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Politics / Re: Uk 'cocaine Capital Of Europe' by JJYOU: 11:26am On Jun 25, 2009
think of a 2012 headline titled

Nigeria 'cocaine Capital Of Africa'

we are showing signs the uk was showing just 20yrs ago so why you rejoice dont think it stops here. it is a global headache.  majority of the money you cant trace its source in nigeria are drug money.

back2back:

Gbam.

demand and supply.

Yet they go after supplier and do nothing about the 'demand'
are you by any chance a supplier?  how do they go after the demand and let the supply route open? well wellcome to world without frontiers.  the use of drugs is not only uk problems. we have our own set of junkies including our senators and govs.
JustGood:

They always want to focus on others rather than deal decisively with their own problems. If their own people dont want to use the drugs, the couriers wont be in business?
you know u are too clever to come out with things like this.  this is one vile business.  who advertised to all the alhajas and drug barons to come get gullible innocent minds become jubkies? 
sadly nigerian youths has money to feed this habit now.  many of the smaller african nations are already having drug problems so how is our nigeria going to be immuned?
Family / Re: Ladies: Can You Be A Housewife? by JJYOU: 11:16am On Jun 25, 2009
truly-opal:


I repeat if u cant b there 4 a child, simply dont give birth to it. just go and continue pursuing your career . Anyway not everybody is maternal, but the idea of having half baked motherhood can never be justified. A child that grew up with his mother always around him/her can never be thesame as a child whose mother is absent. simply because our mothers did motherhood/ carreers doesnt automatically make it right. Deep inside our hearts we wish they were there when we were growing up.Moreover the dilemmas a growing up child is facing today is a nightmare compared to when our mothers were bringing us up.Every normal woman wants 2 give her child more than her mother gave to her.
LET THE TRUTH BE TOLD
amen and God bless you for telling it. some people make being human being difficult.
Romance / Re: Which Of Them Should I Marry by JJYOU: 10:54am On Jun 25, 2009
8inch+:

flesh and blood has not revealed this to you
you are so funny. she said truth tho. very soon you will get question like should i eat with my right or left hand? accept i am man or woman, continue saying hi to my mum and dad on NL.
Properties / Re: Urgent Sale! 2 Single Plots Of Land(c Of O) Opp Rhythm 93.7fm,lekki Beach.-18m by JJYOU: 3:01pm On Jun 24, 2009
opetutu:

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opetu long time i heard that word. you are funny
Islam for Muslims / Re: Islam And My Profession - I Need Help by JJYOU: 2:54pm On Jun 24, 2009
Jarus:

LOL at d bolded. grin

But more seriously, all the posts deleted were those completely not having anything to do with the subject here. You may open another thread to ask your question.
Off-topic posts of even Muslims, including those of the poster, were deleted.
how then did you misss this one below?

[size=18pt]"a true follower of jesus [/size]. . ."[quote][/quote]
Romance / Re: A Choice Between The Man I Love, And My Love For My Future Kids! by JJYOU: 2:50pm On Jun 24, 2009
toff one
Music/Radio / Re: Reuben Abati Vs Banky W: A Must Read! by JJYOU: 2:48pm On Jun 24, 2009
rapjunkie:

cosigned

. . . . grin . . .  lol


The older generation should be ashamed of themselves for plunging naija in the mess it is in today and Mr Abati should be ashamed of himself for doing' cut and paste' for most of that silly article.  

I love Nigeria Naija!!


i am not a fan of abati and his type but what most of you here seems to ignore is that nigeria has nothing in place for the drugs, hopelessness and moraly vacum that goes with the lifestyle he is condemning.

take europe as a case study. majority of the price europe is paying today are the result of the stupidity and free love
generation of the 60s and 70s. lets not do america today.

what is in place to bail out nigerians when the bottom cave in? you wish the music and entertainment industry will give you the solutions.
Romance / Re: True Love Does Not Necessary Guarantee Faithfulness(My Story Part 2) by JJYOU: 2:29pm On Jun 24, 2009
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Romance / Re: Everybody Please What Do I Do In This Situation. by JJYOU: 2:27pm On Jun 24, 2009
shinaidowu:

Hi folks,I really need your honest advice even though bashing me is also allowed cos i know i messed up too big time. My story goes like this, i have a friend (female) we were dating even though i am married. But somewhere along the line we decided to call it quits even though we still remained as friends. But the problem is she works in a bank and in the quest to meet her targets she approached me for fixed deposits which i gave her about a milla to fixed for me. But the wahala here is that she fixed just a certain percentage of the money without informing me about this development until i requested for the deposit to be liquidated. Now she is giving me stories when i told her to give me back the balance and that i should hold on. But i have been holding on for quite a long time now and i really need the money.
Now i am in dilenma whether to approach the manager of the bank to sort out this issue which might lead to her having problems and i dont want that. But on the other hand i really need the money to take care of my issues, now am so so confused and i need your candid advice. Please you guys can abuse me but at the end of the day i need honest advices.
i have always said most bankers are hookers by name and nature. sadly i have to advice you take what you have and thank your lucky stars you didnt loose the lot.   what if she brings your mrs into this will it still be worth the money?
whatever you do pls dont tell the bank manager cos that willl result in something else.  this is another naija woman learning how not to be a house wife cos there is always "free easy money" to be made outside the home. most of you say these girls are hookers cos of no job. do people work in the bank for free in naija now?
Business / Re: How Can We Combat Fraud In Nigeria? by JJYOU: 2:14pm On Jun 24, 2009
train all to be criminals
Family / Re: Ladies: Can You Be A Housewife? by JJYOU: 2:11pm On Jun 24, 2009
apreshe8:

I would advise any married woman living in naija to have at least a source of income, if you must be a stay-at-home mom.Been a stay-at-home mom isn't just about twiddling your thumbs doing nothing! Cooking, cleaning, washing etc takes time and energy, granted, but pls have a source of income.  smiley My reason for this is because you might find yourself in a situation whereby, you would need money(for a lot of things, your folks: parents and siblings inclusive might need ur help) and your husband might not be able to afford it at the time. If you have to sell recharge cards at home please do it, cos for all those saying "it is our money", someday the song would change to, why are you wasting money on frivolous things?! wink Men sometimes percieve women as been frivolous, we need to pamper ourselves once a while, get a pedicure, fix a weave and most of all pamper your children!
The proverbs 31 woman wasn't totally a housewife without a source of income and most woman aspire to be that woman!
Lets not raise the argument of the in-laws who think every good thing you do stems from their son's money! Every family gathering is used to scrutinize whether their son's finances haven't been depleted due to your excessive life style(real or imagined), no matter how rich he is!
If as a woman, your family needs your undivided attention then please think of a source of income that would keep you relatively independent. smiley
you make me see why  nigeria will always have polygamy and mostly weak and struggling relationships.  religious societies are supposed to have strong marriages not nigeria where everyone is wired to think or have plan B just incase.  
Theblessed:

Well, if I wasn't right, I challenge you to count the number of people on here who said 'No' to the idea of full-time Housewifery and cookie bakeries then, let us know the result. That way you will know you are backing the loosing horse.  The whole thing boils down to WORK LIFE BALANCE - balancing motherhood with your own self esteem, ok.
u wish NL was a special audience to do opinion polls on
Islam for Muslims / Re: Islam And My Profession - I Need Help by JJYOU: 1:34pm On Jun 24, 2009
Jarus:

Thread re-opened.

Please let's try to, as much as possible, keep to the subject - Islam, halal(permissible) job and gambling!

Thanks.
you think it is okay to delete peoples post becos they ask questions on islam  can i ask why you think it is okay for the OP to say things like "a true follower of jesus . . ." the idiot came here talking about christian gamblers you didnt remember u were supposed to be a moderator did you?

you guys keep blaming those in govt for being dictators and evil but you people are not better cos the likkle power seun dose out to you on NL your true colour comes out
Family / marry a blind man? Uncommon Love by JJYOU: 1:19pm On Jun 24, 2009
[size=18pt]Uncommon love[/size]
‘Is it a crime to be deaf and dumb and still fall in love?’
By TESSY IGOMU
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Abiodun and Bimbo with their son



Like the mythical Romeo and Juliet who remained inseparable even in death, they have vowed to stick together. Be it in the rain or in the sun, this couple have sworn that nothing, not even their persecution by some family members opposed to their union, will change their resolve to stay together till “death do them part.”

Bimbo and Abiodun Oluwa’s story is like a wedlock solemnized by the gods. They are no Siamese twins, but they have become conjoined by fate. Strangely, their love found a formidable front in their disability. The lovebirds are both deaf and dumb.

The love story of the Oluwas makes true the axiom that love knows no bounds. As you watch them communicate through sign language, you cannot but feel a surge of emotions coursing through your veins.
The union has so far been blessed with three lovely children, among them a set of twins. One of the twins, however, passed on recently. He was about a month old.

Bimbo and Abiodun’s story dates back to 2002 when they met and fell in love. Initially, there were no objections to the affair, and the duo soon became the envy of their peers and family members.
The couple insist that their travails were as a result of Bimbo’s stubborn stance against an attempt to lure her into prostitution in Finland by Lola, Abiodun’s elder sister. That, they claim, has further pitched them against some members of the Oluwa family.

The deaf and dumb lovebirds who can hardly defend themselves against external aggressors are reportedly facing threats and harassments from Abiodun’s siblings. If no step is taken soon to forestall the sword of Damocles hanging over the couple’s head, they may soon be thrown out of their apartment at Shogunro Estate, Ogba. Though the estate is presently a subject of litigation between the Lagos State government and the federal government, Abiodun claims his late father who was a retired major bought the flat about 30 years ago from the National Orthopaedic Hospital Igbobi.

He also claims that his father owns many landed properties. But he says his mum and siblings are not giving him his share of the estate because of his state.
“I am not bothered about the properties,” he tells you. “All I want is for them to leave me alone to take care of my family. Nigerians should beg them to leave us where we are in peace. Is it a crime to be deaf and dumb and fall in love”, he asks.

According to Abiodun, the only antidote to his family’s fury is for Bimbo to walk away from his- life forever. “But can the cord of love be easily severed,” he asks.
Abiodun Oluwa, who says he’s from the Oluwa royal family of Lagos, tells Daily Sun that their problem commenced gradually in 2003 when he was invited to Finland by his elder sister, Lola, a staff of Siemens. He disclosed that after arriving Finland, a letter of invitation was sent to Bimbo on his insistence. Abiodun noted that though he and Bimbo had their engagement ceremony before he left the country, the money he later sent home to enable both families legalise the union was seized by his mother, Faidat Oluwa.

The graduate of Electrical Engineering from Technical College, Yaba, revealed that when his wife arrived in Finland, his sister wanted her to go into prostitution, but she vehemently refused. According to him, when his wife got pregnant, his sister, who all the while had ulterior motives, allegedly destroyed the pregnancy without their consent.

He explained that after every effort to frustrate them failed, the death of his father in 2004 became a virile platform for his family to execute another plan to forcefully separate them for good.
He recounted that his sister travelled with Bimbo to Nigeria to bury his father but returned without her.
After every effort to inquire about his wife’s whereabouts from Lola failed, he reportedly set out on his own to re-establish contact with her.

This move, he noted, did not go down well with Lola. “She immediately sent me to live with another of our sisters in Spain,” he says.
While in Spain, his continued correspondence with his wife in Nigeria again earned him his sister’s anger. “She subsequently threw me out at the peak of winter. I was arrested by the Spanish authorities and detained as an illegal immigrant.”

Abiodun revealed that during his incarceration, his disability turned out to be a great disadvantage because he could not really explain himself to the Spanish police. It was at this point that he decided to contact his father in-law, Mr. Sunday Olaitan who reportedly helped him with vital documents which proved that he entered Spain legally.

Mr. Olaitan corroborates Abiodun’s words. He tells Daily Sun that when he realised that his son-in-law was in trouble, he informed the mother who swore that Abiodun would be left to rot in Spanish in jail since has refused to leave Bimbo.
“Without Abiodun’s people, I was able to send the documents he requested through courier,” he explains.

According to him, he wept like a baby the day Abiodun arrived in his house looking like a mad man with dishevelled hair, tattered clothes and overgrown beards.
“The first thing he communicated to me was, he wanted to know where his wife was. He later narrated to me how he was deported to Niger Republic by the Spanish authorities, beaten into a pulp and robbed of everything he had, including his travelling documents.”
The couple’s ability to start their relationship afresh was allegedly seen by some members of the husband’s family as an affront.

According to Abiodun, immediately they moved into one of his father’s apartment in Block 10, Flat 12, LSDPC Housing Estate, Ogba, his mother came with a truck to remove everything in the house.
“She did not even leave a broom for me and my pregnant wife, even though she knew that I had nothing yet”, writes Abiodun. “When my wife became pregnant with our twins, my mother forcefully sublet two of the three rooms in the apartment, leaving us with the smallest room. She has been coming with different people threatening to throw us out of the house. She is not bothered about her new grandson that is barely two months old.”

Abiodun who says they have been living from hand to mouth gives a graphic description of how the woman rejected by his family has been the one feeding him and their children.
“She has been feeding the family from the little she makes from her hairdressing business. It is not as if I am lazy but every effort I make to do something good is destroyed by my mother. My wife is a professional hairdresser and makeup artist. I thank God for giving her to me. She has stood by me. Her advice has saved me many times from trouble and even death”, he scribbles.

“The type of ill treatment given to this couple even though they are disabled should not come from their blood not to even talk of a mother,” interjects Bimbo’s dad, Mr. Olaitan. “I have been responsible for their upkeep. When Babalola, their first son was born with jaundice and was discharging blood through the nose, no family member came to help them. I carried the responsibility. It is what my daughter has been subjected to that gives me pain.

“Bimbo was not born with this disability. When she was three years old, she passed out one day while playing with her friends outside the house. She was rushed to the hospital where she was given an injection. She remained unconscious for two weeks. After regaining consciousness, she could no longer talk, walk or hear. We had to teach her how to walk again. That was how she became deaf and dumb.”
He then launches into an account of his daughter’s ill treatment in Finland.

“Bimbo is just 30 years old, but she has been made to face tough challenges. She has been cheated out of her rights by people that should protect her. She was denied all her entitlements in Finland. Even the money Abiodun earned was not given to him.”

According to Bimbo’s father, in the letter of invitation sent to Nigeria by the Embassy of Finland, Lola applied for Bimbo’s residency as a Child Help and her wages should have been 202 Euros per week.
Mr. Olaitan notes that the way his daughter was shabbily treated during her father-in-law’s burial made him realise that things had snowballed out of control.

“During the burial, family members and grandchildren were told to come out for a group photograph. As my daughter tried to join them, Lola, Biodun’s elder sister in Finland pushed her away. My family members were not happy but we decided to keep quiet. At the end of the day, they travelled back without her. Up till this moment, none of them have bothered to tell me why they brought her back home. I have advised my daughter to leave Abiodun alone but she said that would be over her dead body. The situation is beyond me.”

As he speaks, Bimbo walks in quietly, feeding the surviving twin. “All the money I worked for in 11 months was not given to me. I was not treated well abroad,” she scribbles on a sheet of paper.
So why does Abiodun still cling to Bimbo in spite of his family’s persecution, Daily Sun asks. The couple exchange a glance. Abiodun then types a message on his mobile phone and passes it to the reporter.
“My mother wants me to marry somebody they can manipulate easily but I found a mate in Bimbo. It is God that gave Bimbo to me and He is the only one that can take her away. She is all I have. Everyman has his own woman, mine is this woman who has given me beautiful children.”

Unless a miracle happens, this hapless couple might lose the only home they have to aggrieved family members with their two kids. They are however appealing to Nigerians to intervene and save their young family. Abiodun needs a job urgently just as Bimbo needs money to set up her own salon. They also need prayers to survive the storm presently gathering against their union.
Attempts by Daily Sun to get in touch with Abiodun’s mum and siblings were unfruitful.

Family / Re: Must I Marry Her Because Of Pregnancy? by JJYOU: 1:14pm On Jun 24, 2009
wbb
Romance / Re: Prostitutes Are Better Than : by JJYOU: 12:50pm On Jun 24, 2009
tinkwicely:

Well am sorry to post this but it is the truth, i have come to realise that Prostitutes are far better than some of of the ladies i don't want to say all,

1. Imagine your have a girl that you love so much and care about, doing all your possible best to make her happy, even if it cost you starving, still this ladies will still leave the guy and start messing around, because of money. its not just fair, so i take almost all girls to be prostitute, please don't crucify me, why i said so is because any girl that is dating more than one guy is a prostitute, and to be sincere, 99% of Ladies in Nigeria have more than guy so can any body tell me what is the different between them and prostitute, Please not guys it is better to be making love with a prostitute than , because u will surely protect your self. but you can making loving with your girl without protecting you self believe that you the only one, it is very risky.

2. A prostitute can never come to tell you that she is pregnant, but some of the ladies mess around even than prostitutes, and when they get pregnant, they will find someone to take up the responsibility of a bastard!
na ashewo u dey glorify so. well God help you
Politics / Re: Nigerian Mfg Companies Relocate To Ghana by JJYOU: 12:34pm On Jun 24, 2009
Aloy.Emeka:

Ghana does not have a steady power supply yet.
it is about security not light. didnt someone say there is an airline crew that sleep over in ghana now. why invest in a place everyone think it is their God given right to steal or take by force what they didnt work for? businesses go where there is security for personel and goods
Romance / Re: My Best Friends Fiancee Is Cheating? by JJYOU: 12:27pm On Jun 24, 2009
luxoire:

i don't agree - i would report any body i know who is cheating - and that is because i expect ppl to tell me when they see my partner cheating - nothing is hidden under the sun so for me the earlir i know the better - when i tell you, what you decide to do with the info is up to you

but i wouldn't report assumptions i need concrete evidence and proof before getitng involved

but then thats me wink smiley
you did right. i wont trust a "marketer with a bank" with a horse let alone human being in a hotel. some people never learn a cheater is a possible clever liar too
Car Talk / Re: The Official Audi B5 RS4 Avant Thread! by JJYOU: 9:57am On Jun 24, 2009
siena, this one is audi abuse or flooding.
Politics / Re: Ibb Grooms Son For Governor - Gov Mua’zu’s Aide by JJYOU: 9:42am On Jun 24, 2009
nigeria deserves another babangida dont you think?
Family / Re: Ladies: Can You Be A Housewife? by JJYOU: 9:39am On Jun 24, 2009
NEVER!!!!

I'm a humanbeing, I deserve a good life and fulfillment.I can't just sit at
home like a ninny just because my hubby says so.Where was he when
my parents were toiling day and night just to ensure that I am educated?
If I were not, he wouldn't even consider me as good enough for his wife.

Tell me, what's the use of a formal education, if I wanted to end up a
fulltime housewife? why bother myself studying all these years if
I wanted to end up sitting at home all day, waiting for Oga to come.
What a boring lifestyle, quite unfulfilling.Over my dead body.

Though my I love my family, I can never sacrifice my career.There's a plcae
for the family, there's another for career.The children would all leave me for
good, so I have to make myself happy.
very sad. is the money you make worth the life you lead?
chaircover:

People seem to generalise housewives as being totally dependent on their husbands financially and wasting their education.

Not always true and one can be a housewife and still run a successful business from home.

I personally dont like the ides of a woman being totally dependent on a man even if he was the richest man on earth. It diminishes the woman's self esteem and the husband gradually loses respect for her. It also sends a wrong message to the children who grow up thinking that women are supposed to be kept.
maybe i cant understand how it diminishes women but how did you work out
the husband gradually loses respect for her?
. do men also disrespect wives when the "money making machine" fall sick or cant work?.

i know we are products of money at all cost society but i find some arguments on this thread sad.
SeanT21:

A lady with a career can also do that. Stop making lame excuses!! wink


who says a lady without career can be what she wants to be?  why must you think you have a monopoly of wisdom on this matter?  working and doing whatever you want may suit you but not some other people why cant you let them be?  this is supposed to be seunland
JustGood:

So much for the inexperience displayed on here.

Please come back tell us THE TRUTH about it when you get married.
you know i will gladly give you my granny for marriage for this.
Romance / Re: What Do Women Prefer- Looks Or Money by JJYOU: 8:47am On Jun 24, 2009
deepword:

What do women prefer- Looks or money? If you ask some men around you about what they desire in women, good looks may come out as a common answer. What about women? Does a good-looking man attract women or they are more attracted by a man having more money and a man with ambitions? Please ask some women and you will be surprised to know that even very good looking women are not necessarily looking for a partner with great looks, if he has no money. Women desire men with money, power and ambitions more than looks.
na good look dem go take maintain their good look abi na good look dem go chop?
~Sissy~:

money jor. abi na good looks i go chop? or pay the bills with? keep maself neat etc?
exactly
Family / Re: Why Do Girls Date Married Men by JJYOU: 1:35pm On Jun 23, 2009
mrsb:

A poster said it is the man's fault for succumbing. Whilst I agree, I also hold the chicks responsible - they lay themselves on a plate (literally) and it makes it hard for even the very best man to keep on resisting. I've seen the girls in action and they are like vultures, they don't give up and they are shameless in their behaviour.
na true you talk. very sad
Family / Re: Ladies: Can You Be A Housewife? by JJYOU: 1:16pm On Jun 23, 2009
Theblessed:

[b] Wish Beyonce' INDEPENDENT WOMAN could hammer into the chicken brains of our housewifery sister for life. No intelligent, ambitious, confident woman with high self esteem and knowing exactly where she's going and where she wants to be in this day in age, would want to sit around at home prepare cookies, eat babies leftovers and tidy up afterwards, no!  There's nothing wrong in being married and having a career or even work part-time.  It gives you a sense of SELF/RESPECT.   Even men themselves would tell you, they don't like DEPENDENT women as they want their women to have a life and the fact that, you are contributing into the family money pot would accord you greater respect from both your husband, the inlaws and your social circle.  

Am I harsh on these ladies?  Absolutely! Someone on here said it's 'Choice', and I am saying no - it's has alot to do with self esteem, laziness, lack of ambition, the values they were brought up with, their social circle etc - otherwise why would an intelligent and educated woman end up in the home as a domestic slave even if her husband is BILL GATES.  In fact, Bill Gates wife is a very busy woman - doing something all the time e.g. her/her husband's charity work - check her schedule!!

I'm only sorry for the men that hooked up with these layabouts but then, men don't realise the quality of women they ended up with until after the honey moon and first baby by then, skool don dismiss.   Personally, in this situation I can only forgive those of them who could not read or write (the illitrates) but many of them are quite industrious - striving to set up small businesses of their own thus showing not only ambition but dignity however, their educated counterparts hide behind motherhood  - an excuse for dependency mentality.  Sorry for their husbands, though. [/b]
mmmmmmmmmmm u wish u waz right.
Secretz:

lol, good thread!  wink

Ok, now I'm 50/50 on this matter. As far as I'm concerned there has to be a balance. I feel that I myself am well educated, I also have a lot of work experience and have been working too since 16. I am very ambitious and have many goals for the future . . . . ,
Now If my hubby either came into  a lot of money or got a real good job and ASKED me to be a housewife, I would agree, with some conditions:

1. I am able to start my own business (MY BUSINESS)
2. I work part time in my business (I would have managers, supervisors etc)
3. ^^^^ This would happen when the kids are at school, as it enables me to utilise my qualifications, skills and experience to achieve my goals.

If my husband could look after the whole family, pay all the bills etc, then let him (whilst he is doing this, I will be saving my own money  grin  ), why should I continue to work for someone else when I can have others working for me, whilst I look after my family and be  a business woman at the same time.

If my husband decides to mess off, would the business and all the profits not be mine? Ladies, think about it. . . .
There are 2 different types of housewives, there are those who are, because they have no choice (as in no qulifications, skills and experience to get a good job) and there are those who are the opposite of that. They use their brain to make the best of the situation.

Since I am a teacher (I work school hours, and get all HOLIDAYS off PAID!!), there isn't much need for me to be a housewife. I'm already set  tongue    tongue   tongue

Don't jealous me. . .   kiss


always nice to hear the sensible minority on matters like this. some people cant believe one size dont fit all. it is money and money alone that decides everything.
truly-opal:

@ poster

Why are women so hard on themselves, either we like it or not the mental and psychological network of a woman is diffrent from that of a man. If you aint willing to take care of you family , why start one in the first place. All the ladies making noise abt balancin work and family definately aint reffering to nigerian setup, ypu leave for work at 6:00 and get back by 9:00, u be witch 2 be able to assist ur kids with home work, cook a lovely meal for ur man and have extra strenght to give him some TLC,
My kids (when i eventually hav them) are my No. 1 investment. no amount of money carreer i have will ever be compared in importance to them. O.K agreed , the husband may die, well, i have seen many carreer women that toiled for years and saved money together with hubby and buy joint properties with him, only for hubby 2 die and his relatives claiming everything. Ehen , the husband can desert you , we are all living in a world of uncertainity, thousands of people are dissmissed from there jobs, owing to 1 reform or the other, or simply becos the new boss wants 2 provide space for his towns ppl in the office.
My suggesstion is;
1) if my husbands salary is very unimpressive, i will definately contribute. By getting a job that allows me to appreciate my family. such as teaching or weekend jobs.
2) if my husband earns reasonably well, i will stay at home and be a STAY AT HOME MOM, take 100% care of my kids, wats d point of d cash their daddy is making if they see the faces of strangers mare than their parents.NAHHHH. though a stay at home mom needs side attractions to keep her brain active, my hubby will give me some cash to invest in WISELY. makin me my own boss at my own pace.
3) If i feel i must work to justify my certificates, i will shelve kids and possibly marriage until i reach a gud carreer position and have earned mega bucks.Then i will smartly invest my money, retire, get married and have kids ( all is possible with technology) and enjoy my money, hubby and kids.
THIS LIFE IS TO BE ENJOYED, NOT TO BE ENDURED
mostly agree. always so good to hear common sence on these matters
Family / Re: Where And How To Meet Guys Ready 4 Marriage by JJYOU: 12:42pm On Jun 23, 2009
Nezed:

Theolar, am so touched by ur honesty,
U asked two simple questions:

1. Where to meet guys
ans: Everywhere

2. How to meet them
ans: Exude qualities that are attractive and 'if' you dont have them, learn them,

Just as an after thought, i think u may want to know 'REAL TRUTH' better,
I perceive something, am serious!
nezed match making services.

if you come across any 16 -24 preferably moslem from maroko or ajegunle area of lagos dont forget lagosboy pls. she must not be more than 5ft.
small reward may be available.
Religion / Re: Now Bankrupt Evander Holyfield Paid His Tithes But Forgot About His Mortage by JJYOU: 12:00pm On Jun 23, 2009
KunleOshob:

Paying tithes does NOT work under any circumstances even if you are the holiest man on planet earth cause God does not have a tithe covenant with us and God did not ask us to tithe contrary to what those using his name to extort money from you preach to you. The annoying thing is that as in all cases when tithing fails[as it always does] pastors would come up with excuses that may be becos you are still sinning or maybe you are not tithing faithfully enough or maybe you are not tithing from gifts and extra income you make apart from your salary, sometimes i wonder if we actually read the same bible cause all these jargon are clearly unscriptural. Even the malachi 3:10 they quote from and twist to support tithing does not give all those clauses or conditions under which tithing would work.
yea yea. right. like yours have the hating and bad belle covenant with you. go take your tablets idiot.
Politics / Re: Oshiomhole Appoints Ex-Convict As Edo State Tax Collector General by JJYOU: 11:51am On Jun 23, 2009
Comrade Governor Adams Oshiomhole of Edo State (left), with Senator Prof. Oserheimen Osunbor, former Governor of Edo State during the Funeral Service of Late Rev. Canon Simeon Osariere Adodo, father of Comrade Didi Adodo, Commissioner for Lands, Survey and Housing, Edo State at St. Paul Anglican Church, Iruekpen-Ekpoma. Photo: Lucky agie.

Business / Lagos Imposes Tax On Food Consumption, Services by JJYOU: 11:45am On Jun 23, 2009
[size=18pt] Lagos imposes tax on food consumption, services[/size]

Kunle Awosiyan, Lagos- 23.06.2009

LAGOS State Government, on Monday, signed into law a bill to impose tax on food consumption and services at hotels, restaurants and event places.

With this, anybody who buys consumable goods or gets service at hotel and restaurant, pays five per cent of the purchase or the service.

According to the Special Adviser to the Governor on Legislative and Political Powers Bureau, Mr. Abdulkareem Abdullateef, the hotels include, a motel, guest house, apartment for short-time letting, while event centres include; hall, auditorium and open spaces and all other places dedicated as public.

Presenting the bill for signing, Abdullateef said that defaulter would be liable to two years imprisonment or N2 million option of fine or both.

According to him, managements of the hotels and restaurants had been appointed as agents to collect the taxes, while the Lagos Internal Revenue Service would be in charge of the administration of the law.

Abdullateef stated that the law stipulated that every hotel and restaurant must register with the Lagos Internal Revenue Service to effectively implement the law.

He stated that government would begin to operate the law 30 days from when it was signed, calling on all to cooperate with the government.

To address issue of double taxation, the special adviser said that the hotel and other affected restaurants had been exempted from sales tax in the state.

“It’s not going to be business as usual, before any government ministry, agency or local government officials can enter into any contractual relationship with any hotel, restaurant, event centre, there is a condition precedence and it is that such an event centre must produce an evidence of registration with LIRS,” he said. http://www.tribune.com.ng/23062009/news/news16.html

does this include mama suru bukar too?
Romance / Re: My Fiancee Want To Travel Abroad For Greener Pastures,should I Allow Her To Go? by JJYOU: 11:43am On Jun 23, 2009
justwise:

Like u were quick to notice it, i mentioned it 4 a reason, they got a way of doing things, which our 9ja bro/sis 'may' not do
u definately wear your name wisely. i will say dont have. sadly not even the religious ones.
Family / Re: Im Married But In Love With Another Man by JJYOU: 11:34am On Jun 23, 2009
Berit:

well, everything i wrote down here is the truth, no reason to lie,

to be honest, i never wanted to marry, when i was small ive seen the "marriage" of my own parents and that was horrible, so, i said i never wanted to marry, and i dont really know y i married, its like cuz he wanted so i wanted to make him happy and by that time we already had one child together, maybe he also put me under pressure,but i didnt realize,

its not that easy to let the other guy go, cuz hes givin me what im missin for such a long time and some things i never had in this marriage,

im tryin, im talkin, to my husband, and i just dont know, ill try it again this time around, and i mean, our children on some days they dont even see their father, cuz hes also travellin on some weekends, to "make money", so, im also alone at least on 2 weekends in a month, and ill get maybe one call from him durin that time, for 5mins,

i mean, maybe all his "excuses" and "resons" hes givin to me, might be the truth, but sometimes it sounds weird.
do u get to see the colour of the money he is allegedly making too?
Family / Re: Where And How To Meet Guys Ready 4 Marriage by JJYOU: 11:18am On Jun 23, 2009
Lagosboy:

I beleieve every guy within that age bracket should be ready for marriage otherwise there is a problem. Why not make an ad on nairalist you might get better responses.
you wont get pro-active now. dey there dey ask kwersions as if na nairalist she want eat.
make i ask my own which number you dey now?

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