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chimezieeze98:
By the way, I still maintain a healthy relationship with my mother and siblings which I keep separate from the relationship I have with my wife. I didn't say I will go to war and quarrel with my siblings or mother cause of my wife, neither will I make my wife go through hurt and pains cause of my mother

All the best

Thank you, good we still have mature people around .
When a man masters the art of the bolded, there's less friction between the wife and all the in-laws.

Until men understand and know how to do this, in- law issues will always rise.

tonididdy:
How much do these DNAz cost exactly?

Honestly I don't know but I don't think it should be less than 100k slightly below or above that range but I might be wrong sha

saladinnoir:
Menstruation lasts for 5 to 7 days, the next 5 days after the that she's safe (she can't get pregnant) the next 3 days she's at her most fertile(she can get pregnant if you sleep with her during these three days because the sperm will still be alive on the day of ovulation) the day of ovulation(basically the fourth day) the body produces an ovum which can survive 24 hrs, there's also a chance that she can be fertile the day after. Sperm can survive 3 to 5 days in her body, do the math (the time between the sperm fertilising her ovum and her next period is usually 14 days, hence the two weeks pregnant thing)
On a side note the chances of her getting pregnant past the day after her ovulation is very low. Correct me if I'm wrong

Lool never say never @bolded .

Pregnancy sometimes is one of the most mysterious things. E go just gel loool.

A lot of times this calculations fail.

The girl might be counting the stuff wrongly.

Not everybody is educated about all these cycle dates.

That's how one opened a thread that the scan showed that the pregnancy is 2 weeks ahead of the date he slept with the wife last, not knowing pregnancy is counted from the 1st day of the last period.

They should reads stuffs like this online, its on the internet, not to be shouting simp simp up and down on nairaland.

If you are that bothered OP do a DNA test.

Acidosis:
. A woman that wants to scam you wouldn't tell you she's 2 weeks pregnant knowing very well that the last time you guys had sex was 6 weeks ago.

My opinion: you guys should do another test in a different lab. The result you have is probably wrong.

You're two weeks pregnant the day you miss your period.

Phew finally somebody says it.

See people blaming the poor guy that he didn't follow them to the station.

What if they kill him, not even within the town ooo they are on the road. If you have not experienced it before its easy to say this and that those people are pure evil.

He did the best he felt he could do.

Now he should try and get his money back.

mariahAngel:
You know what? You can use any flavour you like...

Loool okay thanks.

mariahAngel:
Butter (you can substitute with margarine)
Sugar
Eggs
Flour
Baking powder
Salt (a little if you're using unsalted butter or margarine)
Vanilla and butternut flavours.

For my measurement, I used equal measures of butter/margarine and sugar, then twice the measures of flour.

If you're creaming your butter or margarine, sugar and eggs manually, make sure to cream in one direction only so that you don't beat down the air it collects.

Cream till it's light, fluffy and almost double in amount before mixing in your dry ingredients.
Go easy with the flavours.

Thanks

Please which one is butternut flavor again, its butterscotch I have seen before.

mariahAngel:
My vanilla/butternut cake.
I enjoy baking.

Receipe pls.

Nairaland is the place to get information on a whole lot.

I have gained so much through this forum.

How far Sirmicheal1 how did you guys resolve the matter?

Today is the meeting day right?

Jesu Olugbala

I would have said mind your business but this one strong ooo.

Which kain wahala be this.

Pretending to be born again wearing Mary AMAKA and carrying bible to deceive brother and then going to sleep over at anothers house which people know as your boyfriend.

Evil and deceitful people everywhere and brother will be thinking he has seen wife.

Sorry OP I don't wish to he in your shoes, the lady will know you are the one that told him she but maybe brother has been praying and this is Gods way of revealing who the girl really is to him.

You tell oo, you no tell oo you are already entangled in this matter except you cut the guy off.

Prayerfully search you will find her.

Don't rule out church too.

peacefull:
Oh!!
I'm so sorry if I'm making you sad.
Maybe how I write is bad?

I'm happy to hear from you again!
I'm really sorry about I'm making you heart break.

Sorry its not you personally please, its just your story.

This thread breaks my heart every time I read an update over the years

GboyegaD:
I know of a couple who have been married close to 40 years who sleep on different beds although in same room It is about what works for each home.

First time I am hearing about this scenario, always thought same room translates same bed.

@Topic whatever works for the couple.

Yes my colleague she's 39 and a grandma

From my calculations she was around 36-37 when she became one, the daughter is 21 going on 22 by the way.

And they are not northerners

First things first move/ withdraw/ transfer that money in batches to an account one of you has a control over. Very important ooo before a little birdie informs the bank onf his death and you guys start chasing letter of administration up and down.

If you can't transfer, withdraw it small small like 100k every time and deposit it to another account.

Then you can start thinking of what to do with the money.

Move that money please.

DPricey1:
Laslas, don't allow a group created to solve problems now bring Problems in your home. Peace .

SirMicheal1 please note the bolded, if you are not careful this matter might escalate to a serious issue that will shake the very foundation of the marriage.

In all honesty the reason is not worth it.

See how the actions of some people are stressing others out. Its so unfair for you guys to bear all the burden.

A rent is recurring expense,is that how you guys will keep struggling to pay?
You are already talking about debt from this payment can you people afford this continuously without permanently being in debt

The house should never had been sold. Can't they vomit part of the money they shared.

nedekid:
See, if someone does not want to cook for you and your guest with clear mind, never force the person (even if it's your wife). Food is something entering your body. Unless you want to go by the saying "watin man no know no fit kill am".
May we not eat food garnish with catarr, spit, sputum IJN.

Lool abi the food shouldnot hang in their throat

gunners160:
I dnt think ur point holds any water. Even if was just a day notice, a woman who wants to protect the interest of her family will do it, a woman who wants to cover her husband's shame will do it.
what happens to love and cooperation in marriages? what happens to the for beta for worst
if she can't help her husband now when will she do it?Oh, that reminds me, other women that prepared meal for their husband are stupid habi? in fact na this kind cooking dey sweet. Has she is cooking she will b kissing and even telling the husband to make sure he compensates her with hard sex and money for her cream. he will do that because he knws she went out of her way to make him happy

As she say she is not doing nko?? Is it not solution he is looking for?

To prevent further occurence ,They should make their roaster obvious everybody knowswhen hes hosting , wives would have been aware before hand , not the one that I will know this Sunday that I am hosting next Sunday , if they are not boxed up during that week will they borrow?

You will agree from the OPs responses that finances is also an issue. I am certain if he had a month notice he would have made better plans , and this thread wouldn't suffice.

Op should give them snacks and drinks if he cant pay caterer abi he wants his house to scatter because of hosting church members?

If she hosted with 5 months pregnancy, OP should find out why she is adamant this time, there is a reason.

SirMichael1:
Hello Good afternoon Familanders. This is very long, so please bear with me.

I’ll start from the root. Well, in my church, there’s usually a committee for the married men where most times we can proffer solution to the issues or need of the church members and other times organize get together monthly within us (married men) just to foster unity. Since we're like 20, different men host the get together. Therefore, it's spaced out for 1year and 8months.

It all began last Sunday when I was chosen to oversee the next get together which comes up this Sunday after church. . When we (my wife and I) got home after church, I told her about it and she immediately asked, “who would do the cooking”? I was taken aback as the question sounded strange. I replied her saying, since she did the cooking the last time, I figured she’d do it this time.

She got angry and said there’s no way she’ll be going through the stress of cooking for 18 to 25 men and that I better know what to do concerning who’s going to handle the cooking. I tried to calm her down and reminded her of how I assisted her in the kitchen by pounding the yams while she made the soup -two soups actually and that I was going to help her this time. Yam is quite expensive so we’re not pounding this time, just Semo.

She remained adamant and said there was no way she would do anything, that the work stressed her so much and she won’t partake in any cooking and that I better go find anyone to do the cooking. Thing is, I understood the fact that the work was stressful for her because she was 5 months pregnant then and it was her first time.

Yesterday at work, I kept pondering about a solution and a thought struck me. I called her from work and asked her, "how about I get one of the women at church to offer you support?". She blatantly refused and still held on to her words.

My mind hasn’t been settled since morning because I got hold of a caterer and she told me that she’ll charge a thousand naira per head, that is approximately 20k. Truth is, the get together came at a wrong time and considering the prices of drinks, the cost of the food stuff, meat, ingredients, etc. I really can’t afford a caterer right now.

I’m at a cross road now. I don’t know what to do because it’s causing a rift between us. I thought of bringing a church member to assist on that day without informing her so she wouldn’t surprise me and leave the house but I fear that if she comes, my wife might not join her in the kitchen and the woman will begin to feel a certain way (thinking of how ungrateful we are). Then again, who will purchase the food items? I’ve just been confused. I really need insights.

Note: I said I'll help her make the swallow, she just needs to make the soup.

The bolded is my own concern last Sunday - this Sunday I believe you are talking about a 7 day notice.

So you got home on sunday and told your wife that next week Sunday ooo we are hosting 20people ? I think the time frame is too short, she most likely had other plans for Sunday


To prevent further occurrence you people should have a ready made roaster, everyone should be aware of the dates they are hosting so they can make plans appropriately, its your wife today it might be the wife of another tomorrow. But when the dates are obvious everyone would start preparing towards that.

Did they even consider if you are currently capable to host 20people within that short notice? Foodstuff don cost ooo.

Hosting is much more than cooking, serving , cleanup etc etc it can be draining mentally for some.

Try and get the caterer to sort it out if the meeting must hold on Sunday, whatever you do please do not create an impression that all isn't well with you and wifey.

Or at most you can get snacks and drinks shikena.

Loool everybody is now saying that its all tribes that sell at Alaba international, when we all know the majority that sells there.

Na OJO area some of us grow up ooo.

They should be trying to cover up their misdeeds instead of addressing the situation.

Never been scammed sha .

Loool where will they have picked before as if Badagry is not the HQ of coconut in Lagos.

Why didn't you go to the task force.

oluplus:
For a joint account, LOA may not be required. Mr. Y would only need to present a death certificate of Mr. X. The name of the deceased would be removed from the account name and account becomes his personal account.

Okay thanks

oluplus:
For instance, some people due to health issues may not be able to run their account, so they can intorduce a co- signatory to the account after fulfilling the bank's requirements. Note that the account is still in the name of the account owner. The name of the cosignatory is not captured on the account but on the mandate. When the owner dies, co-signatory cannot continue to operate the account. Account must be closed. That is why Op must get the LOA.
Some military guys posted to remorse areas do this as well, making their wives who cannot operate ATMs/internet banking co-signatories, so they won't starve before they return

Okay I understand your explanation

What about in the case of a Joint account or even investment bearing Mr X and Mr Y as name of account both are signatories, both their passports and signatures were collected and they both signed when account was opened with mandate that either MR x or Y can sign.

Then Mr X dies , Will Mr Y continue having access to the account despite the fact that Mr X is dead or they will say Mr Y should bring a LOA to access the funds( I am assuming Mr Y is either the spouse , child or relative of Mr X)

Before it was in the passage, now in the kitchen .

Size and type of apartment, accessibility to water source and discharge of the waste water are factors to consider.

ntyce:
It depends on the actual owner of the account.
In this case, the account was in the husband's name, with the wife as a signatory.
He's now late, account must cease to operate.

But if the account had been a joint account, with either to sign. The wife may still be allowed to operate the account.

May? even for a joint account with the either to sign mandate, Wow ??

oluplus:
A co-signatory is not the same as account owner. Do you know you can open a saving account in your name and also introduce your spouse to be a signatory to the account.

She can sign according to the account mandate, but that does not make her account owner. Account will be closed once the owner of the account dies.
It is not a joint account.

So a joint account and someone having an account with another being a cosignatory to that same account are different things.

I thought for you to even be a co signatory it has to be a joint account?

ntyce:
The contract was between the man and the bank.
The man is late, contract is now void.

The wife ceased to be a co-signatory the day the man.

Really? what if they are both signatories to the account and the mandate is either of them can sign does death invalidate the other party having access to the account both of them had access to when the other was alive?