₦airaland Forum

shortgun:
Not cooking today, still have okra soup in the freezer, u can join me anytime u want.
Freshly cooked food is always available in my place.

Lol please keep my share for me, I'm coming

gloriaunobi:
UK is against Biafra living Nigeria but they want to live European Union is this not double standard? They are the architect of this Nigeria problem and still their middling into the same problem why won't God punish their generation to come.

That's a very interesting point.

Hmm! Don't mind them dear. I guess that's how they make their work more interesting

On the other hand, which soup are you cooking today? Can we taste it

vibewithme:
oh my god! what a pity. it would have been a very tough moment for she and banky, i can't even imagine.

What!!! Granddad nwuru??

Lol Queen Iru Bu Ikeogwugwu (m) has finally lost it

ABCthings:
What part of my words was nasty? I don't know why but people here seems frustrated and take everything too seriously. Why will I be wishing someone I don't even know ill luck?

ABCthings:
I hear let wait for like ten years when your kid will be sixteen. You must complete this love, love story!

ABCthings:
Okay let wait na, if your love thing stands the test of time then you can be running your mouth.

Don't you think you could have worded this better?

Somebody is explaining the method they are using to bring up their kids and you're waiting in the background for her to fail or what

If you are skeptical about it then you can give cogent reasons instead of provoking somebody and then being surprised when they get annoyed

ABCthings:
Well I'm disappointed. If you were so sure loving your children will make them grow into responsible humans you wouldn't have replied this way.

You said your children are open to you because you're so close to them.

I wanted to see if that will remain true. 'cause according my speculation

I wanted to know you whether you will still know every in and out of your girl's sex life when she would be sixteen.

When I read your words I thought you were advanced enough to be reason with but you're making it look like you're just another gra gra mother.

BTW I'm not an enemy of progress, and your rash curse has no effect on me. you can have a good blessed day.

She replied to you like that because of your mocking and sarcastic tone and not because of your opinion.

Something as sensitive as parenting...Why would you be talking to somebody like that if you don't want a sharp reply...?

If you had spoken plainly like you are now and explained what you meant instead of making nasty insinuations I don't think there could have been a problem

10 pages, Nigerians are great

Una try o, me I can't understand a word this guy is saying

peeps4u:
And they achieved that by harassing every successful young people with "what work do you do?"
Is that how to fight corruption?

It's nothing to do with harassment, your expenditure must always match up with your occupation

It's actually good that we make enquiries into how people earn their money, it helps to keep everybody accountable.

Not asking these questions is what has made us into the fantastically corrupt nation we are today

In fact, in developed countries it is very easy to check somebody's educational, employment and property information in public records. Can we say that in Nigeria?

People are fast to tag any reasonable question as "bad belle" which makes it easier for thieves to deceive people

peeps4u:
SMH. This obsession with "what does he do" can only reign in a country where poverty has been exalted such that they feel it is almost impossible for anyone to be rich.
Can Americans be asking such silly question because a young man post his vacation pictures?

Americans have visa-free travel to almost everywhere while we dont, so it can never be a silly question

pickatyou:
Its your kind that would have still bad mouthed that woman when she got pregnant for the okrika seller, you could have even said he had no future from selling clothes.

NNE stay woke

Okirika sellers can make millions when they expand so stop talking rubbish! Whats bad in selling okrika

The lady who opened that thread, what does the husband sell that he cant even fix common mosquito net?

pickatyou:
That lady that open a thread for her broke husband should come and read this.

Responsible vs. Irresponsible. Night and day

she should not come and read anything, rather DAT her husband should come an read

[quote author=Kaydeexotic post=83840287][/quote]Forget it! Drawing is an important technical skill in science. Dont you remember during dissections how they used to scold us when we couldnt draw that stuff very well?

People study for years to hone their craft and it is useful to everybody

Just admit that what you wrote there was arrogant and unnecessary

Kaydeexotic:
Engineering is great.. Yes... But trust me there's no profession on this planet that is as important as medicine and surgery...

Terrible! And what of engineers who design hyperbaric chambers, incubators and suction units? Can you design one from scratch?

What of the fine arts graduates who draw all the most delicate parts of the body shown in medical textbooks?

Hope you know how to draw

Without those talented people who can produce a new scanner from blueprint to manufacturing, where would doctors be?

I once attended a launch for a new scanner by Nikon, let me tell you, those people are amazing and should be appreciated.

DanXplore:
I think what the dude implied was that their combined cost of living reduces in relative proportion due to economies of scale.

Okay, thank you.

Acidosis:
Two single people (man and woman) and two married people (man and woman) consume the same amount of water and food.

Two single people under a different roof (roof A & roof B) consume higher electricity than two married people under same roof (roof C).


What's strange about that? How can 1 be greater than 2?

Okay, I understand you now.

She has a lovely skin tone I love this concept

If it's about price, Tell her to sell them off but use style to do it so that she won't be offended.

Or she can dash her family

wirinet:
You just comfirmed you were responding to a different thread. This thread says nothing about fertility check. Not everyone reads through all the threads on nairaland.

From the other thread, the poster is even implicating herself further. A guys too the time and expense to do proper introduction, he brought his parents and family to ask for your hand in marriage, your family probably gave him a long list of what to bring apart from a hefty dowery price, and the only one thing he wants, you are doing Virgin Mary. Na only a Joseph go fit marry you.

The issue about getting pregnant can easily be resolved between the both of them in a pillow talk after a hot round of sex. That's how thorny issues are resolved marriage. She could explain why she doesn't want to get pregnant and plead for medical tests instead.

Okay, I didn't realise you didn't know the origin of the topic because I had been following the case. Apologies.

But she didn't say she would never sleep with him, she will do that after the wedding according to the faith they both subscribe to. He has done introduction so clearly he understands the importance of following due process in marriage.

So why is he suddenly bending the whole thing to suit him without considering what she thinks about it?

That's your solution? Having sex solves difficult marital issues? You are not serious.

Okay, what if she sleeps with him, refuses to get pregnant and then he still dumps her, then what?

Why are you supporting bullying??

Hair and make-up on point but that dress looks extremely cheap

Elliot2:
Life itself na entertainment. it may sure for u,but not the other. Na God.

So is that a convincing enough philosophy to make your family suffer?? That kind of reasoning is not for serious decisions.

Mutemenot:
The mistake they made was going into a project without having atleast a business to provide for immediate needs, if the man n his wife planned well, I don't think they will be room for room for complain...And remember there's no profession with 100% wealth assurance, it's all about grace...so I wouldn't look down on the man atall. Ex governor of Delta state used to play draft almost every evening den at one spot near my primary school but today he's a made man. Picnick of NFF used to eat in one local restaurant in my area then, met him severally as a nobody but today you know the story... d woman should just manage d man, There's no home without imperfections

There is no profession with assurance but some are riskier than others.

They should have planned well, yes. But we are not talking about "should have" here, we are talking about the tangible present. The man is seeing that everything is sliding and is still chasing pipe dreams while mosquitoes devour his kids

There is nothing wrong with being a nobody as far as you are doing your best. The ex-governor played drafts, wonderful, what is wrong with drafts?? How do we know he didnt play drafts after a long day of planning and budgeting? Of struggle?

What about the countless guys he played drafts and Whot with Where are they all today?

Mutemenot:
It's not true, I know more than 20 of them who are currently in good position, enjoying their years of struggling... the only problem here is on how to Carter for the immediate need of the family...

Politics is like music or acting, in fact all of them are forms of entertainment

For every person that "made it" there are a million failures still waiting for their "big break", and their families suffering needlessly behind them

That guy is not being realistic. In fact he is being vain and selfish by allowing his wife to shoulder the whole burden while he wastes time

sterlingD:
It means we are missing something here.Most of the response is based on what she has posted on this thread only.Please can someone link us with the previous thread where it all started from.

For the case of fertility,there is what is called fertility test which both intending,would be couples do before they tie the knot.Why did the not look in this direction to check her fertility?

Thats exactly what we advised her to do, she said that he refused, that he must test it "manually".

Are you seeing the stupidity of it now

https://www.nairaland.com/5503839/he-wants-break-virginity-before

Being realistic, you have to try to up your game.

Irresponsible men start out like that...thats how you hear of market women using fries and moin-moin to single-handedly train all their kids through university when they are not divorced and the husband is hale and hearty

You have to up your hustling scale to take care of you and your childrens needs even if he doesnt have shame

I say "being realistic" because you are trying to resolve it without getting angry/nagging/fighting him. Which means that theres a chance that he will continue with that "head in the clouds" attitude

That politico stuff happens a lot. They will keep jumping from pillar to post to run errands for one Oga not realising that Oga may be on a sinking ship. At the end they still have nothing to show for it

One way you could take a stand on it without nagging him is not releasing all your money for the project like you did last time. You can tell him that you will provide half of the amount, then he should also bring half otherwise he should just forget it

Do you guys have another area you can sleep in apart from that room? You can take the kids and sleep there and tell him that the room is not safe for you guys

If you are not going to confront him directly you have to get creative.

He opened the bare window without fixing a net, he left you to pay for school fees without accounting for how he spends his days, he left the kids to you while he's busy chasing shadows; he is an inconsiderate person with some absent-minded tendencies.

Try to work around the issue while still putting some subtle pressures on him to change his behaviour. Some people are very difficult to live with, sorry about that.

okoroemeka:
don't you noticed that God,Jesus and all his 12 disciplines are white,christainity is the white man's invention

They were not white, the white people made them look white to suit their agenda. They looked like those Arab people

wirinet:
Who is talking about getting pregnant at all, before we start talking about outside or inside wedlock. You are probably responding to the wrong topic.

He said he wanted to check her fertility...so what does it mean aside from getting her pregnant?

Which topic were you responding to??

So dark girls are disqualified already! Hm

How does a pretty lady complement being "average"...an "average" guy is complimented by an "average" woman...

Thank you sis for this.

Np