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Your marriage ended when you started sleeping with a w.hore and investing emotionally and financially with her rather than spending on your wife and kids (your number 1 priority).
Your wife figured out but didnt say anything and you werent clued up enough to realise you were caught

From yourfirst post we all advised you to improve your finances as it appears your wife was feeling the strain financially.
Clearly you were/are only interested in seex.
Madam started hustling academically and even doing biz on the sides to make ends meet yet you were busy frustrating her efforts. Naturally she ll feel she made a mistake marrying a dream killer.

Have you ever seen any of the Times/Forbes richest folks make money from been employees

Your wife didnt go off to meet men to satisfy her financial needs but you went off to a stripperr....and you dont see anything wrong

Can he also take an oath that he never shaggged another female since dec 2013??

How can you allow the public decide how to run ur home? Who gave u theit daughter for marriage cos youbare clearly not matured enough to marry.
So if the popular vote is tgat ur wife should bear Mrs Seun or Mrs Nairaland or Mrs her ex boyfriends name you ll go with it??
Please go back to the woman you are married to and DISCUSS then AGREE with her on a namr moving forward. Not impose a name on her because of what outsiders say.....number 1 ruke of marriage is communication and compromise

Jman06:
But you didn't chastise the woman that started it all the way you did above. Remember if she hadn't started cheating first the man wouldn't have reacted the way he did.
Sometimes women take faithful men for granted and cheat on them, this is why some men resort to cheating as a way to keep their women on the defense, because the woman will be fighting hard to keep off his side chicks and have him all for herself and would not have the time to cheat. It is a mind game !

I'm not trying to justify the fact that the man cheated in revenge but all the vituperations you poured on him were uncalled for considering that he was cheated on first.

He was NEVER faithful to begin with. He already had a side piece at his base according to him.
He just decided to sleep with another side piece to massage his tiny dicck'ed ego.
He has no grounds to accuse his wife and demand ahe swears an oath.
Ask him if hes prepared to swear the same oath, same words as he is demanding off the wife

She will take no oath. You think your house is heaven abi what?
You did not make her. You cannot make her. Your uncle is not the only employer in the country.
So because u paid her tuition you own her life?
Is it not ur mates that sponsor people to study abroad and even sponsor their weddings afterwards without asking for anything in return yet you and your arrogant cheating self entitled tiny dicck that cannot fit into a woman after 3kids is demanding what he isnt prepared to also swear to.
Let her leave, she has already found a man with a mandingo sized dicck that will fit into her vjayjay after multiple kids. A man that will buy her a home in her name. A man that will care for her every needs so she doesnt even have to work at all.
So abeg make the transition quick pls. Yeye man

His friends will never tell you the truth. Insist on travelling with him to nigeria next year. Start saving your flight ticket money so that he wont say he doesnt have money for your ticket.
When you go, look for the lady he introduces as his "sister" the lady who's children call him daddy"....thats his wife and those are his children.
He may lie to you and tell you that they call him daddy because hes looking after them financially but its a big lie

Your husband has a wife in nigeria. That is why he travels without you.
That is why he travels every year.
That is why he is extending his visit to 3 months.
I will have to say i am surprised that an ibo man will marry and not look after his wife adequately. Its very unlike a typical ibo man

Can someone interpret this dream pls. I dreamt i unexpectedly gave birth to a baby and i was looking for clothes to put on the baby which i found. I was also tired and laid down to sleep.
Woke up and then noticed that a 2nd child had popped and people were saying they are twins oh. You gave birth to twins
I dressed both babies...the 2nd baby had very full hair. But i kept saying how can i be pregnant and not know.

Ps...i am not pregnant in real life

Send me a mail

Madam simply get ur kinsman to return his brideprice and you are free

Mindfulness:
You must be kidding. Unless she suffered from severe complications, she has no business staying in hospital for two months. A friend of mine left the hospital after a few days.

Shes in hospital because he hasn't settled her bill

Oga sorry for your dilemma however childbirth isnt an emergency. You had 9 months to plan for God sake...the baby gave you almost a years notice before her arrival. The security man, nurses, labtechnitican, cleaners working in the hospital need to be paid their salaries. They have children sch fees to pay, house rent, feeding etc. The hospital relies on patients using their services to pay the fees in order for their staff to be paid

..let me tell u a story and its a true story...

[/i]This woman gave birth in my friend's hospital via Caesarean section. Because of the emergency (she was unbooked, with breech presentation and placenta previa and already in labor) the doctors had to rush into the theatre without them making any deposit. She spent the next one month in the hospital because they "could not afford the bill". And during this period, their church members were always coming to fire prayers for her, disturbing the peace of the hospital yet contributing nothing to their bill. After a while, my friend got tired of seeing them and asked them to go.
Last Sunday they had child dedication. They were in church with plenty gifts and offerings for the pastor. The wife gave a testimony of how "Daddy" was used by God to give them a child. Of course there was reception after the service.
Is this not wickedness?"[i]


I suggest you speak with your family members to assist you and whilst at it, ensure your wife has a long lasting Family planning administered before shes discharged from hospital.....this should remain till your familys circumstances improve.

You owed a student money which you hadn't refunded because of "hardship" yet you were busy planning and spending for a wedding? With which money naa?

Pls note some women completely go off sexx during pregnancy...their libido goes to zero and sometimes may not return till months after birth/stillbirth/miscarriage
This is out of her control. Love and support her during these times

Sprumbabafather:
She will be punished for harbouring a child and making her work?

What then do we do to those in the south west who born children b only to abandon them to beg in the streets and become touts? Is it not an abuse?

What are they going to do to those who produce almajirins in their thousands and punish them by not feeding them? Is that one not abuse?

Oga if you know someone in the SW who gave birth and abandoned their underage child pls report to NAPTIP

If you also hVe concerns about the almajiris in the north, pls report to the local imam at the mosque....Unfortunately, the almajiri system is enshrined in the Sharia system practiced widely across the north .

Yo cook for the children so what? Who's children are they?
Are you expecting to get a medal for performing your parental responsibilities?
If your problems are household chores then get a maid ....after all your mates get maids for their wives including cooks and drivers and washermen sef....poor church rat of a pastor

Tales by moonlight

Copyandpaste crew.....you know its against nairaland rulesto copyright without credit ??
Give credit NOW before i report this post and your ID for banning

When i said you were a lazy, unemployed, unrepentant cheating gold digger in your previous post didnt u say i should shut up?
Instead you choose to align with boys who said you should forget about your inlaws so what are you doing crying wolf now?
If i was ur inlaws, i will personally file divorce on our daughters behalf because you clearly havent learnt your lessons

www.nairaland.com/4196895/wifes-annoying-behaviour

Oga buy your wife books on sexuaallity......in the meantime bring some spice to the bedroom

Go lingerie shopping for your wife
Gwt her matching undies and tell her ti wear it
Make love in the daytime or with the lights on
Play some old school r&b just before the do
During the day send her romantic sms
When she goes into the bathroom, wait a few mins then join her in the bath.....she may resist initially.....but persists consistently and eventually she will loosen up
Buy her some tights /shorts to wear around the house
If you live with relatives abeg send them on 6month sabatical so that you can work on ur wide been free with you and both of you discovering and exploring your sezxuality.
Please dont underestimate pre-intimacy....play and suck her titties.....give her a head even if she doesnt reciprocate.....shave the hair off her veepot!!....drop some alcohol in her evening tea and watcg her loosen up.

Dont discuss this things wt her friends cos sadly, women like that often have friends who share the same view wt them


If you try all the above and it doesnt work, take it as your punishment for dumping your sekxually compatible bae for a wholesome church gerh.....thereby subjecting urself to a life of shitty s3x!!!

bitcoinmilliona:
She is now in her fathers house. I was greatly insulted by her people. It was so much that i told dem i will return but i doubt if il ever go back. I was called stupid and a fool and saying i have an intention. I had a mission of coming to thier family. Imagine. The father inlaw even went to the bank to verify if i booked his fixed deposit that the bank shud confirm the investment letter. he helped me with deposit to meet my target. Im so down

You arw not down, you are infact a lazy gold digger.....go and meet your whores, whos opinions and feelings matter more to you than the woman you vowed to love, honor, cherish and protect to cheer you up.....we ll see how long they ll stick around especially as your money bag has left

bitcoinmilliona:
She is now in her fathers house. I was greatly insulted by her people. It was so much that i told dem i will return but i doubt if il ever go back.

Good!!!! I hope every father can protect their daughters from harm nd hurt.
If you dont appreciatr and love her and care about her feelings, her family do and will readily accept her back into their loving arms.
When families intervene early on, it saves their daughters from years of emotional abuse as well as exposure to death from infectious diseases gotten from unrepentant cheating horsebands.
The family will give their daughter to a more deserving man.....a real man who is ready to be married

Did he kill her or contribute to her death? Why do you feel they should hv remained seperated??

Have u considered stopping cheating? When you stop doing sordid and messy things perhaps there ll be nothing for your wofe to report
Oga your marriage is barely a year old and you are already cheating?
You lost your job almost immediately after marriage and your wife supported you yet you cheat?
How do you expect any respecr from your inlaws when you have repeatedly behaved poorly to their daughter?
You can't be a cheating broke husband and expect a red carpet treatment

Who married this guy with a pinky sized diccckk? I still remember his pictures splashed over the net from his rendezvous with an ashangba

May the Gods of our land deliver us from backwardness....you see those same "upholders and defenders of awa culture" dont mind been served with left hands in restaurants, car washes, valet parking where they have paid for a service with their own cash.....same people will accept lefties in the abroad

Only a MAD man will scar his child because the child was born a leftie!!! Something thats out of the childs control....

You can report but i doubt he ll change and neither will his gf leave his violent ass
My brother is like that, seceral times i spoke with him against his behaviour but he feels his stature and fobe boy looks will cover his excesses
I once sent his wife money to start something when he panel beat her.....love shack her and they spent it together

2nd time i intervened was when she said she cant cope again, i was happy as i had already expressed my view to all that she should leave because he clearly wont change.....and its better for us all so we wont hv to deal wt a murder case in the near future.....i sent her a huge amount to rent a place.....few weeks after, aunty has returned to the love of her life.....and i have turned to "home wrecker ".....the person that dont want her to be a Mrs....afterall i am inside my own hubbys house yet i dont want her to remain inside husbands house.

Nothing they didn't label me as when they settled.....na siddon look mode i kuku de till it happened again and i just played deaf and dumb...aunty come say me i dont care about my sil or my nephew and nieces welfare or that of rheir mother


Bottomline is, some people see dv as a norm and not a reason to end a marriage or relationship

Great... tell madam they have started deducting ur salary and for that reason, you ll need to buckle up....pay 120k to her acc and then 3wks later, pay anothet 30k......save the other 100k

Lock up for everybody elze because you ll keep solving problems for the same people whom in 5years will turnaround and mock you for DOING NOTHING FOR THEM and having no assets despite having a good job

Madam will hoff and poff but eventually calmdown......dobt upgrade ur car or gen....and pls take a break on kids

Breakdown the 250k expenses cos thats quite high....

How do u make the payment via internet banking pls? The nysc acc details isnt showing instead its shown me a barcode

Oga stop nagging and endure....do you want to break your home over food?
If it bothers you pls stand up and get a plate