₦airaland Forum

HoliMaree:
Niga is this your duplicate moniker?

Seems so.

Wonder how many others he has.

PureGoldh:
The prices differs sir...kindly state the brand you want

Can you list them out the way you listed out your phones and their prices?

Money isn't needed to have a happy marriage. But money sure as heck makes a happy marriage more enjoyable!

I should know. I've experienced both.

bukatyne:
@bold:

he was seriously cramping my style.

and he has given up on my style.

Wise man. He will live long!

bukatyne:
@bold:

We used to go to the local market together when we just got married.

Lasted a few weeks: he was seriously cramping my style.

We still do monthly grocery shopping together and he has given up on my style.

In our early days when we ALWAYS had to go to the LOCAL markets.

Now, Baba God has picked my call. I do shopping malls and online markets. I can't identify a local market if the gate is slammed on my face right now

My wife and I go shopping together. In the early days when we always had to go to the local market, is it wierd that we never got any negative reception from the market women? They tended to give my wife more respect and whenever I had to go alone, I was generally fetted over.

So I take exception to your comment that the market woman

"shame the man by asking what he is doing in the market following the woman. Could it be that he is trying to monitor how the wife spends money, they ask."

What are the prices for your laptops?

You weren't strong enough to resist the presure when you decided not to go ahead with the wedding, what makes you think you will have the strength to go through with a divorce?

Even worse, God forbid the child is SS, would you have the strength to care for YOUR child?

Dude, you need to work on yourself first before blaming anyone else. You need to KNOW what you want and stick with it. But you also need to know what you are responsible for and to and stick with that toom

24hrsReport:
The National Bureau of Statistics (NBS) has stated, the divorce statistics in Nigeria shows that 0.2% of men and 0.3% of women decide to end their marriages.

I'm missing something here. How is this a high rate of divorce?

Once upon a story, we were promised a robust reply.

Now we hear connections are being used to hide a report.

But we will still follow this man of god.

But wait oh. If he had no case to answer, shey this report would have constituted a robust reply, abi not so?

Angry or hungry?

missjekyll:
I read this initially as I am an ass getting married to an ass.

Apt

Tadeknkeepcalm:
This is more of an advert for the dibia than a narration of the incident.

Proper advert.
I was even expecting to see "for more information on his services, please call +256 419 419 419!

bukatyne:
Especially if he is tall, handsome, fair with big head

And has been to PHC before

Be nice

GiantParrot:
This question is as dumb as these other questions:

Why are black people criminals?
Why are women prostitutes?
Why are Catholic priests paedophiles?
Why do older females rape prepubescent males?
Why do women sleep with dogs?

There is no need to dignify such a question with any thoughtful response.

Don't forget to include
Why are Nigerians stupid?

I have maintained a transparent relationship with my Lady for 16 years. Even when we were dating.

I have not regreted it.

Tedpgrass:
No sir, it doesn't... Not at all.
You've got to be a connoisseur like the op and myself to know the difference..


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The OP's argument is that the difference is so obvious, the Nigerian one tastes like crap.

The best way to a man's heart is through a 4 inch incision over the breast bone, pulling back the flesh and sawing through the hard sternum.

The truth is both undeniable and uncomfortable to proclaim: Well-educated couples are much less likely to divorce relative to less well-educated couples. In 2008, I collected data on a targeted sample of more than 1,200 of the most intelligent, well-resourced women of my generation (the Lifestyle Poll Project). The vast majority of the respondents in my sample (98 percent) are college graduates, and more than half of the sample graduated from Harvard University.

In the married portion of this sample (just over 600 in total), fewer than 6 percent had divorced, despite the fact that the average length of marriage was 4.3 years (the third year of marriage is generally associated with the highest risk of divorce). ii The vast majority (86 percent) described their marriages as either “very happy” (24 percent), “extremely happy” (51 percent), or “perfect” (11 percent). An additional 8 percent said that they are “happy,” leaving only 6 percent that reported feeling “a little unhappy” (4 percent), “fairly unhappy” (2 percent), or “extremely unhappy” (<1 percent). The overwhelming majority (91 percent) would marry their current husband again, and nearly the same proportion (89 percent) “rarely” or “never” wish that they had not married their husbands.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201205/you-do-not-have-5050-shot-successful-marriage%3famp

This shows that the majority of marriages are happy.

The Centers and Disease Control and Prevention notes that — as of 2016, the most recent information available — the real divorce rate in the United States is 3.2 per 1,000 people.
https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/a26551655/us-divorce-rate/

This shows the divorce rate is less than is currently bandied about.

So why do you hear more bad stories? Well misery loves company.

Online trolls love the opportunity to generalise and insult. When they can insult a group of people by telling a story false or otherwise, you get 30 pages of comments. Look for stories on Nairaland where husbands celebrate their wives and vice versa and it is surprising if they go beyond 2 pages.

He is not, nor has he ever been, your friend. You have always been a meal ticket.

The Bible says we should forgive. Good you have forgiven him.

The Bible also asks that while you are as gentle as a dove, be as wise as a serpent.

He has no business being in your house. You want to host him? Take him to a restaurant.

I've got to admit, this is good publicity for Stella.

But then, what do I care?

Not really. A spouse can grow, develop themselves, improve themselves, learn new skills, develop a different habit....etc etc.

I will also change in ways that bring a different reaction from my spouse.

Humans aren't static.

KanwuliaExtra:
No TROWLS? And one senseless thread got to almost 30 pages of THRASH hypothesis and delusional ruminations!

Mtcheeeeeeeew!

FROOOOONT PAGE PLEAAAAAZE

A BLACK man is DYING of STRUGGLE LOVE O!

Relax. They are still coming. Maybe them go shite or something

I always say that if anything your spouse tells you can be taken two ways and one of the ways is hurtful, assume they mean the other.

That also doesn't mean your spouse should be snarky on a regular.

A soft answer turns away wrath.

kunleajaye:
What sort of patience would I have had, if i may ask? I did everything I could as a father and husband, and it wasn't like we were suffering.

If I have made a wrong assumption somewhere, please correct me. I couldn't read everything.

But from what I did read, the problem seems to be you had a plan, she had a plan. You didn't care for her plan and meant to force your plan on hers. She didn't care for you plan and chose to give you the finger.

So what yiu have right now is 2 people bitter with each other while still refusing to speak to each other civilly, while still blaming the other and "fate"

Your wife has moved on. That's clear. Right or wrong, she has. You are still wallowing in self pity. Your wife hates what you guys had and has chosen to pit the kids against you. Right or wrong, she has taken a stand and is forging ahead with that.

You have to take a stand yourself. Screw your new qualification or work with it. Don't blame your dad for getting it. Find alternative ways to have a relationship with your children. Send letters if yiu have to via 3rd parties so that they will at least know the distance is not by choice. Get a divorce or not. Your business. But know she has left you. Full stop. Uncle has replaced you. At least for the moment.

I'll say it again. Chose and stick with it. Stop pinning for a past that was never there. If you don't stand for something, you will fall for everything.

Eketem:
Husbands are not " tested" with cooking, cleaning or washing cars when they go visiting in laws for the first time.

Husbands are not required to spend days with their father in laws to test their materialness

Husbands are not required to drop their jobs be home making dinner and lunch for father in laws when they come visiting.


Husbands are not judged on house keeping skills

Father in laws do not come into a mans house and start nagging him on what he does and doesn't do

Hang on.

Isn't it interesting that it is the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "administer" these tests?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that "require" the woman wife to spend days with the mother-in-law?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that expect the wife to drop her job and business to attend to the in-laws when they come visiting?

Isn't it interesting that is usually the mother, sisters and aunties of the man that judge and many times condemn the wife's cooking and house keeping skills?

Just commenting, you know

crackkhaus:
In a lesbian union with no husband present, they will still have MIL issues.

This is the most hilarious thing I have read in the last 24 hours!

baldman:
Yes, I have been happily married for three years now, and with two kids. Thank you for checking.

Good for you. Now to throw your own questions back at you.

1. What informed your decision to choose the lady you marry (your wife)out of the others available?
2. Now that you are married, from your experience in marriage, what other factors do you think young men, who are at the verge of making that BIG DECISION, should consider?

Thanos:
You read the wheel of time books?

All 15 of them. Plus the prequels.

All in all, a professional should be a professional. If one don't like it, one still got to suck it up and endure.

J111333:
For wanting to friendzone that innocent but smart dude, you probably won't make heaven.

Thank you

My sad observation is a huge part of that pressure comes from women in the husband's family.