₦airaland Forum

dayokanu:
To avoid all these unnecesary infertility drama I dont know how I would react but it might lead to me cheating on the woman
Its better to carry out a comprehensive check of your spouse to be a lots of sexual session(Talks and action) to know sexual compatibility.

how does this

Its better to carry out a comprehensive check of your spouse to be a lots of sexual session(Talks and action) to know sexual compatibility.

= fertility bros?

HeatFusion:
I've once said NO to the same topic before. But come to think of it, who actually ask about infertility on a first or a second or even a third date?

You never know until you try the reproduction process. If you then find out he/she can't have a baby, leaving him/her based on her infertility would be cruel and devastating.

However, if he knows he can't have a baby and lets me know on a third date, mehn, sorry, but goodbye. 

I'm the kind of "I want my man's baby" person, not a donated sperm.

how does being right make you feel ma?

wbb

love 101

Bridget, u guys are still on this? shame the time you should use in building better relationship is being wasted fighting arguing.

in my opinion every high maintenance relationships are waste of time and not worth it.

by the way do any of you do drugs? i ask because there is some level of not living in real world here.

Taito007:
I can't believe CAN is making such statement. They are suppose to profer peace at all times no matter what. It obvious they spoke from annoyance, which they are in a better situation to control. Although I see it as a good idea, but such statement should not have come from CAN. Yes we can have it, just to be used at home for protection and there has to be adequate training and information on it usage. It shud not be purchased online but from Govt or recognised Private security institutions (or else everybody will start selling and making guns).

it is the duty of christians to tell truth. nigeria is a lawless failed state.

wbb

fs:
Are you talking to me? How does my decision affect yours? The OP asked a question and I answered. How does my solution affect you? Nigerians, in general, are just so freaking annoying. Mind your own damn business abeg.

My husband and I want to adopt. Infact, he thinks we should just adopt and forget birthing our own . According to him, there are a huge number of children out there that need homes. If we're both fine with this, how does it freaking concern you? Please o, God has put us on this earth for our own journeys. Handle yours and I'll handle mine. Abeg!

nice one.

they are both a disgrace to humanity. i cant believe some people are here defending 2 thieves and morally bankrupt people.  who told you they gave Nigeria GSM?  is gsm free to nigerians?

how many years did these 2 idiots rule and destroyed nigeria?

wbb

Becomrrich:
Nigeria women do not know that they are abusive wives, most of them are, because the society do not know that some of what the women do is abusive.

A Nigeria women does not see the emotional pain she cause her husband in verbal abuse and something physical abuse. they think it is normal.

A nigeria woman does not say I love you , they claim they do not show thier emotion. another form of abuse.

Black women tend to have bad temper, and do not believe it is abusive. it account for the high % of high blood pressure among nigeria women.

Many thing nigeria women do to thier men are abusive. It destroy love and destroy the mental balance of a husband.

Most nigeria women would be classified as abusive wives if they lived abroad because they do not know better.  they feel to be abusive is normal.

An average nigeria women is an abusive wife.

It takes trainning for them to know how to love thier husband and treat them well.

This account for why most Nigeria men abroad are married to white women .
And also account for why most Nigeria women abroad do not have husband, because the Nigeria man would prefer not to be in an abusive relationship and they would rather marry white women who have learn to love and treat thier men well.

It is the way you treat your husband, nigeria women do not treat thier husband better like white women have learn to do. White women worship thier husband. And that why white women are in all position in the USA. No one promote a person with bad altitude.

hehe as someone here would say. i hope you have some towels ready for the blood bath. the femi-nazis are coming after you bros.

Clarion Chukwurah through her Clarion Chukwurah Initiative is holding a charitable event at planet noolywood in camberwell, London  tomorrow ( Saturday  28th feb, 2009) at 6pm. 

admission is free. 
loads of food, entertainment and inspiration.

this is for a very good cause.  to show you what the various homeless charities are doing to help the poor and helpless of our society.

she said they have a list of homes you can support directly without going through any third party.

happy weekend everyone

hurtin:
Thank You.
It's nice to hear some encouraging words since I said I'm going to continue my marriage with my husband.
I do believe I'm a good Wife, as I'm fairly traditional (especially for a westerner), I do all the cleaning, cooking, washing, ironing, etc & hold down a full time (40hr) job.


My husband is fairly eager to start a family, But I asked him to wait a little while do to lack of funds, permanent work, etc.

I've been to Nigeria 4 times and have met all his family, (I promise you he does NOT have another Wife / Child there).

We send money home quite frequently due to his father passing after we got married, and his mum isn't really working much, or not getting paid enough to support herself and her 4 other children. I have no problems with taking care of "his" family, as they are my family now too  My next task is to learn Igbo, so I can talk to all off them better

I will however been enforcing less clubbing once we have our own children at home.
Until then I'll have to start going with him every once in a while, as I wont be stopping him from going on his own. As to be fair he normally comes home to me every night, and doesn't really stop out all night or sleep over at a friends when he goes out clubbing.



To All of you who have suggested my husband isn't getting enough "Nookie" in the bedroom    please be fully aware that, that particular role is more that satisfied by me.
So I won't be needing to step up my game in that department -

you are preaching to the choir my dear. fact is most of the men here would cheat even with 2 or more wives and a very lovely family.

[size=18pt]African-Americans Most Religiously Devout Group[/size]
from The Christian Post

www.christianpost.com

African-Americans are the most religiously devout racial group in the nation when it comes to attending services, praying and believing that God exists, according to a recent profile.

Compared to the rest of the U.S. population, which is generally considered highly religious, African-Americans engage in religious activities more frequently and express higher levels of religious belief, Pew Research Center's Forum on Religion & Public Life highlighted in a report released in time for Black History Month.

The center's U.S. Religious Landscape Survey, conducted in 2007 on more than 35,000 people, found that 79 percent of African-Americans say religion is very important in their lives while 56 percent of all U.S. adults said the same. Even among African-Americans who are unaffiliated with any particular faith, 45 percent of them say religion is very important compared to 16 percent of the religiously unaffiliated population overall.

Among the various racial and ethnic groups, African-Americans are the most likely to say they belong to a formal religious affiliation. An overwhelming 87 percent of African-Americans identify with a religious group, according to the U.S. Religious Landscape Survey by the Pew Research Center’s Forum on Religion & Public Life.

Following close behind are Latinos, with 85 percent of its population associating with a religion. In comparison, 83 percent of the overall U.S. population report affiliation with a religion.

Nearly six out of ten African-Americans (59 percent) say they belong to a historically black Protestant church, according to the study. The next most popular affiliation is Evangelical Protestant churches (15 percent).

Slightly more than one out of ten (12 percent) say they are unaffiliated to a religious group.

In other noteworthy findings, African-Americans express greater comfort with religion’s role in politics than other racial and ethnic groups. The black community most closely resembles white evangelical Protestants, with about six in ten saying that churches should express their views on social and political issues.

But both African-Americans and white evangelicals say churches and other houses of worship should not endorse political candidates and there should be some restrictions on mixing politics and religious institutions.

When it comes to social issues, the African-American community is nearly split on abortion, with 49 percent favoring to keep abortion legal in most or all cases, and 44 percent wanting abortion to be illegal in most or all cases.

The African-American ratio is similar to that of the general public (51 percent vs. 42 percent).

On the issue of homosexuality, 41 percent of the black community thinks it should be accepted by society, while 46 percent say that homosexuality should be discouraged.

In comparison, the overall public is more open to accepting homosexuality (50 percent vs. 40 percent).

African-Americans belonging to evangelical churches are the most likely to say homosexuality should be discouraged by society (58 percent), while religiously unaffiliated African-Americans are least likely to discourage homosexuality (32 percent).

The Landscape survey shows that across all religious groups, at least two-thirds of African-Americans voice support for the Democratic Party. Meanwhile, less than half (47 percent) of the general U.S. population describes themselves as Democrats or leaning towards the Democratic Party. Slightly more than a third (35 percent) of the total population identify with the Republican Party.

Religious affiliation did not make a major impact on political party affiliation among African-Americans, the Pew Forum analysis shows.

http://www.streamingfaith.com/community/news/news.aspx?NewsId=1891&utm_source=AudienceNL&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=AudienceNL200902&utm_content=ReligiouslyDevout&bhcp=1

did i hear you said he is god fearing? run and run fast. would say niyi.

most naija services are over hyped and over priced. one would have tot paying in advance would reduce the prizes.

Becomrrich:
if you claim that someone who chase his wife on the street and beat her, with the right to bear gun she would just blow up his head.

You forget that in Nigeria too, so women abuse thier men and beat up thier men too. It is vise visa.  Alot of Women are abussive wives too.

there are many program set up to help women  who are abusive to thier husband over here.  Some women are abusive too. 

http://www.google.ca/search?hl=en&ei=EkGoSbmBDo6gMpernM4C&sa=X&oi=spell&resnum=1&ct=result&cd=1&q=abusive+wife&spell=1   

It is vise visa.

i think abuse is what most women in naija do comfortably.

KarmaMod:
Actually It should have been Carribeans since most of them are of a variety of races but I picked Jamaicans cos they're the worst

and who dash them marriage? do they marry?

the few that do have stronger marriage than you know. i cant beleive you of all people said that.

DaPhoenix:
I can stand Jamaicans - Africans, Haitians - African, basically black and black. Yes I know that is wrong but ugh, yeah, I need help. I guess I have to watch some interracial romantic comedies this weekend and clear my head.

it may help

@ david,

99% of asians would never date a black person.
I personally have a very hard time being attracted to an asian, too skinny. Grin I saw one last yr that changed my mind though, she was cute and nice. Why are asian chics so small by the way?

I'm fine with white or hispanic but preferably nigerian to be on the safe side.

some naija would make you more vulnerable than you know. if you like being safe, dont rule out half the human race.

@ all, is this an international version of tribalism?

Fhemmmy:
what you have done cant pass for a mistake, it is intentional lie, and when you make love to your husband at nite, how do you feel?

Fhemmmy:
If heavens wont fall, then, tell him now and let him make his choice

Fhemmmy:
Now i like your last statement, now i can join you and ask God to forgive you.
Well, here is my honest advice to you, here is a better and good approach.
1. Tell him the truth now, but dont break it down without being careful.
First ask him, what u could ave done that he might not forgive you?
Ask him if he knows how much he mean to you and how muh u love him and all that line of crap.
Then, tell him that there is something on your chest and you will like to let out, cos you love him enuf to let him know what has been heavy on your mind.
Tell him, of your past experience and cos you were afraid of losing him, you had to do what you did, but it is better for you to tell him than for him to find out, and tell him.
Tell him, you willing to do whatever to make it up to him and then, act your good self and you will be happy you did.
trust me, he will apreciate you telling him and you will all live together happily ever after.
Good luck

if i may ask what is your interest in this matter? is this girl hiding her kids or is there something beyond what she has declared. most of you here are theives, 419 experts and knowing nigerians even calous killers here you are judging someone for her fathers children. nigerians and hypo- crazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzy!!

mr crackles, how does your imams & mullahs get the money they use for supporting terrorists and the beloved palestinians?

seyibrown:
@Hurtin

It's up to you to what you decide. Whatever anyone says on here will not make up your mind for you. Your heart knows what it wants to do!

However, I am concerned about 'we seem to spend a lot of our hard earn money on family in Nigeria'

If you part ways in 5 years time, how would you feel about having spent a lot of your money taking care of 'his family in Nigeria'?

I hope your marriage works but please love this man with your head screwed on! Let him take care of his family in Nigeria with what is left of what he earns after you have both taken care of your living expenses!

is taking money from your mrs to give your folks in vogue? i have seen this in some other thread recently.

rockhaven:
my sister.nigerian men are polygamous by instict.even nigerian pastors often  change cunts for  health reasons.maybe you dont have he features nigerian men cannot do without such as  a  big ass.
do forgive him and remind him to always use condom.most of the women here are in worse situation but cannot afford to be as honest as you are.
90percent of men on the  queue at nigeria univerisities  female hostels in the evening are married. you are so correct upstairs

stay married to him but use  female condom

hurtin:
I have read everyones reply.
And I'd like to thank everyone for their input.

I've made the decision to stay with my husband.
And put this part of my life behind me, look to the future with my husband, starting our family.

I do love him dearly and deep down I believe it's worth fighting for.
Marriages aren't supposed to be easy, especially a mixed race & mixed culture one! [size=14pt]blessed are you for knowing this at your young age.  
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I'm glad I asked for people views, at least it gave me the chance to hear other people and take opinions on board before making mine.

I feel good about my choice (It's me who will live with it), Now I must forget the past, and look towards the future

you just showed you are a better person than most people here would give you credit for. thanks and pls tell him to be carefull.  no toto is worth dying for and no jezebel is worth loosing a good wife for.

JustGood:
Na because he give you disease wey you take know say he cheat on you. You think say na only one time? mumu

you are just bad. she stands taller than you and your likes.

phil2009:
nothing would happen to u in niger, after deportation, just plan on how to survive overthere, the issue of mariage has gone atleast you would have done that some years back, not know, you've stayed in ireland for four years and you should know the irish very well, the hate nigerians, what i would advise you is that you are not alone on this problem many people also, so plans a head what to do in niger, the immigration will clear u at the airport i means irish immigration possibly they will give u a token for your transportation. forget about mariage for now, someone can still married here as an asylum seeker not failed ones. its only God that can help us, ireland is not in the same class as nigeria but our leaders as ruined that country and there is no possibility that nigeria will sttle in the next ten years, everybody is corrupt, the system is corrupt so my dear, think on how to survive over there, mingle with politicians, u will also jeun soke within a short period.

na true you talk

spikedcylinder:
Ogbele o!
Some Nigerian men will never change abi?

i am not an advocate for silly naija men but i will repeat what i have said before some naija women are as bad as the men. they are all birds of same feather.

maddock:
I have read some of our comments with interest and it amazes me how sad a lot of us are, i mean whats the big deal about the guy cheating on the wife,apologises and stuff. Marriage is something that can either get beautiful or sour but its our prayer that ours should always be beautiful, but because of this westernization bulls**t disvorce is what readily come to some of our twisted minds. I mean for Christ sake we are human and are prune to making mistakes and error and thats the reason the word FORGIVENESS is in the dictionary. We should not always be quick to give advice that will bring about sadness, we were not there when they said i do, so let them continue to do what they said they will do. [size=18pt]A lot of us have not really experienced fantastic relationship thats why we are always quick to destroy what other people have, for them to be sad just like us.[/size]
A real man that loves his wife would not cheat on her but since our John Doe does cheat on her shame on him and his love, but the quarrel, the fights,the making up and the good,good S** is what make any relationship worthwhile. So please HURTIN take your man back and put in  your best in making this marriage work,ok. God luck in this endeavour.

For all you NIGERIAN HATERS take the next available chartered private jet to hell and wait there till hell starts snowing.

the idea of a beautiful, peaceful, forgiving and loving relationships is allien to most nigerians and NLders. everything is fight and fire for fire as if that is all life is about.

[size=18pt]marriage is hard work[/size] like i have always said. stop believing mills and booms and those rubbish films.

forgiveness is the bridge we must all walk one time or the other.

dolani:
to d person whosay virgins don't exists any longer dats a lie. dere are a lot of us out here dat r virgins n plan 2 stay dat way 4 a while.

well done and God bless you richly

spikedcylinder:
It should be locked jor, it is spam.

I thought tpia was female?

female mujahadeens are very few.

van der jo:
@babycool,
you went to cambridge,who knows maybe you read english but no mind my grammar,at least you got the message.

NACK OYINBO

SO good to know. keep being you and dont let no one get you down.

God bless