₦airaland Forum

moneygurl:
I think it is suppose to be for their Punch Mobile (which you have to pay for) and maybe their website made a mistake or something. Who pays for newspaper mobile anyway?

moneygurl:
Okay what happened to their website. It seems you have to log in put in your phone number so that they can charge you before you can view their website? Right?

MrCrackles:
Jokes, i aint subscribing to the bullshit!

obinna5000:
You can view free-to-air satellite channels like LoveWorld, Chosen TV, Emmanuel TV, Omega, e.t.c. using a 90cm dish with KU-band and a satellite receiver or decoder like Strong 4653X or higher. Input this setting to the decoder:

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Frequency - 12682 or 12722
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FEC - 1/2

God bless.

~Lady~:
The problem comes in when people use evolution or the big bang to prove that God doesn't exist, or use it as their excuse not to believe in God. Problem also comes in when people read Genesis literally and attack evolution.

[size=18pt]Hux wats up with the new name?[/size]

$osisi:
It's a small world.He'll eventually find out and dump her like a used tampon.
Go and mark that somewhere.
A twice divorced woman,what is she looking for in the institution of marriage again
hasn't she done enough "try your luck"
she now wants to ruin an innocent man's life by deceiving him into marriage.
what a shameless,heartless and coldblooded woman.
She is no marriage material and has no business being married to anyone except a 4 times divorced male.
Too highrisk even for a handshake.

mikeansy:
There is no point giving example of stable countries to buttress your argument .  . . . .the political landscape in these countries is totally different from Nigeria.

The head of the electoral body in Ghana has been their since the days of Gerry Rawlings and has no time limits in office . . . . and what that means is that the man has perfected the system and knows that so long as he does the right thing his stay in office is just fine and he is not at risk of being sacked by a President who wants him to dance to his tune.

In US  . . . . they have credible institutions, credible processes that most Americans dont even know those who make up the Electoral college. So there is no need comparing their electoral process to ours.

In Nigeria we have a unique political landscape. . . . . .the INEC boss has time limits  . . .and the way it is designed every President can practically come into office and appoint an INEC boss he favours and who will dance to his tune. Our institutions are not mature enough and can only depend on men of strong will to grow.

So for now because we dont have institutions that can stand the rigours . . . . .who the INEC boss is, how he emerged is very important to whether we will even get close to having credible elections in Nigeria.

tayoccu:
for crying out loud, the boy's only 14!!!

the old man outta be locked away for a while.

mrsb:
Hi All. I've been married for 7 years and it’s not always easy. Marriage is a wonderful blessing, particularly when the kids came too but it is HARD WORK. Especially for a woman! We have to try and find a compromise between being a respectful, submissive and Christian wife who can take care of the home, kids and also hold down a job/career - and yes, we also have to still try and look hot (weight, hair, nails etc) and be sexy when we've been up all night with babies, spent the weekend running around after in-laws and slogged away in the office. It is very easy to slip into the comfort zone and either be asleep or looking like shit in trackies by the time husband comes home after a long day. Its not what he wants to come home to! I try my best to have a clean and calm home for him to come home to - and a clean and cute looking wifey too!!  
18pt]Its super important to marry someone you genuinely cannot live without and someone who you really get on with [/size]- we are really good friends and I'm lucky enough that he talks to me about business issues and asks my advice on things to do with his office - HOWEVER we must be careful not to slip into the "best friend" role where the love becomes like brother/sister - and as most of the guys in this forum joyously pointed out - it IS about the sex, if that slips, all else fails, and interest wanes, and we all know how many chicks are waiting to service your man in Naija if you let them,

Of course, some guys are assholes and will get bored anyway, no matter what their wife does!  

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silkybaby [/b:
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Usually after wedding you tend to discover each other like you are unwrapping your wedding gifts, then you discover things you did not know about the other person.

A lot of men like excitement so they cheat if they can't get it from their wives. It is usually the woman who works harder to make the marriage work.

Nevertheless, you are there to complement each other, if you are the bubbling type & he is the boring type then you have to come up with new ideas to keep the fire burning, you have to find out what makes him tick. Women work harder to make things work.

[b]Communication is very important, but don't nag, talk to him about how you feel, cause he might be ignorant - some men don't know any better.

Always give him something to look forward to. You have to be his wife, his girlfriend, his best pal etc. Be approachable !!! be adventurous!!!

Always look good even when you are in doors. Don't look like an old woman while breast feeding.

topsy25  10:57 AM
IF YOU MARRY UR FRIEND, SHE WONT GET U BORED [/b]Cool

I dated my wife for 9 years, 11mths and 17days before we got married. I dont see her just as a sex object, but as a lover, friend, mother, sister and my better half. I've never been bored with her and I can say same for her Grin Wink

Please dont get me wrong; we do have our problems and misunderstandings, but we'll always come together to talk about it cos we know shouting and nagging at each other will never solve our problems but rather add to it. [b]Most importantly we pray together.

luvinhubby:
If he`s a criminal, why has`nt he been arrested, and none of his members has ever said he took money from them forcefuly, so what makes him a criminal. You are just jealous and misguided

sleekymag:
@JJYOU
Though i know it's wrong to have a situation as this (father & son) in the same FG parastatal as Chairman & MD especially when its not in tandem with theFederal Character Commision policies.

But comparing OBJ and his daughter thing as a PDP affair, i beg to differ, isn't only a nigerian affair. I'd say its a thing common to the rich and powerful (some, not all) in every society. Asides from the fact that the nature of their public offices is/was by general election. Abi how would you describe the Bush family, who produced Father & Son as US Presidents, and another son as Florida governor when George W. Bush himself was Texas governor b4 becoming president. Abi how would you also describe Bill Clinton who was president and his wife was 1st Lady, and then became a Senator when her husband left office, and even contested to become US President, and still managed to get appointed as US Seceretary of State. Examples like this abound all over the world in public office and business.

Ekabass:
The issue of witchcraft whether of child or adult is real and not novel. why is evang helen the one suddenly to be held responsible?I live in calabar and until i stumbled into thisthere is no one reported case against her or her church members. the exaggeration and lies are calculated to tarnish her image and the gospel of christ. Did u guys verify these stories and what does it take to interview the residece of calabar as to the veracity or otherwise. Its unfare and i persive the lady deserves an apology . it will be wise if you do smthg to repair the wrong to evangelist helen. [size=18pt] Obviously some akwaibomites are tring to makemoney from the resent hit in nigerin fastest biz returns: NGO[/size]. Its sheer wickedness on a woman when witch doctors abound in the open in nigeria perpetraiting evil and going scot free. why not arrest her if you have any justification. Its shameful that an international press could come this low onfacts finding .

Modupe Debbie Ariyo

In the late 1990s, there were many cases of African children being brought to the United Kingdom who were ending up as victims of serious abuse (or what the government here calls ”significant harm”) and even death. Many names come to mind including that of Jude Akapa, Damilola Taylor and Victoria Climbie. At this time, I was working in the British Civil Service as a Senior Policy Advisor on Entrepreneurship. I was concerned that Africans were not speaking out about the issues around child cruelty and abuse and that there wasn‘t a platform with which to advocate for changes in policy and practice to help protect African children. I initially started AFRUCA in 2001 as an awareness raising campaign. But it very quickly metamorphosed into a full-fledged charity. It also became very apparent that because of the linkages between Africans in the UK and in Africa, our work cannot be limited to the UK alone. There are more child abuse going on in Africa and we need to have a continuum between our UK works and works in Africa to enable us address it.

If the bulk of the problems you set out to tackle is located in Africa, why does your headquarters have to be in London here?

This is a question that many people have asked us. However, the truth of the matter is that we have gained so much experience, expertise, knowledge and skills not forgetting money as a Europe-based charity working with African children. We are now in a very unique position as Africans working in the UK and in Africa to address issues affecting African children based on the qualities we bring on board. We have access to networks, contacts and resources which I strongly believe will not be available to us if we were based in Africa. We are in a much stronger position to attract funding to support work in Africa, build strong partnerships with fellow African organisations on the ground and jointly work with them to effect changes. It is a very strategic positioning which I believe has worked out well for us as an organisation and which I believe will really impact positively on our work in Africa.

You came to Nigeria sometime in 2003 wanting to set up a Nigerian office, what has come of that plan?

The idea to set up in Nigeria was to enable us address the linkages between our UK work and work in Africa especially in the area of child trafficking. The truth of the matter is that majority of the children and families we are working with in the UK are of Nigerian origin. In terms of figures, Nigerians are the majority Africans in the UK. Unfortunately, we were not able to actualise our aims of establishing an office. It is a source of deep sadness for me because I think we could have achieved a lot for the children here if we had been established in Nigeria.

What challenges did you face in trying to set up the office in Nigeria?

Sincerely speaking, the Nigerian environment is very inimical to genuine business development and it stifles ideas, innovation and efforts. But what was most difficult to deal with was the level of corruption and seemingly lack of appreciation of what we were trying to do by some government agencies. For example, it was a shock to my system to be told by a government official in one of the states that we had to inflate our budget before receiving support from the state to do some work. Of course, the inflated portion of the funds would then go to him and others for their ”help”. In short, we had to bribe officials before we could get funds to help children in need. That was a very difficult experience for me because it was something I had never encountered before. It was difficult to see that government officials tasked with developing programmes to alleviate children‘s sufferings were more interested in their own personal enrichment, rather than supporting us to make changes happen. [color=Black]The fact that many politicians‘ wives had their own NGOs was also problematic for us as some local funders would rather fund them because of their connections, than fund us. Without funding, there wasn‘t so much we could do. So, in the end, we had to postpone the setting up of the office in Nigeria.[/color] [size=14pt]it becomes clearer and clearer that afruca and debbie's only aim is getting more money from the govt. why is the money collected abroad not enough to run what she is claiming to do in africa? is that not why the money were collected in the first place?[/size]

So, for AFRUCA, what had been the discoveries on child trafficking and human trafficking generally?

It is very interesting that many NGOs and government agencies in Nigeria focus exclusively on trafficking for sexual exploitation to Europe. Of course, this is a major problem, but our experience at AFRUCA is very different. Most of the young people we have worked with were trafficked for domestic servitude. These are young people tricked with promises of a better life - good education, better prospects being brought here to the UK to work as slaves, in people‘s homes. We have come across many horrific stories of young lives destroyed by this because when the families are tired of having them, they are thrown out on the streets with no identification, no money and no prospects. In addition, there are growing cases of old women also brought here to work as slaves and who suffer exactly the same way. I have never heard any Nigerian agency highlight this fact or what the plans are to tackle it.

Your organisation has been doing a lot of work in other parts of Africa, why not in Nigeria?

Well that is another question many Nigerians have asked me, sometimes with some justified anger! But the truth of the matter is this: We are a bonafide African charity run by African people, not just Nigerians. We have been established to cater for all African children, not just Nigerian children. Having said that, as I mentioned earlier, Nigeria is the only country that we have attempted to actually establish a presence in 2003 but this failed due to the reasons I highlighted. In other countries, we work in partnership with already established NGOs on the ground. It is important to say that we have not faced the same level of corruption in other countries as we have experienced here in Nigeria. Truthfully, it is much easier to work in other countries like Ghana, where we have a project on street children, for example. It would be a great source of joy for me to be able to have an AFRUCA operation in Nigeria where we can address many of the issues confronting our children. However, there are so many constraints and I do hope that this time around, we would be able to deal with them. The work in Nigeria will definitely continue. It was postponed, not cancelled.

As a Nigerian, don‘t you think the problem of child trafficking deserves your group‘s attention in Nigeria?

It does for many reasons. Nigeria has the highest number of trafficked victims to Europe; more than any other African country. We were so concerned about this fact that in 2003, we organised a conference in Lagos termed: Trafficking of Nigerian Children to the UK: Denouncing the Better Life Syndrome”. Our plan was to establish a child trafficking project to follow up on the conference, as part of our work in Nigeria. Unfortunately, it proved quite difficult to get the necessary support, not least because of course there is WOTCLEF, run by the wife of the former Vice-President. Most of the funders we approached for support refused to support us because they were already supporting WOTCLEF. [size=14pt]MONEY , MONEY AND MORE MONEY![/size] When we added that to the other constraints, it was not realistic at that point to do any meaningful work on child trafficking in Nigeria because of a lack of financial support.

How would you relate the problem of child trafficking with some of the immigration problems in the UK where you are based?

Victims of child trafficking here in the UK are some of the most vulnerable people in the country. When a child is trafficked to the UK at the age of 9, 10 or 11, her identity is changed so she is given someone else‘s names and date of birth. When such a young person is now thrown out of the house because they are no longer useful, the crucial thing at that point is their identity. There is no way of proving who they are, their age or date of birth or their immigration status. This is a double whammy for the victims because without any papers, they are condemned to a life of penury, suffering and exploitation. Many of the young people, when they are caught, are deported by the immigration service. They are returned to a country they left 10, 12 years ago, with no memory of whom or where their parents are. They become vulnerable on the streets of Lagos and other cities. Some of the girls become prostitutes in order to survive. It is a very distressing problem and we do have a project in London providing support to such young people when they approach us for help so they can get their lives back on track.

Many First Ladies have attempted to make campaigns on child trafficking their pet projects in Nigeria; do you think these have had impact or they have just been political jamborees?

I have a lot of respect for the work of WOTCLEF and Idia Renaissance. I do think that in the time they were first ladies, the wife of the former Vice-President, Mrs. Atiku Abubakar and also former Edo State first lady, Mrs. Eki Igbinedion, did effect some positive changes. But these are exceptions, not the rule. They are also very time-limited activities. Once their husbands left power, the projects stopped or became seriously constrained. That is why I do not support such projects because they are not long lasting. It is impossible to have a vision or long term objectives because your husband is in power for such a short space of time. Meanwhile, the issues we are dealing with required long-term solutions. You cannot solve child trafficking in 8 years. Charities with longer term visions and with little political affiliations are in a much better position to effect changes because they are more focused and can plan longer-term.

What specific areas of our culture do you consider as promoting cases of child abuse?

The increase in the number of our children branded as witches is very disconcerting. I know that people are very concerned about what is happening in Akwa Ibom State regarding child branding, but it is not an Akwa Ibom problem alone. I grew up in Yorubaland and it is equally a problem there. Clearly, we need to look at the role of some faith organisations in promoting this very wicked practice. The growing problem of using children in rituals is one that is equally very sad to see. The practice of using children as domestic servants while depriving them of access to education and a decent life is a very terrible cultural phenomenon that has been exported to Europe and elsewhere. Our strong belief in discipline means that many children are growing up having more contact with the cane than with their parents. We need to stop treating our children like donkeys and goats and show more love and affection, talk more to our children rather than attempt to solve all problems with punishment. The practice of child marriage in my view is society-sanctioned paedophilia and it is incomprehensible to me that a child of 12 can be seen as someone‘s wife. Many girls‘ lives have been destroyed through the lack of access to education, the sexual and emotional abuse and early child birth experienced leading to serious conditions like Fistula. Child marriage is really an evil practice that must be stopped.

How soon can AFRUCA intervene in the Nigerian situation as far as child trafficking and abuse are concerned?

I think we are in a much better position now to have a full fledged operation in Nigeria than we were in 2003. We have grown significantly in the UK, especially in the last one year with our headquarters in London and a soon to be established office in Manchester in the North of England. We are consolidating our growth in the country but at the same time looking to address the causes of the issues we are addressing. These causes lie in Africa. So, it is inevitable that we will have an office in Africa. Of course Nigeria is a strong attraction for us not only because of my origin but also because of the sheer number of children and the issues they face. We have started to work to sort out the necessary documentation. Once all these are dealt with, then we will be ready to go to work with the same seriousness, steadfastness and dedication that we are known for here in the UK. We do not just want to have little projects in Nigeria, we want to be very pro-active in addressing some of the issues I highlighted above. These are urgent issues but we need to ensure we are properly established so we can deal with them as seriously as possible.

Pastor AIO:
God's spirit does not inspire hate and lies.  I am yet to see any hatred or lies on this thread.

pilgrim.1:
By the way, what caught your interest on the subject?