₦airaland Forum

mcnepow:
Moremi, u nor go undastand. I have seen a guy suddenly develop high fever simply because his babe was holding another guy a day after they split. I think say d guy go die sef, it was unbelievable.

That's the guy's problem oh! Which one com concern emotional abuse and beatings from a girl?

r231:
you day dreaming again

you better stop smoking igbo its not good for you

Now YOU are beginning to piss me off! Don't let me start on that ugly leather rag you call a face! Just mind your own business oh! Na who invite you? A master is beating his slave and you dare to interrupt with your unsolicited opinion? Please, stop!

jay bee:
dude, are you married or ever been in love?
A friend of mine almost killed himself because he loved his then gf too damn much.
It happens and it's even more deadly when you don't know that's the case

Which kin luv is dat one? Dat one nah mugu-express oh! Kill myself over a girl when dem plenty like water everywhere? Hahaha! Not me!

r231:
hahahahahahaha

contract for which country

Dr Martin Luther King - dream on

You think he has a future in the UK? Hahaha! He'll be back! He can't escape his destiny, shining my shoes or pushing paper for my family business. . Yeye boy go jand get useless degree com dey form nonsense on the Internet! Na who born him papa for dis land?!

jay bee:
suffering in silence isn't necessarily synonymous to being walloped by the opposite sex.
They could be suffering from emotional abuse or whatever

Emotional abuse? How?! Who born am?! Who born her father?! Her father no get house? As soon as I get tired of her foolishness, out she goes, back to the father who forgot to give her home-training! I'll only take her back after produces a signed and sealed certificate of completion!

Why would your wife be emotionally abusing you in your own house? You no get balls? Even if the house belongs to her, you no fit comot and leave her to continue abusing the empty house? Life is not that hard oh, my bros.

This is a truly horrific story. Her Mum is a f.o.o.l. She should NEVER have shared a horrible secret like that (there is nothing to gain and everything to lose).

LOL@ this thread. A girl beat me? Dem no born am! Hahahahaha!!!!!!!!!

Sagamite:
You are a mooron!

I am just humiliating a fooooooool that opens his mouth and vomit stewpid opinions and, at best, then occasionally does the thinking poorly.

Think before you talk, cretin!

Hahaha! Ugly, impoverished monkey! Keep yapping away at my opinions! You'll be back looking for a job or contract! Irrelevant nobody!  

Sagamite:
Abeg, let me laugh for a few seconds.



Ye! Ye! Ye!

My belle o, my head o.  

Every daft foool comes on line to claim moronic achievements when their utterances exposes how daft they are.

I bet you studied "Medicine" at Princeton where the course is not offered like fstranger too?  

Daft foool! Just based on your level of thinking, I can guarantee you that you will not be qualified to serve me more than snacks at Mr Biggs. Ediot!  

Who dash Baboon degree?  

Bloody cretin saying his education is better than an Oxbridge one!

Weyree! Go and beg you enemies in the village to end the familial feud.

We asked him (with his "fantastic" backyard degree) to say why he feels entitled to insult Kanu, mugu begin vomit like the cretin he is.

And this is your best retort? All this over defending Kanu's honor? You poor thing! Hahaha!

People have all sorts of messed-up families! How much can you possibly get from including a child as a dependent on a U.S. tax return?!!!! I don't even see why this should be an issue in any decent family. I am sure your sister doesn't even need the money. Just say no already and keep it moving. You want to scatter your family over a few hundred dollars?! Chei!

200K Naira or $200K? 200k Naira won't even buy you a good suit, how can it possibly seed a business?

With $200k, you are limited to businesses that aren't capital intensive like small-scale retailing or services (areas I don't think are particularly profitable). Do you have landed property in Nigeria or elsewhere that you can use as collateral for bank facilities? Or family members that can loan/give you more money?

Sagamite:
Typical conjectural rants of a product of a failed education system.

If you were able to talk sense, you will not have a problem being in Canary Wharf or the City.

I disagree.

Not really!

Conjectural rants? Aren't you contradicting yourself? Do you know anything about me besides what you've made up in your above-average brain? You're not impressing me with your tired "failed education system" rants. My degrees are better than anything that can possibly come out of the UK (yes, better than anything Oxbridge has to offer). When I told you that you aren't worth engaging with my neurons, I meant it. Now take my words and go frame them on your wall in whatever deprived London neighborhood you live in.

ps - I look forward to receiving your resume (and shredding it). You impoverished TM Lewin-wearing bastard!

Sagamite:
You are a cretin!

You can't explain your daftness?

FOOOL!

But I am not the reason why you are fat, ugly and loveless. I am still not the reason why you will be sending me your resume for a job and I will be declining to even interview you. I know your type quite well: dem full Canary Wharf and the City, a dime a dozen, utterly disposable and irrelevant. Stop seeking my attention and go back to impressing the others.

Sagamite:
Your point is . . . . . .?

Shut-up! You're annoying.

Nothing on Nairaland can teach this woman wisdom. She's a fool and she will soon lie on the bed she is so eager to make for herself. Yeah, go ahead and turn your MIL into an enemy. You'll see what good that does you.

Sagamite:
You are a cretin!

What is your business who he marries?

What is anybody's business with this thread, really?

Firearm:
geez,
Dont you think you are giving out too many personal information here.  How can you make that list for the whole world to see?
Thats a very immature act.

Do you know the kind of emotional scar you will inflict the mother of your children when she stumbles across this thread? It wouldn't be difficult for her to know she is the one been referred to.

My Advice:  Quickly edit and remove that list.

@ topic,

I hate women who engage in extra-marital affairs.  Once married, thats the end of sleeping around.  Sleeping around (although it is a sin and not justifiable) can be forgiven if it occurs before marriage.  After marriage is simply a no-no and disgusting.

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geeez:
I got married over 5years ago and 3 kids down the line I still don’t love my wife. 80% of me wanted a fling when it all started and 100% of my friends were too sure I couldn’t marry her but my mother liked her and she pulled those ‘wife material girl’ stunts which endeared some of my family members to her. Like in most Pentecostal Xtain homes, she took me to a ‘prophet’ before we got married and the man of God said he saw trouble which we could overcome through prayers. A few months later she got pregnant and before we knew it, we were married. Before we got married she confessed to having the following intimate relationships:

1.Some guy in a school in Kwara State when she was 21
2.Some guy in a SW polytechnic she dated for 4years (This guy was razz and rough)
3.Some albino in the same polytechnic who also was her neighbor back in Lagos
4.Some married guy who was a drug dealer that helped her when she went for her WAEC certificate
5.A married man she claimed helped her financially in Jos and she was in hotels with him on several of his biz trips but she claimed she only had MouthAction all of the time
6.Some guy she met through her friends. She claimed they hung out at a bar and next thing all the girls went into separate rooms with the guys. She said she was bleeding at that time and only had MouthAction. Hmmm
That was all the affairs she said she had. However after the marriage, she confessed to some more affairs:

1.Some guy that gave her a ride from her big sis’s house on the island
2.The MD of her company (where she still works). This man is well known to her big sis who got her the job in the first place
3.Some much older guy who is a friend of her much older elder brother

Ever since I’ve felt cheated and she just pisses her off each time I see her. To make matters worse, her diction and spoken English was kinda horrible before we got married and she promised to do everything to change. Till date, nothing has changed and she apparently makes no effort to improve on it.

I’m tired and frustrated.

I honestly thought that was his daughter! Agbaya man! No wonder he has heart problems! How he no go get heart defect when his dirty old self went to marry an 18yr-old girl from the village!

So dat ojuju ghost will be chasing me in the night? Hahahahaha! Nonsense!

jennykadry:
Hang on, did she have affairs Whilst married?

No, she only confessed to more pre-marital "affairs" after the marriage. She hid some of the stories during her earlier confession session. The dumb woman! Some things are just better left unsaid.

This is why children have no reason getting married. What is all this nonsense this grown man is coming on here to share? Your wife had previous sexual relationships? Why is this upsetting you? Didn't you get her pregnant before you married her? Why didn't you share stories of your own previous sexual encounters with us so we can compare and contrast? You don't love her, yet you got her pregnant three times in the past five years?!!! I don't even know what to say to you. You're a father of three children, not a teenager sharing "heart-felt" stories in the Romance section. Better log off the internet and go face your wife and family like a real man instead of btching and moaning on the internet about irrelevant stuff.

@mmpm, you don kill me this morning oh with your illustrated tales by moonlight!

Imagine her saying her MIL used black magic on her! Men that marry foreign wives like this are only punishing themselves and their families. See how Naija women plenty for ground and all your greedy Yoruba-Yoruba eyes can see is oyinbo nyansh? See, God don catch una, now you're going to have to become the referee when your wife and mother begin to royal rumble.

Olorun gba wa lowo ogun obinrin ajeji oh!

Outstrip:
She is not lying. She is absolutely right. Her sister can use the childs ssn to get credit and build up credit with the childs name. All she needs to do is give a false age and it happens everyday. Secondly oga teacher it can affect someone for life if the creditor wants it to. If a judgement or lien is put on that debt it can be on the childs neck for more than 7 years and then they can renew it again if they want to. So you do the math and come back and say that she is lying.

Find me a judge that will put a lien on a loan issued to a child. Blah, blah, blah, tired of arguing with hormonal women.

Danka7777:
Typically, I try not to answer or reply comments that come no where to the vicinity of reason. By mere reading your comment, obviously you lack a great deal of intelligence and understanding.  This is a respectful forum. The fact you can spew insults without making your point, clearly tells me that you have a deep-seated infested hatred in yourself and for others. As any educated person would do, If you disagree with me, fine, make your point and the rest of the respected members of this forum will chime in and choose sides. Isn't that a logical way to exchange ideas? But when you begin a comment will insults and huff, people would think that you are mentally unstable and haven't had more of interaction with people especially on disagreement level. 

Remember, I once used to think like you about Abacha; perhaps the biggest critics of Abacha, didn't know any better then, took to face-value what the media said of Abacha. But guess what,  I know better. You may not believe me but all I ask you is to embark on a quest to search for knowledge. Read insatiably on secrets document and what transpired under the administration of Late General Sani Abacha. You may not have access to these documents or books, I will more than willing to direct you to someone in my family in Abuja, to give you these books from my library, for free of charge.

Once again, next time you wish to disagree, do it like an educated person and not like an animal. Usually I don't waste my time on people like you. Hope this helps!

So you expect me to DEBATE the merits of Sani Abacha with you? You are truly insane. You go ask the families of hundreds of innocents he murdered for a nice little debate and see what happens.

jennykadry:
If truly she's changed, she would have walked away from that relationship(friendship or partnership) a long time ago. She is going to be a wife soon and I hope her past life does not come back in the form of karma and bite her in the bum.

I suggest they both move on, there is no trust in that relationship so why bother?

So you would walk away from a multi-million naira business because you slept with your business partner? All this for a man that might wake up tomorrow and divorce you? Haba! You're dishing out harsh medicine that you yourself can't take! Would you advice your own blood sister to abandon her livelihood because her fiance is uncomfortable with her past relationship with her business partner? Would you advice the guy to do the same if roles were reversed? I am not a big fan of advising women to leave their sources of livelihood for men especially when this same men won't do the same for them. It always leads to regret and recriminations in the future. There is no reason why this woman can't have a happy marriage and still hold on to her business.

Danka7777:
The late and beloved, General Sani Abacha. A leader you stood against the IMF and world power that wanted to forcefully get Nigeria to take a loan that they never needed. Abacha told them; the money from oil sales was enough for Nigeria. That's what I call a leader with balls. Not enough, they came back to him, you must devalue naira or face sanctions, once again, Abacha told them go to hell. They imposed travel ban on Abacha to western countries. People didn't know that Abacha never traveled to any western country for most of his leadership tenure. Even when he was dying, he believed in Nigeria and Nigerian doctors treated him. That is what you call a patriotic leader.  He met with Gaddafi and sought advice on how get Nigeria to become economic independent from the western world countries. Yes, many economic think-tanks have it that Nigeria was close to being independent from foreign dependence before he was killed. The international bankers have  succeeded in rubbishing his image, that he stole this and stole that. And most of us have fallen prey and gullible to these chip shot attack on his credibility. Have you asked yourself, where are all these monies that they claimed he stole and recovered? Are we not entitled to know where the money went to. Have you asked yourself, if these people can claim that Abacha stole billions and are unable to find any thing even $1m on IBB, common sense tells you that this was all orchestrated.  Remember Abacha served IBB  for almost 11 years and  the only time in our history when a Chief of defense staff(Abacha) had the same military rank as the head of state(IBB).  And most people who served closely with him, will tell you that he was deeply against the World Bank-led Structural Adjustment Program and wasted no time, not following through on it when he came to power.  Yes he was brutal during his administration but he meant well for Nigeria. I have no fear that had he remained in power, Nigeria would been on par with Gaddafi-led Libya. Not Libya today. Judge for yourselves, all the major construction embarked and built in Abuja, were initiated by the Abacha regime. Just a few, National Hospital Abuja (the only major hospital  fully functioning in Nigeria today), National Stadium, Nigeria conference center, NNPC towers (He initiated it), Ministry of finance, and provided the land for the building of the CBN towers e.t.c. I can name many more, but this is just to give you an idea. What is it that no new medical center or major hospital has been since the one initiated by Abacha, though completed by Abdulsalami. This just tells you that this man had a vision. Again, yes he was a dictator but some countries need dictators to protect us from the White-led blood suckers of the black countries.

History will judge and very soon, you guys will begin to see the undeniable truth on the achievements of the man, Late General Sani Abacha.

Are you clinically insane? WTF is all this gibberish you're writing? Thank God you're in TX! People like you should be publicly lynched! Abacha was a demon: an alcoholic, sadistic and anti-social demon.

jennykadry:
^^^spot on.

People re telling him to give her a choice, either him or the old man. WTF she can choose him and still bleep the other guy behind his back. If she can sleep with a married man with kids? she can also sleep with a man even when married. She has no respect for that union called "marriage"

She is not a wife material, op needs to move on.

Isn't it this same Nigeria that we are talking about? The same country that celebrates polygamy? How else do you think these old men get their second, third and tenth wives? Aunty Jenny, haba! You've been in obodo oyinbo too long! Arguing like you've forgotten that in Nigeria, a man's marital status is not a deterrent to any enterprising young woman. Would the situation have been any different if the man had married her afterwards as a second wife? Claiming she isn't "wife material" because she had a affair with an old, rich man in the past is a bit too much judgement, especially in the Nigerian context.

pslm23:
@ moremi2008, u should learn a little bit of etiquette when it comes to addressing strangers in cyberspace or in person. Nuff said! goodnight!

Aunty Psalmist, I demonstrated perfect etiquette by pointing out the lie. Sorry that your feelings were hurt.

^^^^ your lie was the bolded part " then your child's credit score will be ruined for life". That's just not true. All the credit unions have pretty standard methods for clearing a child/minor of fraudulent credit history. In addition, the maximum it can stay on a report is 7-10years. For life? Nah, that's a lie.

kadarva:
@ mpmp I know how ti cook all nigerian food apart from the soups!!! I cooked,served the lady so teLl me why is she treating me that way? At home I always wear african gowns as I find them really comfortable.
I don't think I have mentioned this yet: I have got a daughter and an autistic son. My son needs attention all the time and he can be a handful. Its not easy at all. I'm not asking for sympathy here but put your self in my shoes. How would u feel? I never had any help from anyone.

kadarva:
And another example: my friend (nigerian) asked me to babysit so she could go to her hospital appointment withot having d stress of bringing her baby along. Ofcourse I said yes. My friend doesn't drive so I offered to pick d baby up. I told my mil this d day before and asked her if she could look after my children for 5 minutes whilst I quickly pick her baby up. She said that's fine.the next day About an hour before I was meant to pick up baby she went to bed. I did remind her I did morning.

Now you are beginning to talk! No wonder the woman had no interest in playing with the kids. The Yoruba culture has many horrible secrets and one of them is how it deals with children with disabilities. I hope you're sitting down because here is the truth. In Yoruba land, parents hide or abandon their autistic kids because they are seen as a source of shame to the family and because they worry others might interpret it as a sign of a genetic defect in the family. That is the horrible truth. I personally have friends who had "secret" siblings that were kept away from public view. The fact that you are foreign and you have an autistic kid are double negatives in your husband's family's books. This isn't your fault at all. It's just how the culture is and once you understand this, nothing your husband's relatives do to you will hurt you too much. Just focus on your kids and your husband. Your husband's relatives are unlikely to ever FULLY accept you. The sooner you start living with this, the easier your life will be.

Second, anybody can cook the starches (e.g. eba, amala, fufu). Yoruba's don't really consider the starches as the food proper. The soups+meat, those are the MAIN part of the dish. You have to learn the soups if you're trying to make an impression.

To be honest, I kinda feel sorry for you. You just can't replace a Yoruba woman in the minds of your husband's relatives, no matter how hard you try. The best you can do is focus on being a wonderful mother and wife. Tolerate your husband's relatives when they come around and just ignore their veiled insults for the sake of your husband. If your husband loves you, he will try to protect you from them as much as possible. If possible, join a Nigerian church and try to get advice from other non-Nigerian women that are married to Nigerian men. You might be able to get coping mechanisms from them.

General Sani Abacha! Nobody could try any of this nonsense during Abacha days!