₦airaland Forum

charles316:
@poster,

decent girls would rather get married than be passed around by guys.(from tayo to seun to obi to abubakar to eket to idibia to osas and co).

@ sisterwoman,

i am ur fan.each time i visit any page i look out for ur reply.ur sense of reasoning is brilliant.u dont reason like a typical nigerian girl who brings sentiments into their thinking.(sorry pittbaby ,bluespice,ibkaye,outstrip, and co.

hope say u no be guy o

Outstrip:
I personally do not think that you should test drive. I was very sexually curious. I used to buy books and read about sex even when I was a virgin. I remember I had this book called 101 ways to drive a man wild in bed. I had the karma sutra. I had books on erotic massages. I was really curious about all things romance and sex. Most men do not appreciate virginity in this day and age and besides what is the point of saving it for someone who has been around the block a couple of times

[size=18pt]Bottom line though the Bible says it is a sin[/size]

sin against your body that get defiled and the owner of the body your maker.

[quote]If you are engaged though and know you are marrying the person then it is up to you to decide when the marriage started. Was it when you invited family over to celebrate with you or was it when she said I will be your wife and you both agreed as a couple. 
[quote]nice one.  i wish i knew this earlier. it is funny just make the rule as you go. i can see why most people are broken beyond repair. you really believe this?

bridget007:
Maybe something in me does need checking, I had been married before for 15 years prior then divorced, only had 3 men ever before meeting him in my life, I was never a playing type with men. I was naieve and have always taken people at face value, when I met him he was lovely, no signs of the person hiding underneath. I read up on all the 'stuff' written about nigerian men and looked for signs, the signs raised their head too late.

I don't think being white makes me better than anyone, I am not racist, we are all human, but I am better than a cheating, lying, deceitful, criminal man, no matter what colour he may be. I just think Nigerian men have a reputation of being very clever at lying and being involved in fraud and my ex has added credence to this. It is sad that some nigerians cannot see a way of life that doesn't involve lying, cheating, abusing and criminal activity.

I may have a PhD, which has opened doors for me career wise but I am more proud of raising my children, who are all bright, intelligent, well rounded happy individuals more or less single handed despite their father financially and physically not helping.

I don't hate nigerian men, after all my son is part nigerian, I just think some of them are giving nigerian men in general a bad name, and that has nothing to do with skin colour but attitude and lifestyle choices. It would be sad if in the future my son hides his nigerian background because of the stereotypes that are attached to nigerians.

Wife of GMTV doctor Hillary Jones having fling with friend's son


By Gary Anderson; Will Payne 24/05/2009

Marriage of TV doctor over
Hilary Jones, Sarah (pic: Adam Davies/Alpha)

Hilary Jones with Sarah at charity bash (pic: Adam Davies/Alpha)

TV doctor Hilary Jones is furious after finding out his wife is having a fling with the SON of one of his friends, 18 years his junior.

The 55-year-old GMTV star was left stunned last week when he found out wife Sarah is seeing 37-year-old ex-Navy captain Stephen Tristram.

Hilary is said to have gone "ballistic" when he was told the news. Last night the couple put out a statement saying they were divorcing after 19 years of marriage.

For years it was Sarah who put up with his reputation as a ladies' man, including a fling with a co-presenter.
Sarah Jones, Stephen (pic: Neil Atkinson and Anya Reid)

Sarah and new lover Stephen (pic: Neil Atkinson and Anya Reid)

The smooth TV doctor recently started renting a flat in Battersea, South-West London, where he lives on weeknights then commutes to the family home at weekends.

A friend said: "They hadn't been getting on but Hilary was very angry when he discovered she had started seeing someone a few months ago. When he found out it was his friend's son last week he just went off the scale - which is a bit rich when you consider what he's done to her over the years."

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Sarah, 48, stood by her man in a cringe-making TV confessional when he admitted cheating. Now she has turned the tables by getting a toyboy.

Hilary has still been spending weekends at the family home with their three children - 17-year-old twins and their son aged 14.

Meanwhile, her dashing toyboy Stephen has moved out of the home he shared with osteopath Nancy MacDonald, 28, and has been spending nights at his parents' house. He called off plans to marry Nancy, mother of his three young children, last December. Yesterday the young mum said they split before he met Sarah.

Sarah and Stephen are regularly seen giggling and cuddling together in pubs and restaurants in upmarket villages around Basingstoke. Last Saturday they were spotted joking at a pub near the plush home Sarah s`hares with her TV star husband.

Stephen Tristram Snr, 65, is a vascular physician at North Hampshire Hospital and is believed to be a former business partner of Hilary. The TV doctor is said to have suspected his wife was seeing someone for some time and the fling was the talk of the village. But he didn't know who her lover was until a friend broke the news. One pal said: "It's like he wanted one rule for himself, but another for Sarah.

"The marriage had been in trouble for a while. He knew Sarah was seeing someone but to find out it was Stephen really dented his ego. Sarah and Stephen are very much in love and they don't care who knows it. It came as a surprise to some people because he has such a young family and had been planning to marry. Sarah's main concern now is for the kids and making sure the whole thing causes them the least possible disruption."

The relationship comes 16 years after Hilary admitted a four-month fling with Josephine Buchan - his copresenter on ITV medical show The Full Treatment. He claimed he cheated because Sarah devoted herself to the couple's newborn twins instead of him.

Sarah agreed to appear on TV with her husband to talk about the betrayal and sat with him on the GMTV sofa, telling Lorraine Kelly she would find it hard to trust him again. Hilary said at the time: "I have no excuses for what I've done and I hope Sarah and my family will give it a chance so we can maybe make something out of it in the future."

Sarah forgave her husband for the sake of their twins and they went on to have another child. They live in a country house with private gym in picturesque Maple Durwell, 10 minutes from Basingstoke. The GP split with his first wife and started seeing Sarah, who had worked as a health visitor attached to his practice, in 1987. Her first husband, businessman Lindsay Harvey, accused Hilary of stealing her. Hilary has two sons, Tristan, 29, and Sebastian, 28, from his marriage to Anne Marie Vives. Stephen rose to the rank of Navy captain and now earns a living chartering yachts to the Caribbean. His ex-fiancée Nancy said: "We broke up a long time ago and Sarah wasn't the reason. I feel he could have chosen better."

Last night a spokeswoman for Dr Hilary and Sarah Jones confirmed they have separated and divorce proceedings have commenced. In a joint statement the couple said: "It's sad, but we both accept that we have come to the end of the road. The split is amicable - we separated in November 2008." http://www.mirror.co.uk/celebs/news/2009/05/24/tv-doc-s-wife-has-it-aweigh-with-his-friend-s-sailor-son-115875-21384263/

nkem okoli:
its normal. but try to apply wisdom at all times. Men are the same.

itumama:
I think i learnt a big lesson in your story dat its mandatory to court before leaping into marriage cos assuming you ve done this earlier you wont have dis problem you are encountering now.Moreso you cant even explain her likes and her dislikes cos you are not familiar wit her from the onset en you dont even know any of her friend to ask d kind of person who she is,you got little news from yr friend about her en you concluded she is the best for you.Where is your friend now to bring antidote to the problem you are having nowNway wats has happened has happen all you need to do is wake her up at night ask her where you ve gone wrong en wats the reason for all her action cos i dont think she can just act like dat witout no reason.i pray you get a positive answer from her cos you can continue living hostile.All the best man.

johnugwu:
Yar’Adua is trapped – IBB’s in-law
From ISMAIL OMIPIDAN, Kaduna
Wednesday, May 27, 2009


•Sonny Okogwu
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Chief Sonny Okogwu has declared that Nigeria was being ruled from the spirit world and concluded that the inability of the power seekers to keep to their own side of the bargain may have been responsible for the series of woes befalling the country.

Speaking to a select group of Journalists in Kaduna at the weekend on 10 years of democracy in Nigeria, the presidential candidate of the Republican Party of Nigeria, (RPN), in the 2007 presidential race said, “There is a fire on the mountain. Nobody sees except David. This country is ruled by spirits.

People invoke spirits to give them power and everything and to shut anybody up when you are in power and those spirits demands for their payment. If you don’t pay when you get it done, you and your nation will suffer.

“Spiritualism is all over the place. There is nobody in power who has not gone for prayers. Prayers in one form or the other; sacrifice in one form or the other. You journalists cannot sit here and know what is done in secret. Invisible pact is all over and until that is remedied by our traditional rulers; they are the only ones who will help this country and bring back the normalcy. If the traditional rulers in the South-South call the militants to say it is enough, they dare not carry guns again.

No militant will carry a gun and no shot will be heard again because the powers with them will teach the militant a lesson and if they disobey them. Inside their camps, they will sleep and not wake up again. That is power of tradition. The culture is there, the tradition is there.”
He also spoke on other issues of national interest.

Excerpts:
On Friday, we will be celebrating 10 years of uninterrupted democracy in the country, and two years of the Yar’Adua’s government. Do we really have cause to celebrate?
Well, 10 years of democracy; on the screen, you see it as real. But in the control room, it is nothing but edited. It is edited democracy. A democracy whose principles and practices, behaviours of operators are hidden and what you see in the public are nothing but fake news and fake pictures. It is not a democracy for the people, but a democracy out of the people.

But because the word democracy means that the whole world should not allow the military to govern, that is why we say we are practicing democracy. So, for the 10 years, what you saw as democratic is autocratic, authoritarian democracy, aggressive government and dictatorial. So choose anyone and see the one that has been practiced in Nigeria for the 10 years.

On the President’s two years in office, I have nothing to say. If I am in the party that gave him the appointment, I would have said that the assignment given to him has been done. In two years, PDP did not tell us what they asked the President to do.

The President waited for one year and there was no assignment given to him by the party and had to announce a self appointed project- the seven-point agenda. Those points he raised that we in existence will continue to exist whether there is a ruler or no ruler in this country. The country has remained static and everybody knows that there is a storm on the seven-point agenda. So, the President needs help to refine those agenda, transform them and make them practicable. But since his own is not a one man majority, he is not a dictator; his party will not allow him to do it. What I am saying is that our President is trapped. Let his media spokesman tell us why they allowed our President to be trapped.

Talking about 10 years of democratic rule, are you saying that Nigeria has not achieved anything? You also talked about smokescreen democracy. Can you give us examples of the fake democracy you talked about?
There is a fire on the mountain. Nobody sees except David. This country is ruled by spirits. People invoke spirits to give them power and everything and to shut anybody up when you are in power and those spirits demand for their payment. If you don’t pay when you get it done, you and your nation will suffer.

Are you saying that Nigeria is indebted to the spirit world?
Spiritualism is all over the place. There is nobody in power who has not gone for prayers. Prayers in one form or the other; sacrifice in one form or the other. You journalists cannot sit here and know what is done in secret. Invisible pact is all over and until that is remedied by our traditional rulers; they are the only ones who will help this country and bring back the normalcy. If the traditional rulers in the South-South call the militants to say it is enough, they dare not carry guns again. No militant will carry a gun and no shot will be heard again because the powers with them will teach the militant a lesson and if they disobey them. Inside their camps, they will sleep and not wake up again. That is power of tradition. The culture is there, the tradition is there.

How do you know that the nation is being governed from the spirit world?
Anytime you are in the corridor of power, you see those things. It happens everyday.

You are from the Niger Delta and you are aware of the military operations there at the moment. What is your reaction to it?
When you talk of Niger Delta, that name does not exist. So, anybody that says there is a military operation in the Niger Delta will be asked to produce an evidence to show that where the operation is taking place is Delta. You know as experts say, the word Delta means river line and if a soldier is exchanging guns on land, is it Delta? The answer is no. So what we are saying and what we are hearing are camouflaged statements designed by military that is, the recognized militants.

We have the recognized militants and unrecognized militants. Recognized militants are members of the Nigerian military while the unrecognized are mercenaries of whatever origin we don’t know. To tell you the truth, there is confusion in that zone.

A member of the House of Representative from the North said on the floor of the House that if wiping out the Ijaws will ensure peace in the country that it should be done. But members from the South- South zone took offence to that. What is your reaction to this development?
What he is trying to say is that it is better to lose one man than to lose 10.

So, the bombardment should go on?
Military tactics they call it. If you declare war on a nation and one man is the cause of the war, destroy him.

(Cuts in) what about the innocent citizens?
There is no war without the innocent dying. If you analyze what causes a war and breakdown of civil disorder, it is unbelievable who causes that war. It is the innocent.

Does that mean you support what is going on in the Niger Delta?
I don’t know what is going on in the Niger Delta. If there are camps in that area and the people on authority visited the camps, you say they are militant against your country, what is the rationale and what are they telling us? You are saying bombardment. I don’t accept that word. To bomb a city, you know that type of weapons you will use on that city and who you are looking for. We have not acquired precision weapons that if I am looking for Mr. A in a crowd of 100,000, he just spots Mr. A and destroys him. What we have is that you are looking for Mr. A and he is mixed up in the crowd and the entire crowd will have to go. So, saying that the military is bombarding them, I don’t know the military that has that air defence equipment to go and attack its own people by air.

Is your party part of the mega party proposed by Chief Enahoro?
Not at all. We don’t believe in mega parties. If you leave your party and cooperate with another party, you are a traitor to the members of the party and to INEC, you have committed a very serious offence because you took an oath before you were registered. If you do that kind of thing, your registration will be taken away from you and you will be punished. What that means is that in the next 10 years, you and that political party will never surface or be a member of any organization representing this country.

Do you still have presidential ambition?
There was never a time I had it. I just took that opportunity to speak to the people and you heard me. I have spoken and I am out of it.

So, what are the plans of your party for 2011?
We don’t have plans for 2011. 2011 is automatic for political repositioning. It means that power must go to a certain place and that place must get the Presidency no matter how big your political party is or how big you are. If you are from the North, 2011 don’t go and campaign for the President.

Where will power shift to?
Rotation.

Where will it rotate to?
You know.
We don’t know.
What are the militants talking about? They are talking about economic and political power.

But they have the Vice President?
Yes. If you analyze the secrecy behind this operation and the secrecy behind the appointment of the Vice President from Bayelsa, you will know that something has been violated. What has been violated is the time limit for the person from that area to stay in power. There was an understanding that each person will stay in power for two years for those who brought this nonsense and promoted it to cause this type of civil war. The big six who are the resource control men and you know them. They brought this palaver now. Those resource control men should be VP for eight years. What that means is that Goodluck Jonathan has done his two years and therefore should go.

James Ibori should come and stay for two years and then go; Odili should come after that and stay for two year and go. Then Duke should do his own two years and go; then Lucky should do his own two years and go. The last person to do two years will be the person to be the number one come 2015. Is this happening? The greed has made somebody to stay put and because of that, the militants will not go. These people are the ones who brought this militancy to this country.

These boys were following them during campaign s, shooting everywhere; but when they won and were in position, they forgot these boys without anybody helping them. So, it is the part of vengeance that you are hearing now. So, until the Federal Government and the President summon these big six who started this, nobody can stop it except them.

Constitutionally, this analysis is not possible. How can you have a Vice President for two years?
That is rotational Presidency and it is understood.

Is that your panacea for solving the Niger Delta crisis?
Immediately. Bring in the VPs.

Through what means, will it be through impeachment?
No. Through understanding. You have done two years, then go and let us test another person. Let us see out of the six who will be capable and be acceptable.

Are you now saying that Jonathan should resign?
Not resignation. There is a better job for Jonathan than what he is doing now.

What is that job?
You reposition him as an ambassador.

Finally, many Nigerians are asking Yar’Adua to run for a second term in office while some are saying your in-law, Babangida should come and salvage the nation. where do you stand in all these?
Yes, they are not birds of the same feathers. Each of them has his operational tactics and followership as well as successful goodluck. If they say that Babangida should run and there is no reason to doubt that Babangida can solve that thing Umaru Yar’Adua cannot solve, why not. The mission is the same. All we want is a better country.

But if they say Umaru should continue and at the end he will solve that problem, why not leave him to continue? There are some of us who can solve Nigeria’s problem without sitting there. You journalists have not been at the Presidential Villa sitting on luxury chairs, but you have solved a thousand and one problems for this country. It was the journalists who stopped the civil war even though you did not start it. I was there. Is it a small thing to stop a war in a country?

But the journalists did. So many things have happened in this country and people sit in their home and solve it. Namibia was looking for independence and two of us, me and Senator Ahmed Aruwa Muktar brought out something that made Namibia got independence through you the media here in Kaduna. Have they rewarded you? But when an activist speaks out of control, they call him and give him billions.

mackins76:
I believe many out there are in lost nt love. We only end that love of a thing our lips. Ok if u truely love some1 ,y denying pregnancy & hiv lol. Be sincere to urself

charles316:
i think u need ur head checked.i nominate u to be banned.


**stares in disbelief and sleeps off**

redsun:
What ever his intentions are,it is a burning universal issue.[size=18pt]Children are losing out from selfish and greedy parents,jet age,no love.[/size]

georgecso:
California's Supreme Court has upheld a ban on same-sex marriage - the latest twist in a long-running saga.

The judges rejected a challenge from gay-rights activists to overturn the result of a 2008 referendum which restricted marriage to heterosexuals.

Prior to the vote, same-sex marriages were legal for six months, during which 18,000 couples were married.

The judges said their ruling was not retroactive - meaning those couples will remain legally married.
Gay-rights activists stood outside the San Francisco court shouting "shame on you" after the decision was made public.

Some promised to continue their campaign.

"It's not about whether we get to stay married. Our fight is far from over," said 62-year-old Jeannie Rizzo, who was one of the lead plaintiffs.

"I have about 20 years left on this earth, and I'm going to continue to fight for equality every day," she told the Associated Press.

But the court's decision was hailed as a "victory for democracy" by Brad Dacus of the Pacific Justice Institute, a conservative group that supported Proposition 8.

"[The ruling is] a victory for the civil rights of clergy, county clerks and Californians across the political spectrum who did not want to be forced by the government to approve of same-sex marriage," he said.

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I can't just imagine the pleasure one can derive from same sex marriage. Unproductive, Unnatural, bestiality etc[/size]

Thor:
You can not tar everybody with the same brush

(Unless that is 419 where every 1 in 5 Nigerians are involved)

Ibime:
I know this pastor Kure (or Prophet Kure as he was called back then). He was a friend of my fathers and used to stay in our house whenever he visited PH. So Kure is now making political statements brazenly? This is the same guy who prophesied in our church in the mid-1990's that Abacha would be good for the country. To use his words, he said that Abacha would be a leader in the mould of Jehu (David's General) and would clean out corrupt and inept leadership with his no nonsense style. I laugh in Spanish.

izeek:
90% of dudes that spend lavishky dont earn legit. i dont buy this sorry. is that naija figures or what?
hardwork does not mean instand success, but rather steady growth. meaning if you do get instant success you iwll reject it. explain this to me.

me thinks one shud look for steady growth rather than sudden wealth.
if ur bf spends lavishly, try find out his salary, and see if he lives within his means.

amyliajane:
@ topic & Poster

I see no reason for this arguments front and back, whether the wife will deliver today or tommorrow shouldnt be the issue the most important thing is that the wife is the most critical stage of her pregnancy and being the first needs all the help she can get because she's vulnerable, wat if the husband goes for wedding and neighbours are not around when labour starts, what happens?

If the man isnt best man for that day doesnt mean the wedding wouldnt hold, an improvision can always be made and most importantly there are some men that go into labour room with their wives when they are about to give birth, not for anything but to give their moral and loving support, provinding strength to her when she is weak and unable to push. loyalty goes to his family first pls. If not for situations wat husband would not love to witness the birth of his first child?

amebo no1.:
i whole heartedly agree with biina here, you are attaching too much sentiments into this

what if it is an official assignment, and the boss refuses to hear "sir my wife is due at that time" wat advice will you give to him?

Nobody is disputing the fact that your immediate family comes first , we all know that but sometimes it does not happen that way, there comes a time when the immediate family has to sacrifice for things to work out well


Some Women are emotional blackmailers, they will hold on to your emotions and turn it around for their own selfish gain

amebo no1.:
i whole heartedly agree with biina here, you are attaching too much sentiments into this

what if it is an official assignment, and the boss refuses to hear "sir my wife is due at that time" wat advice will you give to him?

Nobody is disputing the fact that your immediate family comes first , we all know that but sometimes it does not happen that way, there comes a time when the immediate family has to sacrifice for things to work out well


Some Women are emotional blackmailers, they will hold on to your emotions and turn it around for their own selfish gain

chaircover:
All this should have been ironed out a long time ago.

Being a first child, generally speaking I doubt your wife's waters will break, start labour & have the baby all in less than 24 hours unless there is an emergency in which case its out of your hands anyway. Are you saying that the EDD falls on the wedding day? I personally dont know of anyone who had her baby on the exact EDD but I am sure that it does happen.

The only thing I can advise is for the groom to get a stand by best man in case you cant make it- I am sure he can ask one of the grooms men to standin in an emergency.

Personally I would say go but make sure and I repeat make sure she has access to a car, driver, plenty of money and at least 2 older responsible women who can take care of her if she does go into labour during your trip.

As God may have it you may even end up having the baby before the wedding so your friend will have to find someone else anyway. At least you tried.

I wish you all the best on the birth of your new baby.

Proverbs 14 :1 (Contemporary English Version)

   A woman's family

   is held together

   by her wisdom,

   but it can be destroyed

   by her foolishness.

Proverbs 14 (Amplified Bible)

1 EVERY WISE woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands.

MrCrackles:
Do you think the poster will know about that?

He wont, too busy looking for news to put other tribes and people down!

Ilelobola:
Does the death of Baby P in London due to abuse by his mom and her boyfriend mean all Londoners are wicked?

This should probably be in the family section and subject line changed.

KunleOshob:
Even though i don't know too much about TB Joshua, i am yet to be convinced of all the baseless and stupid allegations being made against this man. it is obvious the man is preaching the word of God undiluted [unlike pentecostal preachers] he also ensures most of the church revenue goes towards helping the needy[unlike his critcs] he also demonstrates other gifts of the spirit like miracles[ this is debatable though] to me i would rather accept him as a genuine man of God than all the penterascal pastors in this Nigeria put togther. The onus is on them to prove he is fake.

ifyalways:
Be careful who u deal with.There shld be companies that do "cargo and way bill" arund cameroun axis.Am sure abt Peace transit but its just Benin-togo-ghana-abidjan.
Go to the spare parts mkt or trade fair,ask the traders how they send goods to cameroun or if u are in cameroun,ask the traders there how they get their goods from 9ja.
dont do "one-ma show". . . .its risky,no guarantees.

AjaraEwuro:
Whatever - I have told you right here, warn them if you know them - dont let them take it to the mainland, they will be sorry.

bgees:
in my opinion the modern day agitation for the biafra is nothing but a tribalistic and silly agenda. how come Ojukwu himself is not involved.

i just hope our security operatives can face this challenge.

AjaraEwuro:
When they take the fight to mainland Nigeria, you think everyone will watch? The women of Ekiti alone is enough to make the heads of the so called militants calabashes for drinking palmwine, better tell them not to take any fight to any mainland Nigeria, beause they will become meat for other people's dogs, they are threat to the area they operate from, they are no threat to every other places, they should be warned, what the fu ck, main land Nigeria is not as foolish as the militants are.

horny4u:
HUmmn I see where you are coming from, you are talking about the ideal, not what obtains sometimes,
If her husband truly beats her then she had better start building many houses, if not love will clear way for poverty and had i known.

bgees:
i think both sides have to compromise. but that seems impossible. but if the military can gear up and crush these MEND people.

First they came for the Jews
and I did not speak out - because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for the communists
and I did not speak out - because I was not a communist.

Then they came for the trade unionists
and I did not speak out - because I was not a trade unionist.

Then they came for me -
and by then there was no one left to speak out for me.

Pastor Martin Niemöller