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Goodmarlian:

I am almost 30 but but yet to stand financially as a man despite being hardworking and ambitious,i have being on the streets hustling since 18 no parents or siblings to help ,I don't want to blame the Government or economy but I hope Gods grace finds me someday ,my agemate cousin who where both born in the same year and month is getting married soon meaning he is now capable of feeding more than two mouths while I am still hustling for daily bread,to make matters worse he didn't even call me to invite me i heard from my sister meaning I am no longer important to him ,I know it because I no get money if not him for don call me.
I discussed this with my friend yesterday and he told me assuming I have started Yahoo as he advised me years back I for don hammer by now but I don't want to do yahoo because of my active conscience.
I have being depressed for days now,my girlfriend came around yesterday and she brought about the marriage issue like she knows what I am thinking again.

Let me tell you a true story of a young 24 year old guy

He got married exactly two Saturdays ago, before he got married he was warned severally by his immediate relatives. They said he was too young to marry and that the lady he wanted to marry was older than he was. Ignoring all advice, he got married two Saturdays ago... It was all fun and merry. Fast-forward to the Thursday night after the wedding... The young man complained of a serious headache... He died in the very early hours of the Friday after his wedding. He was buried a few days after his death.
Prior to his death, he was a barber that had prospects. He didn't do drugs, he was loved by majority of his peers (or though it seemed).

The young man is dead now... Many like you would've envied him but now he is no more. Steve Harvey made money when he was in his 40s. He said if he had made it earlier,he would likely not have used it well. Wait for your time sir, not everyone will have money while they are young.

Have a blessed day, I hope this story lifts your spirit. Stop working with others clocks, when it's your time, nothing can stop it, not even you.

SultanOfPuna:
They think every story on nairaland is fake..Smh

I can't tell the stories without opening a new account. If I open a new account, the stories will still exist flagged as fake. I don't think I need to go through such stress since I won't get any money for it. Things are really happening sha. Especially now that the country is very hard, we have more singles begging for money. Sometimes getting that money comes with a price. It is well.

Lucasinho:
And you believed this fiction?

There are different stories I could have told you especially relating to 2 guys that I know personally. I'm sure you'll doubt the stories too. There are things that are happening,this one is a small one compared to others that these 2 guys have played out.

Just take good care of your wife after marriage. watch the company she keeps as well.

Smith414:
yes I did, we talk together every single day, I tell her everything that’s been happening since I came to Abuja

Leave that girl... The pastor has had his way or will have his way with her. She's already in love with him and the attention.

Smith414:
Hey beautiful people of Nairaland, judge me if I’m being wicked
I’ve been dating this girl for a year plus now, she’s nice, cool and understanding ,it’s been 2 months now since I traveled to Abuja for a business and will be back in a few weeks time, what I’m about saying happened past Sunday, I called my so-called gf after church severally she didn’t pick up, called with a friends phone, same thing happened sent a text no reply, I just felt she would be busy cooking. Later I got a message from her that her phone was silent and inside her bag, I replied no issues, only for her to send another message via WhatsApp that she’s on her way to Lagos with her sister and her pastor to go and buy land for church , someone well known to be chronic womanizer to the core before he( pastor) he said God called him, I did not hid my anger from her because we’ve had little issues in the past due to my open dislike for this so-called pastor because I’ve worked with him both at work and in his house when I was still waiting to get admission, so when I say I know him very well, I really do. My so-called gf, her sister and this pastor went alone to buy land for church..
And she’s been uploading pictures like she went on a date vacation, from shopping to boat cruise to chilling in hotels every minute,
I’ve broken up in my mind I swear, because you nor go tell me say your pastor go buy land but through out the land he go buy na you and your sister he dey with and church suppose get committee about such things??my mind have been made to breakup officially when I get back

My people hope I’m not being to harsh on her??

Screenshot of when she told me about it below

Before you travelled to Abuja, did you inform her? If yes, she ought to have informed you before travelling not while on transit. The truth is, she didn't pick your calls because she didn't know what to tell you. The girl ain't your girlfriend... move on sir

Antimarraige:
I wish our last born can see this, with the way he smokes ice every fucking hour, claiming he don't want to sleep because of the useless Yahoo he's doing.

I no dey take pass Arizona and sometimes I take loud but rarely.

Rip in advance to both of you.

ablejesus26:
Nna ehhn women dey try for market buying oo

Lolz! You don see ma na

ablejesus26:
A young man like that throwing support for atifku, someone we all know to be part and parcel of this problem we are faced with now.
Well it's his opinion though,but someone should tell him to campaign for his candidate and stop poke nosing.
The man no understand say people dey vex
Guy ordinary spaghetti is now #400
My wife no dey around since 1 month now so I go market by myself,what to do the children must eat nah
Guy na so so quarel I just dey quarel for market oo.
Ogbono half cup na #300, egusi one cup #200
Jesus Christ my Lord and savior,who we offend for dis country sef
And some people still get mind dey campaign for pdtif and apcheat

You don see wetin your wife dey pass through abi? When she comes back just give her a minute hug and tell her how much you missed her.

versatilelad:
Hi Nairalanders
please What does seing 11:11 means. Asking for a friend. He says it keep appearing over and over again both in physical and in his dreams. Any meaning to it?? Asking for a friend whose confuse about it frequent reoccurrence to him. Thanks

Go and read what Revelations 11:11 says then come back to thank me.

Samakus:
Hi guys..

There's something I would like to have y'all's opinion about.

My neighbour, male, married with children, always leaves his house to come to my veranda and stand. Especially when I'm indoors or he suspects that I'm out of the house.

Overtime I have tried to check his motive and I can't seem to find any ulterior motive. He will just leave his flat upstairs, come to my flat's Veranda in the ground floor and stand there, moping at empty space. If I come out from my parlour, we will greet and he will hurriedly leave

I'm beginning to find it not so funny. Should I confront him? From my investigations, he doesn't do anything, doesn't peep, but just stay there and be moping, sometimes with a bottle of water in hand.

Why always the front of my crib? If he needs a thinking session, he can as well use another place. What do you guys think? I should confront him or let it be?

Edited....

He has a young wife who used to come down stairs when she's bored to play ludo OUTSIDE with me and my friends if they come around.

This man's behaviour made me to stop the ludo thing. I no get strength abeg.

My door is always locked by the way but I just want to have different opinions about why he's always in my veranda when he has a house and family to go to

Marriage isn't a bed of roses. It's possible that of all those living in the compound, you're the one that's closest to his family.

He may just need a space from the troubles and thoughts of being a family man and your veranda is the only cool spot around. Since you know he has no ulterior motives, kindly let him be.

Would you prefer the man goes to a beer parlour everytime?? Forget that he comes to your veranda and face important things. Allow him be.

Sheuns:
How’s that offside?

My question exactly

NLElder:
Get her pregnant? We are not visiting each other again. I have let her be It's just my obsessing about her left and which is what I need help about.

Block her

Advocate500:
fanya bu ofu,if ipob is different let them start by tackling the other, when i used to share in their sentiment is gone,ipob, Nnamdi Kanu and Buhari gave birth to insecurity in the eastern region period.

Start the story from the beginning.

In summary, once upon a time, flag bearing innocent civilians who were observing their civil duties of asking for a better Nigeria, were shot at and killed in their hundreds. Innocent young men and women were killed for carrying only flags.

Now the relatives of those that were killed decided to avenge the wrong done to them by carrying arms. Now it is fire for fire till one party gets tired. While innocent civilians still suffer though.

In conclusion, I think the situation here is still better than what would've happened if the fulani were allowed to have their free way of raping, killing and burning of houses just like it's being don in Southern kaduna

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

Are you sure she's not pregnant? E remain to settle down. Probably use u as the father.

Islandlady:
You are one of the useless people instigating violence and calling for war! But I am sure you are not in both region but in a peaceful state in either Southwest or south south spewing this rubbish!

Don't begin or instigate war becos you might not know the end! Good day

I shouldn't be replying you but I will. Fulani herdsmen have been killing people in almost every state of the federation. You've never called for reprisals. His Hisbah has destroyed countless numbers of alcoholic drinks, beverage and the likes but no one called for reprisals because it is being done against the igbo and it is right. Only one truck load of human sperm infested cows and you're crying... what if for each time a truck load of alcoholic drinks was destroyed, a truck load of cows be killed, I hope that would be fair.

What goes around comes around. Unfortunately, that truck load may belong to an Igbo man... a warning was sent out several months ago about not eating Cow meat.

rhonard:
Saw this picture and have been working my brain out

Which direction is the busy going

Left because the shield that prevents the sand of the tyres from hitting the body of the car are usually atthe back of the tyres.

SmartPolician:
ESN, zukwanu ike!

How can a militia hope to arm its fighters by attacking security formations across the SE region? That doesn't sound strategic.

Apart from buying in a nonexistent market, how else can they do it?

BSdetective:
So what was the initial gragraa for? Anyways Putin better take this deal cus that's one of the major reasons he entered the war.

If I were Putin, I won't... I will keep moving every inch till every land in Ukraine is occupied. I've been asking for a simple thing for a very long time, but you refused and forced me to fight. Now I've been hit by several sanctions and you think ill just back out? You must be joking. We must finish what we started o. That stupid regime must change. The west can't keep oppressing a super power and keep thinking the world belongs to it.

I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

Where do I start from?

Okay, did you make any promise to God while at the altar during your marriage? Can you remember your vows?

The man doesn't beat you, he isn't a womaniser, he doesn't abuse you or pressure you unnecessarily, he loves you and obviously you know he does. His one and only flaw is that he gambles.

Is this man the first man you have dated?

You're seeking a perfect person, are you perfect yourself??

Work on your man, being a gambler isn't the worst thing a man can do and it is curable... many wives would wish this was the only problem their husbands have.

Your man is working... you guys should create a joint account and both of you must be signatories.

Good luck

Hmm

Please, is there anyone here for replacement?? Kindly signify.

Anyone with an update of REPLACEMENT and if it has started should please indicate.

Thanks

Freeman2022:
I was released on the 24th of this month from prison after 2yrs..

My case was thrown out of court. I lost my admission I am mentally depressed and I dont know where to start.. pls I just turned 20yrs on 22 of this month and I need your advice or financial help if u can.. thank you

Okay... you lost 2 years, it is not the end of the world... you were trying to enter school simply means you still have your WAEC results. Why don't you try getting a job with that? You need to start from somewhere.

Depending on your location, go to Facebook, look for job groups in your state. Join a group or several groups... tell them you need a job with accommodation. Describe the type of job you need, hotel, eatery, fast food etc. I want you to get a job with accommodation so that you can leave your current location to a new environment and that will save you transportation costs.

Good luck! Quote me if you have questions.


Don't tell anyone you just left the prison. That information is for you and you alone. Don't even tell close friends. It's none of their business and it won't make things better MHO

huptin:
Russia is not the only country with nukes and in terms of precision Russia's nukes do not compare well with the US. He tries it? Himself and everything Russian goes with it!

You watch too many movies... even the US knows it can't attack Russia because the repercussion will be epic. The Russia needs only one successful Nuke to make the whole of US to cower and they have thousands of it.

Gainman:
your mumu don do. It is safer for United States to be in possession of nuclear weapons than Russia and other terrorist countries to be in control of these deadly weapons

You've listened too much to the media... why did the US refuse to stick to the agreement of 1991? The US is the aggressor.

DYOR

christistruth01:
Ukraine would be too Painful for Russia to hold

Yea butter would hold it all the same

Christistruth00:
How long does Russia think it can hold onto Ukraine and it’s fiercely Patrotic Population


Remember Russia fled Afghanistan

Ukrainian soldiers are leaving their positions. Ukrainian air defences are down already. Nuclear plant captured... what else is Ukraine fighting for? Ukraine has lost the war in less than 24hrs

Only time will tell bro. Russia has decided to throw it all in damning the consequences. China is flying over Taiwan's airspace with the hope of attacking as well. Don't be surprised North Korea has plans to invade South Korea depending on what plays out with Russia.

It's going to be an interesting year

Lakesidegrey:
I actually posted this already in my last topic about me and my girl having issue about this ex of a thing about her telling her ex that she can’t resist him if they are together that something else will happen,which means sex,you will all see this in my last topic.,because she definitely don’t wanna admit that what she did is wrong…,so her mom called me yesterday and begged me that I should just settle it with her..we’ve being on this since Monday..,because she claims she’s always catching cruise with him with those nasty chats.,and this is the third time of getting them doing that,so I went to meet her last night and told her we need to talk.,I had to call her almost 3 times before she answered it was her friend that later tell her that atleast she should Answer..,so as I was talking to her yesternight trying to settle things with her..taking things calmly..,and I asked her in I and this guy who does she want..,she said i shouldn’t ask her that.,I leave that question to her even though she ask me not to ask her,I told her the guy is dangerous and can affect our future.,because I’ve known the guy to be a cultist.,so I told her can she just drop all this..,the next thing was that she just walked out on me and tell me I’m talking like a smoker and someone that doesn’t have sense….,so I went to meet her in the sitting room..she was removing her sim in her phone because I bought that phone for her, and want to start heading out that night…I was trying to stop her and the next thing that landed on my face was a dirty slap,I couldn’t see anything again that moment lol.,and off she go..,so I locked the gate last night and said wherever she wanna go she should be going..the next thing was that she called her mom that have locked her out and her mom was begging so hard.…she had to start knocking my door yesterday that she wanna pack out and was cursing., so I said I’m going to help her pack to make things easy,so my landlord ask me to stop that,because I was so provoked and angry,so my landlord came around and settle things and then ask her to say sorry to me..,she said she can’t say sorry that she doesn’t have fault..she find it hard to say sorry at last..,so the landlord left around 1am that night..just to settle things I still went in to beg her and hug her..,that I’m over it even when I know she has the whole fault..,so this morning.,she went out angrily again…she doesn’t even say anything or greet.,I’ve spent so much on that girl..,I’ve invested so much on her..,one of my friend says I’ve made her too expensive and make her see everything about me,that that’s one of the reason why she’s acting that way..,so Nairalanders I need your advice..,please even though I’ve begged her and she’s still acting this way even when I know she’s at fault.,what do I do about this issue?my parents already know her and see her as who I’m going to marry.,they aren’t aware of all this happening.,because my parents know her parents already..please help about this I’m feeling so bad..no insults please.,and I’m sorry if my grammars are not too good..,please help me move this to front page!!if possible ��

You see thunder... the one from heaven, the one from hell, the thunder from underneath the earth will fire you... bloody idiot given the penis of a man when you're just a useless slowpoke. You're begging the bitch for what?? After raising her status and helping her life. Ah! Ko ni daa fun e se. Wo, it will never be well with you if you continue with that broke leach that has nothing to offer but stress, headaches and intimidation. Ah! You say you're a man? You're not sir.

Well, if you would read and comprehend.

1. Get yourself another girl no matter what she looks like, bring her home often, you don't need to sleep with her but make sure that useless girl sees her. Give it time, the story will change.

Make sure you ignore her calls ad infinitum. She doesn't deserve you sir

christistruth01:
But Putin once did one Commendable thing

There was a time that Black People couldn't walk through some streets in Russia without being attacked

Putin Cracked down so hard on the Nazis that all that became History

That one he did well

But this invasion of Ukraine is Greed

Try not to take everything the media tells you as being true. Study history yourself and you'd see the justification behind the invasion.
A pact was reached where areas near Russian border ought not to be occupied by the US led NATO. If USA wouldn't allow Russia have its base near it, why should Russia allow USA to have it's own base just at its border?? Just think logically and read what happened to Cuba when Russia had a base there.

History never lies... I'm not justifying the invasion of any sovereign nation but the USA has been doing that to several countries, why the noise when Russia does the same? Libya, Iraq, Afghanistan to mention but a few.

Think sir, just think. I've been a pro-Us all my life but after reading the plans and actions of Gaddafi before he was killed, I realised there's actually something wrong with the USA and not with Gaddafi.

ShenTeh:
Thank God for His mercies, I have been in this situation several times on that Oyo-Ogbomosho expressway.

This often happens when the trailer doing the overtaking is performing better than the one in its front while on a hill. The downside for you would therefore mean than you are coming down a slope.

I have seen a so-called driving instructor saying the official instruction is that you maintain your lane. But my brother, that is suicide.

Often times, you flash your full-lights and indicate that you are going right. Help yourself to the kerb as far right as you can go. Reclaim your route once the road is clear.

Too, sometimes your immediate right is a ditch or too deep for any maneuver. I have been in that situation too and had had to make a very quick dash to the kerb on my left. One particular time the trailer on my left practically stopped for me. 2 nanoseconds is all your life hangs on.

3. One Sunday morning coming back to Lagos on that same highway, same situation, ditch to the right, ditch to the left, was with my brother-in-law and his newly wedded wife, who was screaming profusely. I kicked the car to reverse. Luckily no vehicle was coming. Still ended up in a little ditch. My silencer was gone and my first gear began misbehaving.

This is also one of the reasons you need a smart car, not cars that will 'go and set up a committee' before responding to acceleration. My loyal dog, my darling Infiniti G20 (I called her My Barbara), I miss you so much.

Most importantly, I am forever grateful to God.

That was some quick thinking. Ditch on both sides has never happened to me but I can relate to these scenarios on several occasions.

ShenTeh:
Thank God for His mercies, I have been in this situation several times on that Oyo-Ogbomosho expressway.

This often happens when the trailer doing the overtaking is performing better than the one in its front while on a hill. The downside for you would therefore mean than you are coming down a slope.

I have seen a so-called driving instructor saying the official instruction is that you maintain your lane. But my brother, that is suicide.

Often times, you flash your full-lights and indicate that you are going right. Help yourself to the kerb as far right as you can go. Reclaim your route once the road is clear.

Too, sometimes your immediate right is a ditch or too deep for any maneuver. I have been in that situation too and had had to make a very quick dash to the kerb on my left. One particular time the trailer on my left practically stopped for me. 2 nanoseconds is all your life hangs on.

3. One Sunday morning coming back to Lagos on that same highway, same situation, ditch to the right, ditch to the left, was with my brother-in-law and his newly wedded wife, who was screaming profusely. I kicked the car to reverse. Luckily no vehicle was coming. Still ended up in a little ditch. My silencer was gone and my first gear began misbehaving.

This is also one of the reasons you need a smart car, not cars that will 'go and set up a committee' before responding to acceleration. My loyal dog, my darling Infiniti G20 (I called her My Barbara), I miss you so much.

Most importantly, I am forever grateful to God.

That was som quick fast thinking. Ditch on both sides has never happened to me but I can relate to these scenarios on several occasions.

Opinedecandid:
It's called VIVAL (VIV)
It's less than 1 dollar now.
With the potential to become 10.
Only 2.5 million in total supply.

Any telegram group and backing projects?

JohnSin97:
Why didn't the albino monkey foresee his arrest when he went for gigolo work in Kenya?

He knew he would be in Nigeria to fight the battle from home. He said it in his broadcast. The broadcast was either made in April or May.