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bereanway:
There are guys or ladies we didn't take seriously in time past. The ones we snubbed and are regretting now. Though there are many fishes in the river, but the kind of fishes you may want may not be so available. As a lady or guy, have you ignored someone who loved you in the past and now wish you didn't?

Beboy23:
Lol

sonnie10:
That’s no marriage. Marriage is when two become one in all.
As a Christian, marriage is symbolic for God’s perfect plan towards humanity. The reconciliation of the bride and groom, to glorify his name. This is demonstrated by the love of Christ who redeemed mankind to glorify him. The template is very clear, Christ is the groom and this church is the bride which he loves and would present without blemish to God.
In a Christian marriage, the wife ought to submit to the husband in all things and the husband should love the wife as Christ loves the church.
There is no place for competition, strive and individuality in marriage. When you begin to see yourselves as one, the Holy Spirit establishes divine synergy in your marriage to even do more.
Pray before you go into marriage.

sammyuche:
Those days. Inside out with Agatha... Sweet days. She looks beautiful still

drips8:
Even though footballers make loads of money, they are actually putting their bodies on the line

You can just see the agony on Gomes's face

Cosmatikka:
Don't take anything d idiiot(Unai Emery) said serious. His English is bad so he doesn't even understand wat he himself is saying. Even d players have come out to say that dey don't understand his instructions in training. All we want is #EmeryOut

ecclize:
By: Lucas Nwanchukwu


We live in a society that promotes the narrative that success is guaranteed from one’s hard work. We pride ourselves on our hard work and our work ethic. It will not be out of place to draw up the conclusion that success is a demonstration of your virtue, as it points to the fact that you are entitled to success because you have worked hard.
I have seen many deserving people and frequently classmates from my secondary school study years to my tertiary study get out of the blue poor results at tests and examinations.
Sadly, many people that keep struggling daily to succeed from hard work, find themselves sucked into a cruel cycle from which they can never seem to come out from. This cycle makes you think you have not done enough, hence, you have to work hard the more, it goes on and same poor result is the output. How about you pause for a moment and evaluate what you are doing to know if it is the right thing or better put, if it the right kind of hard work.
The big question is, what did you fail to do? How did the outcome turn oddly out of sync with the effort you have put in? Quite often, if the person is grossly worried, room for further questions can be made, such as, have I committed some slip in my preparation process? Then your worst fear, maybe you are not just good, that even your best falls far short of the mark?
Apparently, the endpoint is the feeling of disappointment that birth both shame and exasperation. Then, there is a last option to place the blame on. In a highly religious space like Nigeria, the person begins to entertain thoughts and feelings of being robbed of his/her destiny, occasioned by some dark powers that be, which I do not take away from the equation. Your thoughts reverberates “las las, my village people don get me”
By this time, the person will think he/she will provoke sympathy of people but all you get is a cold scorn and judgment.
Hard work will NOT PAY if the right things are not done, it will only amount to suffering. It will just be a torturous journey and efforts that will not yield anything other than pain and disappointment.
If hard work indeed will bring success, we may consider some things we have ignored for long and I see them as requisites to rewire our mindset, which will positively change our approach towards achieving success.
1. Hard work isn’t physical–it’s mental- We all know plenty of people who worked hard all their life and ended up broke, don’t we? I have nothing against hard work. However, we have to agree that hard work fundamentally involves mental process of making smart decisions. The key here is to ask questions with an open mind and without any preconceptions, such as where am I? Where are my going from here? how do I get there?. Of course without entertaining preconceptions, because, preconceptions lead to fear and clouded thinking. This form of open-minded thinking allows for creative problem solving and opportunities. This will help you make smart and strategic decisions in order to hit your mark and surpass it. Smart thinking combined with smart work will always pay off in the long run.
2. Be intentional in all you do- Is your life run on autopilot or you are in charge? Being intentional about all you do means you knowing why you do what you do and why you don’t do what you don’t do. It is actually not about making choices but evaluating the choices you have made and how they add up towards achieving your goals
3. Focus on things you can control- It is an extreme extension of perfectionism to think you have “everything under control” you will constantly overextend yourself without much to show for it. Of course, you expend too much energy on issues that fall outside of your circles of influence and control, limiting the energy you have left to use on issues that you can truly control. Be realistic about what you can control. Pick fights you can win and win big, that way, you will be living in alignment with and doing (working hard) on what matters most? That will make your hard work pay.
4. Success is all about relationships NOT Hard work — Sometimes your actions (hard work) fail to bring the results you want. You will need to have anchoring relationships. It is essential, you require this web of support of relevant people with different skills, and ability. They can come from your family, friends, colleagues at work or peers. The right people in your life will benefit you throughout each of your life’s endeavors.
I believe that merely working hard does not cut it, but adding the externals I have mentioned in this write-up will help you set a course for your life rather than just wandering aimlessly through life.


https://medium.com/@nwachukwuemmanue/hard-work-does-not-pay-b9c6df64bd59





Good read!

Suxes:
someone else is playing the music on the background, while Neymar is jejely carrying weight. You call that grooving?

StupidNLmods:
Too much greatness

vivalavida:
Is that a black man I am seeing there as the father?

BarrElChapo:
No 2 is a constant occurrence

binarymachine:
In life, the availability and presence of something everywhere lowers its value and makes it cheap. This makes it easy for people to play with it, use it as careless as they please and even waste it. Lets take PMS( petrol) for example, people only realise how important it is when there is scarcity of it. They queue up, fight, curse at the government and beg to get it. When they eventually do, they use it wisely and judiciously. This is the same liquid they run their generating sets with till dawn when it was available.

In relationships however, you have no choice but to make yourself available, since you need to be physically present to show them you love and care for them. Besides, Love grows well with physical presence. As you play, laugh, cry, talk, build intimacy and spend quality time together, the bond gets stronger and the affection thicker.

The problem comes when one partner begins to underappreciate the presence of the other in their life. You have made yourself available, put in your whole heart to the growth of the relationship. You have loved, worked, sacrificed, provided, fended for, tended to, cooked, cleaned, washed, spent money, even quarrelled and waded off friends and family all because of them and still your good is not enough! They don’t seem to see what you are doing for them, infact any person could have easily done so. They rarely thank you for your sacrifices and instead deny or belittle the ones you have done in the past. Its time to make your self scarce like petrol in their life!

Put the whole relationship on suspension, separate yourself from them, let them miss and yearn for you for a while and even as long as possible. They are taking you for granted because they think you are too cheap and weak to walk away. Let them find another person to do all the things you do for them, tolerate their rubbish and still not be appreciated, that is when they will realise that they have made a big mistake, that they had gold in their hands and failed to recognise it.

People do not know the value of what they have until they loose it or it feels as if they have lost it. It will be hard for you, you love them so much but for your self worth and dignity, take that walk and give them time alone as long as possible. If possible give them a little of the treatment they gave you before walking.

If they realise their mistakes on time and come to ask for your forgiveness genuinely, accept and give your favourable terms before going back. If they are too blind to realise your worth in their life, you were probably worth nothing to them all these while, good you left. Start afresh and build your life again this time making sure you correct the mistakes you did in the previous one.

Source: https://flipmemes.com/2019/09/30/they-wont-know-your-value-untill-they-loose-you/

Umarzy:
That's how Access bank do. I always experience this everytime..just go and complain on their twitter page @accessbank_help.

One of my worst regret in life is having an access bank account and am planning to close it soon. Already moved all my funds from there though. Useless bank and nonsense

365trendies:
Things you must know to be an outstanding leader

What’s comes to your mind when you hear the word leader?, is it the honour given to leaders or the various advantage open to leaders.Leadership is not just a position there are certain things and beautiful qualities a leader must know and posses to be an outstanding leader. These qualities are backbones that makes the work easier. Once a leader is familiar which qualities he needs to posses and those he needs to run away from, there’s no doubt in it that he’ll find more pleasure in his work as being the leader and the task attached to the position will be very easy to carry out. Firstly you need to know that leaders manage people and for a person to manage a large number of people, he must be capable of managing himself or herself at first.
Some born leaders have the traits of leadership but all those traits needs to be developed because to stay on top is not accomplished by physical strength but good qualities. Therefore, ,natural leadership needs to be developed.

Leadership is the ability to obtain followers . He that leads and has no one following him is just taking a walk, the main word that brings about leadership is the follower.So because leadership entails followers who will go after the step of the front man, some qualities need to be learnt. A leader needs to posses good qualities because he has so many people looking up to him and following his steps. These qualities are explain in the paragraphs below.


Things you must know to be an outstanding leader


Firstly,a leader must have the ability to influence. Influence is the first quality a leader should posses, and in doing these, some questions need to be answered. Questions like What influence can I make? Who are those I want to influence?. As a leader you need foresight on the set of people you want to influence because a master of all happens to be master of none. You need to decide on the impact you want to have in people, what awareness are you trying to create, what do you want to be known for? Sociologist tell us that even the most introverted individual will influence ten thousand other people during his or her life time! That clears the fact that each and everyone has the ability to influence others . Realising your potentials as a leader is your responsibility and this should be the first thing to take note of as a leader.
Secondly, a leader a leader must be creative. It’s not how hard you work but how smart you work and how involved are you in the work. A leader must be able to develop new ideas that will be pictured and created.
Thirdly a leader must be flexible. Flexible in the sense that he or she will be bent to accept new ideas, new innovations and adopt new method. When a method is not working out well, a leader should be able to adopt another method. The flexibility of a leader goes a long way to taking to corrections. A leader must not always see himself or herself as right all times, he or she must be flexible enough to take to corrections.
Furthermore more, a leader must be Disciplined, discipleship in all areas, in area of time management, diligent at work, being punctual because, discipline is the soul of businesses.A disciplined leader will achieve in a year what an undisciplined fellow will gather in years. The lead learn from the discipline of their leader, so a leader needs to be disciplined in all areas even from the words that comes out from his or her mouth. A leader shouldn’t be found eating or Gisting at place of duty.

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Things you must know to be an outstanding leader

A leader must also have good communication skills. He or she must be able to carry people along in duty post. A leader must make sure all information are supplied to everyone involved in business. There must be no barriers in his communication. The information of a leader must be precise and concise.
Lastly, a leader must always delegate duties to the lead. When the work is so heavy on the leader, he or she will lose strength and there will be so many things left undone. Therefore, a leader must learn how to delegate duties to others.

As there are qualities a leader must posses to be an accountable one, there are also so qualities a leader ought not to have.leaders need to be aware of these things so as to take cognisance of them. These qualities are explained below.

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Things you must know to be an outstanding leader

Firstly, a leader must not compare himself to others. This can be as a result of low esteem or pride on the other hand.As a leader, you are meant to stand out and influence your world in a unique way.
Secondly, A leader must not be without vision. Reason for being a leader is to influence people, so what does a person without vision has in mind to give to others, obviously nothing. Before a person can be called a leader, he or she must have set goals and not just be void of knowledge.
Thirdly, a leader must not copy others. As an outstanding leader that expectional trait Must be in you and you must always look forward to the progress of your business and others.



In conclusion, a leader must posses good attitude because they help leaders to reach their full potential. A leader must always have positive mind about things and work towards progress. Take note, a leader’s attitude is caught by his or her followers more quickly than his actions


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