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10 Years? 3,650 days? Dating? ( Clears throat, )

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=602156.msg7708767#msg7708767 date=1297382629]I hear what you are saying.   It still go back to what I said MARRIAGE ISN'T COOKIE CUTTER.  What one couple do in their marriage may not be what another couple will do in their marriage. 

There are couples who are not married happily in love with each other longer than the average married couple.  I am not saying marriage in itself is bad.  I am saying that PEOPLE NEED TO STOP sugarcoating as if MARRIAGE IS THIS BIG DEAL AND FESTIVITY because it is not. 

Some people can be married to the perfect man or woman doesn't mean they will be happy.   You only make the marriage or relationship what you feel it should be.  There are a lot of people WHO WILL NEVER BE MARRIED and will be in a long term relationship. 

This is a new day and age and EVERYTHING CHANGES.  Marriage isn't what OUR ANCESTORS experienced and the only different between marriage and relationship.  One is legal and the other is not.  Some people get married so their relationship can be legal. There is nothing special about the two.[/quote]I don't seem to understand how your comment is related to the message of my post.
You'd do great to summarise your points so i'd understand better.
Anyway,the headlines for my news bulletin is that neither gender does the other a favour by marraige. They get married,i think,because they are in love and think they'd fit and increase their bond,raise a family and stay together by getting married. I also went further to point out that(even though i'm single)if you get married to the ideal person,you'd wish to marry him/her again if re-incarnation is anything much more than a superstitious belief. Peace.

(Going strictly by the topic,without any form of referrence to previous comments): Any woman who can figure out that a prospective partner would take her for a ride cuz he's gonna marry her as a 'favour' lacks self-esteem if she goes ahead to marry him, and she'd be stupid to think she can change his mentality by marrying him. On the flip side,marraige is a deliberate union between two members of opposite genders,and it ain't forced in any legal state of the world, (don't know 'bout places where the theme of civilization has never been broadcasted,though ). Yeah,attidudes differ and a couple of guys might seem/look cocky towards their fiancees,but its a very democratic world and no one will die if the lady decides to opt out. Marraige is an instituition,and like any other instituition,it has its own black spots,but it has also had a much higher success rate. If you get the right partner,you will never wanna stop being married, and you'd realise you've missed a whole lot by being single. Cheers.  

Cuz of a Blackberry

Silicon boobs and cellulite hips That won't go down well with me.

Me thinks: Anyone who can't decipher between the wheat and chaff of love induced manners is just but one of the millions of dead men still walking about on planet earth. End of.

Well,i see one of the terms that has been bastardized on here is the term 'big boy.' For Zap's guilty case,what is the criterion for calling someone a 'big boy' if he can't even express himself fluently in the official language and the sole lingua franca of his own motherland Going by any ratio or any other measure,i think Nigerian men shouldn't be less in number than the better part of a hundred million. @Poster, get your facts right and if you got them from any reliable source on the internet,you'd do great to post the links on here.

A boy Well,a BOY would stare at you and he wouldn't smile,especially if you look like one of his fiercest primary school teachers. A guy/man would stare for so many reasons. But the thread is meant to inquire about 'Boys'.

If you personally a'int feeling his 'swag' as they term it,no one is gonna feel it for you. Suit yourself. End of.

Its not always in black or white, there are areas that are shaded grey. Personally,i'd go for self-defense if i sense i might get hit.

Hmm, different strokes.

Y'all have made my evening tick with some broken ribs. Thanks for the humour.
@Topic,
***Whistles out of thread and slams the door***

Why? Take a good long walk. Let's see if she'll come after me,still staring. By then,you'll know the handshake has seriously gone below the elbow.

I can remember the 777-300 i boarded from DXB to LOS in september and the air hostess was kinda telling us to expect some unfamiliar bumps when the craft touches down due to the state of the runway, and i knew straight out that she was only trying to be civil. The pilot was just short of spinning webs about the gashes in the runway. Then the 'sweet and short' queue and the 'prompt' arrival of my bags. Zap! It was simply heavenly. Naija,we too much!

Who gives a flying hoot But i'd guess that in the next 5 years in Nigeria,if you are a hip-hop music star or even a wanna-be,and you ain't got diamond teeth,you would be so outta the game cuz you've got no ''swags''. We saw the same thing with braids and dreadlocks, nowadays even the bald ones can boast of some ''swag'' since they can bear to stitch some hairy fibres to their scalps.

Hate is such a strong word. I think you just dislike men cuz of past sour experiences. Thanks,anyway,for the announcement.  

tunnytox:
My thought exactly monogamy is not even working in the west and their idea of women on top all the time coated with equality bullshit is destroying family life, Imagine my neighbour here a very friendly lady married to a very cool headed family man (you would have thought they had a very good relationship) but few months ago the wife sent the man packing, her excuse is that the man don't help her enough in doing house chores! This woman doesn't work but her husband is working and I've seen him many times trying his best for his 2 beautiful girls and wife but a typical western orientated woman will never be satisfied, its a me me me me attitude and that's why many of them end up alone and miserable toward the end of their lifes.

But westerners or whatever they are termed as never cease to amaze me. I'm not a male chauvinist,and i don't support men doing so either;but i couldn't stop laughing here at the mere thought of having my fiancee or wife sending me packing out! and if i don't want to comply to her wishes,i'd comply with the police's,
And afterall,the reason for my eviction from my house: i don't help her out enough in doing house chores. LWKMDFHO What else won't be seen in these lands. The next thing i might not have heard is that the wife would warn the man never to step into that house again or else she'd shoot him and the police would never find his corpse!

Irrespective of whatever anyone thinks or says,one of the least problems the 1st lady of a continental power house like Nigeria should have is expressing herself in English effortlessly. Its not out of the norm if the blunders she makes draws criticisms moreover she's always in the spotlight.
What this simply means is that the people who are in charge of the 1st lady's grooming should take note of these loopholes,and nip 'em in the bud before its gonna cause a much more pronounced jaw-breaker than Nigerians have already witnessed.  

Mehnn, begging to kiss That is gross!

Each and every soul to his/her own. All i clearly know without any iota of doubt is that the genders were made to 'crave' each other, no gender was programmed by God to be comfortable on its own. Hence,people will think you're nuts if you wanna prove that you can defy nature's unwritten laws, and up till now,i've never seen any woman regardless of their nationalties who doesn't wanna get settled somewhere, even though a lotta 'em would feign busy schedules,tedious business trips,and their crave for the 'dignity' that comes with being a high-class society lady who has all the comforts available on planet earth as some of those things that make men uninteresting to 'em. However,i dont need a soothsayer or the confidence of a freakin' bloody gender activist before i'd know my babygirl isn't anywhere near 'completion' without 'us',and neither am i without 'us'. If a man/woman decides to stay off marraige cuz they feel they'd be fine without the opposite gender,that's their biz and that won't cause another global economic recession,so i'm not affected. But the truth is that every 'modern' trend has its own darkside,and IF YOU CAN'T DECIPHER THE WHEAT OF CIVILISATION/WESTERNISATION FROM ITS CHAFF,boy ol' boy, you're just 1 outta the MILLIONS of dead people walkin' about on earth. Peace.

Well,its a dicey one on here, the guy can be lucky enough to get a girl who'd bear with him and even help him in straightening things out. On the flip side,he's gonna be in for one of the most turbulent periods in his lifetime cuz he's gonna be getting a truckload of stick from the girl, and the worst scenario that can be played in this instance would occur if the guy has a big ego. Then he's done for. Either way,its always best that the guy has some way of bringing in money regularly. Love and poverty don't usually visit each other with good intentions.

I don't see anything wrong at all in that. Depends on the mindsets of the parties involved,though. What if she's his younger sister who's well over adolescence? There are so many possiblities towards an event like that, and trimming all the possible reasons down to 'dating' wouldn't be fair.

I'm still tryna' figure out how 'dissing' mode9 or whatsoever artiste in the 1st place 'll contribute towards bringing just 1 slice of sourghum bread to my table,or how keeping him on my blacklist has stopped him from smiling to the bank(if not always,at least often),or how hating him has helped me through the ranks of my career. The last time i checked,nairaland has 593,205 members and counting, so i dont see how 1 person's venom spewing would spread across everyone on  here with the same intensity. Whoever wanna should diss as that is what interests them,and perhaps grants 'em a form of absolvement from their own blackspots, but i really dont give a 55kg triple-legged flyin' Zap about whatever any artiste says. If there is anything I wanna do to bring down an artiste,the first thing i've gotta learn is 'not to diss'. It only fuels their recognition and followership(refer to M.I's cheap 'promotion') all the expense of my spittle and my hard-earned calories. Peace.  

queeneve:
Koujour,

You would think that PEOPLE WILL HONOR their vows, but ACCORDING TO THE RING LEADER, people can say ONE THING and until the action happens THE BEHAVIOR may be different,

Some people justified PARTNER inability to sexually performed AS AN EXCUSE TO CHEAT,

So, this isn't FARFETCHED in comparison,

Well,you've got a point here, but the failure of OTHERS in adhering to their vows shouldn't be an excuse for me to follow suit. If anything,that should only spur me on to make a difference and show that everybody is not the same when it comes to their resolutions. I'm not saying its gonna be easy to do that,afterall,we are only humans, but then,what is the point in courting for 3,4,5 years or more? I used to think its a kinda 'investigative' period where one is supposed to find out if one's spouse is capable of carrying out his/her duties for prolly the next 50 - 60 years, but if you have any other definition for courtship,i'd be glad to learn.
All i'm sayin' is,study your partner for as long and as close as possible till you've been fully convinced,and when you make your decision du grandeur,be prepared that you're in for the long haul,even if divorce court cases are as rampant as Emirates' airplanes flying outta dubai. Peace.

The guy should just help the girl out by looking for medications which might cover up the marks to the bearest minimum,and i think i've seen a few links on this thread which might be useful for her. On the flip side,everyone is as prone to stretch marks as eating everyday,so there is ample chance that if he leaves her cuz of her stretch marks (which i wont blame him for),he should also realise that his new catch would also be as susceptible to stretch marks as his last girl,especially when she is preggers. So the cycle begins again and he'll be back to square one.  

I thought the couple usually exchanged vows before God on their wedding day,and from the few of such i've attended,i used to hear something that sounds like 'For better,for worse.'

The poster is definitely gonna hit some raw nerves with this.

@ Topic, its always gonna be this way.i.e Each specie will definitely wanna defend his/her addiction,even though the truth is bitter. What matters is that if married women go clubbing,they should be ready to accept the consequences bona fide,either good or bad. If their husbands are absolutely okay with it,its no one's migraine, and if they get booted out/thrown out/flung out/chased out/earth-moved/usurped/displaced in their matrimonial homes cuz of their addiction to clubbing as a compulsory means of having a swell time with fellow GIRLFRIENDS,there are so many websites that can help in tutoring women how to become an all-encompassing single mother. i can also help with a few of 'em,anyway.   Holla.

[quote author=noble_gas1 link=topic=443674.msg6779930#msg6779930 date=1284880323]Its a pity d kinda gals our generation are producing. [/quote]I see the I.D is here, what's good,buddy? Still in Oman?