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Avoid jobless women and flamboyant lifestyle and you will be fine.

Dear op

I have said this severally and I'll say it again, money and sex are voluntary, meaning you can choose to give it out or choose not to give upon request.

A girl has every right to turn down the advances you make towards having sex with her, you also have a right to choose not to give her money when she requests for it, she didn't point a gun on your forehead and commanded you to give her money.

I hate it when I see guys complaining online about how girls demand money from them and refuse them sex, when they can simply tell her that they don't have

Taking a girl out shopping or spending hundreds of thousands on her, doesn't guarantee you ownership over her, if you want her go to her father's house and pay her pride price, anything outside that would be seen as charity.

Make it clear to her whenever she begins her unnecessary request for money that you don't have.

I hate it when guys can't turn down a girl's request but can easily come online to rant.

I've met several girls in the past, and as a man I've make my stance clear to them concerning funding any kind of extravagant lifestyle they have.

Legally...tell the sender to send it to you through Western Union.

Open a domiciliary account here in Nigeria.

Go to your bank where you opened the Dom account and request for a western union form.

Fill the form and ask them to pay you in dollars.

Go to the nearest aboki and do your bureau de change.

For your own safety don't accept cash from the mallam, cos most of them mix fake notes in-between the money they're to give to you so as to boost their profit, tell him to transfer it to your naira bank account.

Once you confirm the alert, give him the dollar.

Go to the nearest ATM and withdraw your cool cash and enjoy yourself.

Good luck.

Most girls prefer to learn from their mistakes, so I'll advise you stay away from her so she can learn.

The attitude of the guy already shows that he's irresponsible and only out to use her to satisfy his sexual desires, cos no responsible guy will fold his arms and watch a girl he claims to love disown her own people.

Allow her be for now, once things go south with the guy in question, she'll come back home.

It's almost uncommon.

Reason being that the age bracket of guy who gain admission into higher institutions are between 16-24.

And the age of most female lecturers are from 40 upwards, and the truth is most women in that age bracket are done with child bearing so sex to them has become boring. So there's no way they would sexually desire a boy young enough to be their son.

From your write up, you're still a student...this is the time to discipline yourself...if you don't want your life to end up as a useless story, then you must learn to discipline yourself.

Social media isn't bad, but when it begins to control your everyday life and you're not making a penny out of it, that's when it's bad.

For starters, I'll advice you to map out a to-do-list for the day. State each task along with the time you expect to have them done, you can use your phone to do it and set an alarm as a reminder.

Once the alarm beeps, abandon whatever it is you're doing and accomplish that task.

If you continue this religiously, procrastination will become a thing of the past in your life.

Good luck.

tsdarkside:
or loot nigeria dry....

they cant even manage south east region,na gra gra nigeria they wan manage....??

How well is buhari managing the northern region?

The level of insecurity in the north has never been recorded under any president.

I can't have an erection towards my fellow man not to talk of sex.... totally impossible.

Manq:
How about forgetting your car key in the ignition while searching yourself like a confused retard

Lol...the one that I experienced so much in my first car was turning off the ignition without pressing the button to wind up my windows.

It kept on happening making me frustrated cos I have to turn on the ignition again so as to wind up...until I got used to the car...twas a very funny and frustrating experience.

Firstandonly:
Lately my girlfriend is no longer comfortable leaving her phone around me, she is so close to her phone even when we are eating or early in the morning when she's supposed to start doing morning activities....
I am someone who hate the idea of partner checking each other phone and i always advise others not to look on their partners phone. Pls I just can't take it any more it's just as if am being thrown away in my relationship and there's this force that keeps pushing me. Pls if u where in my shoes will u start check on her phone or let go to prevent BP

You're seeing the glaring red flags, why do you choose to further torment yourself by checking her phone?

Just call her and talk to her, and point out the changes you've observed, then listen to her defence.

If after expressing yourself to her, you notice she doesn't change and keeps acting all spooky around you whenever her phone rings, then for your mental and emotional health, initiate the withdrawal process from the relationship in a gradual manner until you don't feel anything for her anymore then you can cutoff completely.

okoroemeka:
you are absolutely right it is when we ignore this signs and continue to love blindly like a turkey ,that when you suffer heartbreak,but if you see and analyse these signs your mind will compensate for the lowering love and lower your own accordingly,so when the breakup will come if her remaining love is 15% your own will be 10%.

Exactly...

Most guys and even girls keep on loving even with the glaring red flags, this life is short, the best gift anyone can give him/herself is peace of mind.

If a relationship is becoming a burden to you, and taking away your peace and happiness, kindly come out of it, it's as easy is going into the shower after a hard days work.

Go to a registered lab and get tested, don't self medicate. Run a test and treat yourself based on the results of the test.

People here will only tell you what they feel is wrong, but only a doctor would diagnose you properly and tackle it from its roots.

Because I'm scared of marriage.

bodybuilder:
I'm just curious, it seems that's only guys that are cautious of not catching some disease through sex. Most girls won't suggest condom if you don't suggest it first. These girls dey fear me. Most girls aren't scared going raw. What could be the reason for this?

Most girls are more scared of pregnancy than STD. Most girls in their late teens and early 20s who just had raw sex would focus more on drugs that can flush the semen out of her system, reason being that she's aware of the consequences of getting pregnant in her parents house.

So I guess it all boils down to the awareness, the church, schools, government, NGOs...etc. Need to start creating awareness, they should educate young girls on the dangers of premarital sex and need to close their legs.

It's a normal thing...once you're a calm person who dresses moderately, doesn't look for trouble, always quick to apologize whether you're in the right or wrong, people would beging to call you pastor.

On the other hand, it could be that you have a calling which you're running away from and God is using the voices of those people to remind you of your place with him.

Or it could be that the presence of God is flowing all over you that people can easily feel it whenever they see you, that's why the unconsciously call you pastor.

From your post I can detect that you're less than 22, what on Earth do you want with a girlfriend at that age?

I don't know why you guys love compounding your problems, pursure your dreams, avoid distractions, focus on your education and when the time is right God will crown your efforts with success and you'll find a girl who truly loves you.

If you're based in the east go to Onitsha main market, enter any shop there and show them the pics on your phone, within 5 minutes, they will source it out and bring it to you.

Good luck.

DrFunmisticGlow:
If for example, someone wants to donate things like old clothes, shoes, maybe foodstuffs to people in need, how can someone go about it?

Where can one find a group of people and be able to donate it directly to them anonymously?

What are the rules to follow?

Or is there a trusted organization one can donate it to where it can reach needed hands?

Hopefully the Nairaland family can provide assistance for future good deeds

If you're a Christian, the church is the best place to do so.

Just meet your pastor after service and tell him that you have some items you wish to donate to the less privilege in the church, he'll direct you to the committee that handles such so you can make your donations there.

Or if you know any committed member in the church who's in dire need of clothes, food, shoes, money...etc. You can meet the person privately and give it to him/her.

Divoc19:
Fake it during sex. And thank me later

An experienced man would easily tell if you're faking it.

Bolarineliza202:
Mine,I can't do without playing games.

Eating.

If this chat is real, then it's a one sided relationship, the guy is suffering from low self-esteem and being the only one in love he will spend the rest of his life in that toxic relationship dancing to tune by proving to her that he isn't cheating on her. She will control every area and aspect of his life including his finances.

The girl on the other hand obviously has a handful of male admirers who she gives her body and attention to and constantly feels insecure with her unfortunate boyfriend cos of her lifestyle. Hence her need to constantly frustrate his life periodically in order to confirm his loyalty to her.

This man is ageing o!

Stay safe and speedy recovery.

To prevent a heart break, go into a relationship with all your senses active.

Keep your eyes open for obvious red flags, breakups don't happen overnight, it's a gradual process, if she stops reciprocating your gestures, like missed calls, messages, missing dates with no reasonable explanation, unnecessary quarrells and nagging over nothing, being so clingy to her phone and acting funny whenever it rings, hardly appreciative of your effors...etc, then prepare your heart for the worse cos someone is obviously taking a larger chunk of her attention.

Saneesk:
Nairalanders please i need suggestions as to how i can improve my ospoken English to absolute fluency





Lalasticlala front page pl

Read lots of books...American movies is for those who already speak English fluently and want to improve their accent.

If you stick to American movies at this your level, it would only make you imitate their accent but your fluency and vocabulary would be horrible.

Get books and a dictionary and you're good to go.

BaddieFreak:
There is this popular Nairaland moderator (name withheld for privacy) that has been in my PM since early this year always wanting to get to know me which I obliged. I don’t usually reply my PMs since I am just here on Nairaland to while away time when I am bored. I thought it was just another casual friendship but it has turned out to be something else. He is really pushing for more and I have explained to him from the onset that I am not interested but this days it seems like he is a good guy and I might possibly give him a chance.
I know he is going to see this, but I just feel like saying it since i really have nobody to talk to about it and it has been bothering me.
I have vowed not to go into any serious relationship.

What do you think guys?

If you want to give him a chance then do, I believe you're matured enough to make that decision.

But coming here to seek validation from people who neither know you or him personally isn't right considering the fact that he messaged you privately and not openly.

virginprincess:
Hey , I'm fine, just decided to stay away from nairaland for sometime.

Eyah... welcome back

Stephen2324:
1. Are you single or currently in a relationship?

2. Can you ever forgive your partner if they cheat?

3. How many people have you said "I love you" to without actually meaning it?

4. Would you allow your partner to go on a friendship date with another guy or girl?

5. What are your biggest fears about your relationship?

6. Are you happy with the amount of time you and your partner spend together?

7. Would you lie just to make your partner happy?

8. Would you compromise your happiness for the sake of the relationship?

9. What is the most annoying thing your your partner have ever done?

10. What was the best moment in your relationship so far?

11. What is that one thing you want you partner to improve on?

12. Which do you prefer as your first child and why? "BOY" or "GIRL"

13. Do you prefer your relationship to be known all over social media or just a low-key one?

14. Do you think your partner can be your lover and your best friend?

15. Would you keep your past relationships secrets away from your new partner?

16. How many kids do you want?

17. Can you and your partner share the same finance account?

18. How do you want to spend your special day with your partner?

19. Where did you and your partner meet?

20. You and your partner are spending the day outdoors, where would you prefer to go?

21. Would you rather be proposed to in private or in front of family and friends?

22. Do you think you and your partner would make a good parent?

23. Would you forgive your partner if they cheat on you but told you immediately because of the guilt?

24. How important do you think sex is in your relationship?

25. Can cheating be justified in a relationship?

1. Single.

2. Yes, but the relationship would die a slow and natural death cos I would find it difficult to trust her.

3. Quite a number.

4. Nope.

5. Investing on the wrong person.

6. I'm not in any serious relationship.

7. If the lie would make her happy and doesn't have any serious consequences that may affect the relationship, why not.

8. Never.

9. Lie and cheat...it's all in the past tho.

10.

11.

12. Boy.

13. Low key...there are so many witches and wizards on social media.

14. I hope so.

15. Nope I'll let her in on every detail.

16. Two or three.

17. God forbid.

18. At home watching a movie.

19.

20.

21.

22.

23. It's better she doesn't tell me, cos I'll loose my trust in her.

24.

25. Cheating is a sign that the party involved is no longer emotionally attached to the relationship, if she is she would respect it and not work towards breaking it.

MOSTEC:
Wow! I guess u are one of those '' holier than thou'' lol

But remember she got all the qualities u want in a woman... The only flaw is that she smokes

Holier than tho as in how...I said what I can't cope with period.

If you can cope with a smoker, find I don't judge people, but I can't cope cos I don't smoke.

It has nothing to do with being holy it's my principle.

Different strokes for different folks.

For me, a smoker and an alcoholic is a big turn off for me.

virginprincess:
Oga, pls summarize this thing, you don't expect me to read such long epistle

He has a parasitic friend who doesn't give two shits about him, the friend tends to boss him around his own house even up to the extent of owing him and making life miserable for him. And he's so shy to confront his so called friend so he's dying in silence. Baba 70 (fela) will simply say suffering and smiling.

How have you been by the way...it's been ages.

@topic.
You just have to reach out to him, let him know what you like and what you dislike. It's your house... you should be the boss, start acting like one.

Magnoliaa:
Okayy. So I should wait for you as per what? Should you not be congratulating me?

Congratulate you unto wetin na.

Patience is a virtue...it's in your Bible.

Even bubu waited for 12 years before getting the keys to the aso Rock mansion he's enjoying now, and I didn't say you should wait for 12 years sef,