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mercyokoro24:
A photo has emerged showing a tired Almajiri boy sleeping on a pile of dirt along the road in Northern Nigeria.

The sad photo was shared by a Kano based Facebook user.

The photo describes the fate of many Almajiri children who are abandoned by their parents after being sent out to fend for themselves.

Almajiri is a system of Islamic education practiced in northern Nigeria. Almajiri derives from an Arabic word, rendered "al-Muhajirun" in English transliteration, meaning a person who leaves his home in search of Islamic knowledge.

But, the system has been bastardized over the years.

Source>>>https://www.ogbeta.ng/2019/11/sad-photo-of-nigerian-child-sleeping-on.html

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binarymachine:
We often have the urge to appear impressive to our family, friends and peers both in the way we look and talk, our finances and acquisitions and with our plans. We do this because they also appear impressive to us and we want to also let them see ours too and show that we are also succeeding. For this, we make unnecessary announcements by sharing our plans or next actions and sometimes it lands in the wrong ears.

In this era of social media boom, making announcements and showing off has been made so easy. Everybody is showing off and sharing to everybody, no one is poor or unintelligent on social media. This creates a compulsive feeling or impulse for us to want to show or share ours too. Communication and chatting platforms are everywhere and very affordable too. You can easily chat with someone million miles away and it feels so comfortable and easy to talk because the person is not right in front of you, therefore easy for you to tell your friends and family both far and near what your plans are and what your next move sounds like.

Do not get it all wrong, sharing plans with family and friends is good. It can save you a lot of costly mistakes and help exchange very important ideas that could help boost your plans or give you a fresh interesting one. Social media is also the best thing to happen in our generation. Marketing, trading, socializing, exchange of ideas and customer service have been made easy and efficient. The advantages of social media is so numerous it can not be over estimated.

That been said, never be in a hurry to announce your moves or next plans to everyone who cares to listen. There is no art to find the mind’s construction on the face. That great plan of yours may fall on the wrong or eager ear, be it a friend, family or a stranger on the social media. Many people have had their ideas stolen because they could not control their mouth. You could have the idea but not the resources to implement it, sharing it to the wrong person may see another person making millions of an idea you initially conceived and you cannot prove it.

A lot of other people have had their plans thwarted from the beginning by bad family or friends just because they could not keep it to theirself. You can tell your friends or family about something you intend to do and have a million people wishing you failure. If you fail, you see them throwing jests or sarcasms at you randomly as if it was their failure. Many more have gotten into trouble for what they have shared on the social media.

Don’t trust to much or too easily, keep your plans and moves to yourself and go about it discretely. When you fail, no one knows, when you succeed, everybody celebrates. If you need help and must share your idea, make sure it’s someone you can trust. Hustle and execute your plans in silence, let your success do the announcements and sharing.

Source: https://flipmemes.com/2019/10/13/be-descrete-with-your-moves/

Well said.....good one.

Segzee1:
Below are seven things every single lady must know about men.

#1. Men focus on one thing at a time: Most women are naturally born with the ability to multitask. That is doing more than one thing at a time. But men tend to be more focused one thing at a time. A man may have several things to handle but he will prefer to take them one after the other to avoid distraction. 

#2. Men appreciate the little things: Men are simple creatures that appreciate the small things more than any woman would ever imagine. Small things do move men and can make them give their eyeballs in appreciation. It could be as meaningful as an affirming word, as creative as cooking his favourite meal, a visit to his office, gift etc.

#3. Men are caregivers: What needs to be realized among our culture at large is that there are immeasurable strength and courage in a man with a kind heart. Compassion, kindness, and tenderness are signs of nothing but true masculinity, and it is this kind of “boring men” that make the most amazing husbands- the ones that love, give, and sacrifice to the very last breath.

#4. We care less about looks than you think:  Have you ever heard the saying, “Women dress for other women”? Well, I think in many ways, it’s true. From what I’ve heard from countless men. Men see women as most beautiful in the most natural form of themselves. They don’t need the frills, sparkles and scents. Men definitely don’t care about the bags, the shoes, or the nails. Infact, many men don't know the difference between a Brazillian Hair and a Tanzanian Hair (lol). A real man is not looking for the most beautiful woman in the world, but for the one who will make his world most beautiful.

#5. Men hate to be criticised: Criticism is a man’s worst nightmare. Deep down, all men are like little boys- trying to please the primary woman in their life. For adult married men, that primary woman is their bride. They want to please her, and they hold their head up high as she looks into their eyes with a look of approval and delight. The one thing that can snuff out their joy in a moment’s notice- is to put them down. To notice the things they aren’t doing, aren’t saying, aren’t completing- instead of notice all of the good things that they are.

#6. Men love women with self-confidence: There is nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who can hold her head up high, believing the good things about who God has made her to be. Because a woman of confidence is aware that her value is rooted in nothing else but who she is in Christ, there is no need to flirt around or flaunt her stuff. 

#7. Men want a playmate: Just as much as women don’t want to play “mommy” to their man- a man doesn’t want to be treated like a child. Some of the most troubled marriages I see are when this parent-child dynamic begins to be played out in a relationship. Men want to be loved by feeling respected and treated that way. They want to know that you are by their side not to take care of them, but to do life with them. Most men are looking for a woman to laugh with, to play with, and to enjoy life with. They are looking for a best friend to marry, and a loyal partner to love for life.

THE VIDEO IN THE LINK BELOW IS A MUST WATCH FOR ALL SINGLE LADIES. GUYS KEEP OFF
https://dailyfamily.ng/seven-shocking-things-every-lady-must-know-about-men-video/

Absolutely like that point 6..

unstoppable51:
The Bible has several subjects but Jesus is not one of them! He Himself is the Message of the entire Bible, not one of its subjects.

“Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me.” John 5:39 KJV

The right rendering of the above verse from the Greek translation should actually begin with “You”. That is…

“You search the scriptures; for in them you think you have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me.”

What that means is that unlike what we may have erroneously believed, Jesus wasn’t actually giving the people of his day a command to “search the scriptures” like the King James translation puts it in that verse. He was rather telling them what they were already doing - albeit wrongly.

The Message translation puts it in a much better way - a way that pricks religious minds.

“you have your heads in your bibles constantly because you think you’ll find eternal life there. But you miss the forest for the trees. These scriptures are all about me!”

Like many people today, the Jews put much effort in the studying of the Scriptures. They actually devote enough time for that. This act is never wrong in itself and is worth emulating as the Scriptures encourages us to study it diligently.

“Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” 2 Timothy 2:15 KJV

However in their study of the scriptures in search of Eternal Life (the Salvation that God gives), they fail to realize that this eternal life cannot be found on the pages of a book (and that includes the Bible)

They failed to realize that the purpose the Bible was given was to point men to Eternal Life and not to give the Life itself.

The reason is because the Eternal Life they seek after has been embodied in a Man, God’s own Son - Jesus.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 KJV

Whosoever believes in Him, not the Bible, shall have everlasting life. Again,

“.….Thou hast given him power over all flesh, that he should give eternal life to as many as thou hast given him. And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent.” John 17:2-3 KJV

This is why the scriptures were given in the first place - to tell men about Him. Everything in the Bible points to Him.

He is not one of those things you come across in the Bible, He is the Mega Deal of the Book. Referring to Him as one of the subjects of the Bible is an insult to His person, He is its Message.

The apostle Philip did not mince words about His personality when describing Him to his brother Nathanael.

“Philip findeth Nathanael, and saith unto him, we have found him, of whom Moses in the law, and the prophets, did write, Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.” John 1:45 KJV

He is The Word in the word (John 1:1, 14-15), the express Image of the invisible God (Colossians 1:15, Hebrews 1:3), the full expression of all that God was, is and will ever be. He (not just the Bible), is God’s explanation of Himself (His Character, actions and words) to mankind.

In knowing Him, we have known and gotten all that God wants us to know and have. This is why we are instructed to focus our whole attention on Him.

“Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith….” Hebrews 12:2 KJV

He is the central message of all the Books of the Bible. Let us make a decision to keep our eyes on Him and nothing else.

He is all that God wants us to know, not Moses, not Elijah and certainly not Abraham. Everyone of those men were relevant enough to have their names engraved in the scriptures because of the Message of Christ which they believed and conveyed to their generations. Aside from that, there is nothing so special about them.

In your study of the scriptures, in your search for eternal life, in your understanding of God, make a decision to see no man but Jesus. For everything in the Bible is about Him.

Again I say, it is all about Him and nothing else! Go tell someone.

You are much loved

(Further reading: Deutronomy 18:15, 18. Ezekiel 34:23. Acts 3:22, 7:37)

Source: https://www.feedmejesus.com/2018/12/the-bible-has-several-messages-but_3.html

Bless you..

exstreve:
We would start seeing posts like:

"lady whose car was bashed by Kate henshaw steps out in a cleavage bearing outfit'

"checkout these lovely throwback pictures of lady whose car was bashed by Kate henshaw'

"Davido meets with lady whose car was bashed by Kate henshaw"

"Lady whose car was bashed by Kate henshaw flaunts her engagement ring"

"Brother of lady whose car was bashed by Kate henshaw graduates with 1st class"

uyams:
he should be sure is the main salah and not his look alike

Lmao...I was just thinking that when I saw the pic

I always wondered who own that house. Now I know. It's been standing there in asokoro for a long time..

Nice tips. Consistency is key

Cuppy is a cute girl..

shameless women.. sad

Writercruze:
Getting married is always very exciting in Nigeria. From meeting the bride’s parents, doing the official introduction, to the wedding itself, every aspect of it is beautiful.

But it doesn’t end in the celebration. The real deal is the marriage life. Anybody can get married, but it takes special commitment and patience to stay in a marriage.

Don’t allow anybody to deceive you. There’s no perfect marriage anywhere. Do you know that your marriage may be better than that of your friend, you envy her home? Well, now, you know.

If you want to judge marriage based on what you see on social media, you may be living in a fool’s paradise.

Let me tell you something you should know. Couples who are fond of sharing their marriage details on Social media will only show you the beautiful part.

It’s like an iceberg; they show you what they want you to see. But nobody will show you the ugly part of it: the physical abuse, the cheating, the heartbreak, to mention but a few.

Well, I don’t want to bore you with unnecessary details. Here in this article, I will be sharing with you 10 Ways Nigerian Couples Can Make Their Marriage work again.

It’s no longer a secret that some Nigerian couples are just there to fulfill all righteousness. Their marriage is sinking every day.

They now see each other as strangers. If you are in such a situation, you will be forced to ask yourself, what has changed? Is this not the same person who was always kind and caring?

I don’t know what’s happening in your marriage right now. But whatever it is, it didn’t just happen. It was an unresolved issue that escalated to where you are with yo spouse today. If you want to make your marriage work again, this article is for you.

How You Can Make Your Marriage Work Again

#1. Be More Realistic With Your Expectations

The unrealistic expectation is a cankerworm that’s eating the flesh of most marriages in Nigeria. If you want your marriage to work, give up all the fantasies you had about marriage.

Don’t expect to get the best partner; just learn to understand whoever you get married to. It will make things easy for you. And always remember that you can build whatever you want in your marriage.

#2. Don’t Always Try To Control Your Partner

The more you try to control your partner, the more obstinate they become, and it will affect the love you guys have for each other. Love your partner and let them see things from your perspective. Trust me; they will do what you want without forcing them.

When you try to force a person to become something else, it will eventually hurt your marriage. So, if you want to make your marriage work again, give up on controlling your spouse. Remember, they are soulmates, not your slaves.

#3. Don’t Be Possessive

Possessiveness is another cankerworm that eats the flesh of most marriages. The earlier you start realizing that you don’t possess your partner, the better for you.

It doesn’t matter how long you have been with your partner or the number of children you have together, never see them as your property. Instead, see them as your partner. Give them their space and a bit of freedom. Trust me; your relationship will be more beautiful if you stop seeing your partner as your property.

#4. Criticize Less and Appreciate More

There’s something you should know – nobody is perfect. Even if your partner does something wrong, you can correct them with love instead of criticizing them.

Furthermore, try to praise your partner for the little things they do. It will make them feel appreciated and want to do more. Trust me; nobody wants a nagging partner. It irritates more than feces.

#5. Don’t Try To Change Your Partner

Anything you couldn’t change about your partner during courtship, the chances of you being able to fix it in marriage are slim. If you focus on improving your partner at all costs, it will only cause serious issues in your marriage.

I don’t know if anybody has told you this before, let me repeat it here. Marriage isn’t about changing one another, instead, it’s about love, caring, and supporting each other. If you give up the urge to change your partner and focus on growing and improving together, your marriage will be beautiful.

#6. Free Your Mind and Don’t Be Too Jealous

Jealousy is often due to insecurity. Once you let go of your insecurity and low self-esteem, your over jealous behavior will be put in check. Trust me; if you give up jealousy in your marriage, it will become rejuvenated with love. Do you doubt me? Give it a try.

#7. Know That You Can’t Always Be Right

Most marriages are having issues today because both partners are always right. But you fail to understand that you are not in competition with your spouse. It doesn’t matter who is right or wrong in an argument; what matters is your willingness to make things work.

If you can apply these things in your marriage, you can make it work again. Remember, marital problems don’t start overnight. It’s usually due to some of the issues I mentioned above. But if you can start applying them now, your marriage could be beautiful again.

Source: https://www.naijalovetips.com/7-ways-nigerian-couples-can-make-their-marriage-work-again/

Note: I don't have issues with bloggers copying my contents, but if you must do, try to reference the source.

Good points

ajebuter:
Not every break up is attributable to ' Hater'..

Sometimes it could be:

Attitude
Arrogance
Incompatibility ..( modified)

Not necessarily haters..

Why would anyone hate you when we don't even know you?

Don't mind. They want to take responsibility for their actions/inaction. Its easier to blame it on others or whatever

She followed the money, he followed the beauty...now they are both tired. Abeg they should carry their cross and leave us be

daddytime:
We lost it as a nation with a bit of moral the moment we allowed words like, "I don blow, I don hammer, I don make am, I don collect, big boy/girl, sharp man, guyman etc" take a deep seated root in our lexicon.

So true..

mayim:
All your talks about being good looking has no bearing on the case at hand, it slightly makes u come across as immature. If u are truly that good looking, then u shd be used to lots of attention from the opposite sex so much that u shd be used to it by now, let alone fall for it when it’s coming from ur fiancées best friend. However I see u are remorseful, she deserves to know the truth. It wud count for something that u came out with the truth as opposed to her finding out. I’m talking from experience, that’s d only way u can hopefully earn her trust someday. Lastly, there are more good looking men that are faithful in their relationships, it’s time to grow up into the man she deserves. Good luck brother.

Well said..

ogbiwa:
Arsenal have held talks with former Barcelona boss Luis Enrique as a potential replacement for Unai Emery, according to reports in Spain.

Emery is under increasing pressure at Arsenal following his side’s 2-0 defeat to Leicester City on Saturday, which has left the club eight points behind fourth place.

The Gunners have also registered just one win in their last six Premier League matches, while fans are now calling on Emery to be sacked during the international break.

Last week, reports claimed that Arsenal’s head of football Raul Sanllehi had met with Jose Mourinho to discuss his potential arrival at the club.

But now El Confidencial’s Kike Marin claims that Sanllehi is actively looking to replace Emery and has met with Luis Enrique.

The 49-year-old won nine major trophies during his three years as Barcelona manager which included the treble in his first season at the club.

Luis Enrique took over as Spain coach in July 2018 but left 11 months later for personal reasons as his nine-year-old daughter Xana passed away from osteosarcoma – a form of bone cancer – in August.

The Spaniard was reportedly on Arsenal’s initial shortlist when the Gunners were looking to replace Arsene Wenger in 2018.

https://metro.co.uk/2019/11/09/arsenal-hold-talks-luis-enrique-replace-unai-emery-11072452/?ito=newsnow-feed

Don't even rate this Enrique guy sef...

That no 2 point...it will take a miracle to make naija youths stop thinking like that. Terrible

Always liked this man...God bless you sir

DonBenny77:
Those years we person dey look forward to home videos this babe and Alex Lopez dey burst my brain, that time Genevieve and omotola dey learn work for Regina Askia workshop.
I'm not talking nollywood

Alex Lopez and this Lilian scatter my brain no be small....

Rip woman....remember my late mum was a big fan of them.

She cute though

This is when the who you marry comes into play..

A vile selfish man..

Flexherbal:
In Nigeria, it is do it yourself.

* Secure yourself.
* Go to school, yourself.
* Pay school fees, yourself.
* Create job, yourself.
* Generate electricity, yourself.
* Provide water, yourself.
* Healthcare, yourself.
* Provide accommodation, yourself

The only thing, they can do for you, is to oppress you and force you to pay taxes.

In essence you have to be republic all by yourself... it's really not easy, Kai!

....get well soon little boy..

Describing herself as a meal....smh

Maslib:
For me Wenger is a better coach than most European coach's just that he had too many functions at Arsenal that distracted him from his football coaching job.

That MOD that banned me for 7 days you will keepisode on doing it ooooh. Na you go tire , you dey hear me baa. You go ban sotee you go tire .

He is a fantastic coach!

generationz:


She's kinda right in a way.

Pete edochie is a stereotyped actor.

Once you see him you know what he's going to be doing.

Kinda makes a person too comfortable. Plus he knows that he will always get roles as the Grandaddy of Nollywood.

I dont have to mention how Joke silver and Olu Jacobs bore me with all the accents. *eyeroll*


If anything I'd choose Chiwetel Agu and Patience ozokwor, Even Onyeka Onwenu.


But that's just me.

My favourite actor Leonardo DiCaprio is one man that can never be put in a box. Never. You never know what to expect with his movies. That's why he has played so many biographies and brought famous books to life.

Well said. I think you captured it better for the person who posted it. Me think that was the point she was trying to point, so instead of saying "bad" actor, she would have said "boring" maybe..

VirginSearcher:
Arsenal have just made everyone loose interest in watching premier league I remember the days of Almunia the show man

Almunia, Fabianski & Sczecny....some very clownish goalkeepers then for Arsenal. Cost Arsenal lots of matches ehn...kaiiiii

Abbeyme:
funny. But I am sure the story-line is not what really happened.

The lady and guy are friends and are just doing that prank for the camera

My thoughts too..

yazga:
Loving your woman (some women in this context) with all your heart and doing all the right things won't guarantee her loyalty to you.

She can just get attracted to an adventurous crackhead who makes her "feel different" or whatever.

If your woman is loyal, consider yourself lucky and privileged.

I am not sure there is a man out there who has all it takes to deserve a woman's loyalty. If there is? Cool .

Women are naturally dreamy, fantasists who are never contented. There is always something missing.

So they obviously have more reasons to cheat and the reasons are abundant around them.

For we men, they are just men. They cheat with their penis and that's mostly basically it.

But women cheat with their heart, their mind, their soul, their body: everything.

They are endlessly yearning for new things, new feelings, new desires, new adventures. Insatiable beings.

I think if your woman decides to relegate all her desires in order to remain loyal to you, then you're lucky and privileged.

I find relationship talks stressful but I think this is a tip from someone who is fairly "experienced."

Love your woman and guard your expectations.

a genuine Godly woman won't. But I understand the point you made.