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FamilyRe: Can Child Support Amount Be Included In Prenup For Future Sake by linearity: 2:32pm On Jan 17, 2023
eazzzy1:
The court will be the ultimate decider of what is paid in alimony and child support not a prenup. The court can decide the prenuptial agreement is unfair to one party.

You wouldn’t have to pay alimony unless your wife doesn’t work, or there’s a huge disparity in your incomes. With child support, as long as you get joint custody, you wouldn’t have to pay much or pay at all, the court may give you certain financial roles in the children lives but you won’t have to pay your wife anything.

If you don’t want to pay alimony or child support, asides having a prenup, make sure you have a working wife who makes money on the same level as you do. If you are the typical Naija man who likes to be the sole provider, then the court will say she’s accustomed to the lifestyle, now you are a provider to her and her new man until she decides to remarry.
Mostly what you stated here are correct, but child support does not depend on joint or sole custody. It depends on where the child spends most of their days and the income disparity between both.

If the child spends more days per week with the other party, even if your income is lower than their income, you will be required to pay child support to the other party.

The court first decides how much will be set aside from your both combined income for child support, next they will determine how many percentage of that amount is due to you versus the other person based on the income disparity..after that, they will use a formula to further prorate the portion of the non custodial parents based on the number of days the child will be spending with them, as you can see there is no way this will result into zero child support from non custodial parent to custodial.

Joint Custody simply means, both of you have equal decision making right toward the kids education, religion, upbringing, etc.
CrimeRe: Woman Survives As Live Wire From Electric Pole Lands On Her In Lagos (Graphic) by linearity: 12:33am On Jan 13, 2023
habsydiamond:
Count urself lucky, some people don't survive what u are sharing today. Life wire.. God still get mission for this lady.
She must have been fully grounded, therefore creating potential difference between her and the live Electric wire!
RomanceRe: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by linearity: 3:35am On Jan 12, 2023
segtech68:
okay , thanks everybody ... actually my fear is not about who get the highest pay or properties if there's a divorce. The money usually doesnt matter at some point as in the case of bill gate and jeff besos . I don't ever pray for a divorce. But it seems there could only be a thought of divorce if there was a court marriage. I've read stories of couples fight that could have been settled if they had waited for few days, but one party couldn't control the anger and went straight to court and that would be the beginning of the end of the marriage, but if there wasn't a court marriage, even if it takes 1 year for them to realize their mistakes, they could still come back together and continue being husband and wife.
Going to court does not ‘end’ the marriage the way you put it.

Even after going to court, both of you can withdraw the case and tell the court that, you have resolved your differences.

Also, the most common and quickest way of getting divorce abroad is ‘no fault divorce.’ If most states in the USA, one party can fight against the no fault divorce and argue in court that, the differences are reconcilable.

Even if the divorce goes through, you guys can still remarry.
RomanceRe: How Do I Tell My Fiancee That I Don't Want Court Marriage by linearity: 3:26am On Jan 12, 2023
Romanoff:
Whether you marry her in church or court, the same rules apply in case of a divorce. Both church and court wedding are guided by the Marriage Act of the Federal republic of Nigeria.

So your fear is unfounded and it gives you off as a dishonest person.

If you love someone, you'll treat them right. Na if you dey plan to do bad to your wife you go dey consider all these things.

E better make you no just marry.
Plus, in most western countries that he wants to travel to, there is what is called ‘common law marriage’.

Common law marriage simply means, if it ‘walk and quake like a duck, then it is a duck’. Meaning, if you have lived with her as husband and wife for sometime and others sees and treat you guys as husband and wife, then you are husband and wife irrespective of any actual marriage church or court.
RomanceRe: What Should I Do About This Lady I Want To Marry? by linearity:
Fmartin:
I am dating a lady, and we are about to get married. She's already carrying my baby.
I have taken her to my parents. I have never taken a lady to my parents before. I have seen her parents too, and have communicated my intention to marry their daughter.

The only thing holding me now is to get things in order before paying her dowry.

The main problem now is that we keep having issues, coz, she's always making calls with her exs. i have confronted her on Several occasions, we have had fights, physical fights as well.

She told me she dont have the guts to tell them to stop calling her. She can only keep playing them till they walk away.
I told her i dont have that Luxury of patience. She has to choose between me and her exs.

Now, the issue is that she's pregnant and I have already taken her to my parents, they all like her.

I would have broken up if not because of the pregnancy. Coz, I wouldn't want to leave her with the pregnancy like that. To make matters worse, She have a kid out of wedlock. Though the father of the baby and her are not in good terms.

I hhave told her to stop making calls with her ex, but she seems sturbon.
She's ready for me to Change her sim card but I want her to use her sanity and end things with her ex in a boldly manner rather than hiding under the guise of changing sim. I have registered a new sim, but It's still with me, I have not given her.

Am confused, I need you guys advices for way forward.
No think insult, coz I gaht over dose.
Peace.....
No matter what you do, never you go into marriage out of self-pity.

Also, never marry a lady because she is pregnant for you or you have done introduction to your parents or her parents, they will not stay with you.

Since you have nursed the thoughts of getting married, it means you have judged yourself to be a man, please stand your grounds and be one.

Only go into marriage because you love and trust her. If she is still chatting with her ex, she is not ready to marry you. If she can’t tell her ex to Bleep off that she have met her Prince Charming, she probably not as crazy about you as you think. You may just be a convenience for her and her heart may still be with the other guy.

I will be careful if I were you, if she can’t take a stand and chase off that guy today, she will never do it when she is married period! If respects you, she wouldn’t do what she is doing, I am sorry bros, this fiancée of yours is not into you.
RomanceRe: My Experience Toasting A Girl Today !! by linearity: 11:44am On Jan 10, 2023
Iloveu778:
Lmao grin
You really said the real thing, the thing is, I am really aware of everything you said up there,NOT like I want to date any girl.
I just want to use it to build my confidence in approaching ladies.
Thanks for the input
Bros, you still don’t get the full nuggets @yrhuhfy113 gave you up there!

It is the poor and those who do not have direction in life that look for confidence to approach ladies.

When you have money and direction, ladies will be the ones to approach you, they will look for confidence to approach you. Ladies have this superior God given sense to sniff out a guy with money or purposeful direction in life and they will chase after you.

So stop building that confidence, you are wasting precious efforts on a worthless endeavor, redirect that effort and energy to building yourself and net worth, then thank me later.
RomanceRe: Nedu’s Ex-wife, Hazel Claims She’s Been Getting Dɘath Thrɘats, See Why by linearity: 1:27am On Jan 10, 2023
hmmm
Christianity EtcRe: Ibiyeomie Bans Couples From Having Sex During Fasting by linearity: 8:23pm On Jan 09, 2023
This is wrong and appear to see sex from a perverted angle only.

Having Sex within marriage is also spiritual, the Bible say the bed in undefiled. If you break your fast, you can do it with your spouse.

You can even pray while having sex. It is God himself that crafted, designed and created that thing to be enjoyed, why do we have to go on a ‘guilty trip’ while enjoying it within marriage?

Some religious Christians go as far as saying, the Art itself is disgusting before God, are you serious? After creation, he said all His creation were beautiful and you are forming religious more than Him?
RomanceRe: Finally!!!! I Am Traveling Out Tomorrow!!!!! by linearity:
Roseodd:
Mennnnnnnnnnn,I can't wait for tomorrow!
Men dream don come through!
Thanks to God first and foremost,then to those that gave me advice here on nairaland and in real life too.
See you guys soon when I get there.
My flight is morning.
I pray For d grants genuine hustlers out there their heart desires also AJE!
Which kind public announcement bi dis?

No bi like dis dem dey do am na, e bi like say you bi JJC and you no seek advise.

Na wey your plane touch ground for yonda and you don stay like a month to make sure no bi dream you dey, na that tyme dem dey announce dis kind tin na.

I pray say, village people and their bad belly gang no go show for airport com comot tire from plane oh! No worry sha, Baba God pass dem!

In any case, I wish you a very safe journey, from the looks of things, you go make am, no shaking….but make you no forget the person wey you bi oh, still remember and reflect on the good old days and upbringings. Cheers!
Christianity EtcRe: Will You Go To Heaven With Tattoo ? by linearity:
Kobojunkie:
Oh, practicing Christians don't pay attention to the Truth of God, instead it is debaters that do? undecided
Please stop already, you are out of your depth, the questions you posed and the way you are responding clearly show, this topic is above your pay grade.

First, you said you are talking to Christians and brought a Jewish law to judge them by?

Jews are not Christians, Christ-ians are people who have accepted Christ and behaves like Christ. Jews rejected Christ and nailed Him to the cross, even as we speak, the Jews are still expecting Christ their messiah from the skies with power and Majestic as prophesied by Isaiah, to them that will be the First Coming of Christ as they did not believe the one that came before was their messiah, to Christians, that will be the second coming of Christ.

Do you observe the whole laws in Leviticus? Why did you left out Lev. 19:26, that says you should not observe times.? If you observe Christmas, New Year, birthdays, wedding anniversary, Columbus Day, etc, you are guilty of the law.

What about verse 27, that talk about rounding & cutting the corners of your head and beards, aren’t you guilty of this and going to hell?

Verse 37, says you must observe all the status and all the judgments and all the laws, are you doing all that? Do we as Christians even know all the laws, statues in the Old Testament so as to make sure we observe all of them each day ? Do you know everyone of Old Testament laws?

James 2:10 say, He that keepeth all the laws, but fails in one is guilty of all.

Gal. 2:16; Know, that a man is not justified by the works of the law, but by the faith of Jesus Christ, even we have believed in Jesus Christ, that we might be justified by the faith of Christ, and not by the works of the law: for by the works of the law shall no flesh be justified.

Rom. 6:14 For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.

The above verse answers your question and categorically stated that, if you try to live under the law, sin will continue to have dominion over you, because no matter your best efforts, there will be one law or statute that you will fail at and if you fail at one, you are guilty of all.

Hence Christ came to fulfill the law, Christ was the only man born of a woman that was capable of fulfilling every single law, status and commandments in the Old Testament, hence he was the perfect sacrifice, He took our place and died for us, henceforth we no longer lookup the law or live by the law, rather we look up to Christ and claim righteousness through him.

Therefore, anyone who attempt to say they are fulfilling the Law, are arrogant and equating themselves with Christ, they rejected Christ and His sacrifice and believe their own observation of the law and works will earn them salvation.

We are saved by Grace, Grace means unmerited favor, it is not because of what you did or what you are doing, it is because of what someone else (Christ) has done….this is the exact opposite of the law, because the law focuses on what you did, what you are doing and what you will do in future.

You may ask, should we then continue in Sin, so that Grace may abound? The Bible says ‘God forbids’, we walk in humility, obedience and believe on a daily bases on His sacrifice on the cross.
PoliticsRe: Tinubu To Youths: We'll Encourage Use Of Blockchain Technology In Crypto Assets by linearity: 2:46pm On Jan 07, 2023
The statement ‘we will encourage the use of blockchain technology in crypto assets’ is empty and meaningless.

It is the same as saying, ‘we will encourage the use of petrol in petrol cars’.
EducationRe: Teacher Shot By 6-year-Old With Gun In US Classroom by linearity: 2:19pm On Jan 07, 2023
7mentrouble:
Killings in United States supersede Nigeria
Not true when you adjust it per capital of the population in each of the two countries.

Plus, killings in the USA are almost always reported there makes it into statistics and accounted. for, whereas they are rarely reported in Nigeria and even reported not all get accounted for get picked up by statistics.
EducationRe: Teacher Shot By 6-year-Old With Gun In US Classroom by linearity: 2:06pm On Jan 07, 2023
flemsy15:
A 6 year old carried a gun to school to address an 'altercation' with the teacher? Lolz, at that age, I was in primary 1 memorizing multiplication table.

Once it's established that the parents didn't give him the gun intentionally, the parents are free. The kid will suffer being separated from the parents
Not too fast.

It is the duty of parent who is the gun owner to keep it secured and away from kids when not in use.

If the kid was able to get access to the gun, it would be through the gross negligence of the gun owner unless the gun owner can show that, the kid broken opened a secure safe where the guns were safely kept.
Foreign AffairsRe: Kevin Mccarthy Wins Vote To Become Speaker Of The US House Of Reps by linearity: 1:55pm On Jan 07, 2023
adioolayi:
Republican have enough number to win at first ballot...needing 218 votes..they are 222.....Democrats are 213 ...so, they don't have the number to make 218.

Certain Republican Reps, about 20 are angry with McCarthy , so they were voting against him... against the wish of the party.
That explains why it took 15 rounds of voting.. because Democrats don't have the number and they can't vote for Republican.

Do you understand nowhuh

Can you call yourself Werey nowhuh
Yes you are correct, but there is no law or rule preventing Democrats from voting for McCarthy or Republicans. They just felt that, this is a Republican mess and they should sort it out themselves.

McCarthy is going to be the weakest and toothless Speaker of the House for centuries to come. In the House rules he negotiated with the 20 Republican hardliners, he gave away all his powers, the only thing left for him to give away is his Speaker’s gavel and Speaker’s office.

Any one member including Democrats can stop legislature, move to remove him from being the chair, offer amendments….in fact the 118th Congress wouldn’t be able to function or pass meaningful bills that would ever become law for this next two years.

The next fight that will expose McCarthy’s weakness will be to raise the debt ceiling, which is a normal business and was raised each time without fanfare under Trump, I see America been brought to a place where it may default on its debt obligations.

The Democrats in the Senate will just focus on confirming Judges upon Judges, because nothing serious will be done to benefit the American people for the next two years.
CrimeRe: Little Boy Arrested After Spraying 400k At A Party (pic/video) by linearity: 3:03pm On Jan 03, 2023
habsydiamond:
All these small small boy that want to be doing what there father's age mates are doing.... the source of the money can't pass Yahoo runs or ritual
You didn’t watch or didn’t understand the video?

He went to borrow the N400k.

But, who lends N400k to a small like that with no valid means of livelihood?
RomanceRe: Sex Is Getting Really Hard To Get These Days. I'm tired by linearity: 3:27am On Jan 03, 2023
Lade18:
Recently met this single lady of one. Been the one footing her bills and sending her daughter (5yrs old) to school. She told me She wouldn't let us have sex until she sees I'm committed and reality love her. Although, that's not the reason I'm talking care of her daughter, I just naturally love to spend for people I care about. Just recently, she's wanting to know how much I give my mom and why I'm the one sending her money when she has a shop and making her money.

Yesterday, she told me I don't love her enough. That, if I can open a shop for my mom , then I can do more for her. But I wasn't the one that opened the shop for her, I just supported her.

Now, we had sex for the first time last month and has been denying me sex since then. Yesterday, she came around and I initiated sex, she denied. She told me if we're ever gonna be together, I should learn how to be a man. In her world, being a man involve me cooking, laundry, take her out, and clean. I told her that's cool. But I don't know what a woman will be doing in a House if she's not working while I'm the one footing her bills. If I ask her this, she would get angry.

My fellow men, why are the requirements for sex getting on the increase these Days? Is that they way it's supposed to be?
The requirements are not getting on the increase.

You met a gold digger and a hoe with a sense of entitlement. She is even attempting to replace your Mum when you have not wife her?
RomanceRe: I Insulted My Girlfriend How Do I Apologise by linearity: 3:23am On Jan 03, 2023
Obaaderemi2:
You don't know girls very well. Just call her back and ask her to meet you at a joint. They like going out. Make her laugh and that's all. She'll come.

While you are with her, don't even bring up the matter. She'll later bring it up herself in a gentle manner. You can then say sorry but don't be mushy about it or start cringing before her.
But next time, try to respect other people be they male or female. How would you feel if she said she regretted having sex with an ugly man like you who couldn't even satisfy her in bed? Even if you were handsome and good in bed you would start doubting yourself a bit from that day. grin
He called her a slut, ashawo and a cheap riff rat, so whatever you want, she will never forget those insults.

More so, she was mature and played deaf to the insults, it takes maturity to overlook such thing.

If he foolishly go back, the lady will have an opportunity to plot and implement her pay back and the OP won’t find it funny.

Best is to move on!
BusinessRe: Is This How Brutal These People Are (PHOTO) by linearity:
I believe, it is because you guys allow them.

This is a clear case of slander and libel, if they calls and also post those things.

I understand that, most people who borrow from these sharks do that because they were temporarily down on their lucks and may not have the resources to pursue a slander/libel case.

However, our young lawyers instead of idling away doing nothing, they should sense the gold mine opportunities here and take these cases pro-bono, then split the payout when they win.

This is exactly what happens abroad, lawyers scan internet, companies, etc looking for winnable cases like these and then start looking for injured parties and use them to file class action lawsuits.

This is an opportunity to make money, fame and clean up this industry for young and upcoming lawyers who just graduated from law school.
RomanceRe: Seven Reasons Why You Should Never Get Married - For Guys Only by linearity: 3:58am On Dec 31, 2022
queenBVVIP:
There is great honor in marriage. The society is greatly rewarded by it,otherwise the society would have been filled with bastards, savages and non-entities. Marriage is not overrated,rather it spiraled out of control due to mismanagement from parents to current generation.
Now whose son are you by the way? I know you will be proud to say,"I am the son of ..."
On your point though….are you sure?

Look at other God’s creation, plants, animals, birds, insects, etc…..there is quite an order even without marriage.

I must say that, the animal kingdom have more serenity and order compare we humans. Have paused and watched in amazement how orderly and organized bees are, despite their little statues, what about the rest of creature, in fact the earth spins on its axis as it simultaneously revolves around the sun in an orderly fashion, same can be said about the other galaxy but we can’t elect a good leader in Nigeria.

Well, I am not supporting the idea that marriage is worthless though….just offering an option on the point you made.
RomanceRe: Please Help, How Do I Get Over My Abusive Relationship That Is Draining My Blood by linearity: 3:22pm On Dec 30, 2022
Zeal0000007:
For a serious relationship leading to marriage , do you encourage going through your partner's phone for trust to be built ?.

I discovered my partner has been flirting with other guys online, thanks to the fact that I always go through her phone when she's asleep. I have done alot for this gal, just disappointed while gals wouldn't be faithful in their relationships.

This is someone I wanted to wife next year, and I love her so much despite her flaws .

I swallow alot of her flaws, like whenever we have issues she will abuse me from head to toe, on occasions like that I will ask her out of my life and my house but she'll be so bent in staying that nothing can separate us after how many years according to her "over her dead body" she wants to eat her cake and have it back.

I'm really stalk, after abusing me up and down at night I find it very difficult resist her body, I will still try to have sex with her especially when I see her nudes, I be flesh and blood.

I can't continue like this 2023, Guys please don't cohabit with a gal you haven't married.
Now I have issues of driving her way or I relocate to somewhere far just to have peace of mind. I can't continue like this next year, God forbid.

If she was coming and going ending this toxic relationship would have been effective. This is someone I have paid two sessions school fees for, care for her like she was my wife in my own little way, as we speak I have written her final year project for her chapter one to five, its just left for her to type it and present it.

I don tire for this relationship I really need a way out, I want to leave her cos its no longer healthy for me, though I really love her. She lacks respect for me , she still flirts online, she's very abusive . I have told her if you feel you have seen someone better than me, kindly move on or you feel we have stayed long enough and you can't wait anymore kindly move on, I won't hold anything against u. But you can't be staying in my house and be seeing someone else, frustrating me all round.

Sometimes when we want to have sex , neighbours must hear us because of fight over sex, but she has her good side, she wasn't like this when we started. I'm really tire, God help me next year, cos I can't continue like this.
Never marry a girl that abuses and do not respect you!

I don’t care if she is Eliza, Queen of England. If she disrespects you, she does not love you period!

She is using you to get what she wants now, e.g. you writing her projects, paying her fees, etc…if she is flirting under your nose, she will discard you without looking back when she finishes her use of you.

Don’t dig your grave because of sex and her beautiful body, the machine that God created to mint those, still mints thousands of sexy beautiful ladies every day, just look around.

And don’t fall for that blackmail of ‘you can’t discard me after so many years’. Kick her out, go to the station lodge a complaint, pay the police some ‘family support’ they will follow you to your house to bundle her out and ensure the police force her to write a statement never to harass or come near you again.

While you at it, trash and burn to ashes that project you wrote for her, she does not deserve any of, she is probably calling a fool and a Simp.

Please and please, be a MAN, take a stand and draw a line, only then will woman respect you. If you fall for any thing from them, they will be see you as uncertain as they wouldn’t know what they are getting into, but if you take a stand, they will known you have principles, direction and core values, this will enable them see and decide if they want to live by those principles, directions and core values.

Ladies are looking for ‘who know road’ no bi person wey go dey fall for their manipulations all the time, learn this and become wise. And whatever you do, don’t run away and abandon your house, unless she is the majority owner and pays the rent….this where you have to stand and tell her who is the man…

It may even shock you that, the men she is flirting with and probably fucking right now behind your back are not Simp and does not take shit from her as you do….How did I know, you may ask…it is very difficult for Simps to flirt with or Bleep a girl that is living under another man’s roof, heart go cut them die.
CelebritiesRe: Throwback Video Of Basketmouth And His Wife Saying They Can Never Get Divorced by linearity: 2:57am On Dec 29, 2022
Enny2013:
Man proposes,but God disposes.
Where e dey 4 Bible?
SportsRe: Cristiano Ronaldo Jr. Leaves Manchester United Academy by linearity: 5:12pm On Dec 28, 2022
mariahAngel:
Are you referring to Ronaldo or Ronaldo Jr? undecided
For both, I wouldn’t assume I know better than Dad & Son and I believe whatever decision they have taken, they took their self interest into consideration.

So, it will be myopic of me thousands of miles away with zero knowledge to second-guess their conclusions.
SportsRe: Cristiano Ronaldo Jr. Leaves Manchester United Academy by linearity: 4:54pm On Dec 28, 2022
mariahAngel:
Ronaldo is setting a bad example for his son by showing him that "it's ok to always up and leave when things don't go your way".





Stop projecting your poverty mentality on others.
It is all about opportunity, value and economic of scale.

I don’t think that, if it were not to their advantage, Manchester would have signed him up.

Manchester was not doing him a favor by giving him a shirt, so why shouldn’t he look after his own personal interests while deciding to stay or not to?
TravelRe: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by linearity:
Hotty321:
Racisms and the new environment will be bored. You can't do anyhow you like because u are a stranger.
Let’s be honest, there is also racism and class separation among us blacks in Nigeria as well.

If you were able to exist with Nigeria racism and class segregation, you will be just fine with the subtle racism abroad. You know what took you there and are there with a purpose and laser guided goal, so if you experience racism on your right, look pass it or look left and move on.

The rich black man in your street or town in Nigeria , will never allow you to stand in front of his gate, he will call the police to arrest you.

The Police, Government and Society in Nigeria will give special and differential treatment to the rich guy and completely ignore your presence and there is nothing you can do about it,

If they lock you and the rich man kid up in a police cell for the same, they will bail and set the rich man kid free the next minute while you rot there, get charged to court and sent to prison unless you arrange substantial ‘family support’ for the police.
TravelRe: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by linearity:
prophetfire:
Cold and marriage laws that steals from the man and gives all to the leech. And your children may decide to become transgender and you can't do anything about it.
You can protect yourself from this.

And, NO they don’t steal from you. They do equitable distribution, which means both parties gets almost equal share of assets & liabilities in case of divorce regardless who earns what.

This is why White Americans hardly marries down the economic ladder i.e. the percentage of low income whites that marries high income blacks are higher than the reverse case. This results into net-wealth flow from blacks to whites if the union get into divorce.

Having known this truth, blacks should use it to their advantage. Don’t go with the African mentality that, only the ‘man provides for the house’, marry up the economic ladder, do not be ashamed to ask your wife or girlfriend to contribute 80% of the rent that you can only contribute 20%…at the worst case scenario settle for someone that can at least contribute a minimum of 50%.

You are no longer in Africa, check your pride and egos, no one’s cares about those in the western world. Don’t be ashamed to ask your girlfriend to pay for the dinner date, that you are broke. Don’t fall for that trap about your fiancée wanting to be a ‘full Housewife’ so that the kids can be well taken care off by their mummy instead of the daycare, let’s her go hussle and bring-in her 50%.

Judges during divorce default to the home lifestyle that both of you have created before divorce. So if you have agreed that, she be the ‘Housewife and home keeper’ and you the workaholic and breadwinner, her attorney will use that against you and win…the Judge will not all of sudden force your soon to be Ex into the streets to go look for a job when you have rendered her economically invaluable and her degrees worthless by allowing her not to work for the past 10 years. The judge will in most cases agree that, the lifestyle you guys have created be maintained for many years after the divorce i.e. she remains a housewife taking care of the kids, she should likely take the house since she does not have updated employable skills and you go out and continue killing yourself winning the bread and paying for everything while she slowly ramp up her employable skills over many years in the future.

Know their games and rules and use them to your advantage, no body is going to congratulate you for killing yourself to provide for the whole household rather, they will use it against you that…e.g. ‘You have an history of high capacity production and industriousness and are capable of earning higher’ therefore you should pay more to the other party.

Shine your eyes, Love is not blind….If love is blind and from the heart, why is Dangote daughter not blindly falling in love with that wheelbarrow pusher in the market?

Marry lateral or up the economic ladder, this off-course, include those even though they are earning lower now, but have the capacity to ramp up in the future.

Though I don’t condole it, but this is the game and rule those young black guys that married old and almost expiring white ladies have mastered and we ignorantly laughed at them. The white have been using this rule against us for ages….if those 75 or 80 years old mamas passed on due to old age, these black guys would have a net-wealth flow from white to black, this helping the black race to recoup some of our loses…..and guess what? They will turn around and marry one of our black sisters who had before now ignorantly and foolishly cursing them out for marrying an old woman, forgetting that, the young brother understands the rules and have a game plan.
TravelRe: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by linearity:
Light78:
Racism.
Imagine no one wants to talk to you because you are black.


Many of the men here think if they go there they will make friends easily. That's a lie

Let's practice...

We are gonna use Man A and a White lady as an example.

He is walking toward a while lady to start a conversation with her.


White lady: Who is this person gravitating towards me?

Man A: Hi, how're you doing?

White lady: Are you sure you are okay? Should I call the authorities on you?

Man A:. He says to himself, shaiii, I think say na so e go easy oooo...
This evoked a personal experience long time ago, before I narrate it; I want to say that….none of these should discourage anyone, take them heads-on as challenges and you will overcome.

My underlying principle is, if you can survive in Nigeria, there no where under the Sun, where you cannot strive. Note my use of the words survive and strive, and it it true!

I was a young IT specialist, got a promising interview in New York City, arrived for my interview, which lasted for about 15 minutes.

It was an oral, face-me, I face-you interview with scenario questions. I understood the scenarios and the solution and proceed to give my solution with confidence and a sense of purpose.

After about 5 minutes, when I have nodded to myself that, I had done justice to the question through my oral presentation and was looking up with a smile and a expecting a nod of approval.

I was shocked, when the interviewer told me that, he did not understand anything I have said. I was confused, downcasted….he tried many other questions, same results.

I got up and left disappointed. My problem (rather their problem) was they could not understand my accent and been from Delta State (Warri no dey carry last) you know we speak very fast, so the accent and fast English speaking were the issue.

I had to take some America English speaking classes and deliberately slow down my rate of speech and it worked in subsequent interviews.

Now, the above happened because I was a fresh graduate and was seeking entry level position for which they were many other candidates. Later after obtaining higher qualifications and certifications in my field, I did not send any more, it was recruiters and interviewers who were making the efforts and allowance to understand what I am saying, the same thing happen to Indians in the US IT field today.

So, at that entry level; bend to their demands; there is a saying in the US that….While someone who understands and speaks many languages is called a multilingual, someone who understands and speaks only one language is called an American.

Americans are so arrogant and feels that, they are exceptional despite everyone knowing it is not the case in every area, that they are unwilling to spend the effort to understand you, unless off-course when you have something valuable to offer them.
RomanceRe: Man Divorce His Wife Of 77years Because She Cheated 60years Ago (pics/video) by linearity: 2:25pm On Dec 28, 2022
HydraFeeds:
I think USA has a 20 years statute,depending on the crime gravity .
Status of limitation depends on the crime and type and it defers from state to state in the USA.

Plus states status of limitation defers from FG, if one rams out earlier than the other, you could still be charge under the laws of the other ie state vs FG.
Foreign AffairsRe: Russia Wants Ukraine War To End, The Sooner The Better - Putin by linearity: 9:19pm On Dec 23, 2022
You don’t mean it?

Dis war still dey go on? You mean say Putin go win am within two weeks as him dey shout for our ear the time wey the Casala start for February?

What about all him Nairaland supporters club wey no go allow us drink water put cup for ground?

Wey that ‘mother of all bomb’ aka MOAB wey dem bi dey tell us say, go win dis las las?

Make Putin koko go beg Oga Pale Biden make him sorry for dem.
Foreign AffairsRe: Yoweri Museveni: Life Cannot Stop Because We Banned Facebook by linearity: 2:40pm On Dec 23, 2022
GOTVee:
sad Even though I'm a born again Christian, any Christian that participates in the celebration of Xmas will end up in Hell. The bible commands we Christians to celebrate the death of our lord Jesus (Luke 22:19b; 1 Corinthians 11:23-26) and not his birth. Any Christian celebrating what is contrary to the bible commandment will end up in eternal pain. Do not celebrate Xmas to avoid regrettable consequences. Jesus was mentioned in the Holy Quran but you'll never find any of our Muslim brothers and sister celebrating his birth sad
So which Bible verse command you to post on Social Media or use a phone?

Did you see Jesus or Apostle Paul using phone or sending SMS message?

Repent else, you will be going to Hell!
Christianity EtcRe: Don't Let Anyone Lick Your Private, It's Demonic - Rev. Bernard Achiuior by linearity: 12:32am On Dec 21, 2022
Kisico:
People didn't understand his grammer, and that is why they are dragging him like a tiger generator. What he meant is that it is more demonic than it is lovemaking, more like, it is not actually the lovemaking that it is perceived to be. He didn't mean that lovemaking is demonic for married couple.

He is very right. Most Men don't do it for lovemaking sake.
Oga, where and how you take count the 'Most Men' so?

Abi you just count yourself, your brothers and men from your family you come take that one conclude?
FamilyRe: You Left Us No Single Legacy - Sad Children Write On Their Late Dad's Biography by linearity: 10:37pm On Dec 19, 2022
Oluneutral:
I like the honesty/truthfulness of the children.
How do you know they are honest?

I do not think, it is prudent to conclude on the veracity of any issue, after just listening to only a single viewpoint.

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