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@cutiepie18
You sure are hell-angry!!!

hey girls,

about all the "privates-grabbing" guys flocking all around you, and which pisses you off, you are very wrong in making such generalizations on the totality of Nigerian guys whether at home/abroad.

Nigerian men are decent minded people. Usually, its the way you present yourself that they'll react to you.

Yes, admitted, there are many miscreants, guys who just want to have fun and run, but its true for girls also. They might not grab their own privates, but they do something else just to crave for a guys attention.

If in your day to day life, for example, all/majority the guys that see you immediately grab their privates, then you better go look into the mirror and check the way you are dressed up. If you are exposing what should not be exposed, then why the hell shouldn't they grab their privates. What else should they grab in the first place. If they don't grab it, then it might just,  now, thats not funny, its the reality.

I was in a bus one day and a girl came in and OMG, twas just too much. It would have been better if she was completely nude. I was quite happy when one of the ladies in the bus told her to get down, go home and change her clothes. The girl blurted back, insulting the elderly lady and then the bus conductor took up the challenge, insulted this half-naked girl, and oh, twas too much, she had to get down, and leave in anger.

Yes, a girl can still dress gorgously and be decent, and would still command respect wherever she goes, but if "privates-grabbing" is the respect you receive, you better go change, especially on the streets.

And mind you, someone who has a good education, whether still a student or in the professional line already, wont grab his privates upon seeing a girl, even if shes nude, its all a matter of how much is upstairs, which is also an indication to you of the type of people you are getting attention from, as a girl. If youre getting attention from the wrong guys, then you better see what the problem is,
cheers!!

ok, here:
2 Much 2 Less

2 much love, she takes you for granted,
2 less, and she's soon gone like the morning dew.

2 much of riches, her expenses increases,
2 less finances, your status decreases.

2 much talking, 2 much familiarity, less originality,
2 less talking and soon you become strangers.

2 much seeing each other, she might grow bored,
2 less of eye to eye, another eye takes your place.

2 much patience, and you'll look stupid,
2 less is impatient and she's irritated.

2 much of this,
2 less of that
Indeed, this boy girl thing is not so easy!!!

all these "weaker sex, weaker sex" talk that you guys are throwing around, it makes me wanna vomit. Its even worse when ladies begin to glorify themselves and mesmerize in some vain-idea that they a weaker sex.

Ok, admitted, the "weaker sex, fragile, breakable" level is where nature, religion and society has put the female sex.
Ok, admitted, the "weaker sex, fragile, breakable" level is where guys would like to hide their women in, so that they could have all the strength to manipulate and do as they please, especially in a relationship.

Been a weaker sex is not something that any lady should go around boasting about? I mean, where are the girls with guts, i mean GUTS!!!!!

Its like someone who has an injury that renders him unable to walk, who starts feeling great in been pushed around in a wheel-chair.

Forget this weaker sex thing: I believe in a relationship, both parties have to complement each other. A lot of "stronger sex" breathing males have the most weaknesses. Women should stand up and take the bull by the horn.

So please, ladies, stop basking in your "weaker sex" environment. It usually destroys relationships, as in your expectations of us guys are usually too-high-to-reach for the guys who really love you, thats why like someone said: The woman of nowadays usually settles for the Best Man who has all the money, fanfare and popularity, and not her Bridegroom(the man that truly loves her).

About the attention thing, ill post it later.

@luc966

It seems you are the one chasing him and not him chasing you? so for him to threaten to smash your face, together with his criminal past, which he wont disclose details, if I were you, I would call-it-quits.

If I were you:
- I would find out which part of Africa is he from, and which kinda family he's from, such background info could help you understand him better. For ex: if you find out that he has a short temper, so you'll know how to deal with it, and complement, so as to sustain the relationship(if you wanna go along with it).

- I would also find out, as you said:he has lived in the U.K for many years,, does he have his papers, there are many Africans still in hiding in Europe and America, and yet theyve been there like donkey years, if his details have shady parts, you better be extra careful.

And whats the big deal about age anyway, so you first lied to him about your age, and he begins to behave nasty, I hope he doesnt have something going wrong upstairs, I wont lie about my age anyway, but i mean its the real world!!
How old is he anyway? has he told you his age?

My advice: Dont wear a shoe you wont be able to remove!!!!!!

interracial rel's , sexy

@larger_20

Nigerian development is kind of speeding up now. I am happy for all of these development. The days of anger is over

Pls gist me, where are the

all of these development

you're talking about?

@Priscilla,

I wonder why you are asking this question, Is it only men that get married, dont they get married to women(except those whose brain cells have kolo'd), so maybe you could tell us why women get married(women whose brains havent kolo'd),

Man lives his life in stages. At one point, I was thinking about secondary schl, then I began thinking, University, exam, passing and grades, , later I started thinking career, work, etc., and now, its all girls and marriage, sometimes, i think this world is crazy.

Now those who got married, after the even started thinking babies, babies, milk and babyfood,, then later they start thinking, daycare, nursery primary, and so the cycle begins again.

I would get married because of:
- its the next right thing to do,
- Love, at least when "She" arrives
- Companionship, ill love to share my life with someone
- Raise up a family, kids, settle down,
- have fun. A good wife is the best person to have fun with,

@diyodbw

AM not happy for him at all! Till he prove to be a good father !
Celeb or not -- a man aint a man if he can't be a man of values
and in the Nigeria way too you aint no man by have a baby! every man with a matured sperm can do that
so he need to proof to be a Man

be like sat 2face offended you?
pls whats the story, give us the gist

and in the Nigeria way too you aint no man by have a baby!

this one caught my eye, abeg, pls explain,
so whats the definition of "how to be a man in Nigeria, without having a baby?"

what I love to do? hmmmm

more:
1) google.com is my default home page, so I love the internet, its my first get-away from the realities of life.
2) I love pictures, so me and my camera and my laptop, its picture taking time,
3) gimme a piano, and i could become the next R&B band leader
4) if the above are not possible, a pen and paper, and my poetry and rhymes begin flowing
5) really, i love keeping children busy,

i love it,

thanks

@otolarin
it would have been nice for you to give us a gist of the surrounding circumstances that would warrang the man giving up his surnname for his wife.

In maternal societies, such happens. In Ghana for example, I heard that children bear the surnname of their mother, because of some ancient history behind the woman as the head of the family.

hey, where are the Ghananians on this forum, pls give us more of the gist.

Yes, pressure in the Nigerian culture and environment,

but truly, marriage is for love and procreation. If the procreation part is not there, i dont see that marriage as totally fulfilled, except for some cases, where having children is not an option.

And why wont anyone want children anyway? is it just becoz of the responsibility issue?

@Outkast

I actually have an uncle with 50 wives and 72 kids(they are all biologically his( and this man is educated ooh! na professor and he knows all their names. When they have parties, there's no need to invite anyone else. What do you guys think of that?

Professors usually have a lot of kids, nowadays. I believe this your professor uncle is in Nigeria.

Did he actually marry all those 50-wives, or how many of them have a marriage certificate, coz from my own observation, such wives could be dash-you-dash-me kinds. And how old is the youngest of the 72kids? i believe he should still be charging, to have a 3month old baby among them

My Best friend is my mother, so my dad dating her is no problem!!!

in fact, if both of them are not dating, then ill get angry with both of them

why did you barge in in the first place?

@LoverBwoy

Thousands have Ph.d in nigeria, yet they always get some weird loan agreement for the country

thats exactly what im saying, too much book, book, book, its now a problem,

anyway, whose fault is it, Nigeria? China.
China didnt pressure Nigeria to sign anything, at least no guns was put to the head of Nijas representatives, yet theyve signed off our oil.

God said it.

@nirron1

Then why do people tell lies and how do u feel when u discovered that someone you trusted so much had lied to you?

Hope this is not part of the love-thang here, i mean the

someone you trusted so much had lied to you

to answer the question, People tell lies
- when they are trying to impress someone and put up a false front
- because they have lost the key to happiness, which is honesty to self and others.

@Nwoke

What if the God you choose is not the correct one? if you choose jesus and you meet Allah you will burn in hell. If you choose Allah and you meet jehovah the same thing. And what if God turns out to be someone who loves evildoers and atheists but hates religious people and sends them to hell? What if he's a tyrant?

Some people just feel thrilled when they try to get simple things mixed up, dont they

so Nwoke, let me ask you the question: Do you believe in Life after Death? Yes or No

Flirting is like this:
like when a fly is buzzing all over you. Now you've got two choices: allow it to perch or drive it away.

the "buzzer"(girl/guy) is the flirt. The "buzzee" is the "flirtee"

once bitten, twice shy

or how do they say it

time out on the thread!!!

@hot-angel

ehen, i thought so,

@Nwoke

Its like you just said Yoruba's talk too much?

you didnt say that, did you?

let me add,

I would really consider a girl that asks a guy out to be someone that has "guts", i mean "guts",

@chinani

Sometimes you must be cruel to be kind.

thanks for the advice

hey, hey, hey, hey, hey

so you dropped the back-pack on Apr 27th and picked it up again on Apr29th,

Is this some sort of formal child's play? or, i didnt get something, pls help me oo