₦airaland Forum

dominique:
People thinking of suicide should always think of the loved ones they're about to leave behind before taking such drastic step.

indeed I think of that.

meanwhile some are depressed and have lost touch with reality and rationality. Society needs to do better to identify depressed people

kayjay69:
Typical Nigerian Syndrome. They abandon the message and pounce on the messenger. I'm surprised they havent pounced on Timi Dakolo yet, I guess most of them are conflicted internally having to choose between a gospel singer and a man of God.

Having followed the earlier story that broke a couple years back between Ese and the Pastor, I'll just say no matter how long it takes the truth always has a way of getting out. I remember how some people derided her for coming out (as if that should have been the main story) and I remember how some people painted her narrative as false (well those ones won't be convinced by these latest accusations either). While she may have had her faults, afterall it takes two to tango, I wonder why the story was made all about her trying to pull a Man of God down when it should have been Man of God shamelessly cheating. Anyway, my take has always remained the same, Pastors are Men and they are fallible (goodluck to anyone who thinks they are spirit men who descended the earth from the heavens above). If and when they fall, they should have the good grace to own up and step aside in order to deflect attention away from themselves. But you see most Pastors especially Nigerian Pastors won't do that and it has a lot to do with the ownership structure of these churches. It is sad but it is true.

well said and the bolded is the difference between the new generation and the Orthodox churches/Redeemed.

Mayflowa:
But Catholic and Anglican priest has been found guilty of fornication, harassment and homosexualitytoo

but they arenty GOs and do not say they have grace therefore it wouldnt be counted against them

dancewith:
I tend to be displeased when this lady come around

First off, she isnt a victim. She fornicated with a pastor as an adult. She was a masters student in the UK and was sponsored by pastor Abiodun.

There is nothing free even in Freetown and she must have known. When the pastor invited her to his penthouse in the UK she went there with her eyes and legs wide open and she was not raped

She only started crying foul when she realised the pastor had moved on from her and has others of her kind he is now on to

She knew exactly what she was doing and she should never have formed victim even in 2013

As for the pastor, the days day of reckoning is fast approaching

if you read well, she agrees with you that she is not a victim. She actually doesn't want anyone to bring her into this new trending scandal as one of his past victims.

She admits she played the victim card for a long time but does not wish to be seen as a victim anymore.

You and her are saying the same thing.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Of what use is customary law when it is not legally recognized even outside the country.
He is her father and should enjoy paternal rights whether or not he paid anything.

Well this is only for traditional marriage which is subject to customary law.

Regina's father cannot receive bride price if he did not pay bride price for her mother whether he was involved in her life or was a deadbeat Dad.

cococandy:
Nairalanders are mostly damaged goods. Don’t expect them to see anything wrong with this man’s pervert behavior

As disgusting as this union is, she is an adult and therefore he is no pedophile.

This is different from the Zamfara one.

ThrillPlus:
The better words are 'women should be voted to power.'

no one "should" be voted.

rather everyone "can" be voted to power

Indeed Polyandry should be allowed and legalized

let the women worry about how to get four husbands

but sha allow it first

keepingmum:
oga talk true, you were threatened by the school with a fail whisper it in my ear, i wont tell anyone

this is more than likely

probably probable

Bossjakande:
Den shes not redy to marry. instead of dumping him let her tried to pray if he will change but gice him space first.OK I know is wrong to beat a woman maybe she provoke him cos some woman thier mouth dey run like tap.Wat if in marriage her hubby beat her will she divorce like DAT. I think we need to be patient in relationship .it will cause pains to her familu to cancel d wedding. She shdnt have bring it to internet. D guy is wrong why beat her till she got to hospital.

E nor get wetin Musa nor go see for gate sha lol

Onlinealaba:
Really deep..i can feel her pain, u can easily adopt babies and treat them as yours..life is beautiful when we face our challenges and erase them with inner happiness



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yeah she is married so can easily adopt children. Would have been a different ball game if she was single

pocohantas:
Small something...

You are obviously polygamous in nature

Don't get caught, you hear?

it is rare but there are actually women who are innately polygamous.

I was actually excited to meet and interact with one

Biglittlelois:
My own is that they should allow women to rule, as in President, vice president and other top positions since the men that ruled and still ruling has shown how useless, daft, clueless they are when it comes leadership and development, 16 years and counting look where we are today.

The word allow is funny.

Women are allowed to contest already.

Did you vote a woman as president?

Shugavee:
i doubt you hv watched the video on YouTube, you need too, the school had to ask tonto to pay after the school stayed for so long with out him paying , she brought receipts , so u r wrong with that,

I know a lot of you can’t afford YouTube, but try n watch the video ,

thanks for the clarification. receipts show she paid and do not prove he didn't want to pay.

Meanwhile, I like to think I can afford YouTube

Daeylar:
I agree with you on that.
No other lady should marry this man, for their own good. This is a man that had refused to care for his son, yet tried to drag Tonto to court as if she has done anything wrong and was soundly disgraced and exposed for the dead beat absentee father that he is. Someone that refuses to care for his child cannot care for anyone else.

I haven't paid attention to the other accusations Tonto has leveled against him so I don't even know what they are.

well he didnt refuse.

She didnt allow him access

I have seen this a lot where a woman doesnt even want the man to provide for the baby so she has a sweeter story to tell

zicoraads:
Tonto is somewhat mad we know. But there's no way Churchill is not slightly guilty in all of these.

He comes across as an emotional abuser. They'll often appear in public as doves, but the reality is often far from it. Especially if their partners are loud like Tonto.

exactly I suspect emotional abuse

sweetrace:
There’s nothing wrong with Tonto Dike. Just like many Nigerians you’re quick to diagnose her as having a mental illness. What qualifies you to do this? She is lashing out because she is hurting. She was probably wronged deeply . Then the ones that hurt her are trying to smell like roses. I only think it embarrassing to solve problems in public.

that I lash out doesn't necessarily mean I hurt and that I hurt doesn't mean I was wronged.

I could simply have a skewed world view and a false sense of justice.

It is possible churchill hurt her and it is possible she hurt him and is hurt she cant hurt him anymore.

Her lashing out doesnt make him the villian

flourishing247:
She's not. We live in a hypocritical society. No one wants to hear the truth. Her ex damaged her with lies. Did you watch her interview with freeze? She brought documents to back up her rants. She knows what she's doing. All these celebrities commenting should leave her before she drags them into that vicious circle

and what is her truth? She spoke about him beating her but the only video of one beating the other I have seen to date is her slapping him like he was some toddler.

I would suspect he lied to her and cheated on her but that doesnt justify this.

Just pray her son doesnt turn against her in future. i have seen this happen.

Sacrifice freely given from love is never forgotten. Sacrifice made from hate can become choking

bleepmate:
Tonto needs a mental evaluation on her....

She can't get over her ex,
This is a sign that she still loves him

what kind of selfish love is that?

The same type that makes some men kill thier wife instead of allowing her move on a with a new man

Selfish love

biacan:
It still haven't change the fact that you're a one minute man

what fact?

that a venegeful ex claims he is?

And I am quite shocked you support body shaming? You didnt seem the type

cococandy:
Smh. So much nonsense making news

true. he didnt even reply her post or something

His post might even be unrelated but bloggers must find far fetched connections.

Her cyber malevolence towards him is getting too much though

Sellfish:
Instead of these silly celebrities to condemn the acts of prostitution perpetrated by these women, they are chasing shadows and talking trash

If those girls were not prostituting upandan in the club, would the police have had the opportunity to harass them?


If those girls were in their husband's or father's houses, police for arrest them?

Ashawo work is like armed robbery work...Whatever you see, you take....You can't be doing the illegal and immoral act of prostitution and still be complaining that illegalities and immoralities were inflicted on you....immorality births immorality


If you want to be treated like a responsible human being, act like one....finito

OMG! I am going to assume you are very very ignorant. It is the only possible excuse I can give for this.

One cannot be this heartless and evil to justify rape on some flimsy clubbing prositituting excuse.

To follow your logic, every body who drives a Venza is a yahoo boy. Why werent they driving other cars knowing fully well it is Yahoo boys that drive Venza.

Also there are other houses besides a lady's husband and father's house. one of them is called "her house"

Misogynists like you are the only thing preventing me from seeing modern feminism as totally misguided. At least they get to change people with mindsets like yours

Vyolet:
No one truly knows what happened between Tonto and Churchill, he could have drained her emotionally and mentally but then, I think its high Tonto moved on, if she hears other women's stories, she will open her mouth wide yet they don't disturb the cyberspace with their emotional tales.

What do i even know, Tonto, if this is how you want to heal, then you can spill more, bare it out, i hope you find closure after then.

Indeed could is the keyword. It is also possible that she drained him emotionally but he is taking it/moving on well

I imagine if churchill was the one ranting and being vindictive, people will call him all sorts of names because he is a man and should behave like one.

We excuse Tonto's toxicity and cyberbullying churchill for the reason that "she is emotionally hurt by the divorce/separation". Imagine if churchill was hurt (he actually could be) and was taking it on her by insulting her every opportunity he had.

He would clearly be a villian.

My point is that even though the new World says men should be allowed to express their emotions, it is typically women that enjoy that privilege

nazablossom:
It's not a bad advice. Men buy properties with their name and nobody is disputing it, why would women's own be selfish.

Women should buy properties in their name

Your next of kin however should be agreed (either both of you use each other or both of you use the kids)

123JohnF:
Ha-ha-ha, khiaa! We, men, have a preference to our type of a woman. And in all the world men mostly like them white and blonde, some may like them slim, some like them chubby, young or old but blonde white pretty women leave black women well behind and you know it.
And the black man with the white blonde is a perfect match. Once we taste each other, it's a perfect preference.

your generalisations are off

123JohnF:
In America this problem is solved. Mixed schools, interracial love and marriage. Black men once try a white woman, prefer white ones. In America black women are very angry at white women because all black guys go with white girls, white or other races men don't like black women. So it was before, black women being so loud and always offending white women feeling they take black men from them. Now Hollywood is teaching to black women to direct their sexuality to be a lesbian. Lesbian black women (read, no men like them in America) calmed down and are bitching much less.

Please, don't get frustrated, black ladies. Men, we have a taste for certain types of women, we don't like old ones, we don't like fat ones, we don't like deformed bodies with ass as a saddle, we don't like fake greasy hair, too much make up when we wake up on the morning with a monster in our bed (ouch, it's scary, she was apparently beautiful last night under all her make up), we don't like screaming bitching loud women with weird bleached and not soft skin. We try white women and we know the difference. Only African boys who never had a better woman are with you, lock them up in Africa, don't let them go abroad if you wish to keep them or become lesbians, lol.

Men are diverse. I would find it tough to have sex let alone date a white lady. I prefer dark girls. All the other things you posted (screaming, loud, too much makeup etc.) have nothing to do with skin complexion

khiaa:
Inferior over what, God blessed me with beautiful, radiant, healthy skin, I don't have to sit in the sun, take shots, sit in tan baths to get my

beautiful color. Thank you, God.

The girl became rude when one intelligent man didn't agree with the hype of you morons praising these neanderthals undeservedly.

I agree with you remember, and I quote "Brainwashed, Braindead, Morons".

Jealousy over who or what, definitely not over neanderthals or braindead Coons?

You are actually the first rude person on the thread. Neither her nor the guy who posted something negative was rude.

her response to the guy's perceived generalisation was no more than a typical Naija lady/guy will respond if someone were to talk about smelling pussy or smelly dick.

The problem was the assumptions you made about her motives. I thought so initially but realised they were baseless.

Daeylar:
Misogynistic hypocritical nairaland guys are happy,
no one is calling him a gold digger, or any stupid name their asinine brains would come up with if genders are reversed.
No one insinuating rubbish about his character or his reason for divorce. Nothing.

Shameless misogynists.

Well, no woman (including you) is defending how Simon deserves it and contributed to Adele's fortune too.

this is an outlier. It is typically women exiting with a fortune due to hypergamy.

Most men would think it is unfair on Adele.

Sanchez01:
If this had happened in Nigeria, so many would have said 'in saner climes'. Well, this is happening in saner climes. Funny!

The whole world is sick as it is.

What A ten year old in cuffs and you're concerned about the respect? That alone defies humanity. As crazy as the Nigerian Police Force is, they won't cuff a ten-year old. At best, he'd be taken to the station. But in cuffs, hell no!

Bro. Nigeria police could easily flog shege comot from a 10 yr old common man's child and nothing will happen

SarkinYarki:
Nigerian women where are you

if they do same now your misogynist president will tell them they belong to the other room

While some of you folks will call them frustrated.

Obi Ezekwisili led a protest no matter how un-altruistic it may have been percived

Biglittlelois:
Yes I do.

fair enough

Biglittlelois:
I disagree, it is every parents dream for their kids to outlive them and inherit their properties, that is why most women use their kids as next of kin.

so you support men that use their kids rather than wife as next of kin?