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ibkayee:
I feel bad for all the genuinely good, harmless, unproblematic guys who may have to be told something this hurtful and extreme all because Nigeria is a cesspool of pedopphiles and sexual predators in general

it really is a question of trust. She does not trust her husband. She shouldn't have added the "I trust my husband ..." part.

She has a right to trust whoever she wishes. I know it will hurt her husband but it is about her not him.

pocohantas:
Yes of course

inconsistent

Ladyhippolyta88:
Oh

Any way I still agree with her. That is if they both contribute to paying the house rent or building it.
I cannot stay in a house I do not contribute to pay rent or build.So no man born of a woman can tell me he owns the house alone.It is both ours.
But if the house belongs to one of them only that person has a right to claim sole ownership .

then you don't agree with her.

the scenario depicted was a man sending his wife packing out of a house that belongs to him.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Yes.Who cares what society says.If any woman does that she has my full support.

ok.

The question was not for you however.

It was for the lady who asked why Nigerian men cant get into their thick skulls that the house belongs to both husband and wife. She said this in response to someone who wrote about "sending wife packing from the house"

so your answer negates her point and supports the point of the original guy who wrote about sending wife packing (of course on the assumption that he owns the house)

Ladyhippolyta88:
You have a point but our standards can never be the same.Even men who are not worth respecting would be shouting for respect because they feel they are men so that your use of attitude as an excuse for women not being respected goes both ways
Anyways nice submissions.

indeed!

Let's allow people have their standards. If they can meet their standards and they really want marriage, they would naturally lower it.

However, let it remain their choice to have the standards or to lower them.

Saffi:
Stop trying to eradicate the natural behaviour of men, it can’t work. Men look for beauty, youth, nurturing capabilities and character when searching for a spouse, it comes naturally. Men and women are not the same, stop trying to modify nature.

true most men do look for these things but the world is more diverse than you think.

people have strange and unique qualities they seek and we all have a right to have expectations.

pocohantas:
Which your house? When will you Nigerian men, get it into your thick skulls that the home belongs to husband and wife? When?

can a woman send her cheating husband packing out of a house built/officially owned by her?

YouareaBITCH:
It won't make sense to you
You might be normal and can't abuse ur daughter but alot of people are not normal.

why does she completely trust her husband if he is not normal.

The statement will make sense if she says she doesnt completely trust him

Saffi:
To all the women who feel pressured to tie the knot, do not purposely make your life a misery, it is not worth it. People will always talk, you’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Unfortunately we have unfortunate men and even women that will shame you and ridicule you for not getting married at the “right time”, these people will be the same ones that will laugh at you when you’re running from one place to another, crying about your marriage issues. Be patient, work on yourself spiritually, mentally and emotionally, build your finances, build relationships, work on your craft, and God will compliment you with your equal. My mother got married at 31, my mothers sister also got married at 34 and she’s blessed with 3 children today, and they’re still very happily married. Its not a rare situation, it’s called life. Shiit doesn’t always go according to plan, is your life suddenly over because of this? It’s not a crime to run your own race, quality men attract quality women. Men, see quality before anything. Boys use foolish stereotypes to produce their thoughts. This actually applies to both genders. Heck marriage is not for everyone, if its not for you, jejely stay on your own and live your life in peace. I shall say no more.

True Words

saibuhari:
Women just looking for excuse to be rival with their husbands. The word submission is not created by any man. God ordered it. Women have no option than to obey or face the consequence. Even those men who are pretending to be feminists, they cannot amend the word of God. If u cant submit as a woman remain in your father's house.

(1) not everyone is a christian or religious
(2) women who do not want to submit still marry. They only need to find men who do not place much value in submission
(3) They do not have to remain in their father's house. They can build bigger houses than their suitors can and live in those houses

ipobarethieves:
Atikulathief,weldone ooo

Ganduje is a far more likely source

Quigley:
Why won't she carry it for head? People can't even spread their pants outside again for Christ's sake. Wetin these boys wan make women do? 15 year old girl was kidnapped with her sibling and she was killed, was she causing men too? What about that Delsu student looking for apartment?
Date rich guys, they can't cos they will like to know source of wealth, poor guy might be tired one day and use them for rituals! Hell people are now using their fathers! Why must we be like this? Are we the first generation to experience hardship? There is something wrong and the Govt is not doing enough to combat this issue.

The perpetrators of rituals are mostly men. Agreed

however the victims are not necessarily mostly women. Let's not change the topic into a gender war.

fun fact:
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more men than women do juju to make money --> men are pressured to make money

Women who do juju, do it more to trap men who have made money than using the juju to make their own money --> women are pressured to have financially eligible partners

madridguy:
Before you blame Magu, you should blame first the criminals that introduced immunity clause. You want Magu to prosecute Ganduje so you people again can shout foul of trying to truncate our democracy.

investigate not prosecute

toprealman:
if you have issues understanding a simple sentence, why not go and tear your secondary school certificate and start afresh?
I was referring to the useless fools that killed her you dimp!

my apologies. I misunderstood your comment.

a lot of peeps had been tagging her as a runsgirl. I got carried away

toprealman:
All because of 4matic, venza and iPhone Abi?

she wasn't a runs girl. She was a decent brilliant student. You clearly did not read or follow the story.

Could you please respect the dead and stop making false and unfounded assumptions

Yeeyo:
What will you xpect from muslim man

Well i read many news about Christians, Atheist, Agnostics, Buddhist defiling little children so it see the common denominator was that they were all "Evil Humans".

1Sharon:
How do you know? Someone else has to tell you. You are used to ur own odour

breathe in your palms. You would tell.

Well except it is all you have been used to

1Sharon:
Are they brushing their tongue ? Most ppl don't realise they their tongue needs to be Pink! Not white

I'm halitophobic

yes

Ladyhippolyta88:
I don't insult people but sorry to say.You are slow I didn't want to reply you but I have to.Go read again I earlier stated that men have the Upper hand in physical strength. My main issue was on leadership yet you keep bringing irrelevant issues.I won't waste my time to discuss with someone who reads but cannot understand.I never called religious folks foolish or less intelligent I only criticised religion and talked about freethinkers who chose to be rational in dealing with religion.I cannot waste my time exchanging or explaining anything to you anymore you are so slow.Especially after reading your post with the other lady.Boy we done.You know Nadda.

you shouldnt have bothered cos leadership means different things to different people.

His understanding of leadership makes him see men as more naturally born leaders.

However, if leadership is service and the ability to get things done irrespective of who does what then your argument will hold.

Coldfeets:
Who cares what he said or didn't say?

The fact is that I so much hate it when people go on and on and on about this making money of a thing as if making money is all there is to this life.

Worse still, when you look at them closely, you can't even see any atom of the so called money they have supposedly been making since.

@bolded it is his values. He values money over many other things. Dont get frustrated by someone else's seeming vanity. Let him be and stick to your own values.

Rosezee:
Jokes aside. Something should be done about this! I don't want a guy to hit me if not i would have told some of them

i know. it is hard to tell one. But it is better to do it out of a place of love and concern

xendra:
At least the mouth has tooth brush and paste pussy doesn't so what's y'all excuse

Tooth paste doesnt solve most of the mouth odor issues. I know a few peeps who have mouth odor and they take their brushing very seriously (morning and night)

seunmsg:
Jonathan is nothing but a sore loser. He has blamed everyone else except himself for his 2015 defeat. Obama, David Cameroun, PDP governors, Bornu governor, Chibok girls, and now INEC. When will he face the reality that Nigerians voted him out because of his incompetence and high level of corruption that characterize his government? When will he blame his wife for practically pushing Amaechi and some other leaders out of PDP? When will he blame himself for marginalizing the south west that stood by him in 2010 and 2011 from his government? He should accept his failures and stop deceiving himself.

Exactly. Blaming everyone but himself.

Reminds me of a certain Obasanjo.

Sizuabanze:
GEJ Please it is enough.

You don day over do am.

I tire o.

We don't want any revisionist theory.

His Govt was corrupt. The current one is equally corrupt. Hopefully the current one gets to lose and hands over peacefully.

franchasng:
while you do...always have in mind that 99.9% of black women are confused

now that is a bad and demeaning generalisation.

Beface:
Green light can be misleading,never strike on the assumption of green light because the spirit way they push them is seeking for your destruction but he no go clear to you until she makes you look foolish.

Indeed

germanized:
As a matter of fact, in recent times, acting on hints and green lights has proven to be the worst trap a man can fall into.

All these feminists looking for who to accuse of verbal or sexual harassment after giving you green light to approach them... Please don't mind them ooo

My guys, if a lady likes you, let her say it with her mouth, c'est fini!

forget feminist matter. it is unrelated.

However, the rest of your post is correct. Acting on green lights is a risk as you are only assuming.

franchasng:
My golden advice to ladies who have the gut to initiate the move towards a guy they like or find interesting....note; my counsel will come in two ways; one for those doing it in real life and for those doing it through online/internet.

Real Life approach:

Girl to guy: stare at him continuously and smile....when he catches u staring, intentionally turn your eyes away laughing, do this repeatedly but make sure he sees you clearly each time you stare, but never walk up to him and say, "hi I like you can we be friends", this approach is WRONG, unless for teenagers!

Many guys will be scared unless he is a perfect playboy.

When he finally summons the courage to approach you, don't start all those mumuish iyanga torotoro

Online scenario:

you can start tagging or quoting his comments, status, etc with joking agreement to his comments and views to issues of discussion, and maybe with time, you can message him like this: "wow, I really enjoy reading your views , so funny and interesting, though awkward at times, keep it up, from one of your secret fans"

Every sensible guy will get the clue and take it up from there without you exposing yourself to ridicule or drama

the bolded is not green enough as there are many girls who do this but aren't interested. Guys have wrongly assumed and gotten fingers burnt

Eberex:
Giving to the poor is not a bad thing but the Bible's instruction is clear. What the church does with it is none of your business. Besides if you aare attending a church where you feel they don't need your tithe, why then are you attending that church?

for his salvation.

is giving tithe the only reason why one should attend a particular church

Truckpusher:
If a female student approaches a lecturer for marks , he’s got every right and tool at his disposal to refer her to ethics committee.

By doing this other students won’t dare approach him for marks.

exactly ! I wont have added my other comment if i have seen this. Girls only approach lecturers already known to bee randy anyway. I know a lecturer who made a scapegoat of two girls. Other ladies learnt not to approach him.

Truckpusher:
Are you seriously writing this for public consumption?
Little wonder this country won’t forward any time yet.

He deserves all he’s getting and it will serve as a deterrent to other randy lecturers in our schools.

they are missing the point. It is not a crime against the lady (except he failed her for not having sex), it is an abuse of office and therefore a crime against state.

To buttress: Even if a female student comes herself to solicit sex from a lecturer in return for grade, the lecturer (if caught) will go to jail while the student will only face school disciplinary action. This guy was caught on audio promising to upgrade her results. That is red-handed abuse of office.