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Romance › Re: As A Lady, Can You Date/marry A Guy Younger (age Wise) Than You? by lavylilly(op): 12:31pm On Dec 24, 2019

why?

rosy1992:
Never.

Romance › Re: Guys Are Looking For Queen Elizabeth And Girls Are Looking For Handsome Dangote. by lavylilly(op): 4:55pm On Dec 23, 2019

gimme proof

REDLORD1:
I Am sure you are not that girl in your profile pics

Romance › Re: Every Woman Is Beautiful And Unique by lavylilly(op): 4:55pm On Dec 23, 2019

get lost

Waterview:
lillyval you're gonna employ him?

Don't let us reopen your case ooo.

Romance › Re: Local Girl Is NOT Understanding Something And Needs Your Help by lavylilly(op): 4:54pm On Dec 23, 2019

Sabby1:
Perfect answer
You deserve one chilled Budweiser beer. Pick one and keep the rest

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Romance › Re: As A Lady, Can You Date/marry A Guy Younger (age Wise) Than You? by lavylilly(op): 4:53pm On Dec 23, 2019

get lost

timibare:
i heard ur nickname is Shiloh 2033

Romance › Guys Are Looking For Queen Elizabeth And Girls Are Looking For Handsome Dangote. by lavylilly(op): 1:35pm On Dec 23, 2019

Guys are looking for Queen Elizabeth and Girls are looking for Handsome Dangote on social media

Handsome guy: 600 likes and 500 comments
Abroad guys: 1k likes and 800 comments
Luxurious guys: 2k likes and 1k comments
Ugly guys: 10 likes and 6 comments
Poor guys: 5likes and 3 comments

Fine girls (Curvy ones) 1k likes and 1k comments
Semi girls (No curves) 50 likes and 10 comments
Slay Queens 1k likes and 700 comments
Half naked girls 3k likes and 2k comments
Ugly girls 10 likes and 2 comments.

I don't even know where I belong
But beauty is in the eyes of the beholder

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Romance › Re: Why Is That The Person You Dont Have Any Affection For Keep Coming To You? by lavylilly(op): 1:34pm On Dec 23, 2019

REDLORD1:
Coz the person you love is an alphamale who makes women beg for his attention

Romance › Re: Every Woman Is Beautiful And Unique by lavylilly(op): 1:33pm On Dec 23, 2019

I will employ you.

Dicktion:
Only you create 4 different topics before noon. Is that how frustrated you have become Go get a job madam.

Spits*

Romance › Re: Why Is That The Person You Dont Have Any Affection For Keep Coming To You? by lavylilly(op): 1:31pm On Dec 23, 2019

Olukoso1:
Hey sister, you better wake up to reality...

Those dreams about guys only happen in literature

Romance › Local Girl Is NOT Understanding Something And Needs Your Help by lavylilly(op): 11:23am On Dec 23, 2019

Dear Men,

Local Girl is NOT understanding something and needs your help.

Here is the scenario

Mr. Man approached her,professed his love and asked to be given a chance. She refused. He persisted, but she stood her ground.

3 months later, Mr.man is now getting married.

Local Girl is hurt. She feels like Mr.Man ALMOST used her. How could he have found and engaged a woman within 3 months?! Did she dodge a bullet or missed out?

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Romance › Re: Why Is That The Person You Dont Have Any Affection For Keep Coming To You? by lavylilly(op): 11:23am On Dec 23, 2019

2buffagain:
Because you can only attract your level... And less.

So you are basically LESS than the person's level you are failing to attract. Let that sick in.

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Romance › Then I Cannot Help You. by lavylilly(op): 11:00am On Dec 23, 2019

Any man that is waiting to judge me by my social media posts and comments, to know if I’m ‘datable’ or ‘marriageable’ is really sitting on a long thing.
I’ll always feel free to write whatever I deem fit. I understand that compromises come to play when you’re in love with someone. But it will have nothing to do with whether we will remain in a relationship or not.

I see a lot of ladies who do not freely express themselves because a man might be watching. It’s okay if you’re doing it for you. But not because you don’t want a man to form an opinion about you.

If you don’t know that most people on social media like myself only show you what we want you to see.
Then I cannot help you.

Romance › Every Woman Is Beautiful And Unique by lavylilly(op): 10:34am On Dec 23, 2019

Every woman is beautiful and unique, but alot of ladies neglect "DRESSING", Yes Dressing tells alot and does alot to your psyche as a woman,it builds your self esteem,it gives you great confidence, it makes you feel uptop of your game,it brings out the hidden beauty in you,it builds respect,most of all it makes your man hungry for you.

Dressing attractive at all times as a woman kips your man stuck to you at least to a 60% ,alot of ladies once they get into a relationship or marriage tends to loose their sense of dressing and that has brought issues in relationships and marriages..A woman needs to dress and look beautiful for herself first ,married or not..

Take a look at your dressing today ,that might be the great obstacle behind that man finding you,behind why your husband is having an affair outside,behind why you weren't given that job the other day,behind why you were not given listening ears,nobody is asking you to go to the best boutiques, they are lots of affordable dresses that could make you look beautiful and give you that very satisfaction..Let those who have ears hear

Romance › Re: Why Is That The Person You Dont Have Any Affection For Keep Coming To You? by lavylilly(op): 10:33am On Dec 23, 2019

Same here o

Phenomenal16:
..my dear...the thing just weak me

Romance › Why Is That The Person You Dont Have Any Affection For Keep Coming To You? by lavylilly(op): 10:08am On Dec 23, 2019

Why is that the person you dont have any affection for keep coming to you and the person you love dont want to give you attention?

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Romance › Re: Why Are Guys So Scared Of Dating Students? by lavylilly: 10:08am On Dec 23, 2019

at all

RAGGA40:
guy u have no conscience

Romance › Re: Have You Been Sexual Harassed Or Molested....? by lavylilly: 10:07am On Dec 23, 2019

oyaaa:
Smh

Romance › Re: Marry A Girl That bleeps Like A IndecentStar by lavylilly(op): 10:07am On Dec 23, 2019

Khalidase83:
Depends anyway. Personally don't have problem marrying a lady with tattoos if I really love her. Pls keep ur argument.

Romance › Re: "I Was With Him Through Thick And Thin" by lavylilly(op): 10:03am On Dec 23, 2019

Do they look the same? He same same write up

Or11:
Lazy man . Found it in less than a minute. Oya let the breeze blow and open fowl yansh

https://www.nairaland.com/2794994/dear-girls

Romance › Re: Marry A Girl That bleeps Like A IndecentStar by lavylilly(op): 3:30pm On Dec 20, 2019

Elvinho2244:
One slay queen detected

Romance › Re: Five Signs You 'may' Be Dealing With An Emotionally Unavailable Person by lavylilly(op): 3:28pm On Dec 20, 2019

luvlyoracle:
True that

Romance › Re: Five Signs You 'may' Be Dealing With An Emotionally Unavailable Person by lavylilly(op): 1:56pm On Dec 20, 2019

sanemind4:

Romance › Five Signs You 'may' Be Dealing With An Emotionally Unavailable Person by lavylilly(op): 1:09pm On Dec 20, 2019

Five signs you 'may' be dealing with an emotionally unavailable person

1. They have never really had a serious relationship, or their past relationships ended because they feared commitment - so they'd leave when things got 'real' or they'd sabotage when things did.

2. You rarely feel like you're pleasing them because they can always find a flaw in you or your relationship, even when things are going well. Once they find a 'flaw', they use it as a crutch or excuse - because they fear intimacy.

3. Early on they say things like "I don't want to hurt you" / "I'm not sure I ever want to be married" / "I suck at relationships" - even when things between you aren't that serious. This is a warning to you - because they know they're not emotionally prepared or available.

4. They rarely want to have 'deep' conversations, or discussions about their past. Things are generally very surface level with them and when you do ask questions they can be evasive or secretive.

5. Everything seems to revolve around them and they're unwilling to alter their schedule / change their plans / plan in advance to suit you. Their commitment-phobia makes them feel like they need to be in control of all situations and future planning in the relationship.

Bonus signs of emotional unavailability:

- They struggle to be content and always think there's something 'better'

- Even when they're faced with people who care for them, they like to stress that they don't need anyone

- They often say they fear losing their independence

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Romance › Re: "I Was With Him Through Thick And Thin" by lavylilly(op): 12:24pm On Dec 20, 2019

luminouz:
Sorry ma'am, unless I'm getting paid to do that,I can't start searching over the million posts NL has.

Are you saying you sat down and drafted this article yourself?

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Family › Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by lavylilly: 12:23pm On Dec 20, 2019

Take your time getting to know people. Rushing or skipping processes is an easy way to miss red flags, make misinformed decisions, or put people on a pedestal they have no business being on.

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Romance › Re: "I Was With Him Through Thick And Thin" by lavylilly(op): 12:15pm On Dec 20, 2019

Sir, provide link to bck up your claims.

luminouz:
Very sorry, I can't but I have definitely read this before. I never forget a compelling article.

It was even debated on,with the usual e-brawls between the genders.

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Romance › 7 Signs You Have A Good Partner-toni TONE @t0nit0ne by lavylilly(op): 12:15pm On Dec 20, 2019

7 signs you have a good partner:

1. They handle conflict maturely
Name calling, gaslighting, ridiculing, and physical abuse isn’t something you deal with. When you’re in disagreement they don’t put you down or behave aggressively. They talk respectfully, calmly and openly.

2. They celebrate your successes
They see your accomplishments as a great thing. They don't dismiss them or seek to make you feel bad when you're doing well. They also don’t behave as if they’re in competition with you. When you're happy, they're happy.

3. You trust them and they trust you
You rarely feel anxious when you can’t get in touch with them or when they’re out with friends. You have no reason to doubt them or be worried about their behaviour when you’re not around. They also show you that they trust you too.

4. Talking to them is easy
They allow you to be vulnerable and they don’t throw your vulnerabilities in your face or expose your deepest secrets. They listen when you speak – not just to hear, but also to understand. They also encourage you to talk about yourself.

5. You spend time apart and have lives outside your relationship
Your life consists of a healthy balance of ‘us’ and ‘me’ time. They want you to have a social life outside of them, and don’t seek to control you. You feel like you’re given room to grow and spend time with others.

6. They’re considerate and willing to compromise
Your relationship doesn't revolve around them alone. They understand the meaning of a 'partnership' and that your needs matter too. When compromise may be required, they evaluate all options and not just the ones to suit them.

7. You feel loved
They regularly express their love and affection using their own love language. They also try their best to love you how you like to be loved. As a result, you feel appreciated and treated like a priority, not taken for granted and treated like an option.

I hope you like my list! I'm sure there are many more signs but I didn't want to make this thread too long (rich coming from me), so please feel free to share more signs below ❤️

Romance › Re: Marry A Girl That bleeps Like A IndecentStar by lavylilly(op): 12:13pm On Dec 20, 2019

He just showed his dumb

TheApologist:
why do people find it hard to read, I bet your comment shows you never read the piece

Romance › Re: "I Was With Him Through Thick And Thin" by lavylilly(op): 12:11pm On Dec 20, 2019

Provide link to the write up

luminouz:
I've read this before on NL

Is this your personal work?

Give credits to the writer na

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Romance › Re: "I Was With Him Through Thick And Thin" by lavylilly(op): 12:11pm On Dec 20, 2019

Ginaz:
Please what I hate most is general misconceptions. It’s not every woman who did nothing while the man was hustling , some women literally did odd jobs , side hustles and other things to make their lives better .

Some went to school, really hustle as much as the man. I hate stupid talks like these , do you people think women are brainless and useless? Majority I see Omo, dem Dey hustle and their bfs broke like mad.

You guys should stop preaching what you don’t know . My mom’s friend is a hustler , singlehandedly paid for rent for those years the guy was broke and hustling , did one or two things for the ungrateful guy only for him to abscond with another girl . Wasted her youthful years for nothing.

As for now sef, I won’t advise any girl to put up with a guy for any reasons cos of statements like these.

Some mumu will just write up and come to say you only asked for Brazilian hairs and shoes like they knew you or stayed with you in the house to know that.

All the girls I Dey see for street dem Dey hustle . Dem be hustlers , they gat dreams. Stop the stereotype!!!!

Just as there are good for nothing men, there are good for nothing women too.

On a ratio of 80% , girls Dey hustle even in relationships.

Agreed

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Romance › Re: Marry A Girl That bleeps Like A IndecentStar by lavylilly(op): 8:13am On Dec 20, 2019

Mumu! Did you red it all was it written by me.

AstroG:
You for talk say make ah go Marry Ashawo na.
Mtcheeeeeeew

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