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What a piece!

OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP

From this moment, stop looking for true love

I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.

Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.

See, in most cases, love is transient.

Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.

sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.

sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.

"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.

So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.

So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.

That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.

this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.

But for someone who fulfils that criteria;

- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;

- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);

- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)

- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;

- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.

- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;

So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.

So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.

If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.

My piece!

enemmo:
Riyad Mahrez?Afcon winner, he just might snatch it from Mane

This one is for Sadio Mane...

Nyamiri:
This is true religion. Helping the widows and orphans, visiting the sick, helping the helpless and providing for those in need.

True religion is not preaching to those in need or preaching to the orphans and widows. A single cup of water is more useful to a thirsty man than hours of preaching.

You don't need to be a pastor to help the needy. Just giving your old clothes to those in need, buy a carton of noodles and give to that nursing mother you know is passing through difficult times, or even helping that applicant to rewrite his or her CV.

Don't let the selfishness of our religious leaders rob you of your humanity. Give and help people, nature always has a way of giving you back. Try it for a week and see the results.

Well said..

NwAmaikpe:
We can't really judge her maybe it was her first time. With time she will get better

Maybe. I was actually feeling so sad for her watching as she struggled to read

They should check his mental health..

Olusharp:
Billionaire Crooner, Teni on Monday recounted how she and Tiwa Savage were on board a plane and how the latter came to greet her.

An excited Teni wrote, ” Tiwa Savage surprised me yesterday didn’t know she was on the plane, she stood up from where she was to come say hello to me!!! Thank you for honoring me. God will honor you “

However, Tiwa Savage response was quiet a comical one as she tweeted ”I came to beg for any billion you are not using but too many people, shame catch me.”

This recent event further proved that Tiwa Savage is not the type that snubs people unlike the incident that saw an OAP call her out some months back for not greeting him first.

In another report Tiwa Savage will be releasing a new song on Wednesday titled ‘Owo Mi Da.


https://ngg.ng/2019/11/19/teni-recounts-how-tiwa-savage-came-to-greet-her-on-board-a-plane/

Just admire and like Tiwa Savage so much mahn..

SultanOfAbia:
Those that Die via crashes of car,planes do not experience the PAIN of the impact of the accidents.
Their Soul is removed from their body on impact so fast to prevent them suffering.
Irony is that Anybody that dies from impact of car or plane crashes had a smooth death. The mili second before impact the soul will eject the body.
Some that survived ghastly accidents give reports of how they blacked out unconsciously before impact even occurred.
God is Great!!!

I see

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

Niggarrr damnnnnn!

if we allow ourselves into the gridlock of tribalism, we're in trouble.

True words my Nigga....

I pity the ones that look up to the these celebs to be role models or some sort of morally upright fellows to them..

Igetmyown247:
Out of the things he listed you only spotted “sex” ?

Okay.

Exactly. He mentioned other qualities and virtues not just sex..

One of the only thing I would have loved for God to bless me with in this life was to have being a football pro. Doing what you like doing, bringing joy to millions and earning very good wages beats any other feeling mahn .

Poor innocent little one...

myfan:
How old do you think he is?

Exactly. What is even late in marriage. Nigerians, kai..smh

namiji2598:
2x & ov 3.5
stake it wit ya life savings
thank me by 7pm today

Wow....

As a man, I can't wear that kind briefs to swim...

praizblog:
Super Eagles head coach, Gernot Rohr has stated that his goal with the Nigerian national football team is to win the upcoming African Nations Cup in 2021, Praizenews report.

Rohr, who guided the Super Eagles to victory against Benin on Wednesday is out of contract in June 2020 but says his plan is to lead Nigeria to the summit of the African tournament rather than just qualify for it.

Nigeria face Lesotho in it's second match of AFCON 2021 qualifying this weekend and hope to make it a second win during this international football window.

The Franco-German coach who once played for Bayern Munich led Nigeria to a second-round exit in the 2018 FIFA World Cup in Russia and a third-place finish in the Africa Cup of Nations earlier this year.

Speaking on his future plans, Rohr said;



Reminiscing on the Super Eagles win over Benin, Rohr said to reporters; “The Super Eagles had a lot of scoring opportunities, but they failed to convert all of them.”



https://www.legit.ng/amp/1275997-gernot-rohr-nigerias-coach-relishes-afcon-2021-dream-2-1-win-benin.html

Good positive mentality....

This one is obviously just moved by physical beauty only...

The word "power couple" is abused in this climes. They are not a power couple pls. They are just regular C- list calebs in Naija.

EXLOVER:
Peruzzi should try and build is carrier before going to a gaddam relationship with Cee c that her main occupation is posting for the gram, she will use all the little money Peruzzi is making from weekend campus shows to buy costumes for her photoshoot. I pity Peruzzi vibes, someone who can not even afford a good graphics to design his album art and he's also owing his landlord 3months/electricity bill.

He wants to copy Davido, he doesn't know Cee c is the Kenya version of Chioma.

Damn...

hypertension:

Nice...madam is pretty too

[quote author=GistOffer post=84030595]Lovely and so adorable[/quote

True. Cuppy looking gorgeous..

RIP sir. Remember very well back then..

mercyokoro24:
A photo has emerged showing a tired Almajiri boy sleeping on a pile of dirt along the road in Northern Nigeria.

The sad photo was shared by a Kano based Facebook user.

The photo describes the fate of many Almajiri children who are abandoned by their parents after being sent out to fend for themselves.

Almajiri is a system of Islamic education practiced in northern Nigeria. Almajiri derives from an Arabic word, rendered "al-Muhajirun" in English transliteration, meaning a person who leaves his home in search of Islamic knowledge.

But, the system has been bastardized over the years.

Source>>>https://www.ogbeta.ng/2019/11/sad-photo-of-nigerian-child-sleeping-on.html

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binarymachine:
We often have the urge to appear impressive to our family, friends and peers both in the way we look and talk, our finances and acquisitions and with our plans. We do this because they also appear impressive to us and we want to also let them see ours too and show that we are also succeeding. For this, we make unnecessary announcements by sharing our plans or next actions and sometimes it lands in the wrong ears.

In this era of social media boom, making announcements and showing off has been made so easy. Everybody is showing off and sharing to everybody, no one is poor or unintelligent on social media. This creates a compulsive feeling or impulse for us to want to show or share ours too. Communication and chatting platforms are everywhere and very affordable too. You can easily chat with someone million miles away and it feels so comfortable and easy to talk because the person is not right in front of you, therefore easy for you to tell your friends and family both far and near what your plans are and what your next move sounds like.

Do not get it all wrong, sharing plans with family and friends is good. It can save you a lot of costly mistakes and help exchange very important ideas that could help boost your plans or give you a fresh interesting one. Social media is also the best thing to happen in our generation. Marketing, trading, socializing, exchange of ideas and customer service have been made easy and efficient. The advantages of social media is so numerous it can not be over estimated.

That been said, never be in a hurry to announce your moves or next plans to everyone who cares to listen. There is no art to find the mind’s construction on the face. That great plan of yours may fall on the wrong or eager ear, be it a friend, family or a stranger on the social media. Many people have had their ideas stolen because they could not control their mouth. You could have the idea but not the resources to implement it, sharing it to the wrong person may see another person making millions of an idea you initially conceived and you cannot prove it.

A lot of other people have had their plans thwarted from the beginning by bad family or friends just because they could not keep it to theirself. You can tell your friends or family about something you intend to do and have a million people wishing you failure. If you fail, you see them throwing jests or sarcasms at you randomly as if it was their failure. Many more have gotten into trouble for what they have shared on the social media.

Don’t trust to much or too easily, keep your plans and moves to yourself and go about it discretely. When you fail, no one knows, when you succeed, everybody celebrates. If you need help and must share your idea, make sure it’s someone you can trust. Hustle and execute your plans in silence, let your success do the announcements and sharing.

Source: https://flipmemes.com/2019/10/13/be-descrete-with-your-moves/

Well said.....good one.

Segzee1:
Below are seven things every single lady must know about men.

#1. Men focus on one thing at a time: Most women are naturally born with the ability to multitask. That is doing more than one thing at a time. But men tend to be more focused one thing at a time. A man may have several things to handle but he will prefer to take them one after the other to avoid distraction. 

#2. Men appreciate the little things: Men are simple creatures that appreciate the small things more than any woman would ever imagine. Small things do move men and can make them give their eyeballs in appreciation. It could be as meaningful as an affirming word, as creative as cooking his favourite meal, a visit to his office, gift etc.

#3. Men are caregivers: What needs to be realized among our culture at large is that there are immeasurable strength and courage in a man with a kind heart. Compassion, kindness, and tenderness are signs of nothing but true masculinity, and it is this kind of “boring men” that make the most amazing husbands- the ones that love, give, and sacrifice to the very last breath.

#4. We care less about looks than you think:  Have you ever heard the saying, “Women dress for other women”? Well, I think in many ways, it’s true. From what I’ve heard from countless men. Men see women as most beautiful in the most natural form of themselves. They don’t need the frills, sparkles and scents. Men definitely don’t care about the bags, the shoes, or the nails. Infact, many men don't know the difference between a Brazillian Hair and a Tanzanian Hair (lol). A real man is not looking for the most beautiful woman in the world, but for the one who will make his world most beautiful.

#5. Men hate to be criticised: Criticism is a man’s worst nightmare. Deep down, all men are like little boys- trying to please the primary woman in their life. For adult married men, that primary woman is their bride. They want to please her, and they hold their head up high as she looks into their eyes with a look of approval and delight. The one thing that can snuff out their joy in a moment’s notice- is to put them down. To notice the things they aren’t doing, aren’t saying, aren’t completing- instead of notice all of the good things that they are.

#6. Men love women with self-confidence: There is nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who can hold her head up high, believing the good things about who God has made her to be. Because a woman of confidence is aware that her value is rooted in nothing else but who she is in Christ, there is no need to flirt around or flaunt her stuff. 

#7. Men want a playmate: Just as much as women don’t want to play “mommy” to their man- a man doesn’t want to be treated like a child. Some of the most troubled marriages I see are when this parent-child dynamic begins to be played out in a relationship. Men want to be loved by feeling respected and treated that way. They want to know that you are by their side not to take care of them, but to do life with them. Most men are looking for a woman to laugh with, to play with, and to enjoy life with. They are looking for a best friend to marry, and a loyal partner to love for life.

THE VIDEO IN THE LINK BELOW IS A MUST WATCH FOR ALL SINGLE LADIES. GUYS KEEP OFF
https://dailyfamily.ng/seven-shocking-things-every-lady-must-know-about-men-video/

Absolutely like that point 6..

unstoppable51:
The Bible has several subjects but Jesus is not one of them! He Himself is the Message of the entire Bible, not one of its subjects.

“Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me.” John 5:39 KJV

The right rendering of the above verse from the Greek translation should actually begin with “You”. That is…

“You search the scriptures; for in them you think you have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me.”

What that means is that unlike what we may have erroneously believed, Jesus wasn’t actually giving the people of his day a command to “search the scriptures” like the King James translation puts it in that verse. He was rather telling them what they were already doing - albeit wrongly.

The Message translation puts it in a much better way - a way that pricks religious minds.

“you have your heads in your bibles constantly because you think you’ll find eternal life there. But you miss the forest for the trees. These scriptures are all about me!”

Like many people today, the Jews put much effort in the studying of the Scriptures. They actually devote enough time for that. This act is never wrong in itself and is worth emulating as the Scriptures encourages us to study it diligently.

“Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” 2 Timothy 2:15 KJV

However in their study of the scriptures in search of Eternal Life (the Salvation that God gives), they fail to realize that this eternal life cannot be found on the pages of a book (and that includes the Bible)

They failed to realize that the purpose the Bible was given was to point men to Eternal Life and not to give the Life itself.

The reason is because the Eternal Life they seek after has been embodied in a Man, God’s own Son - Jesus.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 KJV

Whosoever believes in Him, not the Bible, shall have everlasting life. Again,

“.….Thou hast given him power over all flesh, that he should give eternal life to as many as thou hast given him. And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent.” John 17:2-3 KJV

This is why the scriptures were given in the first place - to tell men about Him. Everything in the Bible points to Him.

He is not one of those things you come across in the Bible, He is the Mega Deal of the Book. Referring to Him as one of the subjects of the Bible is an insult to His person, He is its Message.

The apostle Philip did not mince words about His personality when describing Him to his brother Nathanael.

“Philip findeth Nathanael, and saith unto him, we have found him, of whom Moses in the law, and the prophets, did write, Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.” John 1:45 KJV

He is The Word in the word (John 1:1, 14-15), the express Image of the invisible God (Colossians 1:15, Hebrews 1:3), the full expression of all that God was, is and will ever be. He (not just the Bible), is God’s explanation of Himself (His Character, actions and words) to mankind.

In knowing Him, we have known and gotten all that God wants us to know and have. This is why we are instructed to focus our whole attention on Him.

“Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith….” Hebrews 12:2 KJV

He is the central message of all the Books of the Bible. Let us make a decision to keep our eyes on Him and nothing else.

He is all that God wants us to know, not Moses, not Elijah and certainly not Abraham. Everyone of those men were relevant enough to have their names engraved in the scriptures because of the Message of Christ which they believed and conveyed to their generations. Aside from that, there is nothing so special about them.

In your study of the scriptures, in your search for eternal life, in your understanding of God, make a decision to see no man but Jesus. For everything in the Bible is about Him.

Again I say, it is all about Him and nothing else! Go tell someone.

You are much loved

(Further reading: Deutronomy 18:15, 18. Ezekiel 34:23. Acts 3:22, 7:37)

Source: https://www.feedmejesus.com/2018/12/the-bible-has-several-messages-but_3.html

Bless you..

exstreve:
We would start seeing posts like:

"lady whose car was bashed by Kate henshaw steps out in a cleavage bearing outfit'

"checkout these lovely throwback pictures of lady whose car was bashed by Kate henshaw'

"Davido meets with lady whose car was bashed by Kate henshaw"

"Lady whose car was bashed by Kate henshaw flaunts her engagement ring"

"Brother of lady whose car was bashed by Kate henshaw graduates with 1st class"

uyams:
he should be sure is the main salah and not his look alike

Lmao...I was just thinking that when I saw the pic

I always wondered who own that house. Now I know. It's been standing there in asokoro for a long time..

Nice tips. Consistency is key

Cuppy is a cute girl..