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Nigeria has been moving backwards since 2015 when the dullard took over power, know this and have peace of mind

izzou:
[color=royalblue] Definitely

The people stepping down must be compensated with juicy positions

8 years from now, we may be seeing Buhari as a very good and successful president [/color]

I'm telling you...these old men don't care about Nigeria. They don't even believe in Nigeria that's why they keep wife and kids abroad and come back to loot whatever they can out of this country before it eventually collapse.

They don't believe in the future of Nigeria. If they do tell me how an accountant general would singlehandedly loot 80billion naira. And amount that someone earning 2million naira per month would not achieve till his death.

Me I don already de prepare myself to vamose from this shit hole, it's not my destiny they will tie down in the name of democracy. If the youths are not ready for geninue change, it's better I go where the change is already existing and pitch my tent there.

izzou:
[color=royalblue] Someone will spend 25k to 40k dolls per delegate, then become president and come and provide roads and good education for Una baa?

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Nigerians aren't ready to learn. They've become addicted to suffering.

Tinubu is only going there to collect back all the money he spent on Buhari in 2015 and 2019, Atiku is going there to recover all the dollars he's been splashing on delegates sine like forever.

Yet Nigerians wouldn't want to see through their deciet all they care about is killing themselves to install any of the two, and after 6 months they'll beging to complain again.

It took PDP less than 12 hours to conclude their primaries. This is the 4th day of the APC primaries and there's no end in sight and people wonder why Nigeria isn't moving forward, there you have your answer.

This is so funny

You were obviously dating yourself. He never saw a future with you. Don't take it so personal.

Ara21:
Exactly. I know of a man who was adopted as first son, now the adopted father has his biological sons all grown up now. The adopted son stayed in his lane, he joins them to celebrate anything but when it comes to family matters he hears from whatever they have decided, I just love the way the man does his things, he doesn't show himself.

The man is very wise.

Stanleyq:
he is not a step son, he is a legally adopted son and full first born by law...if he files this case to de court, they all will be in trouble.

Sorry jare...I was typing in anger I didn't even realize that he isn't a step son but adopted.

And to the issue of filing a case in court, some you guys act like you're not living in Nigeria. Do we have a credible judiciary system? Does filing a case in court prevent the family from unleashing mayhem on him with even police backing?

This is Nigeria bro, all those court stuff doesn't work here.

Sometimes I don't understand the reason behind the action some guys take.

Why not just marry her and build it for her if that's how the love is shacking him? As a girlfriend she owns him nothing, and if he bought the land in her name then he's in bigger trouble cos if the relationship goes south, no court of law can give him back his property regardless of how much he spent building it.

Godoverevery:
Someone that feels my guy is just over reacting...

You know ladies nah......it very difficult for them to see things from another perspective.

Then she should be prepared to loose him for good. Cos such character clearly shows that she cares less about him

Tinubu might win this primaries.

It's now I understand why Buhari wanted a consensus candidate. But since the north have resorted to backing a southern candidate tinubu might just win it.

But looking at it from another angle and knowing the north to always support their own, they might just allow tinubu win it, then rally behind Atiku and give him the presidency.

Cos there's no way the north would vote tinubu over Atiku in 2023. And tinubu would even struggle for votes in the South cos aside the SW, no other Southern zone is solidly behind him.

Even Kwankwaso sef that has a massive followership, don't be surprised if he steps down for Atiku few days to the election. Tambuwal did it on the day of the primary election. So anything is possible.

What I know is that whatever tactics the north are employing in this primaries, it's to ensure that a northerner ends up in Aso Rock come 2023 regardless of his party.

We Southerners aren't wise.

Just tell her to call your guy (her boyfriend) and tell him she would start footing all her side of the bills in the course of their relationship. I'm sure the guy would accept her back. Apologizing whilst maintaining her old attitude wouldn't lead to anywhere cos they'd still breakup sooner or later.

The only problem you had was loving her as your own daughter. That's why she was able to look at you in the face and tell you that she wants to look for a job given to her by a stranger.

My advice would be for you to send her back to her sister. With the high rate of ritual killing, kidnapping, ràpe...etc, if anything happens to her, you would be the first person to be arrested cos she was left under your care.

The step son is really mad and deserves whatever is thrown at him from the family. If he isn't careful he would just die for nothing cos cases like this have high tendencies of becoming diabolical.

He had no right to lay claim on those properties even if he was the late man's biological son. There have to be a meeting to decide who gets what.

Las las marriage will be abolished. Guys of this out generation don too suffer.

IamDora:
Good Evening Nairaland Family, there was a thread I created some days back whether or not I should attend the wedding of my Cousin who didn't invite me, but his Fiancee did. And the comments I got from the beautiful people of Nairaland was Okay for me to decide on what to do. link below

https://www.nairaland.com/7157147/please-should-attend-wedding-not#113385851

Well, My Male cousin called today after years of Ignoring me and asked how I've been preparing for the wedding, I asked which wedding? And he said the one his fiancee invited me for? I told him since I didn't receive it from him first, I wasn't planning on attending. He apologized to me, said he was very sorry and on his knees for not inviting me first. I accepted his Apology!

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Ariesbull and to all the beautiful Nairalanders I couldn't mention that contributed Positively to this thread. Thank you all for taking out time out of your Busy Schedules to Advice me. Thank you all once again. I'm grateful!

This is a welcome development. You can now prepare for the wedding with a clean and clear mind. Congratulations.

Are you sure she's what you say she is?

I don't trust Nigeria security operatives when it comes to arresting Easterners, they can be very biased, hateful and stúpid.

My brother life is too short to be managing someone's wahala. If you can't cope with him just stop him from coming to your place. There's nothing as peaceful and refreshing as living alone.

Girls of this ages are the worst carriers of STDs. Many of them haven't even seen a condom in their life let alone know it's uses. All they know is to spread their legs and accept whatever is inserted and released into their hole.

What an achievement! I'm sure her parents would be proud of her.

GuyWise101:
Nna mehnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

Ladies is this true

You forgot to add the turn off the light part.

Badboibipo:
I have noticed this particular issue with Nigerian girls, and I have seen it happen to men daily. When you see a girl you think is very beautiful on the road, why is it that it feels like a crime to approach her? What’s wrong with that? Because from what I have noticed they will most likely be rude , arrogant or snobbish. Who says a man can’t meet his dream woman in a market? It’s really sad because you see potential girls you would have liked but approaching them is like poking a lion, because trust me even if you match their criteria they may snob you just for the fun of it. Nigerian girls are not friendly at all, they are too rude to men. And yes even rich boys driving Benz are not left out, they get insulted at times too..not all the time but trust me even their Benz doesn’t get them girls as much as you may think, except it’s hookup girls. But you see normal and very beautiful looking girl , their pride is on another level.

Considering the insecurity level in this country, and how girls are constantly being used as sacrifice by desperate people for quick riches, to how you might consider her cheap because of how she easily granted a stranger like you access to her number, to how she might even be a thief who can follow you home and rob you once you blink...I'd say it's not wise.

I myself I don't approach strangers on the road no matter how beautiful she might be, if we meet in the church, or maybe in a registration center like voters card, NIN...etc. we can talk for some minutes, exchange numbers, then pick it up from there.

But stopping a total stranger on the road just because I feel she's beautiful...gosh, that's something I can't do, she might not even be in the mood to talk, and might see you as a nuisance and reply you very rudely so why embarrass yourself?

EmzyT:
And he isn't Grown enough to share his feelings instead of keeping it to himself? since he's not man enough to talk his mind, Let him keep keeping it to himself and I pray it chokes him to death one day

At OP, If you have any Iota of ’Self-respect’ left in you, Skip this Advice!

I've met people who when you offend they just give you the silent treatment, cut off and move on.

There are also the ones who will call you immediately you offend them, talk and talk and talk until they get it off their chest.

I believe her cousin falls in the former group, it's not about being man enough it's their nature, they won't tell you. You're are the one that would notice their withdrawal and begin to sense that something is wrong.

When you begin to meet different kinds of people you'll understand what I'm saying much better.

You should find out why he withdrew totally from you first before honouring the invitation.

Siblings and close cousins don't just cut off from each other for no reason unless he heard a rumour about a negative remark you made about him, or you provoked him, or did something that made him feel very bad without even knowing and he's been holding it against you.

My advice would be for you to call him. If you two reside in the same state, request for a meeting, and find out what went wrong and apologize.

Good luck.

60-70k for a guy in his early 20s to spend on a girl of 19 is clearly a waste. Cos I can bet with my fake ear piece I bought on Lagos traffic that you guys won't be together by this time next year. She's still in her whóring stage and would dump you for someone much better or richer.

It's better if you invest that money on yourself, learn an online course, develop yourself, not investing it on someone who clearly doesn't picture you in her future.

HoneySwag:
I think some men marry wrongly. They see the good lady that loves them, ready to support them even financially, and in some cases they even love these ladies but they end up settling down with a slay mama (a flashy lady), because she's beautiful, good on bed or dresses to kill. Then the marriage becomes toxic... What exactly are you expecting when you marry such person?

You're right. Ladies aren't exempted from this as well, we all make mistakes. That's why everyone should know and understand his/her spouse and know if he/she would fit into the kind of marriage he/she wants before going into it in order to avoid stories that touch the heart.

Bobmarie:
I haven’t taken anyone’s side, I am only going with the story I read. You are the one making up scenarios and excuses.

Since you know so much about their story and all guys are saints.
No problem bros.

You clearly didn't read and understood what I wrote, you just hit the reply button because you were mentioned. If you read and understood my post, your last bolded paragraph wouldn't have been necessary. Cos I made it clear in the last paragraph of my previous post that I'm only being logical based on the story I read.

Bobmarie:
Apt.

But you don’t know anything about their relationship and nothing is wrong with the man breaking it off before he married another lady.

If a woman did the same thing, you won’t be making excuses for her.

You don't know anything about their relationship either, so stop making excuses, you haven't heard the man's side of the story, so why suddenly take the side of the woman.

No man would wake up and ditch a responsible girl he has been with for 5 years for her friend.

I can confidently tell you that there's clearly a secret lifestyle she had while dating the guy that her friend revealed to him which he confirmed and dumped her.... could be runs, sex with another guy, party sex, abortion for another guy...etc. That's a much better explanation as to why he moved on with her friend. Her friend knows everything about her and used it against her to get her guy for herself.

The guy isn't to blame here, cos for him to dump her after 5 years, it means that whatever information the friend told him about his girl was the pure truth which she herself couldn't deny that's why she sat on the step singing and refusing to state the cause of the breakup.

Note: I'm not making excuses for anyone, I'm only being logical.

virginprincess:
Most men are wicked and heartless,wasted 5yrs of someones life, i can't be in a relationship with a guy more than 1yr,if i see than that relationship is taking us nowhere i move to the next avaliable person,i got no time for rubbish.

My dear don't blame the man.

A lot of these girls know that their relationship isn't going anywhere, but because of the benefits they're getting, they'll just remain there hoping that the guy would change.

Haven't you seen where a guy would tell a girl his dating that I want my future wife to be tall and dark, while the girl in question is short, and she'll still remain in his house satisfying his sexual needs. Or haven't you seen where a girl would visit a guy, see his furnished apartment, and would openly tell him let's be friends with benefits and see where it would take us? Note she's the one suggesting it not the guy...then she'll start getting jealous and clingy around him, when whatever it is they have or claim to have hasn't been clearly defined?

Some would be beaten, abused...etc. Yet you'll see them back in the guys house putting on his boxers and cooking dinner for him.

You can't tell me this girl in question wasn't aware that her relationship of 5 years wasn't going anywhere. She's just coming online to cry victim so that her fellow girls can bash the male gender. And clearly it's already working.

I'm not a pervert so I can agree to no sex before marriage with a non virgin. But on the condition that it will be a brother sister kid of relationship. I ​won't spend my money on you unnecessarily and you won't open your legs to me, we will gist, make jokes, hang out...etc.

If things go south, you won't feel heartbroken that I used and dumped you, and I won't feel bad that you ate my money and absconded. We would just remain distance friends saying hi to each other once in a while.

I can even attend your wedding if you invite me...we cos won't habour any form hatred amongst each other.

DKM123:
Yet, you men are the ones who hate feminist and bash them and wish they die.

Isn't this what feminist preach?

That a woman should focus on being financially independent and have thier own money.

Gender roles like men being in charge of the finance and women being in charge of the kitchen and homefront is not ideal in this modern day where the men are crying like little babies everywhere cos they can't handle the financial responsibility of a traditional family man.

Women should use that energy they use in praying that God should take them to thier husband's house to focus on making money...

Unfortunately Nigerian feminists don't reason this way. They tell you my money is my money and your money is our money.

If I find a girl who reasons like your version of feminism I'd wife her right away.

I'm a strong advocate of women being independent, cos when I look at my parents, they were able to accomplish so much because both my dad and mom were financially independent and they both worked collectively to keep the home running. No one dumped his or her responsibility on the other. They take decisions together, execute projects together...etc. This is the kind of feminism I support.