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afamgod:
Hello lovely mamas and papas in the house. Pls help me glorify God. My daughter arrived less than two hours ago.

Birth story uploading............................
Mek dem com comot this thing for my hand.

Congrats mama. May the Lord bless and keep her. Amen

christabeli:
Herzumpter take note. several women cook for him o

Manny caught red handed. Right in the act! Lolllzzzzzzzzzzz

And pluussssss, don't mention ur sisters or cousins here ooooo

**side eyes**

Rejoice with those who rejoice, comfort those who mourn, encourage those trying. That's the whole point of this bond. Let's not discourage people who are happy or hopeful just because someone else is going through a tough time. There is time for everything and there is time for everyone.

@ Modath- I don't think Sayo was being insensitive at all. She was expressing her fears which so many other women have even though they might not say it. Encouraging and advising her will not only help her but help so many silent others. Some unfortunate incidents have happened on this thread in recent times but it's not the end of the world for anybody.

Pls don't make anybody feel bad or discourage anyone from posting their issues no matter how trivial it might sound. You don't know other challenges people are passing through so there is no basis for comparison.

it is well with us all.

aisha2:
Wow, I feel so sad for her family
People can be deceptive. I saw their pictures they looked so happy. She made efforts and edwife was right she was unlucky and fell into the wrong hands. I apologize for blaming the victim. My condolences to the family and may he face justice

Kudos!

Until the game is over, I dont trust Arsenal. 20 mins more!

englishsmart, you will not kee somebody ooooo

I don laugh tire

Caracta:
@kimoni, apology accepted?

Yes let's move forward.

@jaybee, what's the plan for DJ while we wait for NY? I also second nnamdibig's question.

Sure Caracta. I no be god naa

@ Gboliwe, Caracta, Pickabeau et al. - It is well. Pls let's move forward.

EfemenaXY:
Na wa o!

I'll just manage with her pictures and description. Maybe I'll see something about how it's wrapped on google...

I can't remember seeing it on Youtube but pls recheck, most of what we have there is either foil or nylon. Problem is if it's not properly wrapped, everything leaks into the pot during cooking. Pls invite moi as soon as it's ready

Caracta:
@mynd44, don't be discouraged. It happens. It's expected. I felt that way too at a point. It takes one that faces the REAL situation to understand.

Gboliwe even mentioned that everyone has failed except her. Still waiting for her success story. Perhaps she can come over here to be at his bed side everyday and attend to his needs and demands. Since we have failed, why not just let the successful ones take over?

The only reason I'm still here is because TEHN is involved and I was one of those that called for them. I'm more comfortable with my offline role. And like I told DJ himself, I'll always stand by him. I remember when we wanted to move him from Eruwa, a team was set up and everyone was posting and mentioning a particular hospital. Even the team members were all clamouring for this hospital suggested by a Nairalander who claimed he had gone there and made arrangements. We set up an ambulance and just before the trip, I had this urge to call the hospital and be double sure. I called and they told me no space.

And I asked myself, what if I didn't call?We would have moved a patient in ambulance to a hospital and get turned back. So we had to start looking for hospital all over Lagos again. Funny. See, it's easy for people to type away and pass blames.

I am not even discouraged...just wish some people could be on ground and see things for themselves.

All in all...moving on.

Caracta, in trying to tell everybody to move on, maybe you should also realise you are drawing unecessary bad blood. What exactly are you trying to insinuate with the bolded?

I called that particular hospital as soon as it was agreed that they are good in kidney transplant which is what we all thought was the problem then. I got all the required info chaircover requested for and posted it immediately for all to see. Thank God i didn't post the Dr's nos. I am quite familiar with the staffs of the hospital so I knew the info would be gotten easily. But there was something else, I told them the person is a family member so as to get the best shot from them.

Unfortunately, there was really no team co-ordination then and so many other people started calling and visiting the same hospital to make the same enquires I had already posted, it didn't take long for them to realise it was a community case (for lack of a better word) and somehow, they said there was no space. Recall all the other hospitals that were mentioned online asides this hospital also said there was no space which I am sure was due to the same issue. I recall coming online and explaining why all these hospitals were saying there was no space so we could avoid making the same mistake in future. I didn't for a minute think to blame all those that went or called after me cuz they probably didn't see my post and everybody was just very eager to contribute their little quota.

Now, you can't even imagine the bashing I got for withholding or better still lying about him being a "family member" to them and how much goodwill I lost with this hospital. And it didn't stop there, it's a family hospital, so try and imagine who and who is also scolding me for not being truthful to these guys we've known for so long; I didn't let it get to me cuz I felt that was the best I could to do for DJ to get admitted and maybe enjoy some certain previledges.

So you coming here months after to insinuate something else and say people were just typing away is really not "moving on". It's just unnecessarily reopening old wounds. Good day!

EfemenaXY:
Hey...

Saw your moi-moi with the plantain leaves. Cool.

But you should have taken pics of the step-by-step process on how you used the leaves now. Did you fold the leaves to form a bag, then tied both ends before pouring the moi-moi into it to boil?

How do you secure it so that the moi-moi doesn't leak out from the leaves? What did you use to cook it? Fire wood and iron / aluminum pot? Or firewood and clay pot?

Herzumpther!!

Efe, that wrapping is better watched ooo, it's a skill you would need to see live, experiment, make mistakes and perfect with time.

dinachi:
If you take the pain that your gender unleashed on a loving father of beautiful daughters as clownish then there may not be hope for you after all.

my gender? And what's that?

Hope? In what exactly?

It's a bright new day, a new week. Life is short, enjoy it.

Thinkingbee, I can see you are viewing. Deleting your initial post won't stop this thread from thriving. If you have had enough like you said, pls ask the moderators to close the thread.

Ndo! to open thread no be small thing.

Sophyrocks:
I knew he would be here. The guy is sooooo bitter. Women don do am strong thing. He always ends up with wrong women. I dey pity am. I see his emotional outbursts as cries for help.

He is just a clown, nothing else. Pls don't take him serious.

lioha:
All of a sudden my LO @beat stopped at 25 weeks and there was nothing I could do. For the little time i spent with him, my joy was countless. But God knows the best RIP.

Mama's thanks for your wonderful advices and suggestions, you are one in a million God bless you all.

Oh Lord! my dear, God knows best like you said. Pls take heart and trust that He is going to fill your heart with greater joy very soon. If only we could see the future, we will understand why He is doing some things. Pls trust Him, ur miracles are on the way already. God bless.

Hehehehehe

Dinachi, you are just a clown!

Pls go to Carefree's thread right now and tell us how you met ur spouse. Enough of today's bitterness.

Waiting!

mzjaney:
Police are investigating the death of a six year-old girl, Kendrea Johnson who is strongly considered to have committed suicide.

Kendrea Johnson was found dead at her foster home in Brooklyn Park, Minnesota on Saturday, December 27 with a rope around her neck.

Police said that the cause of the teenager’s death is yet to be determined yet but records have emerged suggesting that it might be suicide. According to The Star Tribune records have emerged which show that Kendrea in June and was ruled as having “homicidal and suicidal thoughts” and was placed on treatment.

Records state that the child “showed severe guilt, as she does not feel lovable or acceptable and reports feeling guilty and responsible for out-of-home placement,” the newspaper reports.

Kendrea according to reports was put in foster care in 2013 after a child protection unit accused her mother of drug abuse and failing to keep to an agreed protection plan.

The youngster’s behavior reportedly changed in care and one foster mother said the child had wanted to end her life by jumping out of a window and drew pictures at school of a child hanging from a rope.

The girl’s father however informed police that everything seemed fine when he had checked in on her at 8pm ten minutes before he found her hanged in the bedroom. Her grandmother Mary Lee Broadus, told The Star Tribune that she believed Kendrea did not take her own life.


http://darlingtonblog.com/2015/01/17/6-year-old-found-dead-hanging-from-a-rope/

Is she six or sixteen??

lala4sure:
Thanks Ma'm, I take lots of fluid but eating is hard for me. My craving since this week is carrot and bananas, normal solid food makes me sick. I am only taking folic acid for now, no added pregnancy vitamins. I will appreciate if anyone could help me with any vitamins i can take.

Thanks Ma'm,
I am currently taking just folic acid one tablet daily. Aside pregnacare is there any other pregnancy vitamins i can take? I need suggestions. I was hoping to see what my midwife would advice at our 16 weeks appt.

I am most familiar with pregnacare. Since you are not eating well, you need the multivitamins.

lala4sure:
Good Evening Mamas,

And so today i decided to trek some distance (About 10-13mins walk)to school and i almost fainted, I became so sick (headache, fatique etc) all of a sudden and thought i was falling down. Please at over 13weeks what could be the reason for this faint and dizzy feeling? And also, today i vomitted again after 2 weeks of break. Please i need to know what i can start taking because i'm still taking just folic acid one tablet daily and not seeing my Midwife any time soon.

If your body is not used to this kind of distance, you should start it gradually. Again, once you are getting tired, try and sit somewhere to regain your energy before you continue, don't force any exercise, listen to your body more.

You should call your midwife and complain to her, you might need to be placed on iron tablets. It's common for most women to feel like this during pregnancy but the iron tablets helps a lot. I also think you should start taking the pregnancy multivitamin tablets by now.

Be strong, it will soon be over.

Chillisauce:
First-time at tuwo. ( blended rice).

Egusi soup with scent leaves and okazi as vegetables

You made this

I doff my hat for you! You are very adventurous with food.

Chelsea is on fireeeeeeee

ileobatojo:
Your wife is quite a nasty piece of work and needs to be shut down decisively. She chose to marry you knowing you were jobless and unmotivated so she doesn't need to cry foul to the extent that she is.

With that being said, what manner of fuckery is this quote below?

She's supposed to be supporting you the most to do some work with your hands? Why do you need special support for that? So if she doesn't hold your hand and and escort you to work every morning, you won't go? Why must you get her approval before you can do any business? Is she a financial advisor, a professional business consultant or what? Even before you buy a land with your mom, you have to get her to rubber stamp it first? What the actual fvck?

No, your lack of motivation is coming from you and has little to do with your wife. If at 37, you haven't been able to discover yourself without relying on mommy, when do you plan to do it? You need to be spoonfed by your wife first?

Now, this part below is the part that slays me......

So, this same woman that has been shutting down business ideas left right and center actually spawned 3 thriving businesses sharply off the capital you gave her? You saw this, yet even that was not enough to wake you up or inspire you to get going?

Nigga please.

Sorry but just had to quote this. Well said Ile.

Chyvy:
Hello mamas, pls help me thank God as I put to bed a lovely princess yesterday at 38 weeks + 1 day. Birth story later.

Waoh, congrats. God bless our angel.

There is a limit to how much one can blame somebody else for his/her woes in life, for how long does he want to blame the wife? OP, it's time you look inwards to solve your problems. She is being abusive, yes but is she tying your hands down? Has she got some voodoo caging your mind? Does she stop you from going out?

If these answers are NO, quit blaming her and start solving your problems. Get something doing and find you own voice in the home. And I really don't believe seperation will do you any good, it's like running away from challenges which is never a solution in life. At least, not problems you can look in the eyes and resolve. Good luck!

thinkingbee:
Am a victim of physical abuse, I now want him to pay for all his actions. What organization will fight my cause? Am so hurt I can't put down in words, I want him to feel the pain of oppression.

What exactly is your goal? To free yourself from an abusive relationship or the bolded - to oppress him and cause him pain as well.

You need to define your objectives before you start looking for anybody or organistion to fight your cause.

Ndo!

You guys obviously have communication issues. You will need to work on that.

But then, you need to get something doing! Part of your problem is that you are losing your self confidence as a man and ur wife is not helping issues but you can't continue to blame her for your inability to do nothing all this while. No woman will truly like it if her man sits at home everyday just relying on family wealth. And stop letting let her put your business ideas down, even if you are starting it off with your parents or siblings. Guess she doesn't like the fact that you want to involve your family in your business start up but if that is the only way you can start up on your own, pls do.

Bottom line, MOTIVATE yourself enough to start something of your own. Then make every attempt to improve the communication btw you guys. Enough of putting each other down or throwing needless blames around.

Herzumpther:
Thanks ma'am.

How u feeling dear? Get well soon.



Besides, why shall you shy

@rowzayy : pls first understand your husband is cheating on you because he wants to and not because you are not working or the girls outside are better than you. Not at all. Even if you were the MD of a bank and earning 20 times his pay, he will cheat if he wants to. So don't kill urself in ur helpless state or start blaming his cheating on the fact that you are not working.


Having said that, there are 2 problems you have identified.
1) ur husband is cheating on you
2) your options on what to do are limited because you are not currently working so you cant fend for yourself and ur baby, hence, you seem to be helpless without him


The solution to the first problem has little to do with you IMO. You can talk, fight, plead from today till eternity and he won't stop. The most you can do now is to continue to discuss the issue with him and pray he will stop.

The solution to problem 2 lies almost entirely with you. You need to get yourself to that stage where you can fend for yourself and your baby alone, without him even if it's just for some time. But understand that having an income of your own is not to stop him from cheating ooo but really for your own good. It will boost your confidence and you won't have to just sit at home and take whatever he dishes out to you. And if you ever decide to separate for a while, you would also have no fears knowing you can do okay without him.

Your baby is still 6 months old but start making preparations now. Do you have a certificate and like to work in an office, pls start sending out your CVs, start looking for job offers, tell people out there you are looking for a job. Are you also good at any vocational work - baking, events decor, sewing, cooking whatever, pls start making enquiries on how to use this knowledge to earn some money. Or are you good in buying and selling, start saving money to start a trade. Just do whatever it is you need to do to start making money.

Once this happens, you can then access your situation again, reweigh your options and take that decision that is in the best interest of you and your baby.

clinik:
thank u ma,send my baby's package ooo,since na your bday mate..... Winks

lol...no wahala

We are special people

clinik:
My pple how una dey.....? hope d pushing ministry is going on well... Birth Story Begins..,
It all started by 3.34am on Tuesday,I couldn't lie down,sit nor stand,was just moving and shaking up and down...Dh was sleeping so I shouted at him wake up,wen d pain was much I came on line to post my condition and I was told maybe d baby is getting ready to come,immediately it was 5.54am my and DH begin this long walk,we strolled till I was getting weary.. and DAT day was also my antenatal day,so wen we got home we prepared to go to d hospital(still feeling d pains) so I went to shower den I saw d mucur discharge,immediately I knew I was in labor.. On getting to d hospital d way I was doing my face while nurse is checking me dey said how old is d pregnancy I told dem,the matron just match me to d labor room on our way she asked if I have seen mocur I said yes.... Na there d story change,she checked me as at DAT tym I was 3cm,I was there ooooo,d matron told Dh to go and bring our bag..To cut the long story short wen it was 7.33pm d pain was so much DAT I was shouting none stop..DH went to call d doctor she checked me and my babys head abt to be out so I should gather all my strength and push,of which I did but I didn't have strength cos I ve vommitted like 5-6tyms DAT day...Finanly I called on God to give me strength cos d doc said my baby must not stay long where he is DAT he may get weak,I just pushed really hard and my prince fly out wen it was 7.54pm,weighing 3kg d baby tear me a little..... I give all d glory to d almighty God and am grateful to you all too.. Eshey Gan..! sorry for d long story,it wasn't easy but it was worth it after all.

God bless our angel, my birthday mate

Chillisauce:
Hian, herzumpther and manny4life, what are you guys doing?
Q. How are you?
A. Fine.

Abeg Abeg Abeg , make una tell us watsup. Manny's are you interested or not? No come carry your tipper block road for other serious brothers o.

Where is davidlyn? Pls yall should declare your intention already then take if offline.
No time to dance kuru kere.

I concur!

beedam:
My next appointment is on Tues and I'm just 38weeks now. I still have time but I'm begging my baby to please come out,e don try for inside. Thanks for your prayers

Lol...funny you. It is well