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goaldynboy:
Even if you are her relative from Ebonyi, do you live with her in America?!!

Bad belle and witchcraft everywhere!!

They will never be happy with you when you are cwlebrating!!

Tufiah Kwa!![b][/b]

DMerciful:
He dint know his status will become big to CEO level. Abi you want him to take semi-illiterate wife to official functions?

maasoap:
I don't know what you're driving at my man. If we were joined together as husband and wife and I'm playing my roles as much as I could. And if my wife still thinks that I'm lacking in some aspects, I deserved to be told and I will decide if I can put in extra efforts instead of her denying me what I deserve.
But you on the other hand came up with a lot of lists of things for the husbands not considering his schedule, work hours, work nature and others. I think that the best way to go about this is to ask his wife what is missing instead of going about it blindly with trial and error tactics.
If I can't have free access to my wife body after doing my part in the relationship, I think separation or divorce will be better for us. Call it African mentality or whatever

This is not about two people dating one another.

bukatyne:
Is she a prostitute that ties sex to money?

thatigboman:
paid by who?

MostBlessedOne:
I nor understand u madam...abeg wetin u mean ??

MrPresident1:
Ikpeazu

Ikpe (spelt Ipe, means scales in Yoruba)
Azu (means fish in Igbo)

Ikpeazu means fish scales

Lordswazz:
As in, me i tire o. They just feel because someone is married, that he or she is practically unlovable except they pay through their nose for "love".

Lordswazz:
Yes,bro. Some no dey spend on their lovers. Just maybe a little on outings and experiences. So yes, the same way some guys get sex for free, men also do. Na just your charisma and aura as a made man be the lure.

manontree:
Or to add to your several interesting viewpoints countering the LordAdam, OP and infact everyone else can say that THERE is absolutely NOTHING special about dead beat dads and husbands who DO not show up in their responsibilities at home, financially and otherwise

It's not a one way traffic na

LordAdam16:
That person isn't trying to chip in his own 2 cents. If he was, he wouldn't quote me and strike-through my comment. He believes the experiences of those 200k+ people are invalid. When whatever he's about to write has been shared for the umpteenth time in that community.

However, it's unlikely a community of sufferers doesn't have that enumerated as the basics. And even if I wanted to pitch in, I wouldn't go on the offensive against a poster recommending an online community for the OP.

It's not just the OP that'd go over this thread. There are many more silent partners dealing with the same inconvenience. Let everyone have the opportunity to seek the help they need from those who are most informed and qualified to help.

LordAdam16:
Lord

Johnboom:
If the person is a Christian, the action is wrong. It is wrong to do engagement without your parents approval. However pray God will direct you.

LordAdam16:
We're talking about sex here.

By default, at least sexually, most people believe they're the template the creator/nature used to model every other human being. As such, their viewpoints are often limited, prejudiced, and close-minded.

And you'd tell by the level of certainty they attach to their "solutions" like they're infallible, telepathic, and can read the OP's partner's mind. Much of the thread is littered with it already.

Bottom line: there's nothing special about people who don't have dead bedrooms. Na your luck; no kon dey form 1 tin.

-Lord

LordAdam16:
See, the same way it seems natural for you to get h*rny; is the same way it can become natural for you to just not want it anymore or as much.

The worst part is most times, if the sex-starved partner makes a suggestion that she doesn't like, she'd flip the script and say he's trying to blackmail her. Doesn't love her anymore. Can't make sacrifices for her, even bringing up instances of times she's made sacrifices.

Unfortunately for the men, they may be fine with most parts of the marriage, so they convince themselves, why leave/put the kids through a separation/[insert downside of a divorce] just because she wouldn't let me insert my dick in her vagina. On the surface, it sounds silly. It'd seem like a trap, and many would just become voluntary celibates for peace to reign.

The more they know you wouldn't want to leave, the more nonchalant they become. It's just human nature. Most of us will exchange words with a police officer, but become meek with a soldier on top the same issue.

In the end, most people become sh*tty married partners at some point. The marriage becomes like the job they have that they hate, but they can't leave because it pays the bills.

Thankfully, I'm aromantic. Life is hard enough as it is to add needless, avoidable problems. Someone will wake up one morning and say 'till death do us part' with another person who you can't tell what they'd be like in 15 years time. Then later you'd start disturbing us with "marital problems". What da f*ck were you expecting? The nerve to act surprised always astounds me!

portune:
I do my job as a good husband. Within a space of a month, I bought 2 fones for her worth 250k. Kid spoilt the 1st so I replaced. She even auggests i go outside and get sidechick that i dont spend money on her. Imagine?

How many people has a running capital of 250k in Naija?? If u add money for Xmass for her and kids plus xmass money and dec upkeep i have spent over almost 400k this month . Imagine this..

thatigboman:
do u know why the charges were there in the first place?
Eg u bank with union bank and use your Union Babk issued ATM card to withdraw money from UBA ATM. U want it to be for free? It's UBA's money. They pay their staff to put the money there. From monday to sunday. How are they going to recover the expense? Are they charity organisation? And if u go to the ATM and there's no cash, u will be the first to insult UBA, that UBA is not efficient.
Nothing comes for free.

LordAdam16:
Lord

hammerU:
The minute she undertstand this, she will make plans on how to capture u wen she knows u will be around.

IDERAWOLE:
So short a comment, but very powerful and accurate. Many Christians are really suffering in silence due to ignorance and pride. So be ready to learn.

However, something tells me that no woman can resist a man who's funny, humourous, that takes life easy and at the same time serious minded, when it comes to getting ready for sex.

While every human being is unique and peculiar, certain things are common with either gender. So study these peculiar matters.

When you handle your spouse very well and you're sensitive and attentive, sex is the most common thing between them.

However, most of us don't understand this. We assume a lot, she's wicked, taking me for a ride etc.

Before skin for skin(if you know, you know), sex for women begins from the mind. Men should get that clear. The guy who knows how to start the mind games is a winner on bed any day.

Let's come down to the ABC of this issue, who's your wife? What does she talks about? Analyze it first and talk about it too, even if you don't have the means to solve the problem at first. Give assurance that you will solve the problem soon and mean it. Share it with her if it will take time to solve it.

Fund out her state of health. Ensure she's well.

Finally, learn how to pleasure a woman, it isn't a 100m race, but a marathon race.

When she sees that you care, she's the one that will offer you a good sex, and to your satisfaction.

Don't assume buying of gifts is the short cut to the paradise, don't ignore those points above.

Ladies are responders at best, not initiators, so men should initiate any changes they desire. That's what it means to be in charge.

If you do half of these things, be ready for the sex you've been craving for, when ladies start it, no stopping o! Truth is that you can't do it everyday, so you must learn other ways to satisfy her orgasm need apart from thrusting in and out all the time.

All the best. Read and study how to pleasure a lady, I mean your wife o. Me I don't believe in any other thing apart from husband and wife matter.

2016easy2017:
U see, I'll give u the best advise and I swear, after some months you'be praying for me as she'll be begging you for sex...... Mary a 2 wife. As a Muslim, we're never threatened by our wife for sex

InvertedHammer:
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Lordswazz:
I was listening to a midnight relationship radio programme recently that encourages people to air their relationship problems for possible solution.
One man called that his wife have been denying him sex severally after childbirth. Not long after, about 6-7 other men called and said they were also having the same problem ...sex is regular and exciting before childbirth and then thereafter,once the woman gives birth, she just goes off sexually. They have to beg endlessly and pet till thy kingdom come, and even at that, the sex is like once a month or once in two months.

Even the host of the programme who is a lady with kids couldn't profer any viable solution except "sit your wife down and talk to her", and lots of the callers said they've done everything under the sun, yet she's still frigid. It happens to a lot of women, and no, they are mostly not cheating.

My take, which is unpopular and might seem controversial is that, if she's a good woman, keep showing her love. Take care of her and the kids, but seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere. If sex starts being a chore every time, and you have to bottle your libido for weeks unend, then it's not worth it. It should be spontaneous, it should be fun.

Any man worth his salt can easily get sex. Just keep your woman if that's the only shortcoming and show her care and love, but don't suffer for it. Get sexual satisfaction elsewhere.

mikezuruki:
Going ahead without parents consent and blessings is wrong

otokx:
You see Nigerians whose real age is 55 but in paper they will be claiming 35. When you ask them to do a certain task it is then you will know the truth. The workforce is always large in payroll but on the ground is scanty. The dodgers and absentees are many. The mgt in Nigeria will provide funds and the middle supervisors use it for something else worse still the mgt themselves divert it. Is it not the same UPTH that one goes and has to buy all the consumables despite o

bukatyne:
I wonder why you are mixing issues up.

Even if you are jobless, it is the duty of your wife to satisfy you sexually and vice versa.

What you give her or don't give her absolutely has nothing to do with it.

When did the locking of shop start? How long have you been married? How many kids do you have?

Tarabye:
Nobody will desire to watch his/her lineage being detrimented into the delusional world of ours today, you will surely reap what you sow, what's the point of building your family and dreams through the wrong way with the high expectations of good stuff coming out from them
Life in it entirely is a choice , and a straight forward thing you're making it the hard way
We can't declare those nophisites wrong decisions to their family, other factors led the role to that miserable lives
Your point here is baseless

bonnyhope:
You are funny, so she would have shared her pregnancy pix b4 you would believe that she actually birthed the child

zeestone99:
Spot on. You are very correct.

uuzba:
What can we do? Nigeria's problem is still as basic as just seeing food to eat.

Peterolus:
So crazy how other pageants go come dey fine pass the winner after emerging. See those girls wey Dey beside am