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u be proper iyaegbe. would u let your hubby do this? is it worth it?

[quote author=pilgrim.1 link=topic=279631.msg3993945#msg3993945 date=1244458696]Lol, my broda. . I dey kampe. How are you doing?[/quote]doing good thanks. hope this week ba nice one and pls learn to ignore the ever learning and not understanding non tithing brigade

[quote author=Aloy.Emeka link=topic=281102.msg3991616#msg3991616 date=1244408915]Why OAU appointed me music lecturer – King Sunny Ade
Saturday, June 6, 2009

This is a good piece of news and thing of pride for all musicians and fans of juju maestro, Otunba Sunday Adeniyi Adegeye aka King Sunny Ade. On Thursday May 28, 2009 the King of World Beats moved upscale, transforming from a performing musician to a university lecturer.


http://odili.net/news/source/2009/jun/6/510.html

On that day, Sunny Ade was not only made the Faculty of Arts Distinguished Fellow but also appointed as Artiste in Residence by Professor Michael Faborode, Vice Chancellor, Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Ile-Ife, Osun State.

KSA says: “I dedicate the award to the music profession and to all musicians dead or alive. It was not only an award but I was appointed as a lecturer in Residence with an office of my own on the campus.”

But how would Sunny Ade earmark time for lectures in spite of his tight musical schedule? His response: “I have taken it as something I have to do. I have instructed my management to schedule time for lectures. I would lay emphasis on both theory and practical.”

Mr. Clement Ige, former journalist and consultant to Sunny Ade, said the artiste had scored a first by being made a lecturer in the premier university. “For Sunny Ade to be so honoured by a big university like OAU is a thing of joy and good news to all musicians. This is the first time OAU is appointing a professional musician as a lecturer. It is a well deserved honour considering Sunny Ade’s vast experience and exposure as a performing artiste.

He has a lot to impart in the younger ones. Now, it is mandatory that he should be going to Ife to lecture the students. For him, this is a big challenge,” he says.

On his annual world tour, Sunny Ade told Blockbuster that he’s jetting out of the country on June 10, and that the tour would take him to about 22 cities both in Canada and the United States.

“I am embarking on a world tour as from June 10. It’s not really a world tour because I am going to Canada and America while arrangements are yet to be concluded on the tour of Europe. But the good thing about this tour is that I am going to perform in 22 cities both in Canada and America. Also, I will be performing at the famous Hollywood Bowl. It will be the second time I am performing there, the first time was in the 1990s,” KSA states.[/quote]knowing the follow follow mind of our people all uni will soon have  these musicians as profs

sir t:
@ poster and other Ladies

The bitter truth of the matta is that Nigerian ladies are too materialistic in nature. When u move closer to them, you will discover they meant opposite what they claim to be. I called them pretenders. The facts remain that there are many serious guys outside there looking for whom to settle down with.

I believe what a lady should look for in a guy is his view of life, his vision, character and so on. But on the other side, what they look for is a ready made man who already has serious relationship and after "used and dump" the crucification begins.

To put it straight, what exactly are ladies want in a relationship? Fun or seriousness? I advised you get your priorities right or else, you will be having the same story in different version!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm not saying guys are saints, but Ladies, check yourself very well

WHO SEND YOU?

[quote author=pilgrim.1 link=topic=279631.msg3993765#msg3993765 date=1244456345]. . . cont.

Possibly. The basic point is: do you take the view that every phenomena in all posiible worlds must of necessity be narrowed to naturalism? Either way (yes or no), why?

To give an example:

Take the question of the possibility of life after death - such that "something" survives the death of a person. Could it be a 'ghost, spirit, soul', etc - expressions which the atheist naturalist is not inclined to. Is it possible to determine by some way or the other that our humanity is not all merely 'material' that lies within the physical plane? I believe so - and the necessary question arises: HOW could we investigate such phenomena?

The naturalist would put this question in another way: "Is there an objective epistemic methodology for this kind of investigation and falsifiablity?"

My answer is "Possibly". So what do I have in mind. Here's an example that lays out this approach:

Victor Zammit: Materializations of David Thompson
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?gl=AU&hl=en-GB&v=6nPe7vK8kCg)

Please observe: I referred to the example above only for the sake of how to conduct such research - not to "prove" theism. Mr Zammit (a retired Autrlian lawyer) notes that he is not into religion, but tries to investigate and present the "evidence for the after life". How does he go about this? There are certain elements in his methodology:

- objectivity

- repeatability

- scientific method

What were they after? Ectoplasm - (spiritualism) a substance supposed to emanate from the body of the medium during a trance. He notes that results obtained from David Thompson's materializations are "real". But you should at least see the vid clip for yourself (Mr Zammit only recounts his findings, no scenes of actual ectoplasmic activity).

The point in all this is simple: when some atheists are presented with such "evidence" of what is beyond their naturalism, what would they do with such evidences? Deny them? Excuse them? Dismiss them? Of do the sane thing any objective 'scientist' would do - investigate them and see if indeed such realities exists: spirits emanating from physical bodies! It's lazy intellectualism to speak all the grammar of naturalism as an armchair atheist and never take the step to investigate these phenomena.

It's not that these realities are "non-existent" - no one who objectively looks at the evidence would be brash to deny or dismiss them. The basic assumption is that "spirits" actually do exist, attested by the fact that they can emanate from physical bodies as in the supposed experiements in David Thompson's materializations. It is not a question of denying them simply because some naturalists feel threatened that their devotion to naturalism is threatened thereby. Such investigations only seek to provide answers to the following questions, if nothing else:

-- Is there a reality that survives death?

-- Do spirits exist?

-- What are the implications for the atheist naturalist?

Now, if spirits survive death and thus can be proven that such phenomena exist, does not answer the question of 'Why I Am Not An Atheist'? The atheist who denies such entities cannot plead "neutrality" here - because he's been gambling with a reality that will be a rude awakening for people who discover only too late! Such atheists are flirting with a dangerous dogmaticism in naturalism that is illogical and only limp in the face of these realities. Sorry folks, I do not have the faith to be an atheist! QED.[/quote]YOU THIS PROF. NAWAO. TRUST YOU ARE WELL?

having other people hair on yours was a curse word when i was growing up not anymore

rubbish. where is mama carol the igi and akara seller on that list?

WHAT NEXT?


"If ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do them." John 13:17

If you do not cut the moorings, God will have to break them by a storm and send you out. Launch all on God, go out on the great swelling tide of His purpose, and you will get your eyes open. [size=15pt]If you believe in Jesus, you are not to spend all your time in the smooth waters just inside the harbour bar, full of delight, but always moored; you have to get out through the harbour bar into the great deeps of God and begin to know for yourself, begin to have spiritual discernment.[/size]

When you know you should do a thing, and do it, immediately you know more. Revise where you have become stodgy spiritually, and you will find it goes back to a point where there was something you knew you should do, but you did not do it because there seemed no immediate call to, and now you have no perception, no discernment; at a time of crisis you are spiritually distracted instead of spiritually self-possessed. It is a dangerous thing to refuse to go on knowing.

The counterfeit of obedience is a state of mind in which you work up occasions to sacrifice yourself; ardour is mistaken for discernment. It is easier to sacrifice yourself than to fulfil your spiritual destiny, which is stated in Romans 12:1-2. It is a great deal better to fulfil the purpose of God in your life by discerning His will than to perform great acts of self-sacrifice. "To obey is better than sacrifice." Beware of harking back to what you were once when God wants you to be something you have never been. "If any man will do . . . he shall know." http://www.myutmost.org/06/0608.html

SeanT21:


SAD!!

that is something for nothing nigeria for you

not my portion as they say in naija

FKseun:
Thanks for your constructive comments. I am not convinced that she has been delivered. The pastor did not perform any deliverance. The only thing I am happy about is the fact that I got a confession from her.
I have actually been suspecting her and this other woman for about 3yrs now but there was no concrete evidence. Presently, she’s remorseful because her family members are aware. This was her own making. She was trying to portray me to her parents as not wanting her to keep friends. In the course of her story, the other woman’s husband name was mentioned and they had to call him. He told them much more than I knew.
As a human being I have put some measures in place which I hope will check a drastically reduce the chance of a re-occurrence. But if it still happens, then only God knows what would happen. I will cross that bridge when/if I get there.

you guys need prayers like your lives and marriage depends on it. how i wish can just talk a practising lesbian out of it like that. well continue to watch and pray. there are too many wicked diseasec out there that you can acquire by nistake

north must have printing machines for doing tons of dodgy wrist watches, battries dollars and of course their choice currencies. why al the mallams no dey jail

Maximip:
Some ladies don't notice this so i decided to drop it off my sleeves. Follow this steps to catch a cheating husby or boyfie.

1. hide his perfume, or anything that alters his smell so he's all natural. make sure you know the smell
of his perfume too.

2. let him loose to the office or when he claims he want to go hanging out with his buddies.

3. when he gets back. smell him, smell him real good. smell slowly

4. BINGO! if he's been cheating, you'll smell it on him. Another lady's perfume.

you may not be in luck if the other lady is not wearing a perfume or if she's wearing a weak one that fades off him before
he gets home.

try something else this is definately a non sarter

[quote author=lolly-d link=topic=281175.msg3993399#msg3993399 date=1244451608]please nairaland ladies and men

i need a serious advice on this issue

i pray that non of you would be in my situation

Amen[/quote]sorry try deliverance and avoild drinking water in the evenings. someone told she dreams always being in a toilet when she bed wets and suddenly awake to see herself in bed. that definately was demonic.

check how it happens and go for couselling and pls try avoid late night water

nene1:
Besides the one about shooting you in the head, I must admit your dad made some very valid points. It would be easier to connect to your culture with a naija guy. He would be more eager to go to africa with you than a white guy no matter how much the white guy is into africa. besides, like davidlyan said, the white guy could just be interested know in order to get you but it might not last long. But a naija guy would always be interested in his homeland.

What if you marry a white guy and it doesn't last, but it would be after you already upset your family. I'm not saying that marrying into the same culture is pure bliss easier, [b]but I do feel you do understand each other better. [/b]Also, if you marry a white guy, how easy would it be to teach your kids yoruba? You would have to speak english at home b/c that is the only language your husband will know. It is easier to teach your children your culture when you and your husband have the same culture.

Is it b/c you don't find naija men physically attractive? Why do you feel like you relate to white men better than men from your culture? Sorry for asking so many questions, but I just think you should really think about it. Don't get carried away by dating. Marriage is not all about just romance.

arguments, arguments and more arguments, who said marrying a nigerian would make you happier?
if marrying your ethnic group makes a difference why do we have the miserable failed marriages and relationships in naija like we have? i feel it is always better to leave sentiments and bias out of these matters. ability to speak yoruba is never a licence to kids growing up well there are many non ethnic language speaking kids doing perfectly well.

FKseun:
I thank you all for your advice (constructive & otherwise). Personally, i like to learn from other peoples' situation. Putting my plight on nairaland, to me, was a way of getting the problem slightly off me by sharing it anonymously with people. It is also an opportunity for others to learn.

On my way to work on Friday, I decided to report the case to a pastor that she respects. He promised praying about it afterwhich he would call my wife. Later in the day, he called and told me that he would like to seek my permission to visit our home on Saturday morning. He eventually came and preached to the two of us. He did not apportion any blame but encouraged us to do what is Godly and right. He told us to forgive each other and move on with the marriage. At that point, I told him that we were not addressing the issue on ground. Because there can't never be forgiveness when there is no admittance/confession of any wrong doing. I poured out my mind bitterly. He called my wife to kneel down right in front of me and ask for my forgiveness.  I still insisted that she had to confess what she did before forgiveness would take place otherwise it would mean that I was accussing her wrongfully.

She eventually confessed to the allegations right before the pastor and begged for my forgiveness which i gave. After the pastor had left, she came back to me on her knees and wept chronicling how the whole thing started. She mentioned the names of some of her married friends who are still into the act. I have told her that i do not want to see the woman with her again.

Some people would tell you that it is because a 'i am not a real man'. Only if they knew how good i am, I pray they never find themselves in this situation.

mmmmmm God help us all. so did this forgiveness cure the homosexual "gene"?

wbb

[size=18pt]Your man impregnates your sister?[/size]
By GIDEON OPARINDE
Sunday, June 07, 2009

Sometimes, it sounds so funny, but it isn’t that funny. You might have read similar stories on newspapers pages, watched them in movies or listen to them from people, but you could only feel the pain when experienced. Some times we doubt if it could ever happen. A man impregnates his wife’s younger sister?

If that happens, it means there’s nothing impossible on earth anymore. Amidst various crimes in the world, ranging from incest, rape, murder which are seen as heinous crimes, it is a pity we have failed to look into situations where happy homes are battling with marital challenges.

Unfaithfulness, like we know, is deeply rooted in many homes today and happy homes have gone sour. How would you handle your home when your younger sister gets pregnant for your husband?

MRS. MARIAN BOZIMO .O
First, I will ask my sister what she wants to do with the pregnancy, whether she would like to keep it or abort it. There after I will investigate who really was at fault, whether it was a deliberate act by my sister. If it turns out it was my sister’s fault, I’ll not be happy with her and would not have the kind of relationship we used to have together anymore. But if it was my husband’s deliberate act, forcing my sister to bed, I will forgive my sister but not the man. It would take some time for me to consider my husband’s plea if he pleads, because who knows whose turn it could be next.

If she decides to have the baby, it means I will no longer remain a wife to the man in question, provided there’s no child in between us. But if I have a child for him and I found out he forced my sister; I’ll forgive her but the relationship between my husband and I would never be what it used to be.

OLADUNNI JOHNSON
It definitely depends on the relationship between us. For that to have happened, I think the best thing is, give them some space for a while.

Certainly, the pregnancy has to be terminated, although I can’t force my sister to terminate the pregnancy; all the same I will forgive them.
Lastly I know being a Christian; my husband would not take a second wife.

MRS. ESTHER EREKOSIMA
If it eventually happens because they are both related to me; My sister is related to me by blood while my husband by marriage. My sister will have to give birth to the baby, no other option because the Bible condemns abortion.

My husband and I will have to sit and settle it out between ourselves because I don’t believe in quarrel.
For my husband, he remains my husband because what God has joined together no one should put asunder.

What would I do? Throw the baby away with the bathing water? No, because I would be the one to loose at the end, if I fail to handle it with wisdom.

BUNMI OLANIYAN
There must be a reason for doing so, it could either be that the wife does not have time for him or that there has not been any issue from the marriage.
But if she has the time and gave birth to children and such happens, I think it would only take God’s intervention to settle.

For my sister, immediately she gives birth I will take the child and allow the mother to go and marry another man because we cannot share the same husband or sleep under same roof. Where will I start from if I allow her become a second wife to my husband? It means all my effort for the family becomes futile at the end of the day. In this situation, my husband should rent her an apartment since he is the root cause, therefore he should be ready for the repercussion that follows.
But the truth is that, the love between us would never be the same again, never! I might forgive her, which is possible, but I will never forget.

Finally, I would not allow the baby know I am not his mother, so he won’t feel isolated within the family.

CHIOMA ABIM
If such happens to me, my husband will not marry my younger sister. I will take the child if she gives birth to a child, but the mother will have to leave my house because the more I see her, the more it will bring back the bad memory.
However, I will forgive her but the memory will always be there. She can visit me but I won’t allow her stay.

ONUS JOSIAH
I will fight back and he will have to terminate the pregnancy, because it is absurd and immoral. I will not take it lightly with either my husband or my sister.

AYO OLAYINKA
I will take the issue to my family members to resolve. But if at the end I can’t reach a satisfactory conclusion, then I would know it is my fate.
However, I will make sure I fight the two of them and suggest my sister aborts the pregnancy but if she refused, I will leave the issue to God’s judgment.
This will however not make me opt out of my marriage.

CHIOMA OKEKE
At the initial stage I will get annoyed and disappointed in them. But if my husband and sister show remorse, I will pardon them. However, if they show no sign of guilt, I will quit the marriage at once.

Oladapo Bola
It is dicey, the deed has been done, what other remedy? For my husband to have gone that far, I’m afraid. Though I will be unhappy, ashamed of the act, but what can I do? Abortion is a sin; will I watch the pregnancy to be delivered? What would happen to my marriage, what would my neighbours say of me?

If the child is given birth to, my sister might claim ownership of my home, so, let her rather go far from me, my family, my marriage.
However, for the man, only God will judge, but I may not opt out of my marriage.

MRS. ABDULRAHAMAN
Religiously it is disgusting; morally it is bad and shameful.
I know such atrocity would have been in the man’s head before he got married. But for such to happen, it means the man is suffering from spiritual, mental and emotional problems or under demonic influence. I believe he is out of his mind.

In the early years in the Bible, those people who practiced it were stoned to death. Today, we no longer see it as taboo. We believe it is just fun.
Some tribes here in Nigeria place heavy punishment on such act; both the man and the impregnated girl. Some would kill the people involved in this act while others see it as a shame to the family members and their lineage. http://sunnewsonline.com/webpages/features/wiveslive/2009/june/07/wiveslive-07-06-2009-001.htm

[size=18pt]Inside the wild life of Campus pimps[/size]
By Jossy Idam
Sunday, June 7, 2009

Photo: Sun News Publishing
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Safe and covertly vicious, university campus pimps in the country have coolly wormed their ways into the social circuits nationwide.
Parties hardly click until one or two of them “grace the occasion” with a bevy of pretty girls in their notebooks and on their payrolls.

Highflyers
At LASU, a self effacing love-vendor simply called Ben “freights” and airlifts girls to Abuja.
“Whenever there’s a big event, I get an order for 20 – upto 30 girls. So, I package them for the ‘pay masters’ who will, of course pay into my account. The money is for ticket and taxi, and small, small expenses. After the show, the pay master will pay the agreed amount and we fly back”, Ben explained.

Mr Fix-it
According to Ben, a night out for each of his girls attracts N10,000. A weekend in Lagos, the girls grudging charge between N50,000 and N30,000.

For Ben, “Mr. fix-it”, for the deal to go through, you must stuff his pocket with N150,000. To prove his class, Ben rides a clean Toyota Camry lives in a tastefully furnished 3-bedroom apartment off campus. Though the dictionary defines a love-vendor as a man who engages women in prostitution in brothel and on the streets, but in the Nigerian context, women have a large share of the business.

At University of Lagos, Akika Star is the toast of most social events in the city of Lagos. Though her real first name is Stella but her alias, Star, twinkles and winkles as brightly as her reputation.
For four weeks our reporter traversed some campuses around the country, delving deep into the world of undergraduate sin city barons.

For fun or material gains their “pawns” – fellow students blindly fall into their traps and clutches without knowing.

A big ‘Gbedu’
Most times it begins with an invitation to “a big Gbedu with the correct guys in town”. Linked by a source, Sunday Sun posed to ‘Star’ as a potential client and sneaked into her closely guarded world.
Known around as “a happening babe”, when a client ‘places an order’, Star quickly sends text messages, connects and recruits the girls she wants for the outing and summons a meeting, and most times adds a few extras to the number of girls ordered.

“I have some regular girls I go out with. They are up to 20 but if your demand is more, I can double the number. But I need time”, she said.
Star preferred a week or at least four days notice. Hear her: “What I hate is someone rushing me. Imagine coming to me on Friday night for a Saturday night out. That’s too tight. I can only listen to you if I’m not booked”.

Fair in complexion and friendly, Amina of Ahmadu Bello University Zaria, Kaduna State bears an iconic first name. Like the legendary Queen of Zaria, she says “the girls have a choice to go out and play with whoever they like.
“We’re all adults. Anybody can decide who to go out with. Here at Samaru, we don’t force anybody. If I call you and you don’t want to go out, no problem”.

Patrons in high places
At the University of Jos, Bulus holds sway. He forays with his tight network of girls to adjoining states like Bauchi, Kaduna, Gombe, Taraba and Nasarawa.
His patrons – “my powerful friends”, as he prefers to call them, are mostly top government functionaries and businessmen.
Coming from a humble background, Bulus over the years uses proceeds of his wheeling – dealing in women to pay his way through school.

Smiling broadly, he told Sunday Sun pimping is not an easy job. “Hmm, to arrange girls on campus no dey easy-o. You have to spend and spend and prove you are capable before any girl will agree to follow you”.

Depraved taste
As Sunday Sun found out, it is a lot easier for pimps to hook up with girls. But the difficult part is in ensuring the girls “behave well” on outings and treat the clients well.
“You must also make sure that the men you are giving the girls are good. Some men are wicked.
They will use the girls and pay little money, Bulus revealed.
Another worrisome part for pimps is that some men have a penchant for kinky stuff. Some have wild depraved tastes.

“The men don’t care. These girls they carry are even young enough to be their daughters. A good organizer must make sure the men you give girls to, do not use them rough. If any thing happens to the girls, people will start to ask questions, “Akin of University of Ilorin said.

Territorial control
Campus pimps imitate the viciousness of their counterparts in the cults of the ivory tower: they fiercely fight and scramble for girls and clients.
As Sunday Sun’s investigation reveals, they start vying for girls at the beginning of every academic session.
“When Jambites (new students) come, you have to rush after them, target the pretty, classy ones. If you try hard, before the end of the first semester, they will become your friend and play along with you”, Mike, a popular undergraduate at the University of Nigeria, Nsukka, said.

Tatoo branding
Some campus pimps brand their girls with tattoo. As a badge of pride and social class, some girls willingly get branded with floral, butterfly or a heart pierced with arrow on their biceps, ankle, tigh, hip or on other private, intimate parts.

To ensure loyalty of the girls in their “notebooks”, the pimps keep them under their thumb with “pecks” (gifts) and “red eyes” (threats).
“You don’t understand, we invest in those girls. It’s like trading and buying a product. For this, you must not fail to sell for profit”.
Ade, Lagos State University (LASU) undergraduate said.

Cult Connection
The Sunday Sun investigation reveals that some campus pimps have links with cult groups ravaging campuses across the country. These boys use the money generated to fund cult activities. It’s really a dangerous trend.
When they graduate, they become bigger and menacing”, a lecturer at the University of Calabar, Cross River State, who craves anonymity said.

Punishable offence
The campus pimps are obviously aware of the legal implications of their illicit, exploitative, morally bankrupt business. This explains why they shy away from publicity and scrutiny.
A lawyer with Adekunle Ojo and Associates Barrister Godwin Ewa says the nation’s Penal Code (for the north) stipulates 10 years imprisonment without option of fine for any offender.
The Criminal Code (for the south) states that first offenders risk two years imprisonment with caning.
“Our law book is adequate. Sections 216 – 227 of the criminal code make ample provision against lacuna. The courts are ever ready.

But the problem is the ever compromising law enforcement agencies especially the police,” he said. http://sunnewsonline.com/webpages/news/national/2009/june/07/national-07-06-2009-01.htm

[size=18pt]I Was a Failure at Prayer[/size]
And what i learned because of it
Patty Kirk

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Ever since I became a Christian, I've worried about praying. Should I pray to God the Father? To Jesus? To the Comforter God sent to advocate for us after Jesus left our world? Should I favor unmistakably sacred topics—gratitude, praise, others' salvation—over my daily worries and complaints? And how, precisely, does one go about conversing with someone not physically present?

Expert advice on prayer abounds. At the Christian university where I teach, chapel speakers promote everything from praying directly from Scripture to "just being quiet and listening." Orthodox speakers recommend the "Jesus Prayer": "Lord Jesus, have mercy upon me, a sinner." Other speakers say prayer is simply a conversation with God, and I think, Simply?! Just a regular old conversation with someone I can't see, hear, or touch, and whose voice is so tricky to sort from others', especially from the voices of my own hopes and fears?

My measly prayers typically amount to internal gasps of Help! in a crisis or middle-of-the-night anxieties I call "pray-worrying." Occasionally I add a perfunctory—and usually long overdue—remembrance of someone else's problems. Or let out a "Wow!" in recognition of some dazzling evidence of God's creativity. Sometimes, though, I go whole days without conversing with God at all.

I'm especially ungifted in the area of public prayer. I covet others' ability not only to remember long lists of others' needs but to reformulate them into communiqués that don't sound, as mine do, wacky or false.

And whether I'm praying publicly or privately, I seem incapable of praying for very long. After a minute or two, I get distracted. In bed, I fall asleep. At church, I find myself gazing over the bowed heads around me, trying to remember if I turned off my daughters' hair straightener. Although I'd like to follow the apostle Paul's advice to pray continually, I can't do it.

Once, on a plane trip, I sat next to an elderly woman wearing a funny little diaphanous bonnet. When I asked about it, she called it her "prayer hat" and said she wore it because the Bible says to "pray without ceasing" (1 Thessalonians 5:17, NRSV) and that women should cover their heads while praying (1 Corinthians 11:5-6). She was a sweet, earnest woman, and I wondered if, somewhere beneath our conversation, she was praying for me even then. I hoped so. Later I discovered she was. We'd exchanged addresses, and she sent me occasional letters over the next years saying she was still praying for me.

I wish I could pray as she did: for a stranger, years after a chance meeting, continually, and with childlike confidence in even the oddest passages of Scripture.

I can't seem to maintain a regular "quiet time with God," as friends call their prayers. Some of them have devotions every morning, following a reading schedule—the Bible in a year's time or a devotional anthology—that keeps them on track. One friend has a devotional teatime, filling an extra cup to visualize God's presence. My husband reads a daily Bible chapter over breakfast. I try to follow his example but soon find myself mechanically grading those last three papers or reading one of the magazines accruing on the breakfast table. I am, in short, a failure at prayer.

please read the rest here  http://www.christianitytoday.com/tcw/2009/mayjun/iwasafailureatprayer.html

June 5th. [size=18pt]GOD'S SAY-SO[/size]


"He hath said . . . so that we may boldly say . . ." Hebrews 13:5-6

My say-so is to be built on God's say-so. God says - "I will never leave thee," then I can with good courage say - "The Lord is my helper, I will not fear - " I will not be haunted by apprehension. This does not mean that I will not be tempted to fear, but I will remember God's say-so. I will be full of courage, like a child "bucking himself up" to reach the standard his father wants. Faith in many a one falters when the apprehensions come, they forget the meaning of God's say-so, forget to take a deep breath spiritually. The only way to get the dread taken out of us is to listen to God's say-so.

What are you dreading? You are not a coward about it, you are going to face it, but there is a feeling of dread. When there is nothing and no one to help you, say - "But the Lord is my Helper, this second, in my present outlook." Are you learning to say things after listening to God, or are you saying things and trying to make God's word fit in? Get hold of the Father's say-so, and then say with good courage - "I will not fear." It does not matter what evil or wrong may be in the way, He has said - "I will never leave thee."

Frailty is another thing that gets in between God's say-so and ours. When we realize how feeble we are in facing difficulties, the difficulties become like giants, we become like grasshoppers, and God becomes a nonentity. Remember God's say-so - "I will in no wise fail you." Have we learned to sing after hearing God's key-note? Are we always possessed with the courage to say - "The Lord is my helper," or are we succumbing?

http://www.myutmost.org/06/0605.html

may God help us to hear and believe what God says to us.

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=280520.msg3984139#msg3984139 date=1244239344]Err, sorry you came a tad too late, Igwe just paid the first instalment of my brideprice and just because it runs into a nine-figure amount in Dollars, I cannot refuse his offer for my hand in marriage, but of course if you can match that amount or double it, I will defect to your camp pronto, cos you are much much more younger than that old pot-bellied clinker Igwe

[s]Wow, so you mean that we don't have to slave ourselves over some manuals to get and keep a man That bad girls like us always get the man in the end, wonderful [/s][/quote]agent provocateur per excellence.

that pics show why we say ANGER =  DANGER.  anger is always wrong. jaw jaw as they say

i found this site very interesting http://www.godrev.com/

[quote author=Aloy.Emeka link=topic=280496.msg3983509#msg3983509 date=1244231196]Fake certificate rocks 16-year-old marriage


An Ibadan Grade C Customary Court yesterday dissolved the 16-year-old marriage between Mr. Idowu Ajibade, a lawyer, and his wife, Funmilayo, a tailor.




http://odili.net/news/source/2009/jun/5/700.html


Ajibade requested the court to dissolve the marriage on the grounds that his wife became rebellious when he stopped her from using a fake Teacher’s Grade II Certificate.

``We started together as tailors but when I completed my law programme at the university, she also attempted to develop herself but in a fraudulent manner.

``She accused me of standing against her progress when I objected to the use of the fake certificate, ‘’ he told the court.

Ajibade also said that his wife had denied him sex for the past one year and also stopped cooking at home.

``I am now the cook,’’ he said.

The marriage, he said, was blessed with three children, Ore-ofe, 15, Boluwatife, 13 and Tolorunobalase, 6.

``Since she left the home with the children for the past three months every effort of reconciliation had failed, I want to start a new life and I want this marriage dissolved,’’ he said.

The estranged wife, however, did not appear in court although she was served Notices of Appearance on two occasions.

Delivering judgment, the Presiding Judge, Mrs. Ibironke Adeleke-Gomes, granted Ajibades, request and dissolved the marriage.

She granted him the custody of the three children.[/quote]nice one

emporium:
Hi All, i just got the email below. Could this be true?




                                                                         World Bank releases list of Nigerian looters

Fellow Nigerians,

Find bellow the reasons why Nigeria is in the situation it is in, Lacks all infrastructures. Pass this on to the people you know. This need not be let to rest. These men are selfish and for all I care they were trusted by all Nigerians to lead us rather they robbed us blind.

See Nigeria o o o.

                                                                                     LOOTED MONEY DISCOVERED IN FOREIGN BANKS

NAMES OF DEPOSITORS                    LONDON                                 SWISS($)                           USA ($)                                 GERMANY (D)
   


GEN IBRAHIM BABANGIDA                 6.25bn                                    7.41bn                               2.00bn                                  9.00bn
   
   

GEN ABUBAKAR                                 1.31bn                                    2.33bn                               800M
   
   

REAR ADMIRAL MIKE AKHIGBE          1.24bn                                    2.42bn                               671M                                          1bn
   
   

GEN JERRY USENI                             3.04bn                                    2.01bn                              1.01bn                                         900M           
           


ALH ISMAILA GWARZO                     1.03bn                                   2.00bn                                 1.3bn                                          700M
   

   
ALH UMARU DIKKO                            4.5bn                                   1.4bn                                   700M                                          345M
   
   

PAUL OGWUMA                                 300M                                    1.42bn                                 200M                                          500M                           
   


GEN SANI ABACHA                            9.01bn                                 4.09bn                                  800M                                         3.01M



MOHAMMED ABACHA                        300M                                      1.2bn                                   150M                                          535M
   


ABDULKADIR ABACHA                      700M                                     1.21bn                                900M                                          471M               

   
ALHAJI WADA NAS                           600M                                     1.32bn                                                                                   300M
   

TOM IKIMI                                       400M                                      1.39bn                               152M                                           371M


DAN ETETE                                      1.12bn                                   1.03bn                                400M                                           1.72bn

   

DON ETIBET                                    2.5bn                                    1.06bn                                 700M                                            361M
   
   

MAJ AL MUSTAPHA                          600M                                     1.001bn                                                                                   210M
   
   

ANTHONY ANI                                 2.9bn                                     1.09bn                                 360M                                           1.66bn
   


BASHIR DALHATU                           2.3bn                                      1.001bn                               161M                                           1.43bn
   


GEN WUSHISHI                              700M                                       1.301bn


   
ALH HASSAN ADAMU                      300M                                        200M                                   700M
   
   

T Y DANJUMA                                  300M                                        200M                                   700M
   
   

GEN ISHAYA BAMAYI                      120M                                         800M
   
                                                                           
                                                                                    SOURCE: WORLD BANK TO THE PRESIDENT OF NIGERIA

emporium:
For the purpose of fairness, i just got this other info from a different online source. Read both and make your own deductions:



World Bank Distances itself from list of Nigerian Looters

http://www.africananews.com/cover/200511/world_bank_distances_itself_from.htm

LAOLU AKANDE NEW YORK

A list containing the names of 21 former Nigerian officials and military officers with alleged sums of looted money in foreign banks have been disowned by officials of the World Bank in Washington D.C.

For about a month now the list which mentions varying amounts of money the Nigerians have stashed away in several currencies including US dollars, British pounds, German Marks and Swiss Franc have circulated in diplomatic circles, among international financial operatives and several email lists on the internet.

According to the list, World Bank is listed as the source with a reference mentioned in Financial Times of London June 24, 1999. On the list, it was noted that the World Bank passed on this list to President Obasanjo.

Earlier this year, Obasanjo was reported, (at the time Nigeria was inching close to a deal with its creditors on the debt relief deal) as saying he had been asked about Nigerian funds stashed abroad by former officials and also given such a list and there was no official denial of this from the Nigerian government.

According to a popular international website on debt issues, Odious Debts Online, as reported on July 27, 2005, "in exchange for partial debt relief, the Paris Club of creditor nations have handed Nigerian President Olusegun Obasanjo a list of well-placed Nigerians to go after and prosecute for allegedly stealing and stashing public funds in overseas bank accounts."

The website, well read in western capitals said "according to various reports, President Obasanjo confirmed the list publicly after he was pressured by a delegation from the state of Kwara to reveal the conditions of the Paris Club debt relief deal."

Similarly, usually reliable sources said the World Bank had first passed such a list to Obasanjo several years back, and went ahead to leak it to the Financial Times when the Nigerian president refused to take any action on the list except regarding the Late General Sani Abacha. In the case of Abacha, President Obasanjo took steps to pursue the information made available to the Nigerian government. But in the case of others especially General Ibrahim Babangida, Obasanjo simply ignored the information.

A UN funds recovery expert Jack Blum based in Washington DC had disclosed to this reporter in the past that he met with Obasanjo on the recovery of the funds in the earlier days of the administration, but Obasanjo showed interest only in pursuing the Abacha loot and showed no interest in the alleged IBB loot which was more than Abacha's, according to Blum and the list now widely in circulation.

On the list Abacha was listed as stashing abroad 9.1 billion British pounds, 4.09 billion Swiss Francs, $200m US dollars and 500 million German Marks. The list puts Babangida's loot at 6.2 billion pounds, 7.41 billion Swiss Franc, 2 billion US dollars and 9 billion DeutscheMarks.

Indeed recently, the World Bank entered into an agreement with the Swiss government to ensure a sum of $290 million recovered from the Abacha loot is spent by Nigeria on poverty reduction programme.

This reporter spoke with several World Bank and International Finance Corporation, IFC, officials in the last few weeks, and the official line remains a straight denial of the list.

John Donaldson, a senior communication officer at the World bank said the World Bank is not a policing institution and if it has any information it would pass it to the appropriate authorities. His colleague Herbert Boh, a communication officer at the World Bank, point blank disassociated the World Bank from such a list. Said he :"The World Bank is not in possession of any such list and did not send any such list out to President Obasanjo or to any media outlet."

Asked whether the World Bank can retain or have access to such information, Boh said the "World Bank does not have such information."

But he conceded that the World bank has received "numerous other requests on this list, " but categorically denied that such a list is from the World Bank and "is NOT connected to the World Bank." (emphasis his) Speaking with the International Finance Corporation, the World bank agency that deals with the private sector, Corrie Shanahan, IFC's spokesperson also stated that the the IFC does not maintain such a list.

But Shanahan however added that "as part of our due diligence with regard to anti-money laundering and combating the financing of terrorism (AML-CFT), we subscribe to a number of commercial list services," suggestting that the IFC may indeed have access to such information as contained in the list.

Shanahan also noted that basically such information contained in the list were bank secrets. Observers say that may explain why the World bank and its agency are trying hard to distance themselves from the list.

This reporter also conducted a web search on the archives of the Financial Times, since the list mentioned a reference to that paper's edition of June 24, 1999. But a preliminary search did not turn up any useful information although a search of the actual print edition was not immediately possible.

Other Nigerian former officials whose names featured on the list are Generals Ibrahim Babangida, whose name was listed first, Abdusalami Abubakar, Mike Akhigbe, Jerry Useni, Alhaji Ismaila Gwarzo, Umaru Dikko, Paul Ogwuma, Mohammed Abacha, Abdulkadir Abacha, Wada Nas, Tom Ikimi, Dan Etete, Don Etiebet, Major Al Mustapha, Anthony Ani, Bashir Dalhatu, General Wushishi, Hassan Adamu, T.Y. Danjuma and General Ishaya Bamaiyi in that order.

you didnt check the link is not working. how did LAOLU AKANDE ger ton speak for UN?