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generationz:

Easier said than done.

At least she took action. The wife knows what the op did.

The op will think twice before he dares mess another woman up.

Yeah it's not easy but it's what she should have done.

She could have let her know without doing all that drama with the wedding photos when the wife specifically asked her to remove them, that's just my point. She shouldn't take her frustrations out on an innocent person

Lol let's hope so! The guy is really something else.

naijacentric:
mehn dis is pathetic i don't even know what to say again ur own race again are we all not humans. This is what brain washing as done to majority in this world. No wonder angels have always been fair skinned i have neva see a chinese or african own. This world is so crazy and complex. Only goes ro show some people want us disunited and feed on our hatred to rule over us.

The question is, how do we turn it around?? It's getting too bad, in 2019 people still see us as animals

generationz:
Or she just let the wife know the kind of demon she is married to.

As the gf was being lies to the wife was also being lies to.

Op has deliberately painted the girlfriend bad. To make himself look good.

How are we sure she forced the wife to put up the pictures?

Where we there?

Was the op there during the conversation?

The wife might have kept the pictures off social media because he told her too.

Like i said to the gf babe is very nice. What she did is a tip of the iceberg to what some people can do to get their pound of flesh.

All that is speculation. You might as well assume the whole OP is a total lie if you're going to discount parts of the story just because they don't suit you

How can you ask if we were there? You could say that about any post on the whole of nairaland.

Just because she didn't do what others may do it doesn't exonerate her from her actions. If she was nice she would have just carried her bag like other girls do and remove her leg from the situation

nana06:
and truth is you connected with the 2nd lady bcoz somewhere in your subconscious, there's a class segregation between u and ur wife, u feel she's a burden and marrying her may not give you that marriage fantasy

Yes. I think OP is from either or a wealthier or more educated background than his wife, see how his siblings were "disappointed" and didnt bother to show up for their wedding

He may be looking down on her and found himself a classier babe in the chess-playing girlfriend. And the wife consented to that crazy living arrangement and is feeling inferior too

generationz:
Please help me if I'm getting things mixed up.

I'm trying to see what was wrong with what the girlfriend did when she found out that a man she lost her secondary virginity to was not only married but a full fledged liar.

Or the fact that every time she brought up the issue he used quarrel to cover up.

This man messed that lady.
For her to be a dreamer it mean a she has a sweet spirit, is a good girl and isn't wayward.
Her only crime was loving a liar.

Please break it down for me because I'm confused about how she is a bad person now.

She is wrong. She violated his wifes privacy just to seek petty revenge for his deceit. Is it the wifes fault that he slept with her?

She had no right to call her and start bossing her about, telling her what to do with her wedding pictures and posting them everywhere without her permission.

She loved a liar and is using it to bully somebody who had nothing to do with it. Too bad

She should have classily kept it moving if she noticed the guy was bad or kept her quarrel with the man since he deserved it. thats what so many people do

emddi:
OK o.But for me my mind is sharper and more focused when I don't take breakfast.Infact my emotional state/spirit is more serene and at bliss when I skip breakfast

It depends on what the breakfast is and what time you eat it. Obviously if its eba and soup then you would fall asleep and pass your busstop

SmellingAnus:
exactly now you get the main point... The man/boy is very heartless.... For me he should just let her be because he will still dump her in the future if she accepts to remain with him cos his mind is not there...

Yeah you are right about that. Chai! Monsters everywhere

Im sure if we met this guy outside he would seem very normal

iammo:
I beg to differ.. Breakfast seem to dull peoples brain.. (or perhaps ability to use the brain) for some people, after eating they switch to relaxation mood due to the increase in production of serotonin, most active people go for Brunch after outlining the days work on empty stomach

A relaxed mind is better than an energy-starved and agitated one, the only way I can subscribe to your point is if the person wakes up and goes to the gym and eats breakfast afterwards.

That one youre describing is because the person woke up very early and doesnt want to irritate their senses with food by that time, so they wait until an acceptable hour after the initial agenda has been laid down. When the office activity has calmed down small and they start feeling the hunger they will now eat

SmellingAnus:
so true... Currently his wife doesn't even want the marriage again... Op is not happy that the wife is leaving during period, he would have preferred they divorced much later cos he doesn't love her and according to him he will never be happy in the marriage...

Oh I didnt even remember that last part

Can you just imagine? Shes saying she wants to stop and he's still talking rubbish. He doesnt want to be around her, he keeps her on the other side of the island like bale of okrika, now she too doesnt want to see him and hes still complaining

Because he doesnt want to be the one who got dumped, he cant imagine the short black woman dumping Oba of Benin like him, he wants to be the one to rubbish her life first so that he can feel better. Everything is a competition of "smartness" or game of chess to him

Walahi this man is bloody stupid

emddi:
If you are an adult,there's nothing healthy about breakfast.It dulls your brain

Breakfast is very important for both children and adults. You brain will be much more dull if you skip breakfast

suzzyboss:
Too much of Bollywood movies is not good ���

Its not Bollywood, it has happened in Nigeria where a jilted lover got angry and poisoned the wedding guests, so many people died

What of acid attack that we saw here yesterday. They should warn the police of that girl

SmellingAnus:
very reasonable comment... The first comment I read that also passed some blames to the wife...

Let me put it as it is.... The wife manipulated him into marriage... Finito... But op too being a sissy was blackmailed into marriage... Op also has a very selfish lying nature which he seems not to see as a big deal and I pity for more girls that will fall into his hand...

Exactly. All three of them are to blame, but he is the "placeholder". He doesnt have a spine otherwise that girlfriend wouldnt dare go against his instruction and disrespect his wife.

His wife who cornered him into marriage in the first place and then agreed to live on the other side of town! Thats just the state of society...she was so desperate for marriage that she agreed to stay out of his sight just so that she could answer "Mrs". Couldnt she see the insult in that arrangement? Kai! Threatening suicide on top of pregnancy. What type of stupid suicide is that

The thing is that he also brought his own sins to the table so he is not totally lost. But the way he is trying to defend his girlfriend's actions and at the same time remove his own culpability in messing up with his wife shows that he hasnt really understood the problem.

He is not a particularly bad person but indecisive and allows himself to be carried away and manipulated too easily without counting the cost.

NoFap123:
That was Akachi's Poetic suicide note.
He was a pure literary talent.

So what actually was his problem? How was he allowed to get to that point if everybody knew him so well?

I dont understand why they didnt forcefully hospitalise him if it was clear that he was in mental distress.

At least as the campus legend that he was, somebody would have noticed him going downhill.

Four4Clien:
LMAO, i usually eat anythiing for breakfast including eba and soup, reading this write-up, i will try and adjust, i know it might be hard but i gotta try.

Hahaha

mrjojo:
And I guess you said you are "smart" because you play chess.

Lol The final sting of the scorpions tail..

But that wife didnt do well...how will you threaten suicide to force somebody to marry you and then cry foul when the man cant stand you again?

The wife is also to blame in this in my opinion. How can you beg somebody to marry you what type of marriage was she expecting? Because shes a pastors daughter, did she remember she was a pastors daughter when she was doing rubbish with you behind closed doors?

He should leave the second girl alone, she too doesnt seem to have a respect:

FreemanTJ:
She was unhappy and just wanted some privacy. She said she didnt want our wedding picture out there since it showed she was pregnant and told me to tell my gf to bring down the page on IG. I reached out to my gf but she insisted on leaving the page out there so that no one would fall prey to me. She also mentioned my wife reached out to her to bring down the page but she wouldnt as she was part of the problem. She insisted if my wife at least gave an hint she was married to me on social media then maybe she would have save alot of single ladies falling prey to married men.
I asked her to drag my if she wants but to leave my wife out of it but she claimed to have forgotten the password.
She said in fact she's helping me save my marriage that I should fix it and put my wedding pictures on social media.

For this act alone, you should be able to tell that the girlfriend is no good. You told her to take the instagram down and she refused and insisted on humiliating your wife who had nothing to do with her frustration. Who the hell is she to dictate to somebody how they should display their marriage on social media? You cant possibly defend this to yourself or anybody reading it.

Go and sort things out with your wife, divorce her if it gets to that but just make sure you take care of your daughter in this

And you need to work on your habit of lying and evading the truth. All of this could have been avoided if you had let your yes be yes and your no be no

partnerbizn5:
Yes, he depressed. But intelligent peeps are more likely to commit suicide or get depressed than others.

Even Adichie was at some point.

His curiosity, I guess led to his depression and suicide.

Hm. RIP to the both of them

partnerbizn5:
Not really. But it was deep.
Dude was very intelligent.
His Facebook page is Chukwuemeka akachi.

He had virtuoso literary skills.
He questioned everything and nothing in this world made sense to him.

His curiosity led to his depression and suicide.

Wow. Sorry about that. Couldnt he get some counselling or go home or something? At least curiosity doesnt always lead to such

Okay Im reading the facebook page. Dude was mentally ill it seems

partnerbizn5:
Rip bro.
"They said they came looking for me. I didn't drown. I was the water"

Excuse, what does that writing mean? Is it a poem?

Kelvin30286063:
I was in a market once and my brother was like 'look at that Oyinbo man' my immediate younger sister who was way other than him replied that 'he is not Oyinbo, he is indian'

I was quiet but I thought about it for some minutes.

Exactly, as long as the person is not black people just use it unless somebody else knows better to correct it

People from those countries are not common here so not everybody knows the difference

Kelvin30286063:
Well, you have a point there but I think Yorubas call Americans Oyinbo and still refer to Indians and Chinese as basically Indians man or China man. I'm yoruba too and I don't even understand the reason for that.

It's not a specific term, it just refers to somebody who looks like they came from a western/wealthy country.

Sometimes even market sellers can call a fair girl "oyibo" when she's passing, its not really supposed to be so accurate that people will start analysing it

Kelvin30286063:
Stop calling everybody Oyinbo. it's ridiculous. Not every foreigner is white, not every American is Caucasian.

He is clearly what we refer to as "Oyibo"... its not a sensitive issue. Anybody who looks like that is oyibo in Nigerian vernacular

We dont need to know his whole genetic composition before we call him that

So what about women do you actually like? Anything?

zeb04:
the reason your wife don’t respect you, is because you dont respect her. See the way you are talking about your wife to strangers. If you cant respect her, at least respect yourself or your children.

It cannot be disrespect, this is anonymous and he just needs to get his feelings and suspicions out

How could it be disrespectful when he also told us what he said to the woman and he hasn't insulted her?

You shouldn't be so judgemental, if you don't want to read it then don't open the thread. People come here to find solutions to their problems, how will they do it if they cant tell us the whole story??

fairfora:
Hun...as if that would appeal to her. She's overdoing things jare. I think I'd have to put a password on that phone naw
She's abusing the privilege lol

Lol okay oh. Hopefully that wont make it even worse

imitateMe:
Only women use acid that way. God deliver us from wicked women.

So what about Pakistan and Bangladesh where jealous guys pour acid on women all the time to the point that there are burn centres everywhere

fairfora:
For where?There was a day she blocked a girl on my phone do complain of same behaviour oftheor wives.

Lol. I know her behaviour can annoy you at times but you have to understand that it comes of insecurity about losing you.

You can take it as a compliment that she is so preoccupied with it. If she wasn't interested in you she wouldn't bother right?

And try to assure her that she has nothing to worry about

Enemyofpeace:
Some womens are very wicked, that's why I want to burn a lot of mail childrens than femail childrens

Lol no be small burn. Please don't burn any mail oh, na beg I dey beg you. At least open am first dey read am well well before burning

Enemy of peace!

fairfora:
Guys, pls love your wife dearly, but very carefully. This is an act of wickedness and I hope the devil was given a treat of her life by putting her in jail. No matter how much you love her, she would still accuse you wrongly. Some ladies can't control their temper once they get angry. Once the deed is done, they'd now be blaming the devil. I have some ladies I assist but i keep them away from my wife. Whenever she sees proofs of assistance rendered to my fellow guy, she pretends as if she didnt see it because what she's actually looking for is a similar help rendered to a lady..

Lol...

But the most important part of this akuko is, has she ever caught you doing something naughty before??

What reason does she have to suspect you?

Finchmgh:
I keep telling people that women are evil and as such they should and must be avoided if you want to live a long and happy life.

A word is enough for the wise.

Hope you can find a man to give birth to your kids? And hope you've disowned your mum?

Mtchew

Sorry but was there any reason you couldn't take her excuse of traffic? It's very possible to come back an hour or even 2 hours after saying you would in this country without it necessarily being your fault. I don't really see why you got so agitated, when you realised she wasn't coming you could have ordered something for the two of you and then she could have gotten started on lunch.

Having said that I cringed inwardly when she mentioned that "splitting bills". That was not necessary; even if she is paying all the bills it doesn't mean she shouldn't come back when she says she's coming, she should have stuck to the point and not gone off-topic. So that means there won't be traffic again if she doesn't pay any bills?

Probably you need to watch your words when you are talking to each other, most of this stuff you guys are saying to each other is so embarrassing to read, next time try to moderate your tone so that you won't end up trading needless insults.

At least I can appreciate you for bringing the whole story here and not just the ones she did. It's good that you can at least admit your own wrong because usually everybody complains that OP is "just one side of the story, we need to hear from the other person"