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Tell the friend( if you are not the one) to focus on herself and the kids. Since he is likely to have more she should put steps in place to ensure her kids don't suffer.

First of all she is your cousin if her mum is your aunt.

Now to the main issue. History as repeated itself, your family should make plans to take care of mum and daughter.

He should just start with small first and know how it is before scaling up. And he must factor in processing. But wait even Dangote didn't do 10,0000 hectares of tomato.

Focus on your daughter and make plans for her schooling etc. As for your wife and her parents, she has achieved her target which is to be educated. The male friend is probably shagging her. So just free her and take care of your kid.

gowaga68:

Smiles on storage of food items bro. Make we learn small

gowaga68:
Nice one there @ OP.
Well i would like to list out few produce which in due time i will talk more on them.
* Pepper
* Honey
* Groundnut
* Palm Oil
* .PK. Oil
* Melon
* Mambara nuts
And Kalwa. (guys i no sabi d name o but sha na Dawadawa dem dey use am do na d hausa name i give una so,lol.)

We are still waiting for you

Innobee99:
Thanks, she sent me a scan she did in the hospital and the expected date of delivery is December 7th. Help a brother cuz am a novice here biko

Bros chop ur popcorn and move on. She wants to pin another man's kid on you. She conceived sometime in March or April. Relax bro

Go and do a comprehensive scan, pay for it. They will tell you the Expected date of delivery (and in some cases the window of conception). Now from there you can do the maths to know if you are the father or not. If you are the father step up by taking care of your child doesn't mean you have to marry the mama.

If u can't afford a drier. Remove the line. And let them know na u get pole too. If dem like make dem put line on top ur pole on to say dem Wan dry cloth, he no concern u, wetin concern u be say, when u Wan dry cloth u go comot the line wet dey dere, whether cloth dey on top or not, he no concern u. When dem dey dere before, how dem dey take dry thier cloth?

james550:

your shikini advice is very much appreciated here,
but the thing is that some people really needs to be elevated whether the economy likes it or not.

You dont really know his mind and purpose of doing this.

Loosing this investment to him is nothing compared to his wealth.

Please and please sir do give people a chance to show some good sides of them.

Not everyone here is as bad as they envision nigerians to be.
Mind you do not despise the days of someone little beginning here mr shikini advicer

Even if he get awuuf money, doesn't mean he should throway it inside fire na. If he is wealthy he can always employ good consultants to establish the farm for him. Pátápátá he will create time to see what they are doing for him. And do due diligence first by visiting the farms first.

danwa25:
First get a bus, employ a driver, buy palm oil and garri take it to north then buy groundnut or egusi take it to the south to sell.

Do you know all the risks involved in the advice just given? From transport to staff and other logistics

Since he already has his major hustle and may not be able to monitor day to day, let him set up a plantation. Either cocoa, cashew or oil Palm. It's long term, and if well managed will give good returns. Also it is not time consuming. Ps. If he does business with people or he invests through people he may likely be disappointed. So it's better he takes the time and his money to establish his plantation and he can monitor it himself. My shikini advice.

Oko mama. The husband is the mother's husband hence the closeness. You don't expect mama to stop feeding her husband because he is now married. Some wives Sha. What stops her from appreciating the food, collecting it and dishing part of it, or making a deal with her Co-wife(MIL), on bringing food during the week and allowing her to feed her husband weekends. With time when kids come she will appreciate all the help Mama is giving her.

Legally they can marry. Culturally I don't think so.

Someone wants to legally adopt a child and you are worried about a deadbeat dad? What you should tell her is, if the man is serious let him legally adopt the child as he is getting married to her.

Idemujoseph:
Exactly my thoughts. Well, I am praying for this your few trial trees to succeed because I am counting on you. I have been following you closely since you started it. When yours work, i will invest next year. Thanks for up to date info!

So no be only me dey observe.

So true

Guy.. Either she get boyfriend or she is planning to raid your house, either which way is a no no.

Start buying Spanish fly and dropping it in her food. When the kongy hook her, she will come to you.
Or you can run to court for a order..
Now seriously, the union is as good as dead when there is no intimacy after a seperation.

Know your rights and know the duty of the police. Since when is it the police duty to award custody and determine the issues of a child's welfare? This is referring to both ilupeju and alákàrà police stations. To determine what's best for the child go to a family court or department of social welfare not police.
Anyways what's my own. To resolve this either report to an higher officer or go to court..
Meanwhile I wouldn't blame the husband on 2 this.. A the police is not the competent authority to determine child custody. B. As long as a parent is alive and well, and except it can be shown that he is truly incompetent to cater for his children, then if the wife wants to travel he must take care of his children except otherwise is said by a competent authority

consultancy:
train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it..your grandma, his mother, pampered and indulged him excessively when he was young, that is why at age 40+, he doesn't see anything wrong in his mother taking care of his responsibilities. if he has elder brothers, a family meeting should be called and everyone should advice him to try and be useful to himself and his family before it is too late for him. on the other hand, she can set up a business for him to manage, or put together funds for him to start up something. but i doubt a man who lazied away all his life up to 40+ would want to do anything useful with himself. such people only come to reality when the bearer of their responsibilities is no more. if anything should happen to your grandma now, you will be shocked to see that your uncle take up a mop stick and start working, even as a cleaner. i will suggest your grandma makes him aware that she has accumulated some debts in tryin to cater for him, so he should step up his game and find something to do to earn a living and also offset the debt she has. this will propel him into motion, knowin that your grandma is tired of his situation already

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I cant add anything here.. GRANDMA has been indulging him. The only way out is for Mama to say no which we all know she cannot

First of all, you may be liable for the original loan as a guarantor. For the subsequent loan go to thr MFB and deny knkwledge of the loan, that you didnt authorise anybody and they must show you the agreement where u signed as the guarantor.
You will need legal representation as this may not be as straight forward as i say.

She is a mother who in the abscense of the father had to be both mother and father to the children. She has to make tough decisions in other for them to make it in life. May her labor not be in vain

When Baba God answers prayer.. I am happy for Ayo.. Even when Federal Government( Civil servant wey dey find bribe) wanted to put sand sand for him story, Baba God answer am.
Ayo may you use this opportunity wisely and be great

The most valid and strongest form of marriage known under the law. I advise everybody to do it.. Very cheap to enter very Hard to leave.