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Politics › Re: South Korea's Abandoned Airports: A Warning To Nigerian State Governors by JJYOU: 2:53pm On May 23, 2009

South Korean Ex-President Kills Himself

By CHOE SANG-HUN
Published: May 22, 2009

SEOUL, South Korea — Former President Roh Moo-hyun of South Korea, whose reputation as an upstanding political leader had been tarnished recently by a corruption scandal, committed suicide on Saturday by jumping off a cliff near his retirement home, according to his aides and the police.
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South Korean President Roh Moo-hyun and his wife Kwon Yang-sook voting at a polling station in Seoul in December 2007.
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Roh Moo-hyun, pictured in 2008, served as South Korea's president from 2003 to 2008.

Mr. Roh, 62, died while he was hiking on a hill in Bongha, a village near the southeast corner of South Korea, Moon Jae-in, Mr. Roh’s former presidential chief of staff, said during a news conference. He left a brief will for his family, Mr. Moon said.

Mr. Roh suffered fatal head injuries and was declared dead in a hospital in Pusan, the largest regional city, said Park Chan-jo, a police officer. Mr. Roh was accompanied by a bodyguard during his morning hike.

President Lee Myung-bak, Mr. Roh’s successor, found the news “difficult to believe,” his office said.

Mr. Roh, who had prided himself on being a clean politician during his term from 2003 to 2008, was questioned for 10 hours on April 30 by state prosecutors over his alleged involvement in a corruption scandal that has already landed some of his relatives and aides in jail.

“I can’t look you in the face because of shame,” Mr. Roh told reporters before he presented himself for questioning by prosecutors in Seoul, who had accused him of taking $6 million in bribes from a businessman while in office. “I apologize for disappointing the people.”

In his last posting on his Web site, on April 22, he wrote, “You should now discard me.”

He added: “I no longer symbolize the values you pursue. I am no longer qualified to speak for such things as democracy, progressiveness and justice.”

His apology was typical for a South Korean politician, who is expected to take moral responsibility for a corruption scandal that implicated aides and relatives, even if Mr. Roh denied most of the bribery allegations against him. But prosecutors had been considering indicting him on bribery charges.

In recent weeks, several of his aides and relatives had been arrested or questioned on charges of taking bribes. His elder brother also was arrested in December on bribery charges.

Prosecutors suspected that Mr. Roh, while president, solicited a total of $6 million from a shoe manufacturer, payments that are alleged to have been made to his wife, his son and his brother’s son-in-law. Both his wife and son have been questioned by the prosecutors.

Mr. Roh’s case, which involves a relatively unknown businessman, appeared relatively minor in scandal-ridden South Korean politics. Former presidents Chun Doo-hwan and Roh Tae-woo were imprisoned in the 1990s for collecting hundreds of millions of dollars from the nation’s biggest conglomerate.

The scandal and the ensuing criticism from his political enemies dealt a devastating blow to Mr. Roh.

In his will, which was released to the news media on Saturday, Mr. Roh wrote, “I owe too much to many people. Many people suffered too much because of me.”

He added, “I have thought about this for a long time.”

A former human rights and labor lawyer considered a political maverick, Mr. Roh swept into power in the December 2002 election on the crest of nationalistic — and sometimes anti-American — sentiments among young voters. During his campaign he famously declared that he would be the first South Korean leader “not to kowtow to the Americans.”

But his efforts to free South Korea from its traditional dependence on Washington in its diplomacy alienated many South Koreans. http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/23/world/asia/23korea.html?ref=global-home

Politics › Re: War In Niger Delta: Mend Threatens Northerners In Oil Industry by JJYOU: 2:40pm On May 23, 2009

ahf:
Assuming this data can be verified as authentic.

Rivers, Delta and Akwa Ibom have a large chunk of the revenue. I would like to see the respective government's narartion of how they spend their allocations. That would be a good way to start holding them accountable.

Bayelsa is quite low. Guess it's becuase a lot of the oil production in that state has been shut in and probably the companies dont want to go there.

why not every state. why not include the pure and ethical states of naija. what makes these place worse than others?

Family › Re: Nigerian Men Feel Intimidate -i Divorced Camerounian Hubby To Marry A Nigerian, by JJYOU(op): 2:28pm On May 23, 2009

boy1:
This story 2 long.abeg make una help me summarise

will oblige next year

Family › Re: ~How Did Your Daddy Meet Your Mummy . . .?~ by JJYOU: 2:26pm On May 23, 2009

Godalone:
I introduced my dad to my mum.

nice one

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: My Sane & Single Mum Needs Same In His Over 50's. by JJYOU: 2:21pm On May 23, 2009

stallng:
Previous posts take me time to compose trying to avoid all typographical errors but I'm doing this straight out cos its that important!

My mum is over 50 and she's been seperated from my Dad since forever (about 15 years). She's not waiting for him to come back.
"We can only be good friends if he ever comes back into our lives"
That's what she says, when i tease her about it.

I'm 26 with an older sister whose 28 so we're both independent.

This dream guy is supposed to be responsible, well-to-do; not because of financial responsibilities to my side of the family but he shouldn't expect to be carried financially either. ( i.e - NO YAHOO GRANDPA's)
[b]He simply must be a firm beliving christian, at over 50, he should have his faith figured out, right?
Divorcee, Widower; it doesn't matter as long as he's got both feet on the ground.
Its safer if he's without baggage like ex-wives and baby mama's and concubines and secret brothels, Please be sorted out with a real desire to spend quiet days with a lovely woman.[/b]

Before y'all ask, She/ my mum doesn't know about this so we're gonna have to cross that bridge when we get there.

Why am i doing this? Cos i dont want her alone anymore, cos i know how it feels to be alone and even though she says she's alright- i doubt that's true deep down.

So if your father's Mr. Right (no Mr. Right now's), or if you're The One drop a post- lets see if there's hope for Seniors Searching[/color].

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Moved to Dating zone

more like joke.

Politics › Re: Guys, Prepare For The Coming Slave Trade! by JJYOU: 2:15pm On May 23, 2009

wbb

Christianity Etc › Re: Nairaland Christian E-Fellowship by JJYOU: 2:10pm On May 23, 2009

[size=18pt] His strength in my weakness[/size]

"He said to me,

"'My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.'

"Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong." 2 Corinthians 12:9-10

Our weakness

"For though He was crucified in weakness, yet He lives by the power of God. For we also are weak in Him, but we shall live with Him by the power of God toward you." 2 Corinthians 13:4

"Whom have I in heaven but You?
And there is none upon earth that I desire besides You.
My flesh and my heart fail;
But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever." Psalm 73:25-26

", we were burdened beyond measure, above strength, so that we despaired even of life. Yes, we had the sentence of death in ourselves, that we should not trust in ourselves but in God, " 2 Corinthians 1:8-9

", not many wise according to the flesh, not many mighty, not many noble, are called. But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty; and the base things of the world and the things which are despised God has chosen, and the things which are not, to bring to nothing the things that are, that no flesh should glory in His presence. But of Him you are in Christ Jesus, who became for us wisdom from God—and righteousness and sanctification and redemption—that, as it is written, 'He who glories, let him glory in the Lord.'" 1 Corinthians 1:26-31

"I, brethren, when I came to you, did not come with excellence of speech or of wisdom declaring to you the testimony of God. For I determined not to know anything among you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified. I was with you in weakness, in fear, and in much trembling. And my speech and my preaching were not with persuasive words of human wisdom, but in demonstration of the Spirit and of power, that your faith should not be in the wisdom of men but in the power of God." 1 Corinthians 2:1-5

His strength in us

"Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

"Blessed is the man whose strength is in You,
Whose heart is set on pilgrimage.
As they pass through the Valley of Baca [weeping],
They make it a spring;
The rain also covers it with pools.
They go from strength to strength;
Each one appears before God in Zion." Psalm 84:5-7

"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

"As your days, so shall your strength be." Deuteronomy 33:25

"And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Now to our God and Father be glory forever and ever." Philippians 4:19-20

“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven." Matthew 5:3

"The everlasting God, the Lord, the Creator of the ends of the earth, neither faints nor is weary.

His understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the weak,

and to those who have no might He increases strength.
Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall,
But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:28-31

“Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6

Therefore we honor God, not ourselves

"I will love You, O Lord, my strength.

The Lord is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer;
My God, my strength, in whom I will trust;
My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.
I will call upon the Lord, who is worthy to be praised;
So shall I be saved from my enemies." Psalm 18:1-3

", we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellence of the power may be of God and not of us. We are hard-pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed— always carrying about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our body. For we who live are always delivered to death for Jesus’ sake, that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh." 2 Corinthians 4:7-11

"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also abounds through Christ." 2 Corinthians 1:3-5

The victory is God's, not ours

", in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord." Romans 8:37-39

"Seeing then that we have a great High Priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need." Hebrews 4:14-16

"Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen." Ephesians 3:20-21

http://www.crossroad.to/HisWord/verses/topics/strength.htm

Christianity Etc › Re: Which Type Of Marriage Does God Recognise? Traditional, Court Or Church? by JJYOU: 1:13pm On May 23, 2009

ScanLess:
People, which type of marriage does God recognise, is it the traditional one or the court one or the church wedding. i have noticed that in nigeria today intending couples ,especially Christians, are going through fire and rain to appease all the three institutions mentioned above, before they are considered married. is this not doing tripple marriage?

So i ask which one is accepted by God as the real one, outside which God will consider such a union unholy.must Christians be forced to appease traditional people in the villages ,who are just there to milk them of their resources without caring how the marriage survives later, even when some churches have made it clear to their congregation that they (church) do not recognise traditional marriage but only church wedding, yet they impose the same traditional marriage on the intending couples as a requirement to qualify for the church wedding. is this not hypocrisy?. many churches today are filled with young and old spinsters doing endless night vigils to procure a husband and they are being exploited by all kinds of spiritual charlatans. In the west you either do church or court wedding simple, but here we heap up gruesome burdens upon ourselves. can someone say something on this.

you are responsible for your life. no church, society should be able to control you against your will.
wedding is only for a day marriage a life time. the choice is always ours.

God's word says " Mark 7:13 (New International Version)

Thus you nullify the word of God by your tradition that you have handed down. And you do many things like that."

Mark 7:13 (Amplified Bible)

13Thus you are nullifying and making void and of no effect [the authority of] the Word of God through your tradition, which you [in turn] hand on. And many things of this kind you are doing.

Mark 7:13 (New Living Translation)

13 And so you cancel the word of God in order to hand down your own tradition. And this is only one example among many others.”

Family › Re: Nigerian Men Feel Intimidate -i Divorced Camerounian Hubby To Marry A Nigerian, by JJYOU(op): 11:34am On May 23, 2009

Dis Guy:
some of the questions were daft!

going by the comments it seems being honest and independent is a bad thing in nigeria
you cant tell people your mind especially as a woman you must conform to society or be a maid forever!

_{[size=18pt]seems nigerian girls hate newspapers! i've never seen a female comment on punch![/size]}

you need help. where are you from?

Family › Re: Does The Black Woman Know Her Place In The Family? by JJYOU(op): 11:25am On May 23, 2009

bridget007:
You are right MrBROWNJAY, and I building myself back up again now, my self respect and worth didn't dissapear overnight it was a long little by little process of verbal and emotional abuse that whilst happening left me beginning to doubt it was really happening. He was very cunning at making me think i'd heard soimething wrong, done something wrong to a point I began not to know what was real anymore, can't believe I fell for it, but I did. It began when I was pregnant, a time when emotionally a woman is quite vulnerable and i guess he played on it.

I know there are some good nigerian men out there, I thought though some of his friends were 'good' but then to find out their wives have similar problems shakes that belief. It seems to me that a lot of nigerian put on a front and look 'good' whilst underneath they are quite an ugly person. I do belief though of course that there are a few good nigerian men, doubt that I will have another nigerian man in my life though.

i love and respect the english who have been a blessing and given me home these years. dont you think there is something within you that needs checking too cos you had millions of your kind to fall in love with yet you fell for the available jerk you call nigerian.

people like you and leilah are good reason for not marrying a white woman. by the way PHD does not make people. my uncle married one good one she is a one of many of you think marrying you is a priviledge which i am yet to see cos some of us have managed to live nicely without you and thankfully gainfully employ you too.

there are many daft and foolish phd holders about.

Family › Re: Help I Always Have Fun by JJYOU: 11:14am On May 23, 2009

amebo no1.:
kai mai suya you want make the dude collapse untop woman?

you know where he is coming from. plus the 4th factor

Family › Re: Nigerian Men Feel Intimidate -i Divorced Camerounian Hubby To Marry A Nigerian, by JJYOU(op): 11:10am On May 23, 2009

Dis Guy:
some of the questions were daft!

most people would regret divorcing dont you think?
did you notice the woman mentioned her christianity and theology degree too?

Travel › Re: Pictures Of The Week (Ugly Side Of Lagos) by JJYOU: 11:06am On May 23, 2009

Kenyanstar:
"OneNaija" or whatever that means
I am so dissapointed that a purpotedly "literate" (which i highly refute) person can stoop to such low levels of abuse and utter disregard of possibly any self morals. I always respected Nigerians as people of high intelligence but whatever your comments instigated puts that into question. I am not trying to create any sinister remarks that might jeorpadise the importance of this thread but to indulgde you in a more intelligent manner rather than inexcusable outbursts such as yours. I wouldnt want to assume that you are a person of minimum intellect? Or are you.
Wishin you the best.

Kenyanstar:
Sure hell Nigeria is a cursed country. It shames me personally and the entire African motherland to live with such a blasphemous outcast nation as Nigeria. God forbid and forgive this sinfull nation from His wrath.

what is the matter with you cursing nigeria?

Business › Re: Ghanaians Fear Nigerian Domination Of Economy –minister by JJYOU(op): 10:52am On May 23, 2009

londoner:
@jjyou, honeric is right, there is no balance in reporting. It is only the negative that gets circulated. We are not above criticism yes, and we all know they have factual basis, but the repetative story is that ONLY bad comes out of Nigeria.

If not for the fact that you told me the president of Frnca is in Nigeria now I would not know, why? It is not widely reported. When US presidents visit Nigeria, you will not hear it mentioned. Yet, mark my words, with the coming visit of Obama to Ghana, it will spark widespread criticm of Nigeria. rightly so, but it shows up deliberate selective reporting.

Even not long ago, George Soros was in Nigeria, you will never hear the media report it.

It simply does not support the "angle" they have agreed upon where Nigeria is concerned. I am not in any way saying we should not take reponsibility, but there needs to be a bit less bias.

that is life for you. bad news sells and travel far. you talk about george soros. i had wanted a local paper in that homeland of ours to carry a story of what we were doing in a terms of charity you wont believe i was asked 200k for it as if that money wont do a better work in the environment.

i see your point though. post your good news always

Politics › Re: Ritual Murder Allegation: Terrible With Pictures by JJYOU: 10:46am On May 23, 2009

nigeria! why?

Christianity Etc › Re: Nairaland Christian E-Fellowship by JJYOU: 10:40am On May 23, 2009

OLAADEGBU:
Systematic, expository study of God’s Word

THE WAY OF THE CROSS LEADS HOME

[list]
[li]I must needs go home by the way of the cross,
There’s no other way but this;
I shall ne’er get sight of the Gates of Light
If the way of the cross I miss.[/li]
[/list]

[size=18pt]The way of the cross leads home,
The way of the cross leads home,
It is sweet to know, as I onward go,
The way of the cross leads home.[/size]

[list]
[li][size=15pt]I must needs go on in the blood-sprinkled way,
The path that the Saviour trod;
If I ever climb to the heights sublime,
Where the soul is at home with God.[[/size]/li]
[/list]

[list]
[li]Then I bid farewell to the way of the world,
To walk in it never more;
For my Lord says “Come”, and I seek my home,
Where He waits at the open door.[/li]
[/list]

For the free downloading of the audio and video message click on the link below and go into the "current Bible Study" hyperlink.

http://www.dclm.org/Resources/ResourcesDirectory/tabid/130/Default.aspx
http://www.dclm.org/Home/tabid/36/Default.aspx

beautiful song. thanks for sharing.

the way of the cross of Jesus Chruist surely leads home

God bless you

Christianity Etc › Re: Nairaland Christian E-Fellowship by JJYOU: 10:36am On May 23, 2009

[size=18pt] Sin City Goes Wild … With Baptisms [/size] Ministry News

When 1,200-plus people are baptized after a worship service, it's amazing. But when that occurs in Sin City, USA, it's something worth reporting.

That's exactly what happened at Central Christian Church in Las Vegas two weekends ago when a planned baptism following weekend services at the church's three campuses turned into an unexpected move of God. According to Central Christian's Web site, church leadership hoped to see at least 500 of the church's 15,000 regular attendees baptized. Instead, an open invitation—both for salvation and baptism—at the end of each service resulted in more than 1,200 people coming forward.

"Nothing in the past 15 years of ministry prepared me for what I witnessed," senior pastor Jud Wilhite said. "I still don’t have words to adequately describe it. All I can say is, 'Only God.'"

Because Central Christian allows any baptized believer to baptize another, the scene turned into a mass celebration with teenagers baptizing their parents and grandparents baptizing their grandchildren.

"I watched college students, CEO’s, soccer moms, bikers, models, entrepreneurs and every other kind of person you could imagine climb into cold water in their street clothes with no regard for themselves, for their clothes, or for their appearance—only Jesus," Wilhite said. "I stood by a thirty-something guy decked out in $1,000 clothes who couldn't care less about them; he just wanted Jesus."

Though he's watched more than 2,500 people accept Jesus into their lives in the past five months at Central Christian, Wilhite said there was nothing unusual in his sermon delivery two weekends ago. Rather than deliver an over-the-top emotional plea, he simply concluded by asking those who had never been baptized if they wanted to make a public confession of faith.

"I haven’t been able to fully process it," the 38-year-old pastor said. "I doubt I ever will. What I do know is that this was not about great programming, but about our great God who chose to move in people’s lives in a tremendous way, in one of the world’s least likely cities. … We are boasting about the Lord today and so thankful that we could witnesses His move."

For highlights of this amazing weekend in Vegas, check out the video below. [press release, 5/15/09]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bVmrDlpoSw8

Christianity Etc › Sin City Goes Wild … With Baptisms This Is Good News by JJYOU(op): 10:35am On May 23, 2009

Webmasters › Re: Re-branding Nigeria Website by JJYOU: 10:32am On May 23, 2009

is the dora woman the nigeria project?
is she the brand?
where is nigeria on that site?

Family › Nigerian Men Feel Intimidate -i Divorced Camerounian Hubby To Marry A Nigerian, by JJYOU(op): 10:25am On May 23, 2009

I divorced my Camerounian husband in order to marry a Nigerian, but Nigerian men feel intimidated,
By ADA ONYEMA
Published: Saturday, 23 May 2009

You once worked with an orphanage. What was the experience?

Mercy Ebiyemi

That was actually the first job I did when I came back to Nigeria. Because of my Christian background, I wanted to be in a place where I will actually reach out to the downtrodden. It is another part of my life and it was a way I thought I could reach out to people that are less privileged than I am, and give back to the society. That was what the orphanage was doing. Actually, it is a lot of work. It is more than what people think it is. You must have the passion and the heart to work in the orphanage. Working there was heartbreaking. I was always emotional because we saw babies thrown away every day. It is not a job for somebody who is fainthearted. You really must have a calling into that ministry to be there. And for me, I didn‘t think I had a calling for it, which was basically why I left.

Any regrets?

No, I am a happy person. I don’t allow anybody to drag me down, and I don‘t drag myself down either. My people here will tell you, I am a solutions person, not a problem person. And if there is a problem, I don’t focus on it, because for every problem, there is a solution. I will always look for the solution, so I‘m a happy person.

One would expect that being a divorcee is something you regret.

Why? I think we have passed that stage.

How about the society that frowns at women staying alone?

In Nigeria today, more of our men are intimidated by the strength and power the women are getting. And you find that most single women are the ones that are striving and achieving so much. For that reason, stigma is bound to set in. But the truth is that we should not let it get to us. So, what is the big deal about being a single lady, living alone and doing well? I mean I‘m not living up to any man. I have a job of my own; a successful business. So, hey, I‘m an intimidation to my male counterpart. So in order for them to want to make me feel smaller than I am, they would begin to want to put me down. That is the way I look at it. So, truthfully, they don‘t get to me.

Do you think that when a marriage is not working out, either party should quit?

From a Christian standpoint, or from my own standpoint, do whatever makes you happy. That is my stand in life. If you are in a marriage and you are not happy, get out of it. There are marriages where men are bisexuals; get out of it. Marriage is not a do-or-die affair. Gone are the days when marriage was a do-or-die affair. A woman can be a president. She can be anything she thinks she wants to be. So we don‘t need to live in the fool’s paradise that we need to be under a man. Yes, I agree that if you are married, you respect your husband. But respect is reciprocal. If he does not respect you, how does he expect you to respect him?

So are you saying that marriage is a-50:50 thing?

It is a 50:50 thing. Marriage is give and take.

And the woman is not expected to give more than the…

No, it should be 50:50. Even the bible says that a man should love his wife like himself. If a man really loves himself, there is no way he would want to cheat his wife. There is no way he would want to beat his wife. There is no way he would want to put his wife down. Whatever is good for him, he would always consider it to be the best for his wife. So marriage should be 50:50 or 60:40, that is, the man should give more, because the Bible says that a man is the head, so he should give more. Most men say they are the head of the family. Sometimes they try to be egoistic about it. Truthfully, they are just being chauvinistic, and for me, I think it takes a small minded man to do things like that. Any man that is comfortable in his own skin would let his wife be whatever she wants to be. He would not be intimidated by it because he is comfortable with himself. If your wife is successful, you are also successful. Don‘t forget that she is using your name. So truthfully, I don‘t believe in a man saying that he is the head, so the woman should not even speak when he is around. Any man that puts a woman down, as far as I am concerned, is harsh.

Do you answer your husband’s name?

No, I bear my maiden name.

Why?

It‘s no longer a part of my life. It‘s over and gone, and I‘m done with it.

How long?

About 10 years ago.

Tell us about your educational background.

I did my primary and secondary school in Lagos after which I went to England, where I did my O’ Level and A’ Level. I went to Lancelot Tutors in Oxford. After that, I went to Southwest College in London where I had my B Tech Business and Finance. After that, I went to Southwest University where I did my ACCA in Accounting. After my education, I worked with British Telecom where I did my initial training as an accountant before I got my proper job with Alter Berkley in London. In 1992, I went to live in America. Actually, when I was in America, I combined my Masters and PhD in Theology, and I lived there for 10 years before coming back to Nigeria in 2001, and I have been here since then. When I got back to Nigeria, my first job was with an orphanage. I also had a stint with the television before I went to work with an insurance company for three years. I left and started my company called Service Basket Limited.

What is Service Basket all about?

Well, like the name implies, it is basket full of services. We are a recruitment consulting firm, office and home cleaning firm. We have what we call the home care for the elderly people in the privacy of their homes. We run errands. The home cleaning service was one of the things I did while I was in England. When I came back here, I decided to continue with that. It is a situation where people come and clean your homes, thereby saving you the headache of cleaning. You see loads of ladies at work complaining about their househelps. There are so many women who do not want househelps in their homes but they still want a clean home and they can‘t afford the time to clean it. But they can afford to have somebody come to clean it.

Do you consider Nigeria ripe for such business?

Yes, very ripe, because women are no longer housewives like they used to be. They don‘t even have time to pick up their kids from school let alone clean the home. So it is a way to help them organise their lives in a professional way, because majority of women these days are professionals and they want their homes to be organised. If you take the risk of getting an individual to do it, the cost will be higher. The response have been great. But there was the initial fear of insecurity in leaving their houses to strangers. But I just said to them, when you bring a house girl from the village, you don‘t even know where she is coming from, you don‘t know anything about the girl. Even the person that brought her could be a shady human being that you might not get to see again. Compare all that to a company. A company is here to stay. You don‘t even need to think twice; if anything goes wrong, you go straight to the company. It is a registered company with a professional outlook. So why not deal with a professional company? And the truth is that the people we are catering for are all professionals, so why will they deal with mediocres when they can deal with professionals. And to the glory of God, since we started, we have never had any incident of theft, because we take guarantors on them.

Why should anybody prefer home cleaning to having a househelp?

I have heard so many stories about househelps. Because we grew up with househelps, a lot of us thought it was part of our lives. We never thought there was an alternative to having a househelp. The beauty of having a home cleaning service is this: these are the people that will come into your house for just three hours, after which they leave your home. And you are not living with a stranger. In the case of househelps, they will always be a stranger. So if you want a good, united family life, take the home cleaning service. You don‘t have to have strangers in your home. It is also cheaper.

What was your childhood experience like?

I had fun growing up. It was fantastic. Nigeria was beautiful when I was growing up. I was born and bred in Surulere. Nigeria was a mini London. We had Leventis, UTC, Kingsway, Federal Palace Hotel to relax at the weekend, and you did not have to be rich to go to all these places. Everywhere was clean, not congested the way it is now. We had beautiful places to ride our bicycles. Life was fun. Those are some of the memories I have, which made me come back home. Nigeria was a beautiful place to live. So my growing up was happy, school was happy. You did not have to be rich. I went to a state school, for crying out loud, and in my school, we spoke perfect English. The kids in the so called private school then could not speak better English than us. In secondary school, we spoke good English. The English we spoke at that level, the university graduates today cannot speak it, and that actually breaks my heart. Then, we spoke Queen‘s English. But today, I don‘t know what is happening. I really feel sorry for the kids of today. My mum was a standard six holder, but when she speaks English, you better know what you are talking about. They were well groomed and they passed that on to us. I don‘t know why we are failing our children. They speak bad English, they dress badly, and do everything bad. And we grew up as principled people. Our parents were principled. We learnt culture and manners. The kids of today don‘t have all that. So my childhood was fantastic. I would not trade it for anything.

What do you think was responsible for the current failures?

I wish I knew. I don‘t really know what went wrong.

What is your own idea of style?

Style is whatever you feel comfortable in.

Are you fulfilled?

No.

Why?

Because I want to see my nation change back to what it used to be. I believe so much in this country. This country has a lot of potentials that are yet to be explored. The only way I will be fulfilled is to see a Nigeria of old, a Nigeria that has pride, value, class; not the Nigeria that we are tearing apart now, that is full of criminals and evil leaders. Our leaders of old were honest and focused people, but today, everything is about money, money, money. And truthfully, that is not what life is all about. Life is about being happy doing what you are doing. But a lot of people do things because of money; that is what motivates the average Nigerian. I want us to get back to those values that we used to have. That is what will make me fulfilled.

How do you unwind? Or is it business all the time?

No. I swim every morning. I hang out with my friends a lot in the evenings.

Supposing he comes back,

My ex?

Yes

No, he is not going to come back. He is not a Nigerian, so he is not going to come back. You think foreign men are like Nigerian men? No. Foreign men are very definite. When they say it‘s over, it‘s over and there is no going back. For us to call it quits, that means we sat down and looked at all the odds and we knew why we could not continue.

Why did you call it quits?

So many reasons. I don’t want to go into them.

You…

No, no, no. He is a Camerounian. Oh my God! If I should think about it, I would think I was a bad person, not him. The truth is I wanted to marry a Nigerian.

Was that why you call it quits?

Yes, that was why I called it quits, and I had to be blunt. Three years into the marriage, I just felt I didn‘t want to marry a foreigner; I want to marry a Nigerian. I don’t want to go and live in a foreign country. That was my primary reason, and all my friends in America would tell you that. Louis was a nice person. He really was. He would give the world for me.

And yet you left him?

I did. I‘m not going to lie about it. But it was about me being happy, and he knew I wasn‘t happy. Like he said, he would do anything to make me happy, and the only thing that would make happy was to call it quits.

And now?

I‘m seeing Nigerian men. I mean my own people.

So what are you waiting for?

I’m yet to meet my own person. What I found out with our Nigerian men is that most of them are intimidated. I am an independent Americana, a westernised woman. And not only westernised, even educated. You know they are intimidated. So that is the dilemma at hand. So unfortunately, I am a wild one. I‘m not ready to bend over. I‘m not ready to be what I‘m not for anybody. It is either you take me the way I am, or you hit the road.

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* @’How do you Unwind’ swimming every morning and hanging out With friends in the evening, what an odd ways to have fun, in the morning when the atmospheric temperature is far below normal body system, your swimming, number two, in the night don’t use evening, you go about your nocturnal undertaking. Do you think you can live with a man in Nigeria with this type of game your playing calling it life. my advice is get born again and all things shall be fulfilled for ya!!!!!!!

Posted by: Obi One Million , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* I haven't seen any Nigerian lady commenting and supporting this lady, It shows shes on her own o! She needs to go back to her western world, Ummh shes not ready to bend over she wants to be on top, na wa o!

Posted by: lola , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* Mass media should be a forum for dissemination of instructive, entertaining and educative materials. I don't know why Punch of all national newspapers will give Mercy Ebiyemi an audience of this magnitude. She's not a role model and a good example of womanhood. She divorced her Cameroonian husband for the fun of it? A good Nigerian will prefer to endure than to bear her father's name. That's our culture and what makes us the happiest nation in the world. Mercy Eluyemi, please be wise next time.

Posted by: Olufemi Oyedele, London, UK , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* I am really disappointed that such interview that is devoid of any intellectual and moral content can be published in a leading newspaper like punch.Be that as it may,there is absolutely nothing to intimidate an average Nigerian man about this so called WESTERNIZED woman.There are thousands of Nigerian women that have better education from more prestigious schools like havard,oxford,cambridge,yale etc and are happily married.she is an empty barrel

Posted by: ajayi adetayo , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* Who cares about this lady. she talks too much. am married to a british, my wife is white, educated and works with d biggest bank in d world as a branch manager. but yet bc she loves me, she had to adapt to my cultures and tradition. I am not a poor man myself and i dont care about women who think they r too rich or too educated to let their husband be in charge. let this fool continue her braggin, truth is every man needs a woman and every woman needs a man, ANIMAL

Posted by: 9ja boi , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* Management of punch please make sure she reads all this.

Posted by: Osazee , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* Punch should help her with this advert instead of wasting time interviewing her.A divorcee, westernized independent nigerian lady,educated,wild, not ready to bend over and not ready to be what she is not for anybody, is looking for a nigerian man.Lets see if there is any sensible nigerian that will respond to the advert.

Posted by: sunny , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* this woman sucks, she must have learnt all this rubbish from her mother, i dont even know what punch wants us to gain from this useless story, A SELFISH AND SHAMELESS WOMAN

Posted by: Lanre Briggs , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* I read this page with interest and I guess if she has sounded pathetic About negligence of female gender in Nigeria and as well use this same medium to Advertise her self, I bet you, she could have made headline because I my self Might have considered making a trial. but she showed inexperience, arrogance, this kind of woman can even Jail a man.

Posted by: Dele Davis , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* Madame sophistication, assuming you have four girls at home, what good example or role model Will you be to them, ok they should leave their respective married homes at least Of provocation or difference between them and their husband, so that you run Girls brigade, your utterances and word justification piss me off, better go back to That Cameroon man you dumped because no Nigerian man be even price you again, you have a tag already

Posted by: Morju , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* This lady is an Idiot. Where did PUNCH get her from? Does she at have any idea about what politics has ever being in Nigeria? Where does she come from? Where is she heading to? Look at her accademic background or CV. What a desaster! At the end of the day, she´s back here to be cleaning homes while claiming she´s americana. Americana my ash! Lady please forget not that healthy men want and adore women with confident but the arrogant idiots are not wanted. They just kick their ass.

Posted by: Kachi. N (Germany) , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* Walaihi Musa, I concur with you, she is and will be a bad example to other women , such a Lady must not be allowed to run an NGO for women liberalization, she is living\in the realm of western world, imagine her utterances, her marriage didn’t work out because she is Exercising powers, success of her educational acquaintance, believe me, no Nigerian man will take this shit except those lazy ones that prefer to lick a, s, live like this all the days of your life or bind to our culture.

Posted by: Richard , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* @Basharu Musa, u dey vex o! I'm just cracking my ribs. She looks like a sincere and an open person who puts her happiness above that of others'. She's a 'me, me, me' type of person who can hardly make sacrifices unless those sacrifices are in her own personal interest. So, after ten years she called it quits she's yet to find the so called Nigerian man, na wa o! Doesn't it mean she didn't know what she wanted from the outset or was wool pulled over her eyes?

Posted by: Kingsley Ogbuji, TX, U.S.A , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

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* The truth is that she is a spoilt brat from childhood, an ajebo par excellence. Born to be arrogant and regrate it when age really takes it's tole on her. Unfortunately there are lot's of them like this, that uses the word freedom and gender equality to pollute the minds of descent women in the society. There are lots of marriages where women are richer than their hubys and they are happily leaving 2gether. Pls, punch shy away from placing such xters on ur paper they are bad examples to society.

Posted by: Basharu Musa , on Saturday, May 23, 2009

Business › Re: Ghanaians Fear Nigerian Domination Of Economy –minister by JJYOU(op): 10:15am On May 23, 2009

londoner:
I really think people need to see the difference between expansion into other countries and relocating.

What major Nigerian enterprises are doing is expanding into Ghana and beyond, they are not jumping ship from Nigeria. All the big companies who are opening branches in Ghana, STILL have their businesses in Nigeria. Its a false impression that they vare somehow jumping ship.

There may be less challenges experienced in Ghana by way of electricity and lack of direct competition, but they have in no way abandoned Nigeria. That notion is false and does not stand up to scrutiny at all.

It is also wrong for Ghanaians and Nigerian alike to believe that Nigerians are only expanding/investing in Ghana. The companies you see coming to Ghana, are at the same time entering into Ivory Coast, benin, Togo, Zambia, South Africa, Sierra Leone, Uganda, Kenya, Rwanda etc. Business will always venture where there is opportunity, that is universal.

@shesi, I agree that Ghana has worked hard to make itself attractive to foreign investors, but perhaps what Ghana has failed to do is to develop an indegenous class of entrepreneurs who wont be left watching begrudgingly, while others take full use of those investment opportunities. For me, that is really the crux of the current state of affairs.

This whole thread is just a sad state of affairs, it simply underpins the problem with the African psychy. We can handle investment, or even bombardment if the face is that of a European or an Asian. As soon as we see a Black face (most especially an African one), suddenly we become defensive and reject the so called investment were previously encouraging from others. We see it in Ghana as well as South Africa.

u remind me of tanzania and uganda asians must go policy. look what the asians did in europe.

ikeyman00:
soori to say jjyou, thats is raw bullshit

why do some nigerians also link negativity with the nigerian buziness

do u know how many self made millionaire nigeria from scratch in uk

plz desist from talkin bulls cuz that make me sick

i guess all the companies in us that was brought down was done by the nigeria enron and co in such a regulated field

what are u talking about, or u are one of those that believe that the chinese always play to the book ehuh

recently in UK the roof is coming down cuz the ministers took advantage of the loop hole in the entitlement they are inclined to, was it done by the nigerians

so plz let watch wat we as nigerians says sometimes

the indians and the lebanese are scaning nigerian off millions yet nobody look that direction

yall just keep sounding like a hopless loser each time yall post

these envious africans need to get their act togerther and stop the hate

just look at how the MTN took hold of nigeria market, that if it wasnt for glo nigerians will be feeling the pinch, yes we as nigerians are happy cuz the provided jobs for our bredens back home

but when the nigerian doctors start to multiply in the country, they got jealous,now as the information is coming they dnt give liecense to our people in their country, those ulgy zulu cant stand nigerians in their black cruising in benz

so plz try to be sensible when u are postin plzzzzz and also stick to the subject

what was the subject again young fellow? you are ranting about nothing. fact is nigeria is a volitile business enviroment. to much wuru wuru as one of the musicians say.

this day and age you dont have to be in any place to invest and when you go live in a foreign land respect the laws. is that too much to ask from you?

why do you guys think laws are always meant to be written to suit your nigerian mentality?

honeric01:
The prime minister of france is currently in PORT HARCOUT now, even with the sense of insecurity in the Niger Delta, the prime minister of france didn't chicken away from visiting, because she knows that Nigeria is not just a country only known for it corrupt leaders, alot of people know positives things about Nigeria and those that decide to be an advocate of negativity will continue to see bad in Nigeria and lose out.

I HAVE NOT SEEN A COUNTRY AS MUCH AS LUCRATIVE FOR INVESTORS IN AFRICA AS NIGERIA.

quote me wrong.

most people dont have problems with nigeria. it is the insecurity and the ability of a clique to change the business atmosphere willy nilly that is the problem. there are no group of people ganging up somewhere to do nigeria down so relax.

we as a people must learn to accept praise and criticisms. people disagreeing with you should not make them your enemies they could be your best friend and their criticism your best tools for change.

this is 2009 for goodness sake. a country where anyone can become a governor and get away with taking half of the allocated revenue for personal use is what you are trying to justify. please change the subject it is weekend.

Politics › Re: Must See: Nuhu Ribadu In Us Session by JJYOU: 9:57am On May 23, 2009

naijaking1:
He mentioned Ibori in another interview I saw somewhere. Someone also said that since Ibori stole more than 75% of his people's money, another project carried out by Ibori with the cash was paying for Yar'dua election. The people?, well that one of the problems with delta today.

thanks. i tot that was very obvious.

Business › Re: How Much Did You Exchange The Dollar For Today? by JJYOU: 7:19pm On May 22, 2009

angel72:
Hi, i'm going to Lagos in august and was wondering if anybody had an idea how the market for the dollar will be then. Will it go down or up? Is it a good idea to change dollars to Naira now because the rates are high at the moment?

always a good idea to exchange at higher rate as it is now.

Business › Re: Ghanaians Fear Nigerian Domination Of Economy –minister by JJYOU(op): 7:01pm On May 22, 2009

nigeria is almost a lost case. whaat do we do?

sadly the reason most of us invest and will continue to invest money in ghana is the institutions are safer than naija. with naija here today gone tomorrow mentality who want to risk invest especially if you are not there yourself.

if you use investment houses like investec and coronation they willl tell you out right your money is safer under your pillows than nigeria institutions. invest in namibia, ghana and south africa you get better returns than nigeria becos our guys are always fiddling the systems

they easily ignore the minister becos somebody higher than him would have been settled and they say lets just play the junior ones.

Christianity Etc › Re: Why Are You A Christian? by JJYOU: 6:43pm On May 22, 2009

davidylan:
Not only did your own "reasons" make absolutely no shred of sense to me . . . i thought Bastage's actually was more authentic. He is a christian for the simple reason that HE HAS MADE A CONSCIOUS CHOICE to follow the Lord . . . why is that not reason enough?

the fact that he did not outline his myriad of reasons in a 50-page thesis does not mean he had no "apparent reasons".

i beg leave all these confused people jor. paul said some people think they are something when they are not. i wonder what gives dudu the right to question and rubbish peoples faith

Celebrities › Re: Whats Up With Nike Oshinowo? by JJYOU: 5:43pm On May 22, 2009

Pepeye:
So she’s a lucky woman to be married as a second best

what do you think? some young girls dont get the opportunity. people who have allegedly slept in almost all beds in town still get opportunity well good luck.

hope she enjoys it. the man must have some grown kids that willl take care of their mums affairs.

Politics › Re: War In Niger Delta: Mend Threatens Northerners In Oil Industry by JJYOU: 5:31pm On May 22, 2009

Ibime:
Yeah, Edoites are such wonderful people. Their genetic make-up abhors laziness and incompetence. . . . [color=Black]all those Esans, Bini's, Akoko's, Esako's, Owans and the other 100 tribes that inhabit the state[/color]. . . . there must be something in their genetic make-up to make them stand-up guys. . . . [size=13pt]after these named tribes you still managed to count 100 more. who taught you arithmetic? you are such a jobless tribalist. how many tribes does your state have if small edo has 100+. it is obvious free education was a waste of money for some of you[/size]

My friend sharrap!. . . . . the only reason Edo State made a stand is because gangster (PDP) met gangster (trade-union) and gangster won. . . . Oshiomhole is a stand-up guy. . . . just like Amaechi. . . . if Oshiomhole was not a gangster himself, you would not be telling us these fanciful stories of Edo people standing up for their right. . . .

Is this the same Edo State we used to laugh at in the 1990's because they were the no 1 Armed Robbers and prostitutes in Nigeria. Those who've been stigmatised should know better than to stigmatize others. what tribe are you? [size=14pt] some of you are so pathetic that calling you evil is giving the devil a bad name. this is a global site. name here the clean tribe you belong to in nigeria. it is so obvious that country dont have hope with myopic people like you growing up to take over from where your elders stopped.
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[size=18pt]ZENOPHOBIA & TRIBALISTS @ WORK[/size]

Celebrities › Re: Whats Up With Nike Oshinowo? by JJYOU: 5:13pm On May 22, 2009

Pepeye:
lmao

He looks better real life
That pic didn’t do him any justice in looks

the man actually married her? some people are very lucky

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