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Writercruze:
Getting married is always very exciting in Nigeria. From meeting the bride’s parents, doing the official introduction, to the wedding itself, every aspect of it is beautiful.

But it doesn’t end in the celebration. The real deal is the marriage life. Anybody can get married, but it takes special commitment and patience to stay in a marriage.

Don’t allow anybody to deceive you. There’s no perfect marriage anywhere. Do you know that your marriage may be better than that of your friend, you envy her home? Well, now, you know.

If you want to judge marriage based on what you see on social media, you may be living in a fool’s paradise.

Let me tell you something you should know. Couples who are fond of sharing their marriage details on Social media will only show you the beautiful part.

It’s like an iceberg; they show you what they want you to see. But nobody will show you the ugly part of it: the physical abuse, the cheating, the heartbreak, to mention but a few.

Well, I don’t want to bore you with unnecessary details. Here in this article, I will be sharing with you 10 Ways Nigerian Couples Can Make Their Marriage work again.

It’s no longer a secret that some Nigerian couples are just there to fulfill all righteousness. Their marriage is sinking every day.

They now see each other as strangers. If you are in such a situation, you will be forced to ask yourself, what has changed? Is this not the same person who was always kind and caring?

I don’t know what’s happening in your marriage right now. But whatever it is, it didn’t just happen. It was an unresolved issue that escalated to where you are with yo spouse today. If you want to make your marriage work again, this article is for you.

How You Can Make Your Marriage Work Again

#1. Be More Realistic With Your Expectations

The unrealistic expectation is a cankerworm that’s eating the flesh of most marriages in Nigeria. If you want your marriage to work, give up all the fantasies you had about marriage.

Don’t expect to get the best partner; just learn to understand whoever you get married to. It will make things easy for you. And always remember that you can build whatever you want in your marriage.

#2. Don’t Always Try To Control Your Partner

The more you try to control your partner, the more obstinate they become, and it will affect the love you guys have for each other. Love your partner and let them see things from your perspective. Trust me; they will do what you want without forcing them.

When you try to force a person to become something else, it will eventually hurt your marriage. So, if you want to make your marriage work again, give up on controlling your spouse. Remember, they are soulmates, not your slaves.

#3. Don’t Be Possessive

Possessiveness is another cankerworm that eats the flesh of most marriages. The earlier you start realizing that you don’t possess your partner, the better for you.

It doesn’t matter how long you have been with your partner or the number of children you have together, never see them as your property. Instead, see them as your partner. Give them their space and a bit of freedom. Trust me; your relationship will be more beautiful if you stop seeing your partner as your property.

#4. Criticize Less and Appreciate More

There’s something you should know – nobody is perfect. Even if your partner does something wrong, you can correct them with love instead of criticizing them.

Furthermore, try to praise your partner for the little things they do. It will make them feel appreciated and want to do more. Trust me; nobody wants a nagging partner. It irritates more than feces.

#5. Don’t Try To Change Your Partner

Anything you couldn’t change about your partner during courtship, the chances of you being able to fix it in marriage are slim. If you focus on improving your partner at all costs, it will only cause serious issues in your marriage.

I don’t know if anybody has told you this before, let me repeat it here. Marriage isn’t about changing one another, instead, it’s about love, caring, and supporting each other. If you give up the urge to change your partner and focus on growing and improving together, your marriage will be beautiful.

#6. Free Your Mind and Don’t Be Too Jealous

Jealousy is often due to insecurity. Once you let go of your insecurity and low self-esteem, your over jealous behavior will be put in check. Trust me; if you give up jealousy in your marriage, it will become rejuvenated with love. Do you doubt me? Give it a try.

#7. Know That You Can’t Always Be Right

Most marriages are having issues today because both partners are always right. But you fail to understand that you are not in competition with your spouse. It doesn’t matter who is right or wrong in an argument; what matters is your willingness to make things work.

If you can apply these things in your marriage, you can make it work again. Remember, marital problems don’t start overnight. It’s usually due to some of the issues I mentioned above. But if you can start applying them now, your marriage could be beautiful again.

Source: https://www.naijalovetips.com/7-ways-nigerian-couples-can-make-their-marriage-work-again/

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Good points

ajebuter:
Not every break up is attributable to ' Hater'..

Sometimes it could be:

Attitude
Arrogance
Incompatibility ..( modified)

Not necessarily haters..

Why would anyone hate you when we don't even know you?

Don't mind. They want to take responsibility for their actions/inaction. Its easier to blame it on others or whatever

She followed the money, he followed the beauty...now they are both tired. Abeg they should carry their cross and leave us be

daddytime:
We lost it as a nation with a bit of moral the moment we allowed words like, "I don blow, I don hammer, I don make am, I don collect, big boy/girl, sharp man, guyman etc" take a deep seated root in our lexicon.

So true..

mayim:
All your talks about being good looking has no bearing on the case at hand, it slightly makes u come across as immature. If u are truly that good looking, then u shd be used to lots of attention from the opposite sex so much that u shd be used to it by now, let alone fall for it when it’s coming from ur fiancées best friend. However I see u are remorseful, she deserves to know the truth. It wud count for something that u came out with the truth as opposed to her finding out. I’m talking from experience, that’s d only way u can hopefully earn her trust someday. Lastly, there are more good looking men that are faithful in their relationships, it’s time to grow up into the man she deserves. Good luck brother.

Well said..

ogbiwa:
Arsenal have held talks with former Barcelona boss Luis Enrique as a potential replacement for Unai Emery, according to reports in Spain.

Emery is under increasing pressure at Arsenal following his side’s 2-0 defeat to Leicester City on Saturday, which has left the club eight points behind fourth place.

The Gunners have also registered just one win in their last six Premier League matches, while fans are now calling on Emery to be sacked during the international break.

Last week, reports claimed that Arsenal’s head of football Raul Sanllehi had met with Jose Mourinho to discuss his potential arrival at the club.

But now El Confidencial’s Kike Marin claims that Sanllehi is actively looking to replace Emery and has met with Luis Enrique.

The 49-year-old won nine major trophies during his three years as Barcelona manager which included the treble in his first season at the club.

Luis Enrique took over as Spain coach in July 2018 but left 11 months later for personal reasons as his nine-year-old daughter Xana passed away from osteosarcoma – a form of bone cancer – in August.

The Spaniard was reportedly on Arsenal’s initial shortlist when the Gunners were looking to replace Arsene Wenger in 2018.

https://metro.co.uk/2019/11/09/arsenal-hold-talks-luis-enrique-replace-unai-emery-11072452/?ito=newsnow-feed

Don't even rate this Enrique guy sef...

That no 2 point...it will take a miracle to make naija youths stop thinking like that. Terrible

Always liked this man...God bless you sir

DonBenny77:
Those years we person dey look forward to home videos this babe and Alex Lopez dey burst my brain, that time Genevieve and omotola dey learn work for Regina Askia workshop.
I'm not talking nollywood

Alex Lopez and this Lilian scatter my brain no be small....

Rip woman....remember my late mum was a big fan of them.

She cute though

This is when the who you marry comes into play..

A vile selfish man..

Flexherbal:
In Nigeria, it is do it yourself.

* Secure yourself.
* Go to school, yourself.
* Pay school fees, yourself.
* Create job, yourself.
* Generate electricity, yourself.
* Provide water, yourself.
* Healthcare, yourself.
* Provide accommodation, yourself

The only thing, they can do for you, is to oppress you and force you to pay taxes.

In essence you have to be republic all by yourself... it's really not easy, Kai!

....get well soon little boy..

Describing herself as a meal....smh

Maslib:
For me Wenger is a better coach than most European coach's just that he had too many functions at Arsenal that distracted him from his football coaching job.

That MOD that banned me for 7 days you will keepisode on doing it ooooh. Na you go tire , you dey hear me baa. You go ban sotee you go tire .

He is a fantastic coach!

generationz:


She's kinda right in a way.

Pete edochie is a stereotyped actor.

Once you see him you know what he's going to be doing.

Kinda makes a person too comfortable. Plus he knows that he will always get roles as the Grandaddy of Nollywood.

I dont have to mention how Joke silver and Olu Jacobs bore me with all the accents. *eyeroll*


If anything I'd choose Chiwetel Agu and Patience ozokwor, Even Onyeka Onwenu.


But that's just me.

My favourite actor Leonardo DiCaprio is one man that can never be put in a box. Never. You never know what to expect with his movies. That's why he has played so many biographies and brought famous books to life.

Well said. I think you captured it better for the person who posted it. Me think that was the point she was trying to point, so instead of saying "bad" actor, she would have said "boring" maybe..

VirginSearcher:
Arsenal have just made everyone loose interest in watching premier league I remember the days of Almunia the show man

Almunia, Fabianski & Sczecny....some very clownish goalkeepers then for Arsenal. Cost Arsenal lots of matches ehn...kaiiiii

Abbeyme:
funny. But I am sure the story-line is not what really happened.

The lady and guy are friends and are just doing that prank for the camera

My thoughts too..

yazga:
Loving your woman (some women in this context) with all your heart and doing all the right things won't guarantee her loyalty to you.

She can just get attracted to an adventurous crackhead who makes her "feel different" or whatever.

If your woman is loyal, consider yourself lucky and privileged.

I am not sure there is a man out there who has all it takes to deserve a woman's loyalty. If there is? Cool .

Women are naturally dreamy, fantasists who are never contented. There is always something missing.

So they obviously have more reasons to cheat and the reasons are abundant around them.

For we men, they are just men. They cheat with their penis and that's mostly basically it.

But women cheat with their heart, their mind, their soul, their body: everything.

They are endlessly yearning for new things, new feelings, new desires, new adventures. Insatiable beings.

I think if your woman decides to relegate all her desires in order to remain loyal to you, then you're lucky and privileged.

I find relationship talks stressful but I think this is a tip from someone who is fairly "experienced."

Love your woman and guard your expectations.

a genuine Godly woman won't. But I understand the point you made.

bereanway:
There are guys or ladies we didn't take seriously in time past. The ones we snubbed and are regretting now. Though there are many fishes in the river, but the kind of fishes you may want may not be so available. As a lady or guy, have you ignored someone who loved you in the past and now wish you didn't?

I certainly have. Looking back now, I cannot even explain why I did. I just know that I messed up.

Beboy23:
Lol

This one will kill himself....

Brick n Lace...love is wicked that year...

Seeing those pictures and reading all she had to say made me feel so sad and wishing I was in a position of authority to intervene. Like someone said up there, she should go to one of those human rights groups/lawyers and also try to see the DPO of that Utako Police station..

A fine girl...no need to cheapen herself like that

sonnie10:
That’s no marriage. Marriage is when two become one in all.
As a Christian, marriage is symbolic for God’s perfect plan towards humanity. The reconciliation of the bride and groom, to glorify his name. This is demonstrated by the love of Christ who redeemed mankind to glorify him. The template is very clear, Christ is the groom and this church is the bride which he loves and would present without blemish to God.
In a Christian marriage, the wife ought to submit to the husband in all things and the husband should love the wife as Christ loves the church.
There is no place for competition, strive and individuality in marriage. When you begin to see yourselves as one, the Holy Spirit establishes divine synergy in your marriage to even do more.
Pray before you go into marriage.

God bless you for this Godly message. I pray some are enlighten with this..

I concur

sammyuche:
Those days. Inside out with Agatha... Sweet days. She looks beautiful still

Yeah...and she was so slim then

I hope he pays for it....useless neighbour

drips8:
Even though footballers make loads of money, they are actually putting their bodies on the line

You can just see the agony on Gomes's face

True. And that is why they always try to negotiate the best contracts for themselves.