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[size=18pt]Widows and widowers want mates too[/size]
By Kemi Ashefon
Published: Sunday, 11 Jan 2009

SINCE John lost Eugenia, his late wife, life has been hell. ”That was five years ago and I was left with two kids,” he recounts. ”Initially, I thought nobody could fill the vacuum her death left and I made up my mind never to get married again.” But that was short-lived. ”I realised after my third year of widowhood that I took a foolish decision. Why? I was not only lonely; I was tired playing a dual role in the lives of the kids. I dressed them up for school (his kids are toddlers), got the maid to cook and clean the home and I also engaged in school runs.

”Though I was seeing a lady whom I was having an affair with, I had to take her outside the home for sexual activities because I didn‘t want to hurt my kids‘ emotions. By the time I decided to settle down for remarriage, my in-laws and neighbours started raising the alarm. I was disappointed in them all because they failed to realise that I was single and needed a mate too. So they were comfortable with my state – being alone always? So, I decided to get serious with a lady in my office. She was the secretary to my boss and we became very close.

”I bought things for her, supported her parents and siblings, helped with her car maintenance and so many other things. I was ready to marry her but my late wife‘s mother was against it. She poisoned my children‘s minds and they became hostile to Kunmi, my lover. It got to the extent that she started receiving phone calls and was informed that I was under a curse and that every woman I marry must die. This affected our affair and the girl took to her heels. I have dated other women, but by the time my neighbours talk to them, they will stop seeing me. I have decided to move out of that neighbourhood and start my life all over again. I can‘t live in widowhood forever.”

Maybe widows are worst hit. By the time Rufus died, one thing was clear to Perpetual, his widow - you bear your emotional burden alone. ”It was difficult to cope with the loss of a man I loved and married for 12 years,” she begins. ”At 37, I was a young widow and had three kids. Though I was getting support from his family members and friends, I needed more than money. I wanted someone I could share my heart with. It was horrible sleeping alone, tendering to the kids alone and I had nobody to support my emotional needs.

”I was living in the family house and there was no way a male friend could visit me. In fact, none of my in-laws thought of remarriage for me. To them, I have my kids to fend for and that should make me forget that I am a woman with blood flowing in my veins. Though my mother-in-law suggested one of my late husband‘s uncles, I rejected the idea. The man was old and I could become a widow again if I packed into his house.

”So for three years I struggled with my emotional needs until I met Fabian. He was a young man and still single. Surprisingly, he wanted to marry me and even adopt my kids, but we met a brick wall when his parents saw me. His mother wondered how her son would bring home a widow. What if I killed her son just as I killed my late husband? I cried and explained to them that my late husband died of cancer and I didn‘t have a hand in it. Fabian was adamant and told his parents that he loved me and would marry me. This went on for a year but gradually, he withdrew due to the pressure from his family and I am alone now. At 41, I am still pretty, my figure is stunning and I have had a few male friends but many run from marriage because of my widowhood. Even my in-laws had declared that immediately I remarry, I have to pack out of their house and they stop my allowance but kids‘ school fees would be paid. They have refused to see me as a single lady; to them, I am a widow. I still don‘t know why being a widow makes me different from other women.”

For Rachel, it was difficult to make the right choice after three years of widowhood. ”Every man, especially my late husband‘s friends, wanted to sleep with me,” she says. ”I was shocked when our pastor even made advances at me. But for the fact that I don‘t have kids, I would have remained single because Akin, my late husband, was everything I wanted in a man. I married immediately after graduation and I had the best of times. He was so kind, caring and never bothered that I did not have kids in our three-year-old marriage. He died in an air crash and I became a widow at 26.

”Now at 29, I have more than enough men wanting my hand in marriage than any single girl. How do I make a choice? Go for my late husband‘s friends or become a mistress to a pastor that prayed with me when I became a young widow? It could be disgusting seeing that people who you thought loved you would turn back and want your wife to sleep with them. I could imagine what Akin would think of them wherever he is. Not that I enjoy widowhood, no. I really want to get married and have kids, but my fear is this: what if the man dies like Akin again? There is this guy asking me out in my friend‘s office, but I am scared. When I told him my fear, he laughed it off and told me he was ready to die because of me.”

http://www.punchng.com/Articl.aspx?theartic=Art20090111123593

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* Can someone tell me where to find widowers who want to meet widows for dating? I tried all the dating sites out there. No way.

Posted by: Jill , on Thursday, January 29, 2009

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* Rachel I say go for it. I am truly sorry about your husband but you are young. Now is the time. God bless you

Posted by: Emeka , on Sunday, January 11, 2009

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* Just like bro.muniru iam a xtian too.book of Timothy say for somebody to be regarded as a widow you must be 60yrs.In other sense anybody below age 60 should re-marry if they cannot hold their emotions.Is better to re marry than to burn.Thanks

Posted by: jide , on Sunday, January 11, 2009

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* sincerely,if the unfortunate happens, it shouldn't bring an end to life, let all the stakeholders put themselves into that position of widowee/widower and judge if they accommodate to mourn their lost partner for long.Kemi,tell this people to take a bold and genuine steps to continue their marrital life in their new love.may thy good LORD keep us and make fulfill our days.cheers! yomi adisa(abuja) 08056666130

Posted by: yomi adisa , on Sunday, January 11, 2009

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* May Allah help our society. Widow and widowers are human beings. Of every thinking, it is only Islam,because it is a religion from the Creator, that is positive about this emotional needs. It allows a woman just 4 months and ten days of waiting before she can re-marry. If she decides to stay single, no problem but there should be no adultery. A man is free to marry anytime. The idea of having more than one wife for those who are capable is also design to take care of widow too.Checkout on Islam

Posted by: Kolawole Muniru , on Sunday, January 11, 2009

C2H5OH:
18, child?     JJ YOU are funny

adult 18/ big madam is that better?

patwhizkid:
Hmmmmmn, datz ur mentality huh

i dont know if there are naija dating sites but i know it would all be full of lies and exaggerations.

deor03:
Did you see this part of the interview? Do your calculations sir

so what is your point?

asha 80:
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Even though everybody knows ojo maduekwe is a fool why did this Rotimi bring up biafra issue here?

shows you the goats that most PDP people are. how can a diplomat at that level write that kind of thing on paper?

I got married at 18. I don’t know why some people find that strange. For him it has nothing to do with age. In fact he waited for me to be 18, age of consent to marry me. I was 16 when he met me and he was 26.

did you guys noticed she said she married at 18? she was still a child for goodness sake. she must be in her 40s. so we are talking 20something yrs ago

[size=18pt]Online Dating Story: "I never thought I'd fall in love again[/size]."
By Brenda and Dwaine, North Point, Florida Updated: Feb 14, 2009

Brenda's Story
Brenda, 32: I never saw myself doing this. I never thought of myself being out in the dating scene with three kids. After nine years of marriage I became a widow. I lost my husband and 5-year-old son in a boating accident. I had no immediate family in my area. I wanted to get myself distracted and make friends. It was more of a support system than dating, just to meet people.
I live near Sarasota but I decided to try my old zip code from Fort Lauderdale to see if I could make new friends, because my parents live there. Then I found Dwaine. 185 miles apart! His photo was one of the first attractions. He seemed like a laid-back, easygoing guy. I sent him an email, told him I went to Fort Lauderdale often. For one week, we texted and emailed. Then, we exchanged phone numbers. Three weeks later, we met.
First date: Dating was all new to me, I wasn't sure how to behave. I thought, just be me, this is who I am. I wore jeans and no makeup -- this is how I'm going to be most of the time. We met at the clubhouse at his apartment complex. He was the same person I spoke with on the phone. I could tell he was for real, not trying to impress me.
He listened to me. It was like I had known him for years, I felt comfortable.  
He listened to me. It was like I had known him for years, I felt comfortable.
He's easy with children. That was important to me. I have three kids, he has one. I was going to Fort Lauderdale every weekend, or he came up. We introduced the children two weeks after meeting. They clicked instantly. All four of them get along fine. Eight months later, we moved in together. Quicker than I thought! We just want to be a big family.
We married about one year after dating online. I said let's go to Vegas, it's going to be my last time getting married! Just the two of us went, and the family and children watched the ceremony live online. Then we came home and had a reception with our friends and families.
I gave Dwaine a gift to complete his dream. Dwaine was adopted by his stepfather and had lost touch with his biological father. I located his father with the help of his mother and invited him to our reception in Florida to surprise Dwaine. Everyone kept the secret. When they met, they were hugging and crying; it was very emotional.
I never thought I'd fall in love again. Dwaine has been a blessing to me and the kids. He's been a strong base to keep us together. He makes us laugh and smile. I feel positive again about life.

Dwaine's Story
Dwaine, 39: I received an email from Brenda at a time when I was going to take a break from dating. She had no photo and not much information in her profile. I said, it's only fair if I see a photo of you. Once I saw her picture, I was immediately attracted to her.
Actually she was the opposite of what I was looking for! I was looking for someone who lived locally, was closer to my age, and taller. She said, "I know I'm not exactly what you're looking for," but talking to her, I was intrigued. We had a lot in common. We both love the outdoors, spending time with kids and family, working on the house. I was looking for someone who is their own person.
It was a good three or four months when we realized we didn't want to be without each other. I never expected I'd be driving 2 1/2 hours away to see someone. If she wasn't driving here, I was driving up there. I proposed to Brenda on Christmas Eve at my friend's house. We were playing charades, guys vs. girls. I acted it out: "Will you marry me?" I knelt down in front of her with a ring and said it again. She was in a daze, she thought it was part of the game.
I had spoken with my biological father but had never met him. Two days before our reception, I went out to meet Brenda in the car. I saw a gentleman on the passenger side, I waved and whispered in her ear, "Who's that?" She said, "Your father." I had no words. We immediately hugged. He cried and I got a little teary-eyed. I wrote Brenda a poem and read it at the reception, thanking her. I still talk to my dad, we talk every day.
I was getting frustrated before meeting Brenda -- thinking of taking time off from dating. When I got her email I said, let me try one more time. I'm glad I did! I owe it all to Yahoo! Personals
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/successstories/1423/online-dating-story-i-never-thought-id-fall-in-love-again;_ylc=X3oDMTIxZWQwNzduBF9TAzk3NjU1MjU0BF9zAwRsdANVMTEwMTk1NgRzZWMDYm9keQRzbGsDYXJ0aWNsZTUEdG1fbG5rA1UxMTAxOTU2

this would never happen on a naija dating site because it would all be filled with lies and deception

why do we have vcds in nigeria?

5p1naz:
our agriculture sector nids to come back alive. i weep for nigeria because we are like masters walking bare footed whilst our servants are riding our horses, its quite bad,

which area in nigeria still produce local rice?

chidichris:
Kobojunkie,
you have got enough reasons for u to come back and fix things here rather than saying it over the internet.

abia state was dirty under kalu according to u so with which state are u comparing abia then?

if aba was dirty, which place was clean in nigeria then?

it is important that u tell us when last u visited nigeria

does this really matter?

microgiant:
@Outlaws
What u should know by now in dealing with Nigerians is that there are some people who don't see anything wrong in a system, until they are adversely affected by the system. That's when they will start crying fowl.

As earlier pointed out to you, if you cannot afford the bride price and the rudiculous demands they make in the name of traditional marriage. Please don't abuse anybody just forget about them. Most times when the women getting close to 40yrs and not married that's when they will start looking for men and even assisting them financially to achieve their marriage dreams. Most women take it as a thing of pride that their marriage was very expensive - and you know very well that Nigerians thrive on ego.

Right now in Rivers & Bayelsa an average girl wants to be married traditionally, in church and court, which i clearly use to point out to them is not necessary. But, because their friend or someone they know did it, they also require same standard. The whites use to pay bride price before it was dropped centuries ago. Those who are arguing for pride price as tradition should check historical books. Poor men use to marry off their beautiful daughters to wealthy men. But when they started embracing christianity they did away with most of those traditions.

Nigerians no matter how long they have been christians - including those born to christian parents and growing up in the faith - still hold on to various traditions.

foolishness has nothing to do with any tradition. Christianity has nothing against the decency of respecting your inlaws to be. there are excesses in every society nigeria is no exception. in my place you pay only 24 naira as bride price whatever you go do by way of party and the rest is your business.

the most important thing is doing what makes both of you happy but dont start doing that by creating trouble and expect to live happily there after. i know my people well enough to know you will be lucky to celebrate the first 100days let alone 1yr anniversary.

such a shame. this is the result of the over sexualisation of our youths.

this man is supposed to be a sharia loving muslim. why are you guys not calling on his allah, mohammed and the imams to heal him?
is there no mercy and healing in islam?
where were you when some of these fools join the cults that push them into power?  
do you know the covenants they made with these cults?

some things are beyond most NLders pay grade. i think this is one of them.

for those of you thinking it is open season on the church of Jesus Christ sit tight the best is yet to come. you aint see anything yet

nagos near lagos nigeria

11 occupants escape unhurt as robbers leave bishop’s jeep with 56 bullet holes
By Ayodele Ale
Published: Saturday, 14 Feb 2009

When Bishop Stephen Ogedengbe, founder and head of Evangelical Ministries (Wisdom Chapel), located in Shasha, Lagos, led the congregation on Sunday, February 1, 2008, there was nothing to suggest that danger was lurking in the corner.
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Bishop Ogedengbe

The church service held as usual as the faithful savoured the joy of seeing a new month. Worshippers clapped, sang and danced to the music rendered by the choir. The shout of Hallelujah rented the air as the bishop mounted the pulpit and gave many reasons why the people needed to thank God in spite of the prevailing economic situation.

Not a few were, however surprised when the clergy started raising prayer points against untimely death of church members. “Let us pray against the spirit of death, so that we will not have any cause to be sorrowful in this church,” he commanded. Members stretched their arms and and stamped their legs on the floor as they prayed.

Service, over, the congregation dispersed, leaving the Bishop, members of his immediate family and a few workers in the church premises. At about 2 pm, Ogedengbe, his children and some of his relations numbering 11 people all together, got into his Toyota 4Runner Jeep to go back to his residence on Ojoo Road.

“I would have been in the vehicle with them, but it was one of those days that I needed to stay behind to perform some duties,” said the Bishop’s wife, Peace.

As the engine of the vehicle roared, some visitors arrived the church and the clergyman had to alight from the jeep to attend to them. As he came down, Tosin, his 20-year-old daughter, mounted the driver’s seat, and drove the vehicle out of the compound.

Midway to their home, precisely at Orelope junction, they were attacked by gunmen.

Mrs. Funmilayo Famoju, a relation of the bishop, who sat in front of the vehicle when the incident occurred, said, “They were six in number because I saw them as they were alighting from the okada (commercial motorcycles) that they came with. One of them jumped in front of our vehicle and started shooting to the air.”

Passersby took to their heels while drivers abandoned their vehicles and ran for dear lives.

Scared by the spectacle, Mrs Famoju said she tapped her brother’s daughter who was driving the jeep on the shoulder and shouted, “Robbers! robbers!”

She added that everybody in the vehicle started shivering. “All of us in the car were so afraid that we did not know what to do. I then told them to bow down their heads. You needed to see us. One of the things that surprised us was that they were not covering their faces. They were all young people.”

Before they could gather their thoughts, the gunmen had surrounded the vehicle and started firing at the car. “The glasses at the back of the car are tinted, so the gunmen could not see who was at the back seat,” Bishop Ogedengbe said. “Somehow, my daughter managed to call and inform me that armed robbers had surrounded the car and were shooting. Even on the telephone, I could hear the sound of gunshots. Then the phone went off and I thought he had been shot. We were helpless. We were just praying that God should spare their lives. She later told me that she had to throw away the phone when the robbers aimed at her.

“You know it would have been a terrible thing for a family to lose 11 persons at the same time,” he said.

Curiously, none of the bullets that were fired at the Jeep entered into the car. Famoju said, “When the person doing the firing had exhausted the bullets in the gun, he collected the other one and continued firing.”

At the end of the day, the gunmen resorted to vandalising the front door of the car at the driver’s side only to realise that apart from the girl that was driving it and two other ladies, the remaining eight persons were children. They collected the phones of the the three adults and the other valuables they could lay their hands on.

Meanwhile, information had reached the police at Dopemu Police Station and a team of soldiers that men of the underworld were operating at Orelope Junction. They quickly raced towards the direction.

Ogedengbe said, “I learnt that it was the soldiers that the robbers sighted and took off, using the okadas that they came with. They could not use a car because those who abandoned their cars and ran away had cause serious traffic jam. Policemen from Idimu also arrived the scene some minutes later, but none of the robbers was arrested,” the bishop said.

In company with some members of the church, the bishop raced to the scene and were shocked at what they saw. “Despite the fact that the front door of the vehicle at the passenger’s side was riddled with the bullets, none penetrated the car, not to talk of hitting any of the people inside,” he said. “Though terrified, I met all of them inside and alive. The children were crying. When we counted the bullet holes, they were 56.

“Meanwhile, the news had travelled far and wide that I had been shot dead. People were trying to reach me as we were moving to the scene, but I was praying.

“All the people we met at the scene thought the vehicle was bullet proof, but it was not. I bought it four years ago and since then, I have been using it. It is a car I use most of the time, but I believe that God turned it to bullet proof when it was being attacked,” he said.

The vehicle was later taken to the bishop’s home on LASU-Ojoo Road and has been parked there since then.

When Saturday Punch visited the house of the bishop on Thursday, the car was still marked with the bullet holes which our correspondent counted. While Tosin, the Salem University undergraduate, who drove the car had gone back to school, efforts were being made to repair it.

“The screen cracked because my son, Prophet, hit his head against it,” the bishop’s wife said. Interestingly, the 4-year-old boy who was one of the children in the car was said to have told his parents that he dreamt that armed robbers attacked his mother. “He even said he wanted to pray for us and we did not object.”

But was the Bishop’s car being trailed from the church? Did the armed robbers believe that he had the day’s offerings and tithe with him?

“It is difficult to say,” Ogedengbe said. “No bishop carries church money home. There is a well designed system through which the money gets to the bank. They will be making a great mistake to think that we go home with money. Actually, when they eventually forced the car open, they were asking, ‘where is the money? where is the money?’

“With the way armed robbers are operating, the country is in trouble. That is why the government must act fast and do something reasonable about the economic situation, because a lot of people are losing jobs, positions, shops and so on.”

Though the Police Public Relations Officer in Lagos State, Frank Mba, a Superintendent of Police told Saturday Punch that he had not been informed about the incident, the Divisional Police Officer, Idimu Police Station, Mr. Adeniken Johnson, confirmed the attack and said that his men responded promptly when they received the distress call. ‘Like all other calls, we responded and that is all I want to say,’ he said.

[size=22pt]Jilted lover girl commits suicide[/size]
By BONIFACE NZAMA, Calabar
Saturday, February 14, 2009
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For residents of Ekumtak Mbube, Ogoja Local Government Area in Cross River State, the 2009 Valentine’s Day celebration would taste sour, as love has claimed a life and brought sorrow and tears to them. The community is currently in turmoil, as a young, who was allegedly jilted recently by her boyfriend, has committed suicide.

Saturday Sun gathered that the 18-year old girl, identified as Queen, was seen hanging from a tree behind her father’s residence, at the Ekumtak community, with her feet barely touching the ground.

Although Queen allegedly did not leave any suicide note, some of her school friends and confidants, who spoke with our correspondent, said she became heart broken in recent times, saying she was tired, as her plan to celebrate the Valentine’s Day with her boyfriend had been shattered. She said that her boyfriend jilted him and started dating a new girlfriend.

Some of the girl’s schoolmates, who claimed they were instructed by the principal of the school not to speak on the matter, said trouble between Queen and her estranged boyfriend began when the boy started avoiding her. Their friends that made effort to resolve their differences, but these yielded no result, with the boy insisting that it was over.

Queen, who was said to be a final year student of the Mbube East Secondary School, allegedly confided in some of her friends that she was going to terminate her life over the crashed romance.
According to one of the female student, “Queen once jokingly said she would not stay alive on the Valentine’s Day to suffer the embarrassment of seeing her boyfriend enjoy the valentine with another girlfriend.”

One of them, who spoke on condition of anonymity, said: “our Principal is a no-nonsense man. He has warned us not to mention the name of her boyfriend, otherwise we will be in trouble.”
Queen’s father (name withheld) said the girl allegedly left home for school on the fateful day, hale and hearty to complete the process of her registration for the May/June 2009 West African School Certificate Examination.

“She came back from school and disappeared from the house after dropping her school bag,” he said.
According to him, Queen left the compound after she had returned from the school, and was never seen again till the next day when her lifeless body was found at the backyard, hanging from a tree.
The father his daughter’s action as shocking, saying: “She has destroyed the reputation of our respected family.” http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/news/national/2009/feb/14/national-14-02-2009-03.htm


another one gone too soon.

nightmares

ud4u:
Larry Okun, be careful for trying to transact business with people you don't know.

seconded. they say if it sound too good to be true, it probably is too good to be true. apply brake and commonn sence

heading changed

Busy_body:
If it is okay with you JJyou, why don't we use this thread as a starting point to review hotels in Nigeria then, like Tripadvisors that allows users to rate hotels they have been to I believe in people power, and once they start realising that negative reviews is harming their business, hopefully they would sit up At least I can hope

Who wants to start then?

you know i will do anything for the busy lady.
[size=18pt]request granted[/size].
lets get this going

MrCrackles:
I agree with you Busy but we may need to change the title of the thread to comply with posting on topic.

JJYOU what do you think?

i think you are right. is the topic title okay now?

tpia:
Nigerians do seem to have a problem with customer service. It's like they dont believe in it and dont want to understand what it means.

Some Nigerian stores abroad tend to have this same issue of bad customer service. I hope most of them have improved sha. Nigerians working in non-Nigerian workplaces  have to practice it however, because they can get in trouble if they dont.

why should have customer service when they have juju or prayer to attract people. some treat you like they are doing you a favour for opening the store at all.

MrCrackles:
Shouldnt toothpaste be a standard as part of a room rate?

Na wa ooo!

chewing sticks should be the standard

gamine, long time. where have you been hiding or who has been hiding you?

how many years for passport wey dem they sell for 10k? you see why lawlessness will always be nigerian

this is todays benin observer

[size=18pt]Horror: Armed men kill 8 policemen[/size]
By PATRICK OJENOR/MIKE OSAROGIAGBON

BENIN CITY - No fewer than eight policemen were yesterday killed in the state by dare-devil armed men who ambushed five of them while on a rescue mission along Benin-Asaba Road.


The sad incident which threw both the Zone ‘5’ and state Police Command Headquarters into mourning, The NIGERIAN OBSERVER authoritatively learnt, occurred at different locations across the state.


The unfortunate situation, it was gathered, occurred along the Benin-Abudu Road when a five-member of a team of policemen from Ikpoba Hill Division led by the DPO was ambushed and massacred by the gunmen who after the killings escaped with the patrol van and arms of the policemen while their corpses were abandoned.


Earlier in the morning of yesterday, two mobile policemen of the Zone ‘5’ Headquarters, Benin City were also gunned down around Ologbo area, on the Benin-Sapele Road by the gunmen believed to be fleeing armed robbers whose attempted robbery operation may have been aborted by police in the state.


However, The NIGERIAN OBSERVER further gathered that another policeman was also killed in Abudu, the administrative headquarters of Orhionmwon Local Government Area by a gang of armed robbers who were prevented from hijacking a Bullion van by policemen in the town.


The robbers, who it was gathered, engaged the policemen in a fierce gun battle that lasted several minutes while residents and motorists in the area scampered for safety. The NIGERIAN OBSERVER also gathered, had a pregnant woman killed in the process while a woman Police Corporal was severely injured.


Though police in the state have vowed to unmasked those behind yesterday’s attacks across the state, it was however unclear whether the attacks were carried out by a singular armed group.


Efforts made by our reporter to contact the Police Public Relations Officer were not successful.

what kind of money do these people want?

michelle who teach you ogogogoro? you see wetin NL don do you

ikeyman00:
BBC news flash!

News makin wave last night, had it emm that The Invisble has become visible.

Bin Laden secretly married earthmama in kano in the presence of one and only wittness Mc usman

Unfortunately, as for now the only picture we could come up with is Earthmama hubby's picture in course of the procedings

[img]http://www.google.co.uk/images?q=tbn:8AFg7ff5AXxnaM::www.jamestown.org/terrorism/news/uploads/1711Bin-Laden2.jpg[/img]

congrat earthmama, we the igbos love u!

una want make America catch una osame abi/

funmi is my aunt. i can confirm there is no iota of truth in this rumour. the lady has not been to Africa recently let alone Nigeria.

Kx:
Any one who informs you to stay in this marriage doesn't want your happiness. Just take time off and you are welcome to nairaland any time 24/7. Don't mind some nairaland members here, some just like posting Poo. in the name of posting.

Good luck.

Nawao,were was d physo when the marriage was being consumated?
Happiness?  have u 4goten marriage is for better for worse?
What happened to the biblical virtues of tolerance and patience?
Must we always solve problems with problem?
If only the little child's interest could be considered.

Rominiyi,alot of the marriages u see today would have crashed even be4 they got started
but the offsprings interest are the strings.
Eventually if u must quit cos of ur happiness,there are proper ways of doing it when all means of
resolving the issues have been wholly exhausted.
Please decisions of this nature should not be taken in a rush.
U have the right to be happy,but the little child does not desirve to be brot up in
a broken home.

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i wish we can claim monopoly on wisdom in matters like this.  only God intervenes in matters like these for people not to be hurt. nobody knows tomorrow