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Is it right for you to poke nose into how other couples choose to live their life?
Learn to mind your business

Why do you want to get married without a means of income? Irrespective of ur families view, I will never advise a woman to get hitched without her own source of income. it's very important especially when you barely know this man

OK , Oga we haff hear. U r right and we are wrong. She's cheating on u with someone who has a bigger, fatter bazuka!!!
You can't be poking and scratching for 5 days of "rampage" without satisfying her so forgive her for getting someone to finish the job.....hope u haff belleful now?

U need to learn to spend more time communicating wt your wife than strangers on the internet. You hv put so much of your personal biz online that it beats me a woman actually found you worthy to call a husband.

You behave like a boy child....so insecure it's unbelievable.
And btw, you don't need to go to a gym got kegel exercises. It's something you do on your day to day activities just like breathing in except u r breathing in certain muscles to tone.

Fact is you have a small dock than ur wife was used to, hence u resorted 2 wearing a plastic bigger dock....u hv now thrown that away and you are complaining.....everyone does different things 2 get their freak on behind the walls of their bedrooms, maturity is knowing how much of that u share outside...

Only u, u don't trust ur wife /she's speaking 2 men/she doesn't stay in her creche/she goes out without telling u even when u not home/ur dock is small for her....mtsheww. .....I tire for all these boys abeg

Madam poster you clearly love money and comfort more than your life. You have been given ample advice on this forum yet you choose to ignore it.

I ask you, what's the difference between your life NOW and that of a widow/divorcee/single mother?

What makes you think you can't go it alone? If your hubby drops dead today will your life come to a standstill?

What if he buys you the machine and it packs up 3 months after, will you go running back to him or you will die?

What others consider as "dealbreakers" in marriage, isn't for you hence u still remain in a violent environment.

I won't waste further time with you on this issue because you are clearly happy with your situation

why should a man notify his wife that there is a busy body neigbour around? Are you that important to their family dynamics that his wife should interrupt what she's doing or is she an object that is beckoned upon to be showcased around guests on arrival?

Every home is different based on dynamics and personalities

There are men who come home and cook during weekdays whilst wifey cooks weekends because it SUITS THEM
There are also men who would never lift a finger to clean up after themselves/pamper their baby if they cry/pick the kids when they fall because its their personality and their wife adapts to it because its NOT A DEALBREAKER for her

Nigerians really need to learn to mind their business because when couples start opening up to tell you things their spouses do for them and vice versa, ,you ll appreciate the individuality and differences of personalities and then perhaps gain the understanding that marriage isnt black or white.

waiting for the videos abeg - i hope the styles were good ooh and anointing flowed and was released mightily

Too much watching bbn whilst sipping Daura kunu is the causer

If he's such a prince charming someone should hv snapped him off since without the need for his family auctioning him on FB

The irony!!! When an Edo man accuses other tribes of infidelity , lacking carriage and elegance

Oga you have been given very valuable advise here

Wear red pyant and make sure its lacey and see through
Watch prayer room
Pray for your wife and dont shout/confront her otherwise you will end up pushing her into the arms of a strange man
Dont listen to all these small boys on NL before they break your home
Remember marriage is for better for worse, many men have passed through these phase and now have their wives heart back
Continue to shower her with love and care
Take her shopping
If you are fat, loose weight please, shower regularly, cook meals for the home spontaneuously, help out with the house works
Show her with alot of TLC, why you are better than anyother distractions out there
Dont relent with these things, it may take months or even years but dont worry or relent oo

So he's been violent repeatedly to his wife and he expects her to remain with him because he sponsored her education? Was he forced? Mtshewww. Good on the woman for choosing to stay alive and leaving

If he looses BBN and the woman tomorrow moves on to another man/relationship/marriage/partnership, world people will start complaining that she left him cos he's broke!! they wont remember its the things he did to her leading upto that caused the break up

Where is his family coming out to condemn the actions of their son?
Where are the well meaning family and friends condemning his actions?
Where is his Pastor and "respected" elder spokesperson openly condemning his actions?

Oh, they are no where to be found because hes a man, she should chop shit and endure!! But God helps the woman pack herself and bounce off, all the advisers brigade will come out in full force

Anyway, hunger de catch me, make i go warm moin moin chop abeg

And who's a husband and a baby daddy and a fxukboy/mummy's boy?

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Come bk in 4yrs after 3kids + marriage and several DV episodes to cry that ur hubby is cheating on u and u want out but u don't know what to do.

God has shown you the dude is an unrepentant cheat!! He doesn't even care for u as he left u to sleep OUTSIDE - U could have been killed by ritualists, raped etc Do u even value your life?

Instead of u to thank God for the signs he has shown u pre- wedding u are instead focused on the length of time u "invested" in a dead end relationship.


Which doctor said you cant abort a pregnancy? and btw how do you know you are 2wks pregnant? Person no de sabi say dem carry till atleast 4wks unless you are hoping your prince charming will pity you and keep you in your long suffering bliss because of belle

5th disowned sibling? Be like say ur papa born una plenty

U were warned severally barely 4 months ago yet u choose to marry.....do as u wish pls and update us with the Season 3 of ur life ....aftermath

Baba dem say u no sick naa....

what are your mortgage facilities like please

pimper24:
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Is the 3bed still available? and can you post clearer pictures of the flat

do you have any 2 or 3 bed for sale anywhere within abuja?

which serious being goes on Jeremy Kyle Show?

You are making 70k a month through blogging and expect your sister to fund your lifestyle? Your sense of entitlement is mind boggling

That your sis works in Diamond bank dont mean she is been paid well. I have a friend who is a Uni grad and has worked in a bank on for over 3 years on less than your 70k a month.

Your sis may be a contract staff - she could infact be constantly stiffed by customers hence has to pay back to balance the books at the end of day hence may actually never earn enough monthly to cover her basics

Tsoye:
My baby is almost will be 10months old this month.

But ur post above says your baby is 7 months and few hours after you say he is 10 months....which is it?
Learn to be honest when seeking help...if u are unable to be honest and open due to certain factors, just say 'I am unable to answer ur question'

Tsoye:
I once requested for financial assistance from this forum weeks ago. But i was labelled a scammer because I denied a 2nd NL acc.


https://www.nairaland.com/3460244/soul-suffers-silently/4

Please, I'm available for any domestic jobs available.
Housecleaner, Live-out cook, Live-out Nanny,etc.

Note: I have a 7months old son and I have no where to drop him. I therefore plead with anyone intending to offer me a job to allow me bring him along. I desperately need this job to support my family.
Thanks.

But u were offered a job as a nanny on that thread which you refused so what makes it different this time?

U don't trust ur wife
U started been mean and harsh to her just based on ur insecurities ...without any proof
U stopped loving and became cold/emotionally withdrawn without communicating to ur wife
U allowed the devil whom ur wife had told u was nearby into ur home
U don't even know for a fact she was pregnant...often times women experience missed periods for months due to several reasons from stress/hormonal changes etc and u just assume she was cheating on u?
Ur insecurity led you to hit ur wife and become violent to her yet u reported ur wife to ur family that she has stopped been loving to u after bn physically violent.
When will men learn that women are emotional beings? U now have it in ur head that ur wife wants to kill u simply because an ex toaster is in the picture?
U need to change and start showing ur wife love and attention cos it's very rare for a happy woman to be content with posting miles away from their marital home if she is been shown love, attention and peace in the home.

Oga you need to plan your life within your means rather than based on societal expectations
you lost your job 2 years ago - yet a year after loosing your lucrative job, you got wifey pregnant and now have an extra mouth to feed.
Please and please, go on long term contraceptive with your wife to avoid stories that touch the anus....everyone is tightning their belts and expenses now because the Change govt you people voted for have not even drafted a plan to get the country out of recession - they are relying on their different gods to take them out of recession.
Consider starting a biz for your wife like catering....cooking and selling in plastics to offices around her...you dont need a huge capital for that - She could just focus on jollof rice or just moin moin
Or you could use your car for cab/taxi at night to earn extra income till your FG promotion come.

are you referring to the same father in law who's daughter you have been serially cheating on? Having unsafe banging with random chicks and ex's about?
His daughter isnt good enough for you to be loyal to despite exchanging marital vows but his money is good enough for you ko?

so you and your friend thinks the guy's mum would love you more than your parents abi? Tomorrow when they start maltreating you and he goes off and marries and settles with some other lady you will come and start crying wolf

You are carting yourself to a boyfriend's mothers house as a maid or what? Did anyone come and pay bride price on your head?
How do you reason sef? So you want to remain with a man who relies on his mum to prevail on him to stick with you rather than a man that chooses you because of his feelings for you

Dont come and complain in a few months that your "MIL" controls your "husband" "baby daddy" because the signs are there but e be like say the ear infection wey buhari get don spread come yourside

you better obey your parents.....you cannot raise a child without the support of your parents or boyfriend....and learn to close your legs or use a contraceptive next time