians 4: 7-18
As a child, I well remember the sound of a whistle blowing to indicate that dinner was almost ready. It was the release valve on one of my mom’s favorite cooking utensils, her pressure cooker. She used the cooker to prepare vegetables and other dishes that needed to be cooked in water at high temperatures.
The pressure cooker is an interesting device because it is designed to help water exceed its normal properties. If one puts water in an open pot and applies heat, the water will begin to boil when it reaches 212 degrees Fahrenheit (100 degrees Celsius).

It will rise into the atmosphere as steam and be lost for cooking purposes. If you put the water in an enclosed pot, however, the steam is trapped. The water achieves, if you will, a higher temperature and is able to cook more effectively in a shorter amount of time. Pressure under controlled circumstances produces greater effectiveness and productivity, making water do what it cannot naturally accomplish.

Most of us feel like we have spent time in the pressure cooker. At different times in our lives, we have experienced intense pressure, perhaps coming from many different directions. We may wonder why life must be so painful or so hectic or so stressful. Given our own way, we might wish to escape the pressures of this world by abandoning our responsibilities or fleeing our circumstances. God, however, has a purpose in applying the heat in our lives.


http://www.mbbc.edu/page.aspx?m=3638   &  http://www.mbbc.edu/page.aspx?m=3639

OLAADEGBU:
Methinks that the poster is praying the kind of prayer Daniel prayed in Dan.9:3-8 for mercy on behalf of his people who have sinned against the Almighty God.  If you consider the level of blasphemy and iniquity practised by our people especially as is represented here on the religion section on NL which reflects the godlessness in our nation you would agree that genuine Christians have to seek for mercy on behalf of our people because if not none will be spared of the repercussions that will befall the nation, since we still have our loved ones living there.

yes sir we live in dangerous days and need ti shouting [i]spare your people spare your people O Lord[/i]Joel 2:17 (New Living Translation)


17 Let the priests, who minister in the Lord’s presence,
stand and weep between the entry room to the Temple and the altar.
Let them pray, “[size=18pt]Spare your people, Lord![/size]
Don’t let your special possession become an object of mockery.
Don’t let them become a joke for unbelieving foreigners who say,
‘Has the God of Israel left them?’”

another ugly rumpour nigerian at work. shame

tpiah:
javalove, you are very daft.

First of all explain to your 12 yr old the meaning of lust, prostitution, lewdness and genitals.


Geez, this thread is sickening. Some people and idleness!!!!!!

why must you involve a 12 year old in your sexual fantasies!!! Sexuality section is open for you to go jerk off in!!!

he has to train the next generation to take over from where he stops.

train up a child remember? he wont depart from its parents pervertions

Govt revokes Oshiomhole, deputy’s C of Os

Uchechukwu Olisah, Benin City - 03.06.2009

IN line with its resolve to demolish any building illegally erected on government acquired land, Edo State governor, Comrade Adams Oshiomhole, on Tuesday revoked the Certificate of Occupancy (C of O) of the state land he bought during the administration of Chief Lucky Igbinedion.

Also revoked was the C of O of the Deputy Governor, Dr. Pius Odubu, who also acquired land in the same area at the same time.

The land, which is located in a choice area in the state, was acquired by the state government from the Anglican Girls Grammar School.

The Commissioner for Environment and Public Utilities, Honourable Clem Agba, who disclosed this at a press briefing to herald the World Environment Day, said the present administration was committed to removing all illegal structures in the state and plant trees where necessary.

According to him, “we want to clear the flooding in the roads first before planting trees. The beautification committee would soon start work.”

He said the ministry would use the world environment day to launch the new environment deal with the people of the state by introducing a new logo, enforcing the use of waste baskets in vehicles and sponsoring school debates to improve habit change.

http://www.tribune.com.ng/03062009/news/news11.html

can someone tell this man to start ruling please. he has so few months remaining to govern.

LadyT:
Thank God someone with sense

she is in your league. you guys are always worth reading

luxoire:
why do you seem to think the only thing that can come from being a drunk is careless sex? women will have unwanted pregnancies whether drunk or not - it is a side effect of sex, and whilst alcohol impairs the judgment of both parties - you are right in saying the woman carries the pregnancy - but is that a reason why women shouldn't drink? becuase they will end up pregnant?

is your argument against women drinking cmpletely (as the poster) due to their sex or women drinking excessively? - personally i think alcohol in excess is bad for BOTH men and women as it iwll 'fry their liver and kidneys' (as you put it) - you are right in saying women are more vulnerable to the effects, hence the lower alcohol limits for women - but i beg to differ when you say unwanted pregnancy seems to to be the only problem you associate with excessive drinking.

My conclusion is there is nothing wrong in both sexes drinking moderately - but just as excessive drinking is bad for men it is also bad for women - unwanted pregancies whether drunk or not, will always happen as a result of carless sex

you are gradually working your way to becoming most sensible poster on NL. God bless. i dont actually accept there is anything good in drinking acholhol but i stand by your right to express your opinion. you have a fine mind.

newbride:
God if there is anything we have done to offend you or any man, please forgive us and have mercy. I have come to publicly ask for forgiveness of sin so you know how sorry we are for whatever we have done that you have not answered us. I feel so lonely because I think you have neglected us. Please forgive us Lord Please. We are worthless without you.

God bless you and may He have mercy on you.

God never leaves His people. you may feel pressed on every side you are never alone.
remember Jonah in the fish belly it seems all was lost he cried for mercy but God heard and showed him mercy

God will show you mercy and favour. it wont be this way always. there are always seasons in our lives when it looks God and His presence is far but He is a faithful father. always closer than you know. if His mercies was not with you, you would have been consumed before now.

Jonah 2:1-35 (New Living Translation)

Jonah 2
Jonah’s Prayer
1 [a]Then Jonah prayed to the Lord his God from inside the fish. 2 He said,

“I cried out to the Lord in my great trouble,
and he answered me.
I called to you from the land of the dead,[b]
and Lord, you heard me!
3 You threw me into the ocean depths,
and I sank down to the heart of the sea.
The mighty waters engulfed me;
I was buried beneath your wild and stormy waves.
4 Then I said, ‘O Lord, you have driven me from your presence.
Yet I will look once more toward your holy Temple.’

5 “I sank beneath the waves,
and the waters closed over me.
Seaweed wrapped itself around my head.
6 I sank down to the very roots of the mountains.
I was imprisoned in the earth,
whose gates lock shut forever.
But you, O Lord my God,
snatched me from the jaws of death!
7 As my life was slipping away,
I remembered the Lord.
And my earnest prayer went out to you
in your holy Temple.
8 Those who worship false gods
turn their backs on all God’s mercies.
9 But I will offer sacrifices to you with songs of praise,
and I will fulfill all my vows.
For my salvation comes from the Lord alone.”

,amebo no1:
yes they wanted to take her kids and money from her, if a man deemed it fit to marry her, then why on earth will she not be named the next of kin

i seriously did not believe JJYOU will post that kind of reply, if you preach togetherness, if you preach a man and a woman becoming one, if you preach ' what belongs to my partner belongs to me and vice versa'  on dis forum, then why on earth are u supporting families taking their daughter inlaws inheritance from her

seriously JJYOU

seriously, calm down my dear. you know the law was meant to protect sensible people like you.  i will bend every rule to protect you but you know there are some out there who dont cover our backs like you do.  i used to get nasty mails for being a women right advocate so i wear my badge with honour.  laws are always meant for the lawless not the lawfull.

i did not  read a line of anything she said in the interview. i was replying outstrips comment 

I also like how she used the interview to put the word out there to Nigerian women. Do not be a fool. [b]Make sure all your husband has is also in your name.[/b] I don't understand how a man can die and then his family members will shamelessly come and fight for something that does not belong to them. Even in 2009.

you know i am not a big fan of the celebrity culture. i think there was a thread about this girl and her late husband family on this same issue on NL  last year  last year.  i firmly believe there are 2 sides to every stories.  that was why i asked the question

is there a law that states if you married in court the family cant take your kids from you if they want?

the nigeria i know is where you can do anything and get away it.  pls help me out cos i didnt know families can take kids from mothers.  i would have thought this family could take anything from her if they really wanted to. i may be wrong. 

can i state too that i dont know the aboderins personally but i think they would be comfortable enough to still be fighting for things like has been alledged.  i tot i read somewhere last year she was too poor to grieve the guys death so has to go back to work quickly so what assets is the family trying to grab from her?.

i restate my submissions again

in most nigeria's customs it is the kids that inherits the wealth.
look into why families ( sadly mostly women) take properties from bereaved women.
i am all for fairness but i am seriously against women taking family wealth because she has a pair of child bearing hips. 
our customs generally dont allow room for indiviluality it is always family.

i dont know how it happens in your part of the world where i come from a wife or the husband dont inherit. family wealth is passed to the next generation for continuation of the family name and wealth. the idea is never to take the wealth from the wife or kids but keep it in the family.

i know the celebrity worshipping generation wants to re-write the rules i firmly believe we will live to regret the harvest. 
you know i still love you.

breege:
I am new to this forum. My name is Breege and I am a white woman married to a really nice Nigerian man. We have 2 children. We have always been hardworking people however the recession has really hit us hard especially myself. My husband dropped a huge thing on me today which could really effect our marriage. He confessed that he is beginning a business related to credit card fraud and gadgets. He was almost falling over himself telling me that he could earn tens of thousands a month and that anything I ever dreamt of buying he could get me. He really thinks this is the answer to all our financial problems. I however think this is dangerous. I told him that I would rather struggle to live than steal and live the highlife. I warned him that he could eventually get caught. As well as that I told him that I am not comfortable with the whole idea. He told me that if I don't agree that I can get lost. I am now very confused.  really want him to change his mind for his own sake alone but he won't listen. What do I do? I just want him to see the bigger picture and that what he's doing is morally wrong.

well done. continue to talk him out of this stupidity. there is nothing like free or harmless fraud. we all pay for it. he will definately get caught like others before him

dominique:
see the power of makeup. . . charlise's face looks like it just took a beat . . . is she not supposed to be "one of the most beautiful women in the world"

funny loreal is alway worth it

DON FASZY:
Passengers that board two Virgin Nigeria Boeing 767-300 aircraft and Arik Air’s Hawker HS-125 planes, which it uses for its executive charter flights, are doing so at great risk.The audit report was carried out by Air Consult International, on behalf of British Gas, Addax Petroleum, Centrica, Petroleum Geo-Services and Nexen Nigeria, all operating in the oil industry in Nigeria. In the October 2008 confidential report, only Aero Contractors got a clean bill of health for all the aircraft on its fleet. The auditors’ verdict on the charter business is scary and emphatic: “The executive charter business has not kept pace with other aviation developments and at this stage the auditors cannot recommend any service in this category.” They also held discussions with the Nigeria Civil Aviation Authority (NCAA) “to gain further insight into regulatory changes currently affecting the aviation industry in Nigeria.”

give source pls. tks for info.

is there a law that states if you married in court the family cant take your kids from you if they want?

Outstrip:
Wow. I am glad she was able to move on. The fact that she mentioned that her she married in a court so nobody could take her children makes you wonder if they indeed tried to take her children. Nigerian culture baffles me. I don't know how many Nigerian movies I have watched were a mother in law or late husbands uncle comes in and takes the children. I also like how she used the interview to put the word out there to Nigerian women. Do not be a fool. Make sure all your husband has is also in your name. I don't understand how a man can die and then his family members will shamelessly come and fight for something that does not belong to them. Even in 2009.

i bet you will sponsor a bill too for men to get their wives assets. i saw many women here telling some lady to go build a house in her name i wonder why things like this never crossed any mind.

in most nigeria's customs it is the kids that inherits the wealth. so many men have "gone too soon" as they say simply for owning a house. some of you need to go and look into why families ( sadly mostly women) take properties from bereaved women. i am all for fairness but i am seriously against women taking family wealth because she has a pair of child bearing hips. our customs generally dont allow room for indiviluality it is always family.

JustGood:
You knew him for 8 years before marrying him and you still did not know him well enough. You did not realise during all those years that he was sneaky (as you described him).

Anyway, keep chasing him. Devote another chapter of your life to chasing a man rather than moving on with your own life. If something uncomfortable results from your attempt to chase the past, you will still blame it on him, wont you?

na wa for this kind way of life sha.

Marriage don finish but una go dey find remnants to chase rather than move on and forget the fuy. God knows the psychological effect that will have on you afterwards.

Na so oyinbo girls sef dey chase men all over the place for vengeance and, in the process, they destroy their own lives too.

the late derek prince said it is giving them more of your years to waste.

bread o bread. can someone please plymonth road bread from benin here pls.

mmmmmmmm she is abad looser but wetin u seld dey do with the guy? are there not many men in the land? una too like trouble and fight.

i love lipton aroma but nescafe decaffe is my preference.

Lagos is a strange city.

I don't think they do anything in that city without sex.
On Lagos Island, you cannot get any room in any hotel between noon and 2 pm(when workers are supposed to be on break).
Instead of lunching, they are busy shagging their brains out.

After work, some workers don't leave the island till 8pm(they use heavy traffic as their excuse).
In this period, most hotels are fully booked to accommodate adulterers and fornicators.
Tell me, what kinda city is that? After all said n done, the retarded journalists go on their laptops to write articles on prostitution but they are worse.

sad part is they let out rooms you have paid for this disgusting practice. i have caught them red handed allowing someone use the room i was occupying for 2 days already.  i only caught them becos i forgot something and came back. the key was not at reception thinking the cleaners were doing their work i went up and rightly heard people talking. knocked and surprise surprise it was a man and a woman. i nearly thought i was in the wrog room but for my books and laptop on the table.  i have since discovered this is a common practice in lagos.

tpiah:
the naysayers shouldnt have put their complaints in the newspaper unless they're planning to end the marriage.

some people know no fear. i hope they can stand the consequesces

prittigrrr:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am based in the USA and was doing some searches on marital records in my state.  I am divorced and checked my own status on the internet and saw my marriage and my subsequent divorce.  I did a check against my ex-husband's name and found the names of women he married.  I knew him for many years before we married and before we dated.  I thought I knew a whole lot about him.  I found a record of him being married to a woman a year and 3 months before he married me and no corresponding divorce.  I called him and of course he denied that it was him.  However, the guy had the same first name, last name and middle initial.  The man also lived in our same city.  I told him I would go and buy a copy of the record and verify the date of birth and signature on the forms.   If he did actually marry this lady, it means that our marriage was not legal and I could get all appearances of this marriage removed from official records.  It would also mean that his marriage to his current wife is illegal.  He was a serious liar and he could easily have married this woman in secret. Under the laws of my state, he could also be prosecuted for the crime of bigamy (marrying another while legally married).  Ladies and gentlemen, how would you feel if you found your spouse had done this to you?

he is your past. get on with your life stop fishing in that pond.  i know the temptation is there but move on. he is called an ex for a reason.

What I hate about my husband
By Vivian Onyebukwa and Rachael Agunta
Saturday, May 30, 2009
•Vivian Ede
Illustration: The Sun Publishing
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Characteristically, individuals have their idiosyncrasies and weak points which must be tolerated if peaceful co-existence is to be achieved. This explains why a lot of couples can not but tolerate their spouses if their marriages are not to hit the rocks. Against this background, Saturday Sun sampled the opinions of some women on what they hate about their husbands.

And as there are different human beings with different characters, their husbands have different flaws. Some can’t cope with these flaws, as some have decided to go on with their marriages as it is for better or for worse.

Mrs. Christiana Okafor, complained bitterly, “I hate everything about him. We've only been married a year and we were together for nearly five years before we got married. And she keeps asking herself, “Why am I still married to him”? She said she realized recently that she absolutely despises him.

He's a slob, self-centred, a liar, arrogant, basically a piece of shit”, said Mrs. Ann Golden from Rivers State. She has lived with her husband for just two years and never had a courtship with her husband. She is confused and wonders, “Where do I go now”? She refused to let out her photograph for this publication for fear of her husband who might abuse her physically.

For Mrs. Joan Oke, what she hates about her husband is that he is very lazy and will push her to her limit before helping with the household and their children. “And in some areas, he doesn't even help at all. I don't want to divorce him because I can't survive on my salary alone. Again, my children adore him”.

“My husband holds conversations with himself in his brain”, said Ifeoma Okonkwo. “This would just be called "thinking to himself" normally. But when he is thinking to himself, he'll add in hand movements as if he's speaking to someone passionately. Or he'll tilt and nod his head. At times I feel he is mad”.
The other thing that drives me crazy is that he snores while sleeping. But anyway, I love him”.

“I wish my husband would complain less, and do something about what he complains about”, said, Tope Ajayi. “He is always complaining about everything. Nothing satisfies him. Again, he likes to hang out not knowing that he is a married man. But then, I still love him because we were childhood friends”.
And for Mrs. Josephine Odey, she wishes her husband smoked less. “He didn't smoke when we met, but when we separated for a short time he started smoking. I guess he picked up that habit. I hate the smell. Now, he only smokes outside. He is trying to quit though especially now that I complain seriously”.

“My darling husband is constantly text messaging his friends back and forth and this takes his attention away from me”, Mrs. Ngozi Ndokwa complained bitterly. She felt so sad that she felt like crying while speaking to Saturday Sun.

Jerrian Bassey is married to a pastor in Chapel of Abundance of The Redeemed Christian Church Of God, Olodi Apapa, Lagos. She is a business woman and they have lived for four years. She said her husband is a very kind and caring man. He is Godfearing and has the qualities that every woman would want in a man, but what he does that gets her irritated is his attitude of leaving the house without telling her. She said her husband also has the attitude of coming late not minding he has a wife who needs his attention at home.

“The most annoying attitude of his that hurts me to the bone is that whenever I cook his favourite, known to him that I prepared his favourite and he receives a call that someone needs his attention, he will rush out of the house without apology or sweet words to calm me”.

Vivian Ede, a business woman, has been married to her husband for close to 10 years. She said though her husband is not rich, she has a happy home. “Ninety per cent of men, I can vow, has flaws but one great thing that hurts me about my husband is his inability to take decision on time. No matter how urgent a matter may be, my husband can never take decision quickly, even when you air your views, opinion or idea, he will keep quiet until he thinks he has arrived at a good idea. It makes me feel like a fool”.

Nonye Okonkwo, also a business woman, said she is blessed with a good and caring husband who adores her like a queen. He serves and carries her like an egg and has lived with him for six years. It has been fun, she said. But despite the love that exits between them, he is not blinded. He is not influenced by their love. So, there is no much you give him that can make him give you that exact amount you demand from him. “Apart from the children’s school fees, my husband cannot give you money. I wish he will read this and be able to change knowing it hurts me. All these notwithstanding I still love him dearly”.

Patricia Chigbo is a student and has been married for three years. She said: “My husband is a gift to me by God. He is Godfearing and good but too kind to a fault. He does not mind helping his enemies even when they use it against him. Whenever I try to caution him, he keeps telling me that God is on his side. I am not saying God is not on his side but the Bible says we should be as wise as a serpent. I caution him out of the experience we have had not that am trying to be wicked. Though I have learnt to live with it knowing it is his nature but I never stopped praying for him”.

Ruth Ayuba is married for three years now. She described her husband as a gentle, kind, caring and a born again Christian. “I do not have problem living with him because he protects me and is always there for me, but one flaw he has that makes me unhappy is that he does not eat well. No matter how good a meal is prepared, he can never eat much and that makes me feel as if I do not know how to cook very well. If only he will read this and start eating as much food as I give him, I will be happy. Let him eat like every other women because I know men eat a lot”.

Chisaokwu Martins is a business woman who has married for close to six years. She said though her husband lives abroad, one thing she remembers about him that makes her mad is that he is addicted to cigarette. “He smokes a lot and it pains me so much”.

http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/features/kiss%20&%20tell/2009/may/30/Off-Day-Dating-30-05-2009-001.htm

benincitys:
very bad .

very nice

adeboo & nwando. dont know the others age so cant comment

topup would have made it there too but she is allegedly a teenager.

mama-gee:
Actor Ramsey Nouah's wife has filed for a divorce after he was caught on a slimy juice picture kissing another woman. The super star's wife Emilia Ramsey has hired a Lagos celebrity Lawyer to prepare paper works for the divorce proceeding

where is your source?

Remii:
Oruwe! you dey flash Osubi Airport and Shell estate as Waffi, why nor show Enheren Junction, Ogbeh Ijoh Waterside, Okere Market, Odion Road, etceta,

them send you?

this is cool. warri is getting better it is a very nice to see warri getting better. i love effurun too. is burutu changing too?