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MALIGNANTGuest:
It's embarrassing to see this thread like this.
I'm highly disappointed in Nigerians.
A THREAD that was posted since yet see the few posts trickling in.
Such a highly educative post, you wouldn't find people rushing in to comment especially those who crave to be RICH few years from now.

But when issues of SEXUAL FANTASIES & SNAKES are posted, You would see people craving to be the first to post. Most times we blame the moderators for pushing stupid sexual fantasies to the front-page, little did we know the already knew what the majority and masses wanted.

bro know this most Nigeria know little about the economy , about banking system ...when dollar's goes high,they will shout ,,like I stated earlier ,let the Nigeria govt educate the nigeria youth the importance of consuming home made products and the govt need these homemade products to be readily Available

Zico5:
The last straw that will break the Carmel back is looming removal of subsidy. If this is done Nigeria is gone. We will all fight to take back this country from these cankerworm and looters.

Nigeria govt treat looters and money laundering individuals as Kings so any average Nigeria who can get hold of political position the first 100days in office , money must go missing .it's a fact because we celebrate criminals ,a death sentence bill should be pass ,a man who steals with a gun or with a pen deserve the same death sentence

TenQ:
Economists thing that monetary and fiscal policiy changes will fix the naira but i disagree.

1. We import virtually every thing we consume (from pencils to papers, to clothings, to sugar, to flour, to electronics to vehicles etc)
2. The things we need are purchased with foreign currencies
3. There seem to be few alternatives to import for what we consume
4. The Naira available is chasing the few dollars from the CBN
Of cause, the cost of dollars, euro, pounds will increase relative to the naira
1. Price of commodities will increase (inflation)
2. Value of Naira will decrease

Solution:
Government sponsored systematic import substitution Economy is to be practiced.

Note: Its not just about closing borders or restricting import. The fundamental of manufacturing is flawed, it has to be repaired.

when the govt can't educate an average Nigeria why it's important to consume homemade products but they are very fast to short down border or importations ,the masses become confuse ....most Nigeria don't know the advantage of consuming home made product boss

Pukkalolo:
You are making sense bro. No woman is decent. The mistake we make as guys is dividing women in to good girls and bad girls.

But the truth is, One Man's decent woman is another Man's slut.

Many things are happening behind the scenes.

very correct ,last last na coded runs girls we go marry

Pukkalolo:
You are right to some extent: Certain style works on certain category of girls.

For example, if you tell an ugly girl, "I love you, I really love you."

She might reciprocate your love because she's not getting much attention from guys.

But if you say "I love you, I really love you," to a sexy and beautiful lady that's between the age of 18 to 24 years old, you've just completely a made fool of yourself because these categories of ladies are in their prime and they get attention from hundreds of men daily.

yeah you are very correct

Pukkalolo:
So telling a girl, "I love you. Please, I really love you. I have always been in love with you." is you own definition of being straightforward.

No bro, that's neediness and thirstiness.

that's the difference between men and guys , sometimes you don't need to talk too much ,there are certain age of girls he will get but then ,he needs to improve on getting another certain age of ladies because these ladies are off market already so I love you is even irritating to them knowing numbers of guys have used that term to fuvk them and japa

Favfables1:
You made a valid points up there OP...
Attention has a way of getting to people's head and making them behave like crazed goats...
However...
There is NO EXCUSE for being rude to a person... None at all!!!
What is wrong in politely telling the "woo-er" that you're not interested?? And if the "woo-er" is adamant, then you can resort to the montone you described up there...

Some girls are just plain rude...
The lack basic communication skills...
Or worse still proper home training...

Na wuna dey Sha put up with that nonsense...

And besides sef...
Why would you see a girl you barely know or a total stranger and ask her to be your girlfriend, what do you expect??

most females to day ,lack basic communication skills ,check 1970s video on YouTube and see how young girls coummicate among their self you will think the ladies we have these days are aliens,, if you want to still enjoy good communication with a fellow females look for smart girls upstairs u will enjoy some female communication

toujurs:
You are a mumu man, 70 year old, you still dey mumu. No be juju be that. So its women that could switch off like you said, men shouldn't switch off. Na your type dey carry salary give woman while you trek to work. Thunder fire her and switch off. She should gettat of the room, she didn't switch off to decline the offer, e reach time to drop sugar for daddy, switch off started.

guy man , everything doesn't involve insult ,don't assume you know it all ,the book you refuse to finish someone else could have finished it ,there is a lot of sense in what that person wrote ,back in school ,I remember we where always forcing ladies to have the sex stuff but only few play along others if not many rejected us ,untill we all learn some times na from talk talk in a responsible manner men with experience they pull pants down not gra gra sometimes nothing fit sup that very day it's okay ,it's cool ,but definitely someday it will ,no be everything be violence

jericco1:
Well most guys are unfortunate sha.

They are ladies out there that spoil their men. They're not rare, it depends on the type of girl you attract

that's the plain truth ,there are good girls ,bad girls and damaged girls ,but it's not worth it telling the whole world how dirty your house is ,check Ghana forum ,u will never see Ghana write crazy about their girls or other african countries ,the economy affect everybody ,we are all in this shite together , because woman no gree give you pussy some people day vex ,,

Jhustmie1:
Bro better don't stress urself some of these guys are frustrated and hungry looking for who pass their anger to... Person wey never go airport u dey drag outside country with LMAO... Na their type go dey shout I can't date ladies who can't cook but go out there to become a full time husband.... Jst save ur energy my guy

there are worst female entity's in other nationality ,can he date a Cameron lady or Ghanaian lady or south Africa lady or even a western lady those people are very crazy who will even call the police on you any slight Bleep up from you ,who go cheat go still cheat ,it's a feminism traits that every where in the world ,it has not yet arrived Africa as a society.. better stick to what he got looking for gold in foreign land ..how many times he don give any lady money to buy pad ,open e big mouth like frog day say Nigeria girls are useless ...go check other african forum they don't rubbish their ladies or run them down like we do even though they get their own comma ...

Ammishaddai:
[s][/s]Oga, I don't have the time for this stupid game of 21 questions you're asking me . I just asked you a question and you're asking me another question ...who the fvck does that.

now you get anger problem , relax bro ,if every girl disappointed you don't generalize them ,men as scum that's what the same Nigeria girls say ,are you one of them ? you meet wrong Nigeria girl along your line of dating no point everybody .......

you think most of your brothers dating outside nigeria have voice to argue with another lady who's nationality is different from yours ,most times even if the lady is wrong they just concur to her rubbish ,,,,you think you have seen worst travel outside 9ja and u go kw say na condition make 9ja girls they behave like that

dear all
please this goes to both parents and siblings ,we are in a stage of more introvert than extrovert,now observe OP case and another guy who also complains of such problem of not been able to communicate properly ,when we stay glue to our moblie phone while other use the term my phone is my best friend ,my people there is a big problem ,, and it's going to get worst as the days role by ,2 adults go on a date all they do most of the time is just press their phone ,or most adults can't handle conflicts face to face except behind keyboard pressing ...it's so sickening and I pity for this new generation ,


my advice to parents and guidance creat time for your kids and siblings to associate with other person's around your vicinity it helps alot ,phone aside

Tobam7302:
I don't know why I am just different from everyone. For most of my life I have always been the quiet one in any group even if I wish I could also be free like anyone else.

And now I am in the university. I am still the same maybe even worse, I am pratically a loner now. The virtual stuff we are doing is not even helping matter at all.

Before I gained admission I have always hoped that university will probably change me, but I am in 200 level now nothing has changed. It's like I don't have that fast thinking to give good replies to conversations (especially Yoruba ). And my friend is like the complete opposite of me; free with everyone, funny, witty with words and stuffs.

I can count the number of things I say per day. I just want to get better than this and meet new people. I am going to be 20 next year, yet no babe or even female friends. Shey I even get male sef talkless of female.

My parents sef are probably hoping for some changes. One of my Granny's last words to me was 'when will you not be shy again'. I just laughed then but it's really serious to me... No day pass without me thinking about this.

I just envy people that are just so fucking good at talking, especially this funny bangers people do ( I am so bad at this. I will probably just bore the person out).

The worst part is the way people treat you like a kid just because I don't talk the way, I am supposed to. I am just depressed. Anytime I go out, I always come back depressed, why?. When I see the quality of conversations people have and how fun and confident they are talking. My friend is probably tired of me. Phone calls sef na trouble. No one calls me except my parents.


What do I do to be normal, how do I live like others and just enjoy life? I have even thought about taking weed to help me that's how desperate I am.

If you have experienced this before please how did you overcome.This is really draining me. I just wanted to let it all out sorry if the post is long.

all because of peer pressure,my guy face your book look for a group reading partners mix with both male and females ,which course are u studying by the way

Clinghton:
Money is good, but a wealth man with dignity, respect, self-control, good dress sense, would have more influence over majority of ladies including they ones who have sugar daddies.

A well responsible handsome man, who doesn't have money would attract they attention of all ladies, but I tend to avoid relationships as a result of embarrassing myself due to lack of money.

o wouldn't advice you to avoid relationship because you don't have the money, relationship na skills that can't be learnt over night ,still enter the relationship and build your self morally, money doesn't make you a man ,how u act , behave or respond to situation that makes you a man , money is just a finish garnishing

Amudeneogu:
I met this lady something in july this year and we started a serious relationship but i have never asked her for sex, how do you see it?

if she aren't sleeping with you or she isn't assisting you financially sorry bro ,there is another person in the picture of the relationship

Amudeneogu:
I met this lady something in july this year and we started a serious relationship but i have never asked her for sex, how do you see it?

if she aren't sleeping with you or she isn't assisting you financially sorry bro ,there is another person in the picture of the relationship

Ammishaddai:
Oga, how is that a yardstick to prove that they're not incompetent?

bro, how are the nigeria girls useless,tell me bro maybe others can learn from your reasons .,and others can prove points along with you or against you

Ammishaddai:
How can I "watch my words " when Nigeria girls are worse things walking on this continent ...? Baba , if you've been outside Nigeria you won't be saying this

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the way u react because of government problem not giving good jobs and other stuff ,is the way most Nigeria ladies also react ,man don't blame them or throw your anger at them ,,that's y I asked you have u dated a Nigerian lady who is financially stable ?

Airnigma:
Hello everyone...I'm in dire need of your critical and honest opinions. It is going to be a long read, I deeply apologize in advance.

My relationship of about four years ended a week ago and the circumstances surrounding the break up were highly unforeseen, everything happened too quickly.

So my boyfriend and I have been together for about four years, we were very intentional about each other. Our love was a very deep one, we connected on a lot of levels, shared mutual friends, I know his family and he knows some of mine and we hardly had issues save for the usual petty squabbles which we resolved ASAP.

But the whole trouble started less than 3 weeks ago. We had our usual conversations the Sunday preceeding the week everything went downhill, everything was absolutely well between us. By the following Monday evening, I tried reaching out to him to catch up on how his day went, he didn't answer his phone. I chatted him up but his response was very unlike him. I thought he was just stressed from work and would get back to himself in no time.

However, he failed to do as I expected and I became very worried and disturbed, this was already going to 2 weeks. I had to call him up one night and asked him to tell me what ever the problem is, I honestly felt he was going through some deep stuff. He later got in touch with me and promised to come by my place the next day so he could explain himself in person.

He came as promised, he appeared very gloomy and was far from his normal self. We got talking in his car, he kept saying he doesn't understand himself anymore and he messed up badly this time around.

He dropped the news that he had something with another girl in that space of less than two weeks. He said it was going to be an innocent hangout but he can't even tell how everything went down eventually, the girl later slept over at his place.
He broke down in tears, told me that he couldn't stand the guilt of what he did, didnt want to drag me into the mess and that was why he couldn't bring himself to talk to me or act like nothing happened.

There's a more disturbing side to what he later told me. He said he had what seemed like a spiritual attack in the middle of the night. Apparently, the girl was in the house when it happened (he stays in the house alone). According to him, the inverter in the house went off and he left the room where they were together to sleep in one of the sitting areas in the house because of heat. He was asleep when he sensed something very heavy and unusual, he opened his eyes and right in front of him was a dark, tall and hairy creature. The thing kept staring at him and he felt being drained, couldn't move or say a word till it walked away. He was completely scared, he summoned strength, stood up , ran into another room and made some frantic calls to their church priests and they prayed with him. He insisted it wasn't a dream, that he was wide awake when he saw what he saw. He also added that he looked into the room the girl was sleeping, she was still asleep and most likely didn't know what happened to him.

He told me he hasn't been himself since that experience and would genuinely not have told me anything but he has been really scared.
I got really worried at this point and had ask who the girl is. He finally opened up that he met her last year, they chatted for a while but they somehow lost contacts since last year, only for them to reconnect not too long ago this year, hence, the initial hangout. I asked how well he knows her but he broke down again and said he barely knows her, doesn't know her school or anything.

I was completely heartbroken and wondered how he could soil four years in less than 2 weeks. We cried together and he pleaded with me, that I have done nothing but loved and stood by him throughout the years.
At that point to be honest, I was pained but I was less concerned about the fact that he cheated on me, I was deeply scared and worried about the attack. He said he has been having some routine prayer sessions and he also asked me to pray with him in the car, I did pray for him with all of my heart. He thanked me profusely and burst into another heart-rending crying session. I had to console and encourage him, that he should try to draw closer to God this period and he is going to be fine again.

Since the night he told me everything, we've just been checking on each other and he said he's been indoor a lot since then and still can't sleep or stay alone in the dark.
Now to the very ending part of my tale, I asked him to come around my place last night. He came and whilst we were talking, his phone rang and he got out of the car to receive the call. He came back in to the car and again, his phone rang and he had to tell me the girl was the one calling. I became very livid and surprised that he's still in touch with her even after the whole attack episode cos we can't even tell where it came from.

I asked him to show me her name, he succumbed. My people, my boyfriend saved this girl's name and added kissing emojis. Something he never ever does, he is the type that saves every contact with their full name, including his siblings. Save for the nicknames he saved my number and his bro with, I hardly saw nicknames on his contact list talk less of adding emojis. I knew that was the height of it all and asked him how, he said it was the girl that took his phone and saved her number like that. I'm like, what? In a space of how many weeks and she's got that kinda control on you already?

I told him the action any right thinking person would have taken after the attack would be to, atleast keep away from her and even me cos who knows where it all came from. He said he tried cos he hasn't even been getting jobs since this whole thing started but the issue now is, the girl is claiming she's pregnant for him and has been all over him, professing love and all in the space of less than 3weeks. According to him, he has told just a friend apart from me..he hasn't informed any of his siblings and been keeping to himself, trying to figure how he got into all the mess.

I know my story doesn't add up But then, this guy is someone I can vouch for his integrity and bluntness, he'd never stoop so low and start telling all these scary lies just to do away with me. It costs him absolutely nothing to just tell me, he's done with us and walk away.

We knew we were completely done with each other last night and I'm just thankful that I didn't get myself into any mess with him, no bad feeling at all. I feel more of pity for him cos this incident could totally change the course of his life, he is a struggling young guy still trying to find his right footing in life. I'm more worried that he hasn't told his brother any of this, (they are pretty close but his bro doesn't stay in the country) more like he is shielding everything and dying in silence.

He betrayed my love for him and I'm moving on fine, albeit, hard. I just don't want a situation whereby the whole thing is beyond mere eyes and he is weak, he is keeping to himself without talking out so his loved ones could take necessary actions.

I'm not even sure I want this to get to the front page, I only want honest and critical views
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if you are ready to cheat in a relationship or marriage be ready to end it ,this goes for both gender ,you guy messed up , that's y I advise ladies marry before you carry(belle) ,thank god u escape another baby mama tragedy

Ammishaddai:
Nigerian girls are curse to this world . Any man who is wise will push past their stupidity and move on to greener pastures

man careful with your words ,,,the devil you know is better than the angels you don't know ,what the media portray the west ladies to be isn't so In reality careful bro ,watch your words ....
have you ever dated a Nigerian lady,that is financially ok,,,my guy u never jam

NovesaTillie:
Nairalanders

My boyfriend who I once posted here that he he didn't want to leave my house after coming to visit for the weekend has not called me after he left. I have called him severally after that and he picked on a few occasions and said he was busy with work.
What actually happened is we have been dating for close to 3 months now and sometimes spend times in each other's place but for me I have never spent more than a day at his place because I love my privacy and when he came to my apartment for a weekend hangout he refused to go, the day he eventually left he came back by 11pm calling that he wants to spend one more night at my place. The next day I took the bold step and told him to please leave my house because he was going against the arrangement we had to only spend at most the weekend in each other's place. Now ever since he left he has not been calling me.
Could it be that he is no longer interested?

you love privacy in your own relationship ,then u aren't ready for relationship yet ,,,, relationship isn't Telemundo baby girl ,, sometimes before you take actions as a lady try mirror back if such is given back to you how u go feel ,,I kw most females love the statement"that's who I am ," if you can't act like a lady who values her relationship don't go close to the door step of relationship

peace my people

MufasaLion:
That is not that point. The reason I qouted you we because you said she was left by guys because of her attitude. You were wrong because you don't know that.

I don't want to go deep on that ,,

to everyone who chooses to listen ,there is one thing most Nigeria guys don't want to hear , cheating ,they don't forgive ,if you are a lady ,do your cheating quitely but be ready to end your 3 to 4 years relationship because they don't forgive ,don't compare Nigeria guys o other guys from different countries , Nigeria family Stick together (man and wife ,) unlike other countries where divorce rate is high or infidelity from the wife is very very high , Nigeria men don't smile when it comes to cheating

MufasaLion:
So the blame is on Cuppy now? Clown!

thanks for referring to me as a clown ,u used cubby as an example because the family got cash ,so guys can't drop her if she lacks what a man desire abi ,,,,,

JustforMen:
sound bites...
Hanty, women need resources from men. men need pissy from women... the equation no hard.

men don't need pussy from women ,what men need are coperative ladies ,and very few are ready for that ,pussy is the cheapest resources in town , literally every house hold has it waiting for you ,so pussy isn't a man's problem

Jodha:
95% of men think money is all women want...and that women will flock around them if they have money. Well I'm sorry to burst yhur bubble they're actually hard-working and contented ladies out there...and if money is all yhu have to offer then yhu have nothing to offer..

Guys should learn to work on their personality, attitude, general approach. I'm not saying yhu shouldn't have money ..but if yhu think having money is all there is...or if yhu have money yhure a total catch and ladies will flock around yhu regardless of how yhu behave...then yhure wrong.

women generally don't know what they want be it money or no money ,even guys or men who don't have money get dropped including those who have the money ,,
now you know why we have less date matcher (Dr love ) who help ladies and guys hook up for serious relationship ,most people have dropped such as a job because ladies simply don't know what day want .... you all want to play the role of a man in a relationship ,be the first to talk be the first to do literally everything,what do you expect the man to do ?

Romanoff:
Rotfl.

If you're dating Cuppy, you'd change her cause she can't cook the Ebo you put on fire.

Women done suffer o.

see as u reason every guy for 9ja ,have same nigeria guys not dated cuppy abi cubby and left her ,,if a lady ways are good ,nobody will date her and leave her

NovesaTillie:
I moved to this city because of my new job and my neighbors have been very homely and helpful to me especially the ones next flat,a young man and his wife with a kid . They have been very kind to me, sometimes when I get home late from work his wife calls me to join them for dinner and hangouts.

My issue now is I am beginning to grow fond of the man because of how gentlemanly he treats his wife and how dotting he is of their son. He ticks all the qualities that I dream of and sometimes I just feel like inviting him over to my place when his wife is out to tempt him a little.

What can I do to stop this feeling?
I don't want someone else man or to destroy a cute family.

Please don't insult me because I am in a relationship though it's a young relationship and I cherish my man I just see myself falling for this neighbor.

pls stop destroying the society in Africa with your attention that is not worth it ,go get your husband or boyfriend ,,the western world is upside down today because of issues like this ,and Africa might not survive the wave if it comes to our planet.....respect de society , respect the norms of the African society

Arsenate:
Lol, understatement of the weak, bro.

At op, be very wary of the band of women screaming "insecure" at you. It's basically a gaslighting tactics to instill doubt into your mind and they usually employ this when you are seemingly on the right track.

insecure is the term most women use when they want to get away with their cunny acts

dollarlander:
Go and DNA your kids.

e don reach that level
lol

NetValueFX:
You are very experienced. Seriously, woman have fish brain. Can you imagine that some made a woman fall for him by giving her a seed of beans as a token of love.

if you are ready to cheat as a man or woman be ready to destroy your marriage ,I no support any gender

cloud:
He who wishes to go before equity, should do so with clean hands. I sincerely hope the hunter will not become the hunted in this whole thing.

meaning , because op wife day cheat ,so op hands too should be clean ?