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OP, dont mind them. back home, i used to have such arguments with my friends. found out it was pointless arguing, as they were always impossible to convince. it amazes me at to how those girls will be aware and comfortable with the fact that their spouse has the tendency to cheat on dem.i really wonder

all my ex's have been trustworthy and i had no reason to suspect them cos they earned my trust overtime. i wonder which jungle dey get their own guys from?

imagine a congregation of supposedly children of God, resorting to violence. a large percentage of Christians can be hypocrites. !!   

i feel for the doc and lady. wat a terrible situation to be in. i hope love will pervail in their case? PITY!

3direct:
the moment you are no longer a virgin!!

"really!"!!! 

i shook wen i read dis one!

googles:
Marry me. . . . I am very fertile

LMAO!!!

break ups are never good for the soul, and they somtimes dont end on a good note.

for a mutual break up, u need to get together with her and break it down for her. try and be in a place with no sharp objects, heavy metals and no hot liquid. but b on guard, in case the slap comes


for a harsh break up, (i usually advice or go for this one wen dah persons f*uck -ups full cup), u can just avoid her calls/texts/ping etc, change ur number, and play dead weneva she comes knocking at ur door. even if una jam face to face for road, pretend that u dont know her or that u have never seen her in all ur existence. with time she will get d message.

one of the most enlightening post i've read on NL thus far  . . . was too long though
true, very true facts of life in a typical Nigerian society.
all these begging men for food to eat, for money and other material things will stop if and only if women would see themselves as achievers rather than tools used just to satisfy d loins and bellies of men.
it is dat bad that even presently, wen people see a woman living life (good car,apartment etc), they automatically assume that she must have slept wit loads of men to obtain that fortune.  .  . SMH 

but then again, in their defence, i tink the younger generation of men are becoming more enlightened and really fed up wit women's over reliance on them. some younger women have also learnt to become independent. though the mentality has not completely faded (and the society, together with our fathers generation are not helping at all), its at least better than what it used to be in the past. 
A woman's success should in no way be a challenge to any man
AND
The success of a woman should not be the weakness of a man

@OP, i'm sure by now, u've gotten d impression that this is the wrongest place to wife-hunt!
but still, best of luck with your search though   

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=732155.msg8894097#msg8894097 date=1312983207]^^^
nobody is shy with that[/quote]u have no idea. some guys are naturally clumsy!!

@OP, such guys could be cute, especially wen i was still in sec. school. but as a full grown woman  , i might not be comfy with having that kinda bf. haba, e get tin wey person suppose out-grow nahhhhh,  but den 
hmmmm, just hoping i dont go out wit such a guy sha

but its very possible to love such people. afterall they are still human. 

@OP, this is the 21th century. this kinda questions have been dealth with over and over and over and over andover and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over
AGAIN!

u c how hard, fustrating and wanting to hang oneself my constant retyping of "and over" is, that is exactly how old this kind of question u've asked has gotten!

yeah and to answer your question No, its not wrong to marry an older lady  

[quote author=SEYI_ORIJA link=topic=732419.msg8894040#msg8894040 date=1312982751]I JUST GOT ENGAGED TO MY PARTNER  2MONTHS AGO AND ALL I CAN THINK OF IS TO HAVE A BABY TO CALL MY OWN, I HAVE EVEN STARTED GETTING  BABY CLOTHS AND ALL, WHEN I SEE WOMEN WITH KIDS I FEEL SO LONELY AND SAD COS I WANT MINE TOO

  I DONT KNOW IF THIS IS NORMAL OR JUST ME BEING NAIVE, EVERYONE AS TOLD ME TO RELAX THAT IT WILL COME IN DUE TIME BUT I NEED IT SO BADLY, DOES ANYONE KNOWS A FERTILITY DRUG OR HERBAL MEDICATION THAT WORKS.[/quote]Awww. how cute
dont no about fertility drugs (cos i'm so not trying to be preg, HELL NO!!), but i do no what can work(u may already be aware of the method but anywho. . . .)
Try studying your cycle.  if u have a steady cycle, then the middle of your cycle is the most and almost the only fertile pe/riod of a woman. your partner might just stop shooting blanks and rather target getting intimate for reproduction purposes by doing it toward d 2days b4 d middle of your cycle, d middle of your cycle, and two days after the middle of your cycle. these 5 days are likely to be your ovulation period. within the five days, conception is almost 98% likely to occur if a mans healthy s*perm hits a healthy ovary, and if and only if u have a regular cycle  . And then ofcourse, the mood u r in at this time matters. u need to be relaxed, cos being hyper can just upset d balance of your system
(visit http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/menstrualcycle/Pages/WhencanIgetpregnant.aspx FMI )


but nah, dont no any FERTILITY DRUG OR HERBAL MEDICATION, cos i haven't tried one b4. if u've already tried d cycle thingy and it didn't work,  u can always ask your doctor to prescribe fertility drugs for u. i'm sure u and your spouse may require fertility tests b4 any medication can b given, cos if both u and your partner are fine, i dont tink u might be needing fertility drugs  . u might just have to be patient and wait it out
i know some drug can be bought online, though if u r in Nigeria, i'm not too sure how dat will work

( visit http://www.babycenter.com/0_fertility-drugs-for-women_4091.bc  for info on the most popular fertility medications including their costs, success rates, and side effects)

some can wait up to 2years, some more, others less. depends on how long it takes one to begin to see d oda person in a romantic way   

hmmm, but d highest a guy waited and i finally agreed was 2years and a half. though the relationship didn't last for up to 2months. i felt he was too needy and pathetic 
after dat experience, i decided not to go out wit guys dat hang around for such a long time.  they now hit me as very clingy individuals
i mean like seriously, GET A LIFE!!! 

Nayah:
Barcelona as well so cute city, and Spanish guys are, 

ahhh, spanish guys
those guys are  

M M M:
op
all dis question just becos of nyash and punny

yup, it appears that these things u've mentioned actually control and rule most peoples world

Do you really think sex is important in a relationship?
it is very very very very important to me.  extremely important. like hell its important 

Does it determine if a relationship would work? Can wives leave there husbands for it? and vice versa.
yup! i may 

Are the techniques and how good a person is (performing the techniques) really important?
yup. very important. i have a phobia for dullards in  . in all fairness, i usually give d guy time to adjust though

Can love really conquer all. . .Especially in a situation where a person isn't very good, or completely horrible in bed?
hmmmmmmmm, no!
(To girls) does  size of a guys tool really matter?
no! wat matters for me is how well d person can use it.
Is the size, height and shape of a person really important?
no, i dont mind as long as the guy is not too religious(annoyingly)/ridiculously moral/rigid/ hypocritic 

hmmmm, can neva really know wat life holds for me! so . . . . 
it will be awkward though!! very awkward!!! terribly awkward!!! really really awkward!!! 

Hawaii,las vegas, barcelona,  

this circumstance has never befallen me. thank God for that 

@OP
you dont love dis lady to be honest. d earlier u stopped decieving urself, the better
Do u no why?? =because love does not see  such errors which your eyes see! EG; i hav dis friend, his gf is  , but d guy adores dis lady, and has neva noticed this side of hers. he is blinded by love, that is why he cannot see the girls flaw. need i add that dis dude in question is one hawt sonnafabi*tch 

in my own case, i only know dat my bf is not all that, wen i ask my friends of their opinion of him and they either go  or . but even with their opinion, i still will never see any flaw   

see, love is blind. but i assume dat u r ready to spend d rest of your life managing this lady. on the other hand, u culd start now to learn how to appreciate everything about her.

Wish them a lovely married life.

although i must confess that i laughed myself to death on seeing that last pix of the woman. make God forgive me sha. . . . what a lovely couple!
well, what can i say
love really has no boundary or limit

in btw a lot of younger looking guys will marry/date much older women given similar circumstance. truth be told !!

ehyahh, pray he can win d heart of the oda girl dat cares less, but i dont tink the odds are in his favour to be sincere.   
d way i c dis situation, going for d girl dat cares less, he might likely end up alone wen u look at the chances of the girl starting to fall for him all of a sudden! 

my age limit, hmmmmm .  . . . younger, older, dont care, as long as i like d person and he knows what he is doing in times of    

so my love no get limit!!

@ OP as an anti-double dating person, i'll first and foremost tell you that it neva ends well (which is d reason why i neva advice people to double date or double knack).

But who knows, ur own case ,might be different  

on first look, i'll say go for the girl who gives a f*uc/k about your existence without looking back!!

lefulefu:
naija girls are always despirate to date me as soon as they know i from the uk and u know that is pounds sterlings speaking
anyway i got a hot sexy white girl by my side so wetin i need a local naija punny for when i get one clean smelling foreign punny by my side

lol, @ OP
u complain about 9ja girls and yet u claim that u have oyibo by your side. u get oyibo yet u still dey complain. first of all, start being content with what you have!!

secondly, wen did dating oyibo become an ego boost, or am i missing something.
and all the white countries i've visited, it appears that oyibo will date any kind of blackie, whether gorilla, monkey, or the chimpanzee looking broke A*ss guys as long as they have got geni*tals. plus, there are few of the guys i see with classy/sexy white chicks, very very few. the guys that still land beta white chicks are hot,juicy, brushed up and successful black/white guys. so it appears that in every part of the world, successful guys are always on higher demand.
so dear OP, instead of wasting your time claiming with oyibo woman while teaching black girls how to kiss, u should invest that time into doing sometin more industrious with your life.
beyonce-jay z, Angelina Jolie-Brad Pitt, Jada Pinkett Smith-Will Smith, . . .  have so many more on d list

my point is, to land a great woman ( that kisses well  ), u need to work for it finally. u cant be broke and keep your eyes high up in the ladder; u'll just end up wit either eye pain, partial or permanent blindness,  cos dis your "I carry Oyibo mentality", hmmm. boss, leave girls so that they will leave u. apply more focus on more important tins in life and u will surely go far. u can still be focused and runnings babes, but first and foremost, try and focus  

^^^^ boss, na so we see am. i still will continue to blame our society for producing this breed of lousy men and women!

borntofuck:
I wish I could get[b] OYINBO girl online[/b] because Nigerian girls seems like no go area, the poor people and less privilege will suffer more because they do not have easy access to Visa to look for girls elsewhere

oyibo still get their own wahala boss. i've since oyibo gold diggers too. a friend of mine recently just realized that he signed himself into the debt of his ex wife (that she incurred b4 they even met)of which he is entitled to pay half of it wit his oyibo woman even though they are seperated and preparing for a divorce!! no one knows how that happened but some people adviced him to abandon the girl and go back to 9ja, but to make matters worse, the girl says she is about 4monthss pregnant for the guy, and divorce letters and child support order letters contantly roll into his house. okay dah one na d latest of d oyibo story from my side dis week. (not saying oyibo dem are bad but if u r tinking that they are flawless, then u need to fink again)

@OP, i still find it hard to believe all these rumours about 9ja women. especially since there is a generalization attached to it. i can agree for 65-70% of the women but the whole lot, hmm,  that is almost too impossible.
i still blame the nigerian society as dey contribute a lot to this dependance on men palava. the norm of the society makes it seem like it is the mans duty is to provide for the family, while the woman just sits and waits for the man to bring food to the table. nosense!!

if we are living together, we split the bill. wen we have kids we both contribute to training our children, TOGETHER. relationships and marriage is about compromise and no patner should be on the receiving end of it!! most men have kids and they dont even know what a diaper looks like.  . NOTE as there are stay at home moms, there are also stay at home dads ( visit http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stay-at-home_dad  FMI) but how many men in Nigeria would ever see this as normal? ? ? 


i really wish d overall mentality could change among both the men and the women, so that both can begin to see themselves in a different lights rather than a money making machine, or a future housekeeper 

kokoye:
Define 'certain'

spinsterhood, widowhood, break-up, singlehood
none of these situations/conditions should lure a woman into becoming over-reliant and dependent on men!!!!

a successful woman is a strong, independent woman, who under certain circumstances, can survive without a man  

Johndoe100:
This is another ill thought out law from Lagos.
1. How and who will determine the father of a baby?

Errr, how about DNA testing??

Johndoe100:
This is another ill thought out law from Lagos.
4. This not a crime in my state, whoose law takes precedence?

u mean impreganating a woman and not giving a crap about her and her situation is not a crime?? and then lets say d woman out of shame decides to do somtin detrimental, that might even cause her life,  hmmm, i kind of think it is a crime!! i'm sure the government is not insisting that the man and d woman marry, or keep the baby, but it helps that wateva decision taken concerning d pregnancy is a collective decision from both the man and the woman. if the man is a looser, d woman may also decide to become a single mother. but it helps wen d society doesn't laugh at her and see her as a low life w/hore  because d yeye man that put her in that situation abandoned her and even denied his part in the whole deal.


Plus in general, i tink men would learn to stop unzipping their pants more often, learn to blame women less for having s.ex and do sometin worthwhile with their time instead of living reckless lives because they don't feel liable for having indiscriminate s.ex . . . . . i tink the moral lesson here alone is enough.
and if they really apply this with no bias watsoeva, i tink its a wonderful move! 


but then again, this is Nigeria!! no law passed is eva taken seriously or without being bias to those above the law, so i might have to agree that this is all bull and a very unnecessary digression from what people in our government sits should be doing. i'm sure there are more important matters to handle!! this kind of issue will be dealth with over time while in the cause of development. but for now; GIVE US GOOD ROAD, LIGHT AND THE TINIEST BIT OF SECURITY!

OP, u cant tell me u aint enjoying d attention. show off!
u mean dat u cant man up and keep a stalking lady out of ur marriage?! how weak !
u r seriously looking for an excuse to cheat. get a hold of urself man!!

bin gbagbo:
Just dont know what is wrong with this my woman, the least thing annoys her, n the least thing makes her cry.helepu me!

the bold,
i'm kinda dat way nt just in a relationship but wif people. takes and understanding bf to handle me though. . . . . .
okay, now d way my bf handles me is, he always gives me my space wen i'm dat way, cos nagging at that point irritates d hell out of me. dont even ask me what is wrong, try to make me feel bera/comfy, just stay very very far far away from me  

i take deep breaths very often (dreamingly), i'm always thinking about the person, always want to be around the person and i get this naughty-tingling sensation that makes me want to blow my mind out ( get a hold of urself missy   !! ) , my heart beats faster wen i see the person, and wen he is not around, i feel like my breath has been taken away from me