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your storyline is not straight ,your story says she is living in the uk with you and at the same time when she lives Nigeria

FiverrTutor:
Not just the bolded above. Also make sure she has atlesast 2 to 3 kids for you already. If not OYO is your case!

sending a woman to school isn't my problem but make she use belle go the school , school is not for show off and nobody is rusticated for been pregnant in university ...but most guys will not learn

Offpoint1:
Any doing that or thinking about doing should stop.

I have a female friend which her boyfriend has been sponsoring her schools for years, she's serving now. She confided in me that should won't marry the guy... I was heartbroken cuz I know this guy through her, very quiet guy. I won't even state what he does for a living, this compounds the pain.

Only train a woman you've married.

u better help that poor brother, before he goes back to square 1 ,at least make a proverb to him,

God1000:
We just have to learn from people's mistakes.
This nonsense has to stop

most people prefer to learn from their own mistake rather than other people mistake,since years ago ,of how one yahoo boy send one girl go uniben part time and the relationship ended the moment she graduated ,I have learnt that in a relationship have limit ,if possible tell her to bring half and u will give her half any thing given fully women don't appreciate let them contribute their own too ,

henryobinna:
since the lady assited him with his child he should consider that a form of payment for her help.

He shouldn't see it as though he's doing her a favor.

she helped raise the child for what intention,,,see in a relationship we should have a purpose

Sonnobax15:

A similar thing once happened to my elder bro friend...Na once the guy arrange some of him fellow close nigha men to track her reach her mama house......The luck wey the guy get na be say he dey keep all the tellerd wey he dey use send her money all those while for school......Na once she knee down and begin shed tears,dey beg...But the guy no gree forgive her..

Wetin pain the guy na be say she even send the guy invitation via WhatsApp......Las las,her mum gats raise money to settle the guy...

If I dey kind to you,no think say I be fool....just that,I dey naturally nice..

No body be mugu

it's just a pity sha,,,the reply back most ladies give back is and so ,if u helped me ,what does that mean ,,and that statement is very very vet painful

arthurwillia:
Lol state your facts, I know my classmates there about 5, doing well my man! State your fact and stop saying what if baba mi

and I thought u are there ,abeg shift ,,, they say they say ,go there and feel it yourself

arthurwillia:
What are you saying ?

How many people living in uk do you know!?

am not here to argue with u ,if u can't state your own facts don't quote me back asking me how many people do I kw

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Where is the black paint. Between men and women, who paints who black. Go through the post and read comments from male. They don't even want to consider the fact that the way they treat women determines if the woman stays or not. And the way they treat women here is not the same way they would treat them abroad because most men here don't even see their wives as humans.
And even here women who are independent might not take what a woman who doesn't have any personal account would take and the men will call that submissiveness. We always forget that submissiveness is a reaction to the love the man shows to her. The love of the husband comes first before submission. Christians here can go back to their Bible. No normal woman who is treated like a wife will leave the husband.

ma ,sorry to say this since I was a kid till now In which I am an adult,your gender will prefer to pick a tout,a gangster,a hot tempered man to a cool headed person or a boring guy ,,,the term boring is what most of your female friends use ,am not trying to Insult you or anyone but that's what we male have come to notice ,,and you can't generalize the whole stuff because one one or one gangster beat up a lady ,then all Nigeria men are the same ,when the ones whom you call boring are ready to listen to you but you don't pick them instead you go for the happening guys

pocohantas:
Oh pls stop telling yourself lies. Cheating pains Nigerian men to the marrows.

comot jor ,watin day pain Nigeria man again ,,,we no send again o,,,u kw it's the truth

MISSCONGENIALITY:
You are not getting it. Anyway, if you know you can't treat your wife the way you would love to be treated? Don't marry. Whether here or anywhere. Because if she treats you right and you treat her like shit, one dey your cup go full. And remember abroad is not Nigeria where the women might just be crying and begging you but even a neighbor could even call the police on you for disturbing their sleep.
If you are not ready to treat people the way you would love to be treated, don't bring her.

I just day laugh,the way u ladies paint african men black devil sometimes e day shock me oo,...any way sha ,na here all of us go day look

AutoChick4U:
Who? If I had so much resources, I'd travel there for vacation and come back.

now the resources are limited what should we do ,,,hmmmm

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Those marriages are not my dream. We know bad wives when we see them whether here or outside. But 90% of Nigerian men can't stand a marriage where the woman has an opinion. They prefer dolls and women they can oppress and because they grow up seeing marriage as a king-maidservant relationship, it's almost impossible for them keep a marriage in a civilised country especially when they are married to their fellow Nigerians. They would rather marry a foreign woman and practice her culture than marrying their fellow country woman and allowing her learn the foreign culture.

so u can as well call out mothers doll or mini slaves or servant ...you can learn the foreign culture but don't use the foreign culture against ur man

Raalsalghul:
This is just the way to go in my opinion: the man should just make sure that the kids are for him via DNA test and also give the lady a strict warning to take her lover far away from home.

Win-win for both: quid pro pro.

seriously bro , men don't give a fuvk if a lady wants to cheat ,,,don't just bring infection, another man's kid to my home , court is too far you will not even see my Shadow close to the apartment again in her life ...

MufasaLion:
He wasn't interacting. He was barking.

...some people are like that on nairaland

AutoChick4U:
Delete UK from ur mind. Canada, Germany, USA are better

the funny but harsh truth is that most master holders in UK ,don't even use the master certificate to work ,this part most person will not say out ,,,,, people relocate for various reasons ,some Nigerians don't care the amount of tax level on them daily ,all they want is just breath fresh air and that's the end and u day jealous them

Freestainworld:
Most people in the UK wants to get to where you are today, don't disappoint yourself by selling off your property over something you are not even sure of.

I swear ,he has started well and he wan destroy everything ,the way people day advocate of relocateing overseas ,it's very terrible ,,,,like say to get 1millionare in UK is easy ,this is the part most Nigeria living in UK will not tell you ,,,,,they go just lock up ,when u arrive there then reality go show for your eye .... house way most people living in UK can't even build u wan sell your own go abroad ...na waooo

my guy think twice ooo,,,,

MufasaLion:
Did you see in my post where I put Western women above Nigerian/African women?

Seems you got hatred for Western women. Well, that's your problem, not mine, nigga! Let people do whatever pleases them. Go deal with your inferiority complex. Also, go ahead and marry Nigerian/African woman that you can maltreat and bully!

Don't qoute me again without understanding my post!

calm down ,u too day vex ,,,all na interaction

nanceeleecious:
All this questions tho,smh,
If you love ur spouse as yourself and vice versa,
I see no need for these questions,
Except you plan on becoming an oppressor instead of a companion,
This talk no suppose hard bikonu,

this question hard for some to answer o,most ladies will never stay behind while u go over sea to hustle ,they wan follow u ,and if u can't meet up with her while over sea comparison starts ,next is fight next na breakup next na divorce oo,I don see with my naked eyes

Raalsalghul:
This is just the way to go in my opinion: the man should just make sure that the kids are for him via DNA test and also give the lady a strict warning to take her lover far away from home.

Win-win for both: quid pro pro.

na hustle I con hustl over sea no be skyscraper I con count ,if she feels she wants to come over let her know how problematic it's going to be surviving ,,,and the chances of breakup will be very higher than she expects mostly of u as a man can't meet up with her expectations ,,,see some men don't communicate watin day their heart some even lie to the lady that he is a manger In an oil firm over sea ,not knowing na macdonald store he day work ...tell he ,if na ticket u day tear for over sea let her be aware ,,,say na hustle u con hustle and Nigeria will always be your home

BigBashiru:
Women are not attracted to men that aren't dominant even though they won't admit it just like you hv denied just now....this explains why women love men that beat them..... it's a confused gender....that's why they say never take advice on relationships from a woman. That friendship is good so long as the dominant component isn't completely taken away.

dating phase of relationship I have encountered ,I was cool ,the take for granted was the highest disrespect I have encountered ,,I was hot headed even after break up ,the run back is undiscribable ,,this is two separate relationship I have experienced and it's really clear women are only attracted to a not time person

MISSCONGENIALITY:
You have to chose which you want. You can't be in hell and expect the air conditioner in heaven to be reaching you.
You want Nigerian marriage, stay here with your wife. Don't go to a place where women have a view, and life and their rights are respected and expect to have a wife who can only be gotten in a place where there are no laws. Where men throw out their wives when they life and don't even ask about the kids. Where men sleep around and come home to beat their wives for complaining. Where men tell their wives you can't further your education because you are now married to me and I am the one that decides what you do. Where men tell their wives to quit their jobs and turn to house maids against their will.
All I'm trying to say is, you can only have one. Either stay here and marry your wife or go there and stay single since you need a Nigerian wife cos you won't find a Nigerian marriage in a civilised country where men and women share equal rights.

let me ask have you seen a marriage where the man says A and the wife attacks back with BCDEF ,,,,what's your take in such marriage ....if the economy was good every man would love to be with his wife here in Nigeria ,,,even those who paint a beautiful picture of oversea how tru is the picture ?

Mariangeles:
Easy to type.

Can you dare to openly have that conversation with her?
Can you give her the go-ahead?
Would you be OK with it if she does?

let me awaken you to the type of guys you will meet now adays ,,,they really don't care if you sleep as a lady sleep around but things they wouldn't condole is
1.dont bring infection to my house
2.dont bring unwanted pregnancy to my house
3. don't let me catch you cheating ,,,,

these things I listed men don't care if you do them codedly but don't let me catch you ,that ends the marriage ...men have come to realize women mature via social media what they crave for that has been subdued for ages but thank god for social media ,,there are good ladies out there who still got their dignity but very few .... right now ladies have list of options to choose from thansk to Facebook , Twitter,and other dating site ,but they have limited time to choose because more teenagers are becoming pretty ladies by the day and more Ladies are becoming women by the day ....

Ammishaddai:
This is a satanic practice

u your big mouth,na your type day advocate for cheating in marriage

kurlz:
Hmm. When the happening one hooks you. Then it will be too late.

ya I kw many guys have been hooked to the happening type of Ladies but many are also very very careful,men are after comfort and peace of mind than problem and issues ,,,no man wants his kids to be raised by a crazy woman ,,,see same way woman look for successful men to mate with ,it's the same way we men look for homely ladies to mate with

mrbenjame:
Lols. You’re right though. I need the Nigerian kind of marriage. Although I’m not problematic character wise. But my fear is if the woman will give me peace of mind

marry her and leave her in Nigeria or set visit for her ,many ladies will accept it ,or let me say few will accept it ,with the ideology of sex bla BLA BLA like say na food ,if she wants to sleep around let her sleep around,,

Foodqueen:
Most of the times, it's usually ends in tears.

All these girls pretends alot,vwhen they are just coming in.

if ladies like you accept that many ladies pretend alot,,we all would have come up with a solution,but many still refuse to accept,, thanks for been truthful

kurlz:
Hnnmm. But would rather you have a homely girl or an happening babe?

homely girl is the top priority,,,the happening girl is just a temporary distraction

kurlz:
But you guys don't like good decent girls na. You like happening and trendy babes that you meet today and is ready to crawl in your beds that very day or next.
It's well!!!

check the ladies most successful men settle down with,, when a man is ready to settle down different factors are put in place..the good marriage that men and women practice don't circulate only the bad ones we hear of

Pataricatering:
hatred for women is a disease - go and wash your head.

you feel men hate women?

MufasaLion:
The "yahoo boy" has got nothing to do with this. Y'all should learn not to blame people for your misfortune. Unfortunately, the clerics are always fuelling this mentality! Shameless lots!

Your guy should go and get his hustle right! Life's full of ups and downs.

why don't you bring a pile of your blood and anything an ifa or an afa ask for from me and let's see if your life will remain the same after I use these materials which belongs to you ,,,,