₦airaland Forum

Wow! Ignorance kills oh, especially in Nigeria!

c.fours:
@maclatunji,
you are on point there.
above is his more exhaustive list (disguised as his "mother's" list of course) 
at this rate, he will be single till 50!


you've been hanging around African Americans a little bit too much hehn?
and did I tell you 99% of those women never receive a single 'child support' check. (yea i've been watching real housewives of atlanta  )
if you are actually one to pay child support, you will become like a god to the lucky baby mama. consider that option.

Hello stalker! I have nothing to disguise. I gets what I want! Things are only a little trickier with marriage but no worries, I shall represent in due time. You all will read it in the society pages!

no1madman:
prove it!

^^Proof #1 - mad man in Lagos.

maclatunji:
The truth is that you are at a point in your life where you are under pressure to get married and from your posts it seems obvious you are finding it difficult to cope. Hence, you are giving yourself excuses for your predicament.

@All, this is actually a coded cry for help: Moremi2008 is looking for a beautiful and rich Yoruba girl he can call his own. So don't mind him- he wants to get married but is feeling insecure.

Single, Christian, Rich, Beautiful, Yoruba Girls especially in the United States give Moremi2008 a chance.

^^^ I support this (indifferent to the rich part though). Come to daddy, all ye fair maidens!

That nobody could provide convincing arguments in favor of marriage for men is indicative of marriage's shaky foundations. Marriage is a giant scam women have been propagating since our days of living in caves to get unsuspecting men to take care of women and their broods of little bastards! Thank God some men are finally seeing the light. You shall only be receiving child support from me; nothing more and nothing less.

All I know is that my cousins are from Ondo state and my jaws dropped when I attended my cousin's traditional wedding and she came out dressed like a Bini bride!!!! Apparently, brides from Owo in Ondo state dress like Bini women! Go back and do your research, some parts of Yoruba land are practically Bini, the intercultural exchange is unmistakable!

Are you sure you heard from God or you heard from your own emotions? I think marrying a man against your parents' wishes is dangerous, with only a few exceptions. Marrying a man your family doesn't approve of would isolate you and starve you of resources you're going to need as a new bride/mother because you would have a much smaller pool of people to reach out to for advice/counselling on your marriage and on childcare. It would also leave you in a very precarious situation if the marriage develops hiccups (and most do). Who will you call on when this happens? Besides, the man you marry outside your parents consent will become your lord and master. He will be free to do with you as he pleases since he got you for free and he isn't accountable to anybody for your welfare. Why are you so desperate? Are you on the older side?

The reasons your parents have given are a bit short-sighted. What kind of disability are we talking about? Is the man able to work? Does he require expensive and time-consuming care? If yes, can he afford the care he needs with a lot left over to support a young family? Is the disability genetic? Will your future kids run the risk of being disabled too? I suspect that your parents have other reasons for not blessing the union (lots of disabled men get married to beautiful brides every year with the bride's family in FULL consent!)

I seriously doubt that a man that is willing to take you to a registry against your parents' wishes has good intentions for you. You were raised with great care and aren't supposed to be picked-off randomly in the streets! Don't sell yourself short!!! And don't sign-up yourself for a life of misery and regret. Please go back to your pastor and reconfirm if this is indeed what God is saying. If you get a re-confirmation, then you need to go back to God to change your parents' mind, after all, He holds the hearts of kings in his hands! If this man is indeed God's will for you, God will bring your parents around to support and bless the marriage. Good luck oh!

Too long, didn't read!

The majority of those posting in this thread don't have a single pot to piss in and they are making plans to leave inheritance! LOL! 

Going to a herbalist and calling his name three times !

ogb5:
this story is meant to wipe up sentiments against the nddc.
the story is carefully crafted to look as if the 1.3billion is meant for just one office complex. nddc has offices in all the 9 nddc states and in abuja.

there is gross corruption in presidency and in the legislature. these two arms of govt needs to be cleansed. focus has always been on state govs, at the federal level the steal in hundreds of billions.

The nddc budget was obviously inflated with regards to recurrent expenditure yet the senate passed the budget, infact the senate even increased the nddc budget before passing it.

why will the senate that is supposed to represent all nigerians inflate an already inflated budget if not so that the can get their share when the budget is released.

one day something will surely give and those who are entrusted with the commonwealth of nigerians will be called to question.

Thief thief! Even if you fumigate all 10 offices once a month @ N1+ million a pop, you can't spend more than N150 million for the entire year, maximum!

HAHAHA! This is great news! MMIA is THE WORST international airport I have ever seen with all those crooks and beggars hanging out right outside the doors terrorizing everybody! Maybe the crowd will dissipate once they rob them a few times! Crazy country run by crazy men.

A completely dysfunctional kleptocracy! Nigerians are the biggest fools on this planet.

buzugee:
this is no big deal. tonnes of fake doctors get caught in america and britain all the time. and not just jeko jeko doctors. here are a few cases
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/40630166/ns/health-health_care/t/fake-doctor-duped-hospitals-universities-ama/#.TywTlFxzmuI

http://www.metro.co.uk/weird/7077-bogus-doctor-treated-thousands

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2094763/Bogus-doctor-told-women-cure-bosom-cancer-sexually-abusing-them.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2065671/Fake-doctor-hugely-inflated-backside-used-cement-tyre-filler-arrested-second-victim-comes-forward.html

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-15438332

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/top-stories/2011/10/25/bogus-doctor-jailed-for-posing-as-a-gp-for-a-decade-and-faking-his-daughter-s-paternity-test-115875-23512647/

Another fake brain! All the stories you posted are from the UK and none of the fake doctors worked in a government hospital in patient-facing roles - they ran back-room "alternative" operations for gullible patients or worked as consultants/administrators. It's almost impossible to work as a "fake" doctor that regularly sees patients in a US hospital. It's easy to present fake or doctored credentials anywhere in the world but it isn't easy to fool other medical doctors in a role that requires treating patients every day. At the very most, the fake doctor will last a few weeks before his/her colleagues start to make surreptitious calls to the medical school/residency program on the fake certificates. All it takes is a string of simple errors.

Similar cases of fraud in the US typically involve doctors that work with revoked or suspended medical licenses (i.e. they trained and graduated from medical school but were relieved of their licenses for malpractice or ethical reasons at some point later).

The real shocker in this news article is that he worked as a doctor for TWO YEARS before being nabbed!!!! And he wasn't even nabbed by his colleagues or by hospital administration (he was only nabbed because of an external order for online registration). That's just tragic! I have always insisted that Nigerian hospitals are at best, centers for palliative care and at worst places to go die. The country is full of half-baked medical doctors trained on outdated medical texts and with zero access to clinical research. An all-round source of shame! No wonder everybody that can afford it goes abroad for medical care. I have friends who won't even go for basic medical or dental check-ups in Nigeria.

Is Uncle Serubawon about the close the deal on a pretty young thing?! I likes!

debrief08:
Make ma husband catch you dey call me Bro hehehehe, u go explain plenty oh.
I know the times are bad but our role as christains is to shine to love of God not to wish pple death. Can we make a single strand of hair? Why dont we spend more time working on our shortcomings than in praying for Gods creation to die. Haba

Heartbreakingly cute! You never jam awon iya osoronga! By the time they start plucking your loved ones one after the other, you will run to MFM and start cursing em too!

Look at these old fools patting themselves on the back! A tragic mess! 

Some days I just love Nairaland! See how my people saw through her story, sharp, sharp!

Did anybody notice that she didn't tell us where the commercial vehicle took her too: the hospital or the house. Which one is it? Did you write this update from your hospital bed or did the doctor discharge you? What was the doctor's verdict? Early labor? Too much fufu for lunch? Eh ya! Pele!

Well, I would prefer it once in the morning right before breakfast, once in the evening as soon as I walk in the door and then a leisurely one at night when we're about to sleep. On the weekends, we aren't even going to step out of bed (I keep handcuffs right next to my bed for this same reason).

There are some extreme cases though. I remember one of family friend's son had trouble getting his current wife's family to bless their union because they are both really short (the husband is like 5 ft 4" and the wife is about 5ft 2"). At the end of the day love (and money) won out oh!

I understand why there is so much anger on this thread. I have heard horror stories of Nigerian families abusing their househelps. We had househelps growing up (typically about 2-3 at a time) and they weren't abused at all. In fact, a lot of them would go and come back!

In terms of finding househelps, you need to find someone who has a good relationship with a supplier to vouch for you and help you get one. My mum never goes long without an househelp because the woman that brings them from Togo is always happy to put girls at her place. But she has known this woman for decades! The girls always grow very fat and return to their homes with lots of new clothes and personal money (money outside the contractually agreed salaries). In fact, now that all the kids have left the house, my mum's current househelp is her last born and best friend. They follow each other around the house and my mum pounds yam for her every Sunday. I swear to God, I am not lying. That is what happens when all your kids leave home! Hahahaha! Good luck oh!

Freesia:
What is this whole fuss of Ijebu people apart from their dialect and the old adage that they are said to be" thrifty spenders" which by the way seems to be actually dying out with the younger generation.Can someone enlighten me on this because I hear it a whole lot but I have come to a conclusion it has to do with more than just money and the dialect

Funny, I asked my grandma the same question! The Ijebu people are not feared for their "thrifty spending". They are feared because they used to be really wicked slave catchers and traders (that's where the Ijebu kingdom made a lot of its money) and they have a reputation for strong fetish practices.

I am afraid that I sort-of agree with those fears. I have seen Ijebu ladies display and they aren't easy oh (my uncle married two of them! Ojigbijibi! That house is hot like fire! One of them just ran mad two years ago and the other one's very old children are unmarried and jobless) If you must marry one, you will need to go spend a month on a holy mountain in preparation!

Abeg let's not derail the thread with Ijebu people stories.

I feel sorry for the kid. He will detest his father in the future for not training him properly. I attended high school with a lot of kids whose fathers were "big men" in the army and lived a little bit on the dangerous side; those boys lives are terrible jokes now. The rooster always comes home to crow.

ronkebp:
@ Moremi, then why add her on your account ( your wife) why should that give you sleepless nights?, i am not on my husbands account, he is not on my personal account, though we have a joint just for the family, and we are living happily ever after!!!

I will not expect a man to marry and just add another person on his account just like that, na beans, what if that lady was their solely to steal all the money and run? Marraige is not equal to being dumb.

All of those pretty walls you think you've built for yourself are paper-thin should the marriage lead to divorce. Everything is accessible in divorce courts.

tpia@:
a good or great relationship isnt always about money.

though money is important, no doubt.


and of course if you have cash to spend then its only natural your relationships will reflect that.

Jump to conclusion much? I don't NEED to spend money, I just like doing it because I like taking care of my girlfriends. What is your problem with that? And why are you talking from both sides of your mouth? Is money good or is it not good? Please choose one because you are only fulfilling the worst stereotypes about women and greed.

floriana:
Is Union still in existence and pls what is the meaning of aptitude test? Am just asking o. The bank used to recruit through family replacement by staff retiring.

LOL @ family replacement! Village bank!

ronkebp:
All these sayings about not wanting a leech is just by the way.

This type of men with their ''thinking faculty'' are afraid of committment and do not want their balls/manhood to be questioned by a woman. Talk about Ego.

But they have forgotten that when they turn 50- 70, it is a woman that their best friend gave birth to, or their driver gave birth (since they are so rich) would slap that their tiny hairy balls around.

I think a lot of ladies on here are confusing legitimate concerns about gold diggers and about fundamental flaws in the socioeconomic contract we call marriage, with stinginess. I am not a stingy man. There is no girl that I have dated and dumped that can say she didn't have a great time with me. I spend a LOT of money on pretty girls; in fact, I enjoy it cuz the more you spend, the better the sex is!  

However, there is a big difference between spending a few thousand dollars on trips, gifts and fine dining and giving a woman access to all your bank accounts, assets and future income. It is this difference that makes marriage so problematic for successful guys that live in the West. Why would a woman that hasn't worked for my money become entitled to everything I and my family have worked hard for? What is the other end of the bargain? Companionship and babies? I can get all that without signing on the dotted line!   Nobody is really giving me compelling reasons for marriage. All I am reading are fantasies, platitudes and lots of wishful thinking.