₦airaland Forum

midnighter:
Oh, sorry about that. But tell me, did you feel bad about it or did you just take it as a joke?

my feelings are not a good yardstick as I generally tolerate disrespect. However, because i am reminded about my single state at least 3 times a day, I didn't take it as a joke even though I was laughing with them. My feeling was more of an "Oya e don do abeg let the matter rest na" .

Generally men feel lesser pressure as you generally do not have biological clock pressure. My female colleague in her late thirties told me she would have been crying if she was humiliated like that.

midnighter:
Oh really? So it's even worse than I thought

What do they even say to you people self? Apart from "baba don old"

In a office TGIF, they announced ladies first and then Misters.

Someone interrupted that I was to be excluded as I was a Master and everyone shouted "Master myname" and were laughing that I should go and marry to be worthy of the title Mister

midnighter:
Women use men and men use women the same... but women occupy a lower space in society so when they lose, they lose big.

After like 35 years + an unmarried man will also begin to attract insults

i am open to changing as per relationship matters but not being "tamed"...that sounds like abuse

Men get insults at 33

foolbuster:
The chief priest has no right to stop people from moving before or after any time no more than a local vigilante has the right to proclaim same but i bet you and the pastor would have respected the local vigilante's order had it come from them.

Your subconscious colonial mentality is in the way. You have to work on it to free yourself.

Please there is no such word as "trado-sentimental". One can not be sentimental towards his/her tradition simply because it is whom they are. It is like saying a word like "self-sentimental" can you be sentimental towards yourself? As a matter of fact it is you that is Anti trado-sentimental if there is such a word.

If you can go as far as inventing words very easily to deny or discredit your heritage without even realizing what you did then It says a lot about we as people and our state of mind.

Do you know that traditional rulers have no role in the constitution, i mean zero. But they are still recognised by the political class and society, why? I mean shouldn't it be illegal then.

Anyway I never mentioned anywhere that the traditionalists were right, ok?
The pastor was wrong to disrespect the culture of the land. All he had to do was be humble and respectful. No one was preventing him from worshipping.

The traditionalist on the otherhand were wrong for physically assaulting the man even though he deserves it.

The traditionalist was wrong for infringing on peoples' right to free movement and not just the assault. The law of the land was not disrespected by the pastor. He was prevented from worshiping after 8am. He deserves no assault.

Same way we frown at pastors desecrating traditional shrines and heritage sites in the name of "liberation" is the same way we should frown at traditional practitioners infringing on people's right to movement and threatening with death.

You would do well to make no assumptions about my religion or the existence of a colonial mentality within me.

foolbuster:
Its feels good to know that sense is slowly returning back to the youths




This will be hard for you to grasp but God does not wish or do harm to anybody. So that hatefilled vile you vomitted from your selfish warped mentality can only come from a bitter soul. And until you begin to ask questions you will remain a fool until you pass away.

The pastor refused to respect the culture of the land but foolishly held the culture of a foreign people in higher regard. Funny enough its the Same foreign people that enslaved his fathers and raped his mothers for centuries. If that isn't buffoonery please tell me what is.
The irony is that even his adopted foreign beliefs tell him to respect the culture of whatever land he finds himself in. But he will practice the thing even more than the original owners. As if all the other churches in that area are stupid.

You want bad things to happen to them but good things will happen to the pastor if he disrespects their beliefs. Please dont be silly !!

the pastor has freedom of association. The chief priest has no right to stop people from moving after 8am or from worshipping after 8am.

Stop being trado-sentimental.

The only person who has disrespected the laws of the land is the chief priest and his rascally youth

Sirpaul:
According to the United Census Bureau, 4 percent of Nigerians in the US hold the Ph.D. degree compared to 1% of the general US population.
17% of Nigerian immigrants hold a master's degree and 37% have a bachelor's degree.

Total of 37 + 17 + 4 = 58% of Nigerians in the US are well-educated graduates seriously contributing to their economy.

Nigerians in the US are more educated than the general US population.


I weep for Nigeria

nope still roughly 37% as those that hold PHD and Masters also hold Bachelors degree and were already counted

MissWrite:
Values are and should always be personal for a person to reap any kind of benefit. Society cannot value something for an individual, it can only value something for itself. A society might value marriage because it helps increase its population while providing structure for its growing members. But it doesn't mean every individual would find satisfaction in being drafted to this cause. Some will, others won't.

People who want to be married, but aren't, would be less happy than they could be after their goals are met. People who don't want to be married, but somehow found themselves hitched, would be less happy than they would have been without the commitment. None of these people would necessarily be miserable, depending on how big of a deal marriage is to the individual. A person's happiness depends on so many factors.

Therefore, a comparison of the happiness of married and unmarried people across the board cannot be used to judge which marital status is more beneficial to people in general. In the end, it comes down to the individual. What would make YOU happy or happIER? We are not in a race, competing for who is happiest. We are just trying to serve ourselves the best way we can. And the fact that single people might occasionally admire a cute family; or that married people occasionally envy the freedom of single people doesn't necessarily mean they chose wrongly. Because afterwards, they realise that they wouldn't have had the lasting desire to make the scenario work for themselves.

Let's just be who we are, and do our heart's conviction. It's the only way to be happy.

Indeed people ignore diversity and try to generalise their values on others. There are those who are happier if married and there are those who are happier single

Someone even said one can't be happy without a child.

eTECTIV:
D woman who wrote d book and those who read it need to b checked into a mental institution asap..

add the poster below your original post

psucc:
Then who owns all the millions of lines as reported by NCC?

that you have millions don't mean you own 100%

MTN owns 36% of the mobile/wireless telecoms market in Nigeria, Glo has 27%, Airtel 26%

So if MTN leaves, others simply fill up its share

psucc:
You can only boycott what you have an alternative to. In Nigeria who is competing with DSTv, even in the telecom, other brands are still miles away from MTN.

To worsen, matters, even the poor no longer patronize the kiosks in their neighbourhood but root for ShopRite. The list is endless.

I have never used MTN and I know many folks who have never

stonemasonn:
what's the root problem? Man U have been pumping money into the team since Moyes (over a billion dollars) yet no reasonable change. Haba Chelsea throw money with results, why is Man U's case different.

cause each season manutd spend money they also let go too many dead wood who should have been squad players. Manutd let go of 8 players and bought 3 this season. Each new coach has a baggage of over paid dead wood that need t go before building his own team.

Solksjaer has bought wisely (except for Maguire) though but he needs to buy at least three more players before we can talk of a top 4. There is a reason manutd promoted 6 players from the academy to first team this season. It is simply a lack of squad players.

pocohantas:
The perspective under review, the perpective which is the basis of the movement- being child-support and alimony has nothing to do with the Nigerian man. He is at heavy advantage.

ok don't know much about the basis of the movement

Was talking generally about Men (or Women) going their own way

pocohantas:
Anyone that claims the Nigerian man is at a disadvantage in a marriage is a highly deluded being.

disadvantage is about perspective and individual values. There are men and women who see marriage as a disadvantage

OGHENAOGIE:
why did he accepted it in the ist place... if not for the backlash and receipts of his controversial quote ll he resign... anyway people like him are better in civil society...i can't vote for this kind of person who chicken out in criticism...he should see wetin Buhari de face...

... or wetin GEJ face right.

he didn't chicken out. he considered his integrity above all.

suprememoney:
So he resigned just to please some people?

If only he knows how fast the living forget the dead, he will not live his life to please others.

Because i know that most of the greatest critics of Buhari administration will not hesitate to change their perspective if given the chance to serve in the same administration.

I don't support evil, but he should have use his new office to pass a message or make a change.

he is making a big change already with BudgIT. He felt his appointment (especially with the social media uproar) will create an environment of mistrust with BudgIT especially as he had made statements in the past that he won't serve a Buhari government.


At the end he thinks integrity and trust are the most important ingredients of an change, hence his resignation.

NwaAmaikpe:




It's not a good time for bastards.
Linda Ikeji was lucky that Jayce was allowed to bear Jeremi because Maria Okan's baby is bearing Maria's name.
Now no one wants to claim TBoss's baby.

I will christen it "Nwachukwu" (God's Child) till its earthly father mans up.
But those who know, know that this is more than just a lunatic's banter.

this guy !!!!

UTInk we are dumb abi?

victorian:
I have seen Bros.

Many times, especially men in their mid 30s and 40s.


Don't let their bragging outside deceive you.


We all pray and beg God for a good partner. Not just any partner but the one that compliments each one of us. The men also have sleepless nights too.

indeed men pray too for a good wife.

And just as eligible men are scarce, eligible women are also scarce

Greenbirth:
What do you demand this time around. Another round of sex. Or what.you will not just let us rest.

bloggers, and not her, are responsible for your restlessness

obailala:
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What exactly has Seyi's great grandfather's achievement got to do with Seyi?

Of course in my value system, Seyi has achieved far more than Tacha but his great-grandfather's head in the 100 naira note is his great-grand father's achievement not his.

four4:
check out what some of your fellow Nigerians are doing for living SA, a lot of them are into crime and not only in SA but wherever you see Nigerians you see crime as if that is our logo, the problems I am having is just that they are handling it in barbaric way

what percentage of nigerians in south africa are into crime?

is that percentage enough to justify calling them all criminals.

This is akin to killing fulani herdsmen because a small percentage of them are into violence.

pocohantas:
Mercy was pretty wild in her single years, but I think marriage and motherhood genuinely changed her. Unlike Tonto Dikeh...

I am not saying there is a time to speak, I am just wondering why they remembered her now. Probably all her Happily-ever-after is beginning to get on nerves.

Well she said it is part of their healing process.

they say victims of abuse dont heal until thy let it out

thesicilian:
We only see physical injuries from the beating of the woman, we cannot see and photograph the emotional assaults and emasculating insults she heaps on him that might have led to the beating.

maybe we should forgive women who use acid to bathe their cheating husbands afterall we cannot see and photograph the emotional trauma she went through as a result of his cheating

DeraNwamazi:
Who knows what the lady did.

No tolerance for Violence means we dont care what the victim did except the victim initiated the violence.

Davash222:
You can only attract dilapidated diccks. No strong and powerful dicck would stoop too low for you.

this is false. the average man lacks self control with respect to sex compared to the average woman

pocohantas:
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"Sex starved" indeed.

Can a woman be sex starved in Nigeria? Except she willingly stays off sex na.

Visit 20 Nigerian men, including the married ones and 18.91234 would be willing to fck you. Them no dey hoard their prick. Zero artificial scarcity.

Indeed a willing penis is arguably the most available resource. Much more readily available than clean portable water

pocohantas:
We can't date, let alone acceptance.

We are not even the same circle...
He should pick a wife from his circle. Guys should learn to pick a wife from their social class and stop disturbing SM.

They have a right to go outside their social class. Heck many ladies target above their social class anyway.

The point you might want to make (or have made) is that the person one is targeting has a right to not want someone from that social class too.

ubunja:
take your own advice and learn to respect me and my opinion

i have always taken my own advice and respected you.

You should do same to others

Boss13:
I hope I don't piss you off by saying this - men who are in a committed relationship with a single mother have self esteem issues. Women are also aware of it too because out of the lots of better options, you considered them and their baggage. Men should understand the manipulative nature of women - they will stoop to conquer. Engaging in an emotional contest with women would only lead men to their grasp of women's control. You must rationalize women and their intentions at every phase of your life.

Bro you are preaching to the choir trust me. I rationalize dealings with women and I also understand the emotionally manipulative capacity of a lot of women. Heck I called one out on her statement "Matured men date single mothers" as an example of emotional manipulation.

My very logical and rational point goes thus - there are way too many variables in her becoming a single mother for you to christen her a hoe and there are way too many variables involved in his (single guy) getting married to her for you christen him a low esteem bloke.

pocohantas:
Huh?

my statement was just as absurd as hers.

"matured guys prefer single mothers"

Princessderaa:
huh? but men will like to sleep with a lady with or without protection.

I still insist matured men prefer single mothers to single ladies.

respectable and matured ladies prefer single fathers to single guys without kids.

frozen70:
It because of the nonsense culture that recognised men over women

Anybody can be a single parent and in every single mother, there is a single father

Marriage can be smooth at the beginning and get soured at the middle

No one wishes to be a single parent

But bear in mind that matured single mothers are better off than all these inexperienced ladies that gives men wahala

Love can take anyone to anywhere to meet anyone, at a stage in one's life, you have got to please yourself not the society

the bolded has no substance. There is negligible correlation between the experience of child birth and her giving a man wahala

ubunja:
Why are you so determined to chase second-hand goods??

Is there a shortage of fresh girls willing to get married and start a family the proper way?

Gents let's have standards for once.

It's bad enough we're no longer marrying virgins. Now we have to marry women with kids?? C'mon!!!

you have a right to your standards as everyone should. Ladies encourage other ladies to have standards so I am okay with you "empowering" men.

The issue is about you making assumptions about single mothers (like that they are hoes and all) and those that date/marry them (that they have no self respect etc.).