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Forget what you hear on media. Love your daughter and pet her.

Stop touching her privates tho. One thing I do for my younger ones is to tell them to wash their bum bum themselves. Either male or female, when it gets to that part, I give them the sponge.

VerifiedStalin:
What are these people and countries afraid of? It's as if many of these people are closet gay but don't want the rest of the world to know, so they overcompensate. Like, I'm not gay, but that doesn't mean I hate gay people. The way they choose to live their lives has no influence on me. Seriously, why do people care so much??

I hate it when LGBT people use this kind of argument. So they ban gay movie because they are closet gay?

It's like saying you secretly love something you openly hate. It doesn't make sense.

It's their country, their choice. Americans and Europeans are not saint too.

jkuvira:
You're talking as if we do not lead successful lifes and lifestyles. It's not our fault you cannot comprehend a quiet mind in the midst of chaos. How about your own default setting, has it sent you to an unsatisfactory life. Why should you assume the same for introverts. Just live your life and let us live ours.

Speak for yourself. A lot of comments here are "help me" comments and the senior introverts here just tell them to be themselves mostly.

People change when they don't like the life they live. Extroverts, introverts, ambiverts and whatever vert. But most of you here are so scared of change that you hardly advice others to consider change.

Anyways, you people are keyboard warriors sha. You'd rather attack than introspect.

Many of you here are just wasting your lives.

The fact that you came with a default settings does not mean you have to live with it for the rest of your life.

What am I doing here?

Remag666:
I swr to Christ almighty you are the one who needs help.
Nobody is forced to become abobaku.
It's a very ancient and sacred practice which can be traced to the reign of Egyptian Pharaohs.

I come from a royal family btw so I do not want it abolished

If you like, trace it to heaven.

Nobody is forced but why have the position? Why not change it to abobaye?

Your royalty has beclouded your judgment.

Abobaku is a stupid tradition. It makes no sense. It adds no value to the king or his kingdom.

You are a father of 4 but the oldest is 9. 9!!!

All these on top POS business.


Arhhhhh!!!

anayolity:
It makes me wonder where Karma comes in sometimes

Karma isn't real.

The best thing to do in case of false accusation in Nigeria is to go to juju. Leave Jesus for one side, enter shrine.

Athiest might say it doesn't work but that's not the point, people fear juju more than Jesus and Mohammad combined and that's enough.

Just tell the person they will die in 7 days if they don't confess, it works especially with little kids.

In this life, have madness!

That's all I have to say.

Remag666:
I'm also Yoruba and I find it very cool

Then you need help.

Enceladus:
Mass killing of twins was never a thing in our culture. It's a lie perpetrated by the British to justify colonization to their citizens. There are notable people that are twins in our history. An Alaafin was a twin for example.

Slave trade also was never part of our tradition. Some corrupt powerful individuals sold slaves they bought from Hausas and the ones they captured from modern day Benin Republic. The whole Yoruba people hated it, and you can't even sell any Oyo person to slavery. Slave trade was never a tradition.

...and you don't think Alaafin could have been a twin then because he was from a powerful background where the law does not apply.

My point remains, Abobaku is a stupid tradition. It should be abolished.

Remag666:
It's a tradition as old as the country so whether it makes sense to some people or not it will never be stopped

I'm very sure they said same thing about killing of twins and slave trade.

I am Yoruba and it's a foolish tradition.

Remag666:
Why

Like I typed, it makes no sense.

This Abobaku thing makes no sense. It should be abolished.

GEJ coming out from APC will be the joker PDP will play.

If this becomes a reality, I give testimony in church and roll before the congregation.

mccloud224:
The last two sentences is the best advice (and defense) a man has in this wicked world where the lies of one female surpasses the truth of ten men.,

I dated a girl briefly some years ago. There was this guy who was in our clique then, he was always with this girl. Would even go to her house from time to time.

Meanwhile, this girl had a roommate that's also my friend. Me and this my girl started dating and I would go to her house from time to time, sometimes I'd meet this same guy and even leave him there. I never even saw him as a threat.

Then one day I visited my girl and she was narrating how someone stole money from her bag and also tied some of her foodstuffs, the follow wanted to abscond with the food but the mission was not successful.

The day the incident happened, it was me, her and the guy that was at her place. All through the time we were with each other, even when she went out to buy something I still followed her with my church mind. Then her friend cut in and said she already told her that I was not the thief that it was the other guy. My brother, right there in my mind, I prayed for this her friend. I don't even know how I will start narrating how I didn't take her money.

This her friend said what she said without evidence o and some days later, we discovered that this guy was the thief. In fact, some of our friends came out to share stories of how this guy stole one thing or the other from them. Before we left that area, this same guy attempted rape on a girl that almost put my friend in trouble.

Even if you live in a hole, you might come out tomorrow and someone will accuse of rape, it's just best to surround yourself with people that can vouch for you no matter what.

My own case wasn't rape accusation tho. I guess it still counts. Sorry for the long post.

No be today.

Let's just be careful. If you think this kind of case too much, you'd never have a girlfriend.

It's best to just have people on your side. People that can vouch for you no matter what.

Yes. But it's not spiritual.

The cost of having sex these days is high. Even if you are married.

Kriss216:
When the maid always play the role of the wife, what do you expect?

A maid will cook for your husband
Sweep and clean the house
Wash his clothes
Dish his meals
Clean his toilet
Clean his shoes
Attend to his sexual needs in marvelous ways


While you sit and give orders like Minister of domestic affairs.


Men are smart. We know where our heart belongs. No sane man will leave a caring hardworking loving good cook and sensible woman for a lazy spoilt brat of a wife!

Dear men, don't allow your wife stop you from finding the love of your life.

Ahhh!

Ruby doesn't have enough job. Stick with react.

Good for Super Story.

Omo!

As life no really balance, this lady could leave the man and still get someone better.

ABORT THE BABY!!!


You will be doing yourself, the father and most importantly the kid a whole lot of good by aborting it.

I'm sure this guy isn't even option B. Maybe D or so.

phemmyfour:
Argue with yourself means that your statement is invalid. Your definition of "a lot" is probably 5%

You didn't know what was going on in the street when you were young.

My mum's friend, a vice principal and widow has only 3 children.

2 girls, one boy.

The oldest girl is 24 and they both live off their boyfriends. This woman doesn't pay rent but she deliberately suffers her children for reasons I don't understand.

She always refers her children to their boyfriends, this woman is a member of MFM, a church you can't enter with spaghetti top.

My point is, a lot of us are not psychologically fit to parent more than one child at most. It's not even about the finance.

phemmyfour:
Argue with yourself

"speak for yourself" means that don't say we were never bold enough to practice it.

Say, I was never bold enough to practice it.

A lot of people practiced it.


Everything is not fight, shey you get.

phemmyfour:
We were never bold enough to practice them. A lot were going through our minds but we were never bold enough to practice them

Speak for yourself.

The problem with elders is that they always try to form saint because of their old age, yet these were the same people who did worse while they were younger.

They are still the ones who spoilt our girls in the name of sugar daddies.

My married HOD gave a similar advice like this but he was always after girls he told us to desist from.

Dear elders, stop being hypocritical.

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