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NetValueFX:
To get her is very easy. Plant an audio recorder in your house. You know how she moves and pin her

there are lots of device on jumia to get for audio device,I think op should get one of those ,,,, ladies who spend so much time on social media are definitely going to fail this test ,,,for a woman to start cheating na hi hi for Facebook e take day start ,and compliment from strangers online

Jamesbiodun:
I think your wife don see you finish and does not have respect for you at all, she may not cheat though but lies is what I hate most ...
You have to let her know you are the husband and not just a random man that she can disrespect, some women can respect their religious leader but won't respect their husband at home...
If you can do DNA test , try it though

there is a level of disrespect a woman gives to a man ,the next thing he think of is DNA, DNA has been in existence for ages but with the level of cheating in town ,men have no choice if his lady disrespect him like this ,a video call no be knife for belle ,,,,if you are ready to cheat be ready to end your relationship this is for both man and woman oo,

CuteMaro:
Sorry man. There's something fishy and she's probably cheating (Went for a quick one). You shouldn't have told her you were at the hospital to see when she'll come back.

She yelled at you as a cover up coz there's no excuse lol. It's very common among cheating ladies.

But then again you must begin to look out for other clues! I wish you luck in your marriage.

I have watch cheating reality shows and the wife just exhibited most behavior of women who cheat portray ,na women day use their hand scatter their house ,not even the devil ,it's 2 things
1,she went for a quicky
2,she sent to collect small change (money) from who ever she is sleeping with probably told the stranger her son or kids are sick and she is broke and the husband is broke also ....

if you want to cheat be ready to end your marriage this goes for both male and females

walkingshadow911:
you meant legally married wives

yeah legally married wives

walkingshadow911:
you are shameless hoe with ant brain. if your husband keep bringing women of different sizes to your home in your absence. will you tell your house helps to mind their business.


Thank God for Nairaland the mirror image of the society.

when females were advocating for equality ,you should know what they where advocating for man ,this is it bro ...and I advice every young man ,the moment your kid is born ,go for a DNA test ,later you will be greatfull

walkingshadow911:
there should be for married men too. it would be hypocritical if you don't understand their stand

and our grandparents who marries 3 wife's at home...?

cayorday89:
Magun those days in Yoruba movies, but with my movie knowledge of how Magun works, it's the man that that ends up dieing, while the woman lives to face the consequences of their shame. So OP, think am twice if you believe, men are polygamous in nature and women are not, think of what will befall you when you go hit on a married woman, but still agitate for Magun because you don't want your wife to cheat on you.

every tribe have different types in Nigeria,from edo state ,the woman first son becomes very very sick rejecting treatment or the husband becomes very sick to the point of dead,,man that stuff is real veryreal man,,,and if the woman doesn't confess and the man dies ,it's considered as a murder case traditional and it is treat with an eye for an eye a tooth for a tooth ,,it's very interesting you you African tradition it's the real deal of marriage been the most important institution on earth

kristonium:
How do you know they are married?

Because hardly will they put on wedding ring to the hotel.

even if u take it off ,the scare remains in the finger lining

ahnie:
Work your work and mind your business.you re there to earn a living not to monitor people's life.

see them

Ammishaddai:
This man is an ex-simp who loves misleading his followers. Was that how you wooed your current wife? Mtchwww...hypocrite

see your mouth,if we ask for those things back after breakup hope you will give it back and the sharwama Money we also spent ,,if u have your own money you will definitely concur with Reno

Kobojunkie:
Not every man looks for a way to ruin his marriage. The Op clearly stated he is not interested in polygamy or another woman to pollute his marriage with.

but is the wife not pushing him to that extends ,80% of men cheating ,na women be the cause

airminem:
Good wife...
Just control yourself husband o! Cos if na her body need am always like your body, na so so soo tiredness & stress you go dey form.

Let your woman be the remote control to activating sex. Na you go enjoy am pass aswear.

when day say na una they use una hand kill una marriage and relationship, you people will look for all ways to defend una self ,by the time this young man goes out to have a side chick ,una go say all men are the same or dog or monkey,,,,if the op wan get side chick he should go ahead ,this shite really pisses me off ....

why should I ask for sex in a relationship, is been in a relationship not supposed to be because both of uifind yourself sexually attractive and mentally mature ?

Hanks0000:
Oh no this is very sad, I hope God puts you back on track and bless your baby... I feel really sorry when I see girls going after Yahoo boys...

You have learnt your lesson and I believe have since then grown up..

I want to assure you that so long that you are still alive and able, there's still hope and nothing can hinder you from getting to your destination. There can a delay but you'll eventually get there... Don't stop believing. Now is the time more than ever to bounce back and make him know what he has lost...

A good woman who spends on his boyfriend. Something rare in the part of the world...

some guys are just one of a yeye boyfriend

InTheCloudySky:
You moved too fast, without getting to know who he is.

*You said you fell in love with him after two weeks of meeting. That's not even love but infatuation.

*You went to his house around the same time you claim to have falling in love with him. Somebody you just met. Unless you really know a guy, don't go to his house or at least don't go so soon.

*You didn't only go to his house but slept overnight that same night. What did you expect? He will obviously want sex, which is what happened.


Next time, take the time to get to know a guy first, then have a committed relationship in place, and most of all, don't sleep with him until marriage.

not everybody knows the stages of relationship as many where not even thought at home by parent's,be it male or female,.most parents even scare the hell out of their kids anything concerning relationship mostly the girls ,that's y most of them wait till that golden moment when they get to university or poly ,then fuvk around as they like , because of no orientation of fearful orientation

Opeyemiextra:
One who emotionally and psychologically exploits another but I'm sure you know this already. So, what exactly?

it's rear to see non of this not happening in marriage or relationship

Baamisere:
Help Me! I'm Fed Up

I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years now and she has been a good woman through and through. I've met her parents and we're discussing on the next step. She has been supportive, responsible and caring despite our tribal difference.

However, the problem I'm having with her is that when she's angry she tends to use foul languages and curses on me which I don't like. She end up apologizing after the ranting but I'm tired of going over this. Please how can I deal with this attitude of hers?

I need honest contributions to this thread.

if she day apologize ,it's okay manage it

Iamvictor:
Mention a place in the Bible when this was mentioned.
Traditional marriage is the right marriage. Church wedding or white wedding whatever you call it is white man's form of traditional wedding.

don't mind that one like say the marriage e forefathers did before church came to Africa was not recognize by heaven then ,...it's a pity the white man's church really had great influence on African an sure that was how the white were able to enslave African maybe promising them heavenly place oversea

Elporo:
My sisters moved in with their husbands after traditional. I have 3, 2 are married (trad, court, church) with kids

Once tradiitonal marriage is done. Girl is your wife. That nonsense na eye service.

wan a lady has a wayward parents that's how it ends ,,am very sure op ex wife was married at a very young age,that is y she day do shakara,
so times I tell guys these days let her go around and get fuvked ,no stress her by the time she she comes back she will have a story to tell how dangerous the street life is meeting fuvk boys ..... sometimes we need to learn the hard way

Opeyemiextra:
Being with a manipulative partner

wats your definition of a manipulative partner

fokudas:
What I see a young man listing after the flesh and flashy physical structure of a woman and it will always lead to doom.
All your assessment of her is how beautiful she is and all that, you did not mentioned her being well cultured, mannered, able to take care of the home, good cook, good home training etc nothing of significant important that a woman suppose to have rather only thing you see that run you crazy is her beauty with curvy shape possibly.
My brother you are entering into terrible danger better wake up from that infatuation and give yourself a good discipline before you mortgage your future and life.

e shock me o

hor=fokudas post=107598079]What I see a young man listing after the flesh and flashy physical structure of a woman and it will always lead to doom.
All your assessment of her is how beautiful she is and all that, you did not mentioned her being well cultured, mannered, able to take care of the home, good cook, good home training etc nothing of significant important that a woman suppose to have rather only thing you see that run you crazy is her beauty with curvy shape possibly.
My brother you are entering into terrible danger better wake up from that infatuation and give yourself a good discipline before you mortgage your future and life.[/quote]e shock me o

bigpriik:
I brought up this topic two years ago, it was about a girl i loved so much we were good friends, but she is Just into a kinda flashy lifestyle funded by runs. She always posts twerk videos on her Instagram and whatssap status and of course she is very beautiful and the kind of woman I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Hoestly I don't know why I love her, it's just crazy. Last year I deleted her number and pictures from my phone, because we had a fight over the tatoo she drew on her upper arm so I avoided her..

But yesterday I saw her in my street, meeen this girl don fine scatter and she is looking so fresh like those men are really paying her well. She called me and I answered we talked and believe me all the nuts in my head was loose because I talked to her.. ,i felt all the old emotions back again and it was so strong again. I immediately collected her number and she sent me a hi on WhatsApp so we begin talking again, we chatted all Night and she told me how she missed me so much and all.

Is it sensible iI take her in, i am 29 now and rounding up for marriage and she is the only one i see but i am afraid because i feel runs girls don't really retire even after marriage..

Elders please i need your help..
I need

if she is into runs no problem,good thing you know because most of our lady's do it codely , another thing is she is into runs and want to love a wild life ,there are runs girls who are low key ,with no tatoo.when I mean low key ,the iphone an average runs girl is dieing to have they don't even plan for such ,so bro thimk twice ,it's okay she day do runs atleast u know truely she is into runs ,but her wild life how can u put it under control ,and at 29 ,you should have atleast more girls on your finger tips ,like Becky,Linda , Marceline etc ....

divinitybillz:
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I understand you though, Although I know a guy that says He'll treat his wife right because his dad didn't treat his mum right.

check that dude properly,he must have associated with a healthy family apart from his family ,,,,check him properly

Joey4321:
Hello guys, So this thing has been bothering me for quite a while now and I would like to have someone else's idea on it.

In my mid 20's currently undergoing a masters program at a Russian University (Somewhere around Moscow). Online because of the pandemic. The masters is a full scholarship with a little stipend calculated by your grades.
Now the borders are open and I have the opportunity of being there physically. Its kind of mandatory right now even. The scholarship is supposed to last 2 years with a mandatory third year where you will have to work for the school as payment for your scholarship. While studying you get paid, little money though, lets say 200k in conversion to naira. While working (On your third year) you also get paid but this depends on the role you interviewed for and your skill level. The masters is in Data Science and that is also my field.

But the only problem now is I just got a really good job here in the country that pays lets say about half a million. With my current projections, I could level up a bit more and settle down in 2 years

Now this current amount is more than what I will get paid in Russia both as a student or as a worker for the next 3 years (According to my projection). However, the school will cover accommodation, so the stipends are just for feeding, coffee, movies and dates, etc.

Do you think the masters is worth me giving up such a opportunity in Nigeria for the abroad?

In a nutshell, do you think having a foreign masters certificate is worth it?

let me not lie you ,I don't kw how they have painted oversea to you ,but I will be open to you ,most countries will pay you better by the standard of your passport,and don't expect a 1millionare job even after graduation bro trust me ,u better collect the 500k job and go for vacation overseas

Mummiesgirls4:
My trad marriage is on the 27 of this month I still have had no courage to tell him about my 3 other children. I am pregnant I am scared he will leave me if he find out that I have 3 other children, I love him so much he is my everything on earth and I am scared to loose him. I don't want to end up single with 5 children. But sometime I feel sad I cry at night and I just don't know what to do because the guilt is so much.

let me tell u what men ,male , boys,guys ,hate the most ,lies ,we so much hate lies to the extend if we find out that the girl we so much love opens up to us that she is a runs girl ,but I love you ,and I want to stop such a life style ,we men will prefer to marry such a person then a woman that hides her other kids from us ,,,,,

Mummiesgirls4:
My trad marriage is on the 27 of this month I still have had no courage to tell him about my 3 other children. I am pregnant I am scared he will leave me if he find out that I have 3 other children, I love him so much he is my everything on earth and I am scared to loose him. I don't want to end up single with 5 children. But sometime I feel sad I cry at night and I just don't know what to do because the guilt is so much.

he is your everything now ,by the time he can't provide food on your table due to circumstances ,am very sure u will change that statement,,,

cosmos2000:
Bro I will sincerely advise you see a Man of God and Explain to him. You too enter prayer and fasting. It's kinda weird to keep hearing same thing

because he is very fast to tell them y their ex left him ,don't get me wrong it's cool to tell your ex but break it bit by bit

onojaford:
Op, I hope you have heard? Pay attention to this advice. Your problem is not spiritual at all.

Finally, stop dating church girls.

church girls is a no go area for any man ,if rain fall ,it has meaning,they kick stone it has a meaning,if they see their period it has a meaning

Kingsley123456:
I met my first love when I was driving from ikole Ekiti to Osogbo osun State in early 2012, we started dating and we loved each other, she always sing it to my hear that she was lucky to have me, but after about 3years in the relationship which I had relaxed and believed that I have found the mother of my children, she came up with a story that, her pastor said we are not compatible and that we will regret if we dare marry each other, I didn't force or persuade her, she left in 2015.

I got into another relationship in 2016 March, this one was really ready to marry cuz she advised me to rent a 2bedroom apartment she even gave me money to get a set of chair and put in the living room for us to start living together... She came back home with the same story in 2017 Feb on her birthday that her pastor said, I'm not the man for her, she left without looking back.

To cut the story short, I did an admission for a girl in 2018, and we ended up dating, I gave her close marking until she had to travel back home cuz of the Corona outbreak, she called me from home and told me that her pastor said, she should not marry me cuz it may not augur well, I begged and persuaded for about one month but she insisted...

I still didn't see it as anything untill last night when the girl I've been dating after Corona break, we met at the teaching practice, we spend most of our time together she literally lived with me ...but she went to Abuja, her parents place last week Saturday, she's been giving me attitudes until last night when she came out bluntly with same story, that her Mom saw it in the dream that her current boyfriend is not the person she should marry, that cries await her if she dares to..

What is going on with me... I'm confused, this one is affecting me.

u are just over thinking bro ,when most individuals what to option out of a relationship,they mostly use pastor or something else,u will be alright bro

dan56:
Why should he care about you to dash you money?

Is begging in your DNA?

Why should you be important more than his dog if he have any?

What value do you add to him to dash you anything?

Why must he dash you to proof his value?

Is it mandatory he needed to proof anything to you?

I mean are you worth proving anything to?

na me u just pack all these questionaire for ,if e no wan give me just say I am not giving you ,,, because of 8k u day compare me with e dog ,,,,na waooo,this life sha

MrMcJay:
Simply because I refused giving you 10k
See tears

Giving 20k is not my problem. The problem is that you're not worth it. Get that into your head.

guy man u kw get ,u called over 6 degit currency ordinary, which is enough to secure a land in my state ,,,burst me ordinary 4 digit, na problem,,,,,abeg day go