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 Christianity Etc › Re: Pastor Dies On Top Of Married Woman by JJYOU: 1:27pm On May 12, 2009 |
This Life:OMG, u guys are something else. why did u forget to pray for the prophet? it is not good to call his name in vain without some prayers. u can get banned for things like that u know. |
| Politics › Re: You’re Racist, Lebanese Accuse Nigerian Immigration. by JJYOU: 1:14pm On May 12, 2009 |
Lagosboy:do they require visas to travel to abuja? what is their problem. why must the rules be changed for anyone? |
| Politics › Re: They Wan Assasinate Oshiomole by JJYOU: 1:07pm On May 12, 2009 |
Outstrip:it took the president 2 yrs to study what to do so lets wait for 2011. benin is a disgrace. i wish i can sennd some of the traders back to where ever they came from. why cant they use the free markets they have been given instead of trading outside designated market places? |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Pastor Dies On Top Of Married Woman by JJYOU: 12:54pm On May 12, 2009 |
Abuzola:global news magazine of umuahia? too many one man band mags in that our county |
| Romance › Re: You Thought You've Heard It All, Gay Men Seek Hiv by JJYOU: 12:32pm On May 12, 2009 |
surprise surprise there is actually a club in central london gays do this freely one thursday every month. |
| Politics › Re: You’re Racist, Lebanese Accuse Nigerian Immigration. by JJYOU: 12:18pm On May 12, 2009 |
Thor:most countries allow dual nationality. why do we encourage people to loose theirs before giving them passports? bluespice:why abuja far from where them dey? they dont want the passport. However, responding the comptroller of immigration in Kano, Mr. David Parradang, said their action was based on the position of the law and purely within the confines of the Nigerian Constitution which stipulates that only Abuja has the right to give new passport to foreign nationals. |
| Romance › Re: Playing Hard-to-get Could Be Costly by JJYOU(op): 11:54am On May 12, 2009 |
Make more threads giving these morons reasons to bash Naija women the more, sho gbo JJYOU.karma, you think i hate women? i cant believe you wrote this about me. the other week it was me calling someone a prostitute now this thank you very much. |
| Nairaland General › Re: Husband's Suspicious Travels To Italy by JJYOU: 11:46am On May 12, 2009 |
okofoh:the people talking about prostitutes need to break it down for you to understand. be prepared for the shock. he is definately doing business there but not the one you know. hope you are not another gulible foreign woman on NL? |
| Family › I Encourage Other Men To Be Like My Hubby By Kemi Ashefon by JJYOU(op): 6:59pm On May 03, 2009 |
I encourage other men to be like my hubby By KEMI ASHEFON Published: Sunday, 3 May 2009 Mrs. Salamatu Hussaini Suleiman, the Minister of Women Affairs and Social Development, is a lawyer and politician. She tells KEMI ASHEFON that there are many potential female ministers from the North MRS. Salamatu Hussaini Suleiman, the Minister of Women Affairs and Social Development is quite lively. She has even succeeded in infusing the same into the ministry within the first three months of appointment. Skip to next paragraph click to expand image Photo file Mrs. Salamatu Hussaini Suleiman Deemed to be one of the most enlightened appointed so far to oversee the women affairs ministry, the Kebbi State born graduate of law is very exposed. A lawyer by profession, she was called into the Nigerian Bar in 1982. ”I got admission to Queens‘ College in 1973, did my first degree at the Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria, got a master‘s abroad in economics and political science and I have been working both in the public/private sectors as a lawyer before my current appointment,” she starts. Confessing to have come from a family of scholars, she is also an advocate for the education of the girl-child. Suleiman enthuses, ”My father comes from a very scholarly family; he is an alkali (an Islamic teacher) in Kebbi. The Hussaini family originally came from Gwandu, but I was told my father‘s ancestors migrated from Senegal around the same time with Usman Dan Fodio, my paternal great great-grandfather. We love books in my family and my aunt, Salamatu, who I was named after, was also a teacher. Though a full-time housewife, my mother is reasonably enlightened and at over 80 years, she is still kicking.” Remind her that the stereotypical northern woman is not exposed and hardly participates in politics or other social activities and she quickly corrects, ”Your definition of being exposed is relative. Though we might not look too exposed or too outspoken, we are very mild and moderate people. But when we have a chance to contribute, we put our best to the highest level. ”It is a matter of opportunity. With the right opportunity, there are many more potential female ministers in the North. That is why I emphasise on education. But for God‘s grace and education, I may not be where I am today. God used opportunity of education to enlighten me to the level that I could easily compete and get to this level. In those days, the selection of students to the unity schools was from all over the states of the federation. ”This gave you a broader perspective of your country. That really helped me and now there is no state I would go to in Nigeria that I would not know someone - she could either be an old school mate, school daughter, school mother, classmate etc. I believe if we can go back to that system, it would help Nigerians, especially the youths. Now, people are more into themselves and hardly know what goes on in other states. If it had been like that then, there would not have been the likes of me. ”I believe a northern woman could still be in the limelight and still hold her values and be an epitome of what the society expects of her. In the north, it has been tough on women. Maybe based on religion and cultural aspect – women are not seen so much and are expected to contribute mainly in the home-front. I believe with the right exposure, they have the right to contribute both at home and in the public sector. That is our responsibility as a ministry and as women. God has given the woman inherent capabilities, potential, capacities and it behoves on us to explore those potential and contribute to the home and nation.” Just a few months in office, she is making progress, but would not deny facing challenges. Enumerating her points, the minister agrees that some Nigerians see the ministry as insignificant. ”They perceive it‘s all about gender issues,” Hajia Suleiman berates. ”But with all sense of responsibility, I don‘t think there is any ministry that has more challenges than the ministry of women. People have tended to look down on issues of women and children. We are the bedrock of the society, we hold the home-front, we train the children and unless we have it right with women, lots of things can‘t go well. She has to take care of the children, remain healthy and be empowered. ”Aside from that, there is also the socially disadvantaged persons that the ministry caters for. These make up like 15 per cent added with women and children. Obviously, until theirs is put in place, you can‘t achieve national objectives. We are not well funded but the present administration has relieved us of that burden through the MDGs office and by the time we have the funds, we can carry out more advocacy and sensitisation programmes as well. ”Women are important in national development. There is also a challenge in capacity building and a level of illiteracy among rural women. This is a gender mainstreaming ministry and we don‘t have much training. We have gender going right through all aspects of life and this ministry is the bedrock of our social development.” Married to a man she describes as ”very understanding and supportive,” it is unbelievable that she is now a grandmother. She definitely must have tips on graceful ageing. She says, ”I must have taken after both my parents. My elder sister is said to look younger than I. I used to exercise before my appointment, but now I am so busy that I don‘t do it. I eat the regular northern dishes and I drink water. I am lucky to have a husband who never stood in my way. He has contributed to my success and I encourage other men to be like him too.” Coincidentally, she shares the same lineage with her spouse who is also a descendant of Usman Dan Fodio. Recalling their meeting over 28 years ago, Suleiman, who was also a politician while as an undergraduate says, ”I met him when we were in the university. Though no longer a student then, he was working and our families had always known one another. We have been married for 28 years and no regrets.” A mentor to many young women, she advises, ”Remain focused, believe in yourself that you can do anything and achieve as long as you are with God.” Quite fashionable in her outing, the minister explains, ”God is progressive. Fashion is all in the mind and you must do things straight and decent. You have to look presentable and not frivolous. I‘m a lawyer and I have to dress like one. I should wear clothes that when I come out of my house, my husband would not be unduly agitated http://www.punchng.com/Articl.aspx?theartic=Art2009050223594485 |
| Romance › Playing Hard-to-get Could Be Costly by JJYOU(op): 6:57pm On May 03, 2009 |
Playing hard-to-get could be costly By Kemi Ashefon Published: Sunday, 3 May 2009 MABEL is young. She is pretty. She has got a great job and like bees to honey, every man desires her. In fact, she gets marriage proposals like the air she breathes. ”But that was in my prime,” she states. ”Then, I was between 24 and 25 years old and I had the world at my feet and I thought I could easily get a man whenever I was set for marriage. Ironically, I clocked 34 years two weeks ago and I am still as single as a tailor‘s needle. ”The last proposal was on my 26th birthday when Harry, a young lecturer proposed to me. I knew he wanted me badly and was always talking about life together. He had an aged mother who wanted him married. So imagine the pressure on me. My answer was always: ‘I need time.‘ Not that I didn‘t like him, I was also in love but how can I agree to a proposal from a guy so cheaply? ”I thought I should play hard-to-get a bit and allow him know that he had other contenders. How wrong I was. By the time I kept him waiting for six months, he stopped coming and calling. Initially, I thought it was a joke but when it was almost a year and I saw a friend of his, I knew the game was up. Harry got married to another woman. His friend told me that he thought I didn‘t love him and had to get married. Though I am still pretty, I am frantically searching for a mate.” Maybe Kike shares same agony with Mabel. Just 30, she is a civil servant and very single. She explains, ”I am also a contractor and that gives me a certain level of comfort unlike some of my colleagues. By the time I completed my youth service in Abuja five years ago, I had already bought a car and I live in a choice area in town. ”Knowing that I could command any man‘s attention, I was not ready to be tied down with anyone until I clocked 27 years. Then, I thought two years was a long time in a woman‘s life and that I could enjoy my life and make a good choice of men. I had many men asking for my hand in marriage, especially in my church but I was always with an excuse on why I could not date them. ”But Sunday, a colleague of mine, persisted. He was always calling, visiting and was on my neck for a whole year. Though I liked him, I was not just ready for marriage yet. I was enjoying the attention of other men and other ‘fringe benefits.‘ I asked for a three-month-period to ‘think about‘ Sunday‘s proposal and he agreed. I was playing hard-to-get so that he would appreciate me. ”When the three months lapsed, I asked for another six weeks. Suddenly, he stopped calling and when the six weeks lapsed I called him. He did not pick his call. I did this for two weeks and got the same answer. A week after, he called me, thanked me and said he met a former girlfriend, who was willing to marry him. He said he realised he now loved her and they are preparing to wed.” Henrietta is 42. She is an architect and works in a federal ministry in Abuja. ”To think that I served here, worked here and still single is unbelievable,” she says. ”I have lost count of the many suitors I had when I was a youth corps member. They came in droves and I was scared. There was this particular guy who was ready to marry me before I ended my service but I was scared. ”I was just 23, pretty and had not known the world. I told him to give me time, which he did. Along the line, another guy came but he was richer and ready to take me abroad for further studies. I thought of my mother (a widow) and how she would feel if I left her. So, I just played a fast one on him, collected his gifts and refused his offer. ”I almost ended up as a second wife to an army general during the military era. I got landed property, cars and foreign trips from him. He was quite generous and was ready to marry me but my problem was his wife. She threatened to kill me if I attempted marrying her husband and I decided being a mistress. ”Maybe the period of nursing the man and meeting his needs saw me growing older. I had no time for younger suitors and realised that I was in my early 30s. Then, I tried making myself available to other men but I had already been tagged ‘General‘s wife‘ and none wanted me. Though alive, I have called off the affair with him (heard he is dating a youth corps member) and I have resorted to getting a good husband from the church I now attend.” Comments:http://www.punchng.com/Articl.aspx?theartic=Art2009050223464118 |
| Family › A Married Woman With Many Friends May Be Eased Out Of Her Marriage by JJYOU(op): 6:54pm On May 03, 2009 |
A married woman with many friends may be eased out of her marriage – Feyikemi Niyi-Olayinka By SAM AWOYINFA Published: Sunday, 3 May 2009 Big and bold actress and broadcaster, Feyikemi Niyi-Olayinka, got her first movie role in 1997 in Tunde Kelani’s hit film, Ole Ku. Since then, she has not looked back. The University of Ibadan geography graduate and mother of two tells SAM AWOYINFA her story WHEN it comes to acting and broadcasting, Feyikemi Niyi-Olayinka ranks among the best in that terrain. Though she came into limelight with her role in Tunde Kelani‘s film, Ole Ku, in which she featured as one of the lead characters, the plump Ibadan, Oyo State-born Niyi-Olayinka tells you that she started as a freelance broadcaster before she later hit the limelight through acting. Skip to next paragraph click to expand image Photo file Feyikemi Niyi-Olayinka ”I would say that I am comfortable with both acting and broadcasting. Actually, I started as a broadcaster while I was an undergraduate in the University of Ibadan. I was on freelance with the Broadcasting Corporation of Oyo State, working as a newscaster, duty continuity announcer and presenter of programmes. I had equally done a few stage plays. But I hit limelight in 1997 when I featured in Tunde Kelani‘s film titled Ole Ku,” she says. Ironically, the beefy artiste was a science student while in secondary school, and read geography in the university, but she knew early in life that she was sold to the arts. While her father was indifferent to her tilting towards the entertainment world as she grew into adulthood, her mother had her fears. But according to her, she was able to sway her mother to her side by being able to live above the scandals that pervade the two industries she has found herself. ”Even while I was freelancing with the because, I was making so much money. But I knew if I kept at it, my breakthrough would come one day. However, my mother never liked me being in the entertainment industry. She had her fears about the industry; she believed that it was for dropouts and other unserious characters. But my dad was indifferent. Thank God I was able to keep my head,” she stresses. But remind her that she has not been featuring in movies of late and she has a robust defence. She had been on a nine month matrimonial course, and now she‘s back hot and smoking. ”I was pregnant, though in this condition, I featured in one or two movies. But at a point my husband had to ask me to stop acting because of my condition. He did not feel comfortable seeing me carrying a pregnancy around movie locations. But now I have been delivered of the baby, I am now ready for movie roles. I can‘t wait for the scripts to start rolling in,” she says. Niyi-Olayinka says that though she works in the world of make believe, she has not allowed the limelight and fame which comes with it to becloud her sense of decency and decorum. And to this she notes that her upbringing has a lot to do with it. She explains that her parents are disciplinarians and they are not materialistic, and these are the virtues she has inherited from them. ”It has to do largely with my upbringing. My parents are disciplinarians and they taught their children to be content. I am not from a family that runs after material things. We cherish morals and good name. I am content with whatever I have, and I believe everything will fall in place at God‘s own time. I don‘t know why people lose their dignity in an attempt to belong to the reigning fad, which does not give happiness,” she states. The voluptuous actress was part of the quartet who conceptualised a breakfast grass roots television programme called Owuro Lawa, on Lagos Television. She says the underlining philosophy behind the programme has to do with their love to preserve the Yoruba language and the need to disseminate information to the people at the grass roots. While expatiating on this, she explains that the programme has really been an agent of change, because according to her, ”We discuss several topics on politics, health, and culture among others. And some of the viewers do call us at the end of the programme and tell us that we have really expanded their horizon on some national issues using their mother tongue.” Niyi-Olayinka says that the passion and love for the job are the two things that drive her in her chosen career. She stresses that she is not super human. She says, ”Are you sure I am a role model? All I would say is that it‘s not been easy making it to the top. Again, I am not a super human, I fall at times and I pick up and move on with life. I want to tell the youngsters that they should pray that whatever profession they choose to pursue in life, their spouses should be very supportive. That is the only way to build trust and achieve success. I pray they get married to understanding wives and husbands that will not listen to hearsay or gossip. This is because the world of arts is a world of gossip.” Niyi-Olayinka believes in family values. She says, ”I strongly believe in parents regulating the number of children they should have. Because you need to have the number of children you can adequately cater for, in terms of giving them good education and lots of other benefits. If you bring the children you cannot cater for to this world, at the end of the day those children will curse such parents. Besides, I don‘t believe in gender discrimination. Some people end up with certain number of children today because they are desperate to have a particular sex. For me now, I have two girls, and I call them princesses. I love them and cherish them; I take them everywhere I go.” She appeals to women to always give respect to their husbands, because God has made them the head of the family. Listen to her, ”To have a successful marriage, a woman must respect her husband. She must carry him along in everything she‘s doing, as a partner in progress. Besides, she should minimise the number of friends she keeps. A married woman who keeps so many friends may soon be eased out of that marriage. Above all, she must be prayerful. She must stand in gap in prayers for the husband and the children.” While talking about the challenges of marriage, she says ”one person can no longer take decisions by himself any longer,” and there is the need for men to carry the wives and children along. ”You know someone that is still single can just decide and say I am travelling to Ibadan and off he goes. But if you are married, you have to consider your spouse, and if you have children, you must consider them also,” says Niyi-Olayinka. Niyi-Olayinka does not share the belief that women are weaker vessels, she argues that ”when you look at it critically, you‘ll discover that women are stronger, better and wiser in decision making. Women are more tolerant. But it is unfortunate that women are not being given fair share in government appointments. One can only see women in the ministry of women affairs, education, and health. I will like to see women in the ministries of works, finance, agriculture, environment, and even in Aso Rock.” She tells SUNDAY PUNCH her philosophy of life, and that she says ”is to do to others as I want others to do to me.” She adds, ”Be good to all you come across in life. Pay evil with good. Again, I believe in the law of karma. Whatever you do comes back to you. It‘s like a boomerang.” And what about her hobbies? ”I love to read a lot, from motivational books to autobiographies. I also read religious books. I make sure before I sleep everyday, I must read a chapter of a book. I have books in my toilet, in the bedroom, and the sitting room. In the car right now, I have two books, What a Country! by Kunle Ajibade and He Still Moves Stone by Max Lucado, that I am reading. My first daughter is also imbibing this trait,” she says. http://www.punchng.com/Articl.aspx?theartic=Art200905022340298 |
| Romance › Re: How To End An Affair? (I'm Married) by JJYOU: 6:51pm On May 03, 2009 |
kaypinchi:karma you hear now. make i bring you forms? |
| Romance › Re: How To End An Affair? (I'm Married) by JJYOU: 6:44pm On May 03, 2009 |
ThiefOfHearts:do you by any chance work for the FBI young lady? you are beginning to scare me now. this is not some rememberance juju you are using here abi? ThiefOfHearts:TOH, seriously something is wrong with that lovely country of ours. we fill various religious houses every where in that lovely land but cant manage to keep ourselves from this cursed lifestyles. Bob jones, go and sin no more. the easiest way to cure this heart ache in the future is travel with your wife as much as possible. it is expensive but only safe cure because the land is full of whores. shameless whores for that matter. i have said it here before having stayed in various hotels all over nigeria the land is one big brothel. i am sorry the truth is bitter but has to be said. our morality threshold is too low. we are human beings for goodness sake. the ones without money say they do it for money the ones with money i dont know why they still share it like there is no tomorrow. can someone tell me? |
| Romance › Re: He's Jealous?! What In God's Name For?! by JJYOU: 5:18pm On May 03, 2009 |
follypimpi:i know go back i have said that before. that shouldnt give you license to pray one of my bros into arms way. would you want a jihadist running after your bros? |
| Romance › Re: Romance At The Age Of 40 With A Girl Of 28 by JJYOU: 4:45pm On May 03, 2009 |
igwe, uche and touch thanks for quoting the idiot. he foolishly went and deleted his post. ashewo kobo kobo. you reap what u sow. be sure u willl get foolish men helping i out on your home front too. did i hear M40 fool talk about undue advantange? u are the one doing due advantage abi kai, free education was not a good thing in that country of ours. |
| Romance › Re: He's Jealous?! What In God's Name For?! by JJYOU: 4:35pm On May 03, 2009 |
touchmeder:lying wonders. the bobo na mole so he is fulfilling his religious duties. how allah go give purnishment to person wey do his word? TOH and Jenny where my set of italio shoes ooo? i beg i will need them when i return. so na only italio we dey wear now? follypimpi:Jesus dont endanger His followers. how God pickin go put himself for arms way when osama brother don dey pursue his running mates for 4am?. u didnt read the papa kadijat threat? u wicked o. make u pray this prayer for yourself make we all say amen for you. that is better. bad belle prayer. pray make allah give am another mustafa, shehu or kasali becos na dem sabi wetin allah say make dem do for this kind situation not my brothers. nawao. wetin dem teach you for sunday school? |
| Music/Radio › Re: OFFICIAL Request Naija Music Thread!!! by JJYOU: 10:18pm On May 02, 2009 |
guys make una fish out " sleeping open eye O" song for me na. whole 2yrs plus and all of una na expert una suppose to be. haba wetin the girl do una? i beg o. una dey try sha. |
| Business › Re: GTBank Deducts N100 For Not Withdrawing From ATM by JJYOU: 10:12pm On May 02, 2009 |
chikeobi:do you know what they are trying to create by introducing cards in nigeria at all? you dont thta is why you are still bothered with N100 |
| Events › Re: Can One Have A Small Wedding In Nigeria? by JJYOU: 10:08pm On May 02, 2009 |
SUKKIE:you are right. i banned that completely cos we only went for thanksgiving in my dad's church. that didnt stop some few of them (mostly women) wearing it. i just refused to ytake pics with them because it was so annoying they did everything i asked not to be done. Pittbaby:why buy what you can only wear for a day? my mum had boxes of asoebis tailors didnt even see yet she paid for them. that is wastage. |
| Politics › Re: Sponsoring Private Member Bill In Nigeria. National And State Levels by JJYOU(op): 9:58pm On May 02, 2009 |
guys i am serious. i wont mind offering a reward for this |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Need A Responsible ,beautiful And God Fearring Lady For Serious Relationship. by JJYOU: 9:54pm On May 02, 2009 |
landos4rea:tiv people very nice people. you your own very self dey God fearing abi? why una like make women dey chase una when God say na man dey do the leg work? |
| Romance › Re: He's Jealous?! What In God's Name For?! by JJYOU: 9:50pm On May 02, 2009 |
ThiefOfHearts:trust u to always land me in trouble. na only kwuersion as gamine would say i asked. you see why i keep looking for that "sleeping open eye O" song. anyway how u dey? i beg make u help me keep jenny out of trouble. we still need her a long time. |
| Travel › Re: 25 9jerians Has Been Deported From Dublin by JJYOU: 9:44pm On May 02, 2009 |
sucessful1:mmmmmmm what if daddy was wrong? |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: British-nigerian Lady To Be Shot In Laos For Drug Smuggling by JJYOU: 9:40pm On May 02, 2009 |
congoshine:as if you didnt know your smart sister is taking advantage as most of them do. |
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