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ogbonti:
Any southerner who takes over from Buhari must appoint all service chiefs from his family and village - even if they are not in the armed forces we will give them immediate recruitment and create rank for them just to match Buhari’s nepotism and tribalismfoolishness - I hate nansense

Corrected!

iRepNaija1:
Of course. And feel free to monitor your significant other like a child because they can't possibly avoid temptation by themselves.

Well, i wouldn't monitor or stalk anyone; I would only apply a little bit of wisdom in my daily activities. E.g. I wouldnt encourage a situation where my friend or even brother goes over to stay with my wife alone in the house repeatedly or for extended periods. If that's what you refer to as 'monitoring my significant other as a child', then oh yes, I will... Not that I dont trust my wife's discipline, or my brother's discipline, but rather because I'm wise enough to know that discipline alone isn't sufficient to prevent certain regretable mishaps. Believing in the strength of your discipline is usually the mother of all f**kups.

iRepNaija1:
This is where we're going to have disagree. No woman (or man) should be minding their significant other like a child. If that person cannot avoid temptation on their own, it speaks volumes about their disposition and character. Plus, your assessment doesn't work for people who are in long-distance relationships.

Okay its fine - feel free to not play your part in helping your significant other avoid temptations. It's solely their responsibility, not yours.

Fanuchi007:
Sometimes for peace to rain there must be war. sometimes we need drastic measures to deal with harden individuals. Even Jesus Christ used a whip in d temple. Diz country needs chaos inorder to reatain freedom from cabals. we will get there...

How exactly does breaking a prison and unleashing criminals into the streets of Igboland measure up as sensible anarchy to counter the injustice of Nigerian government? This is one question begging for answers from those who seem to be pleased by this event.

iRepNaija1:
It's not holier than thou. It's just simple facts. The OP had options at his disposal that he didn't utilize. Your second point goes back to a long-standing stereotype that it's the woman's job to ensure that her husband/boyfriend is not tempted by other women. The OP is a grown man and if he's willing to get married, then he needs to learn to keep his dîck in his pants and be faithful. This is all on the OP because he never told his fiancee that the younger sister was frequenting his place as often as she was. In fact, the sister had started to lie about her own whereabouts and the OP never stopped her. There will always be temptation but people in committed relationships need to avoid the temptation. The OP should've avoided temptation at all costs. Do not put his shortcomings on the fiancee.

You should be giving your advice to me the OP. You don't need to quote me to do that.

Oh yes, it's the OP's responsibility to keep his D in his pants, and also avoid placing himself in any tempting scenario. But it's also the fiancee's responsibility to do whatever she can to keep her man away from temptation (this responsibility goes both ways in a flipped situation so there's no stereotype here).

The summary of the point I tried to make was that the fiancee trusted her man just too much and the OP ignorantly trusted his 'self discipline' too much; trusting oneself to be sufficiently disciplined is usually the beginning of all f**kups.

I see several persons celebrating this, but I'm not sure I really understand how breaking of prisons, releasing inmates and unleashing anarchy in Igboland is a positive move against the bias of the Fulani govt.

Sometimes these people truly reason like animals! So with the screaming numbers of Benue people slaughtered by marauding herdsmen in recent times, with the numbers of Benue villages razed down by these miyetti allah foot soldiers masquerading as cattle sellers, the head of miyetti allah is still foolishly asking why the Benue people hate them?

UsmanFodio:
Message is complete when the recipient understands the information you are trying to pass, else it is considered a noise.

You're right, it's noise to you cos you're not the recepient.

iRepNaija1:
OP, you should let Grace go honestly. Things like this just don't happen. You wrote a whole novel explaining the lead-up to how you slept with your fiancee's sister. And the excuses you come up with to try and rationalize it, haba. OP, you had options:

1) Go to a friend's house
2) Ask Abigail to leave your house
3) Tell Abigail you're not home
4) Don't answer the door
5) Tell Grace to kindly ask her sister not to visit as often
6) You didn't need to share a blanket with her
7) You didn't need to put your hand on her thigh

You wanted it to happen. You wanted to sleep with Abigail ever since you noticed her body had developed. You had so many choices and you chose this path. If you're going to take responsibility, at least own it properly.

The point of being in a relationship and/or marriage is that you make the active choice of forsaking others for the person you have chosen. You avoid compromising situations like this. OP, you even said that you can't do any better than Grace and you still put what you have with her at risk. And what's worse, you are trying to blame her by saying she's too trusting. For goodness' sake, Abigail is Grace's sister, her flesh and blood. Who else in this life is she supposed to trust?

You're not providing any benefit to Grace but not telling her. You're just trying to protect yourself from the fallout and the cheating you committed. Someone who was willing to leave his then-girlfriend because she was allegedly doing shakara but you're forcing her to stay with you after you fûcked her sister. Nonsense.

No need for all these long holier than thou blames. The truth is simple, if you place two mature adults of the opposite sex in close proximity for long enough, as long as the person isnt gay, pant must drop! This has nothing to do with discipline cos no human (not even you) has that discipline; No amount of discipline can stop this one, that kind of discipline just doesnt exist.

The mistake the Op made was permitting the wife's younger sister to be at his place all the time; the wife also made a gravely naive mistake of permitting her sister to be that close to her husband.

In this situation, I wouldnt advise the OP to tell his wife cos the damage would be too emotionally disastrous and outright heartless, especially since the person involved is her sister. What has happened has happened; life has to continue, what happens in Vegas, should stay and die in Vegas! The best the OP can do is never to ever ever ever let it happen again and the ONLY WAY to achieve this is by consciously staying far far far away from the wife's sister; there should never be a time when both of them should be alone within the same apartment.

saphiere:
It will never be well with Davido if he does not do the needful.

This is for every girl out there to learn a lesson

What exactly is the needful here? Marrying baby mama 1, 2, 3 or 4? Meanwhile I heard Chioma is like No 3 or 4.

kingsvictor2:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2015/03/ill-make-naira-equal-in-value-to-dollar-says-buhari/
www.nairaland.com/attachments/13324337_tmpcam441308784_jpegd844d00a97c36119df966045d981dc24

Femi is fond of spewing irresponsible gibberish, but he's right on this one; Buhari never made that statement about turning N1 to $1. That was just a rumour generated by irresponsible journalism. The title of that Vanguard report was totally different from the content of the report.

Buhari - “It is sad that the value of the naira has dropped to more than N230 to one dollar; this does not speak well for the nation’s economy,’’
Report Title - "I will make 1 naira equal to 1 dollar"

The journalist who coined the title of that report knows too well that black men don't read or analyse beyond headlines; that explains why of the numerous failures of the govt that can be criticised, it is just this false report we're still arguing 6 years after..

AMvanquish:
The bad belle and hating on this thread is sickening and embarrassing..
Folks who went to school that should be able to read between the lines , but here you are spilling hate cos of someone's hustle.
Some are being even tribalistic , talking like Dangote started his business 5 years ago in Lagos..
Very disappointing....

I swear, whenever Dangote's name is mentioned, you tend to see pure undiluted witchcraft and wizardry in public display. One begins to wonder whether it was Dangote that stopped their government since the last 40 years from building new or maintaining existing refineries and petrochemical plants. Tufiakwa!

ScamHunter:
Some of us warned Benue and Southern Kaduna people in 2014 of the calamity of voting APC but they, like Yoruba shouted Sai Baba. Today, Fulani agenda is on course just like the German Machine of 1914. This is the consequence when a people lack foresight to the point of empowering an enemy bent on destroying them. Imagine being trapped in a room with a 12 foot King Cobra. That is the closest present scenario. Even if they're unable to eliminate Ortom, they'll surely plant their stooge like they did throughout the South after Ortom is gone in 2 years. What I find intriguing is that they do not even care that these are regions that handed Nigeria over to them. They're still bent on destroying them. Imagine the US Consulate in Lagos recognizing the Sarkin Fulani in Lagos Yorubaland. Doesn't that tell you that what Mr Igboho is saying that Lagos is conquered by Fulani is correct? Reminds me of the British recognition of the Emir of Ilorin instead of the Balogun who had even grown more powerful than the Emir when the British arrived Ilorin. You see, it'll take having men like Igboho and Kanu rally the natives, otherwise, this country is already gone.

And the solution to this Fulani problem is for Benue and Kaduna people to have voted PDP, because you believe Fulani militia were not also killing them in their thousands under PDP rule?

Nothing personal, just politics! If his hands were completely clean, there would have been no basis for his 'political enemies' to unseat him.

Righteousness2:
Pray with an open heart!
And ask the LORD to open your eyes of Understanding!
Follow Events ! You will see and Understand!

Which action of the pope exactly made you think he's a false prophet and you are a true one?....

You prayed and God opened your eyes that another Christian is evil, wicked and antichrist?

You and all these your cele, cherubrim and igbe antics; only knowing how to see vision of how people are bad and evil. You guys are the ones tearing families and communities apart, telling how the mother or uncle is the one responsible for your client's problems. I'm not surprised!

Righteousness2:
Revelation 3:15-16
15 I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot.
16 So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.

You can't be with GOD and be an advocate for Evil and Wickedness. That is Confusion.

You either Stand Fully for GOD and HIS Word or you do other wise. Being in the middle is Confusion and Disatrous!

These are Last of the Last days! Stand out bodly For JESUS Christ! There is no other way!

The Catholic Church has some Honest , bold and truthful Servants committed to GOD but the Present pope by his doings and actions fits the bill for the False Prophet of the antichrist...

What exactly do some of you purveyors of religion really have against the pope?

phylshan:
Deputy Speaker of the House of Representatives, Idris Wase has declared Nigerians in the Diaspora have no right sending petitions to the House on issues happening in Nigeria.

Specifically, he said they have no right to complain about insecurity since they don’t live around.

Wase, who represents Wase Federal Constituency, Plateau State, said this at a plenary last Thursday while sitting in for Speaker Femi Gbajabiamila.

He said Nigerians who sit in their comfort zones abroad are not eligible to file petitions against the Federal Government on issues regarding insecurity.

He spoke when a lawmaker, Mark Gbillah, representing Gwer East-Gwer West constituency of Benue State, attempted to submit a petition filed by Mzough U Tiv Amerika on insecurity in Benue, Nasarawa and Taraba.

Gbillah had explained he was submitting the petition on behalf of MUTA because indigenes of the affected states had been sacked from their ancestral lands.

Before he could speak further, however, Wase, who is of the ruling All Progressives Congress, said: “Honourable Gbillah, did you say Tivs in America? What do they know about Nigeria?

“What is their business? They can’t sit in their comfort zones and know what is happening in Nigeria.”

The Deputy Speaker argued Nigerians abroad have no rights to file a petition on the crisis, stating that it would be understandable “if this petition is coming from those who are within the country.”

Gbillah argued that Nigerians abroad should be able to file complaints because they have family members residing in the state.

Wase quickly countered by asking if MUTA was duly registered with the Corporate Affairs Commission.


But Gbillah responded by saying Section 40 of the constitution does not stop citizens from freedom of association.

Gbillah argued that Nigeria had been pursuing a policy of inclusiveness for its citizens in the Diaspora, an aim that would easily be defeated if the same category of Nigerians cannot be allowed to speak on raging matters of national concern.

“I’ll refer you to the functions of the committee on Diaspora, if you go through that, it is nothing relevant to what you’re now presenting, I’m not convinced that we have to take that petition,” Wase said.

Gbillah’s petition was subsequently rejected without any opposition from any member in the chamber

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://thenationonlineng.net/nigerians-in-diaspora-have-no-right-to-complain-on-insecurity-wase/amp/&ved=2ahUKEwjzgaDOrrLvAhXHTBUIHeoCA94QFjAAegQIARAC&usg=AOvVaw0PKGOaaMJDeLAzhtx4SD0z&ampcf=1

I watched the video of the proceeding and was utterly irritated by the daftness oozing out of the so called Deputy Speaker.

KosiGee:
Calm down mister. Not everyone will find this story funny.
I laughed till he saw the landlord’s daughter and the ‘three bats’...mosquitoes. Rubbish. He exaggerated a bit too much and it took the shine out of the story....then the dog coming out from the cage and chasing him and his friend!....

You believed this story?? Did you find it funny?

No disrespect to the op and all those who liked the story...

The script was badly done and it was childish.

Take it easy man, it's not that deep. The OP didnt claim his story was factual, and he didnt tell you he was a professional writer or story teller, so please save your needless criticism for elsewhere.

Talking of childish, you're actually the one who sounds childish for inferring that those who enjoyed the story believe it to be m factual. The very fact that you couldn't recognise a fictional story, but rather think it's a poor job because of some exaggerations, that already exposes how unqualified you to judge any art.

BSdetector:
Lol... rEaD mORE bOoKS on h0w tO bE a sUcCeSsfUL bUsInESs mAN....lmao.

The government issued licenses for little modular refineries produce at a really small scale but gave a highly subsidized loan and support to dangote to build and construct a single refinery in one location that would meet the petroleum needs of Nigeria and would still remain for exports... virtually making dangote the largest producer giving him a monopoly over price because he can easily crush the small modular guys because he produces x100000 of what they would produce combined... it's either you're ignorant or you're a mallam but I won't drag this argument any further.

Dangote wasn't the only one who got those subsidised loans and support from govt; all those building refineries today also got similar favours cos building a refinery (which successive regimes have been unable to do) takes off an enormous burden off the shoulders of government.

Dangote just happens to be the best at taking advantages of these kind of offers; he knows how to stroke the balls of govt., which explains why he's always being supported by all administrations, irrespective of party, tribe, religion, ethnicity etc. Even if you were president of Nigeria today, you will also desperately give all support to Dangote to ease your burden.

Ujahson85:
Before going to the East for my marriage introduction, I was skeptic because of what people do say about marriage in the East(Igbo land). But to my surprise the list giving to me was far from what people do say. Their marriage also wasn't as expensive as some part of Benue state where I came from. I was giving 3 list to choose from one or the one that is best for me.

There isnt a general rule to marriage lists. One tiny community might have their list running into millions; the next community less than 15mins drive away would have a list which N50k would fulfil. Even within community level, it depends on the family; family 'A' might cut your neck with costs but family 'B' (both neighbours within same village) would give you their daughter literally for free. Lastly, in most places, marriage lists vary depending on how wealthy they perceive the suitor to be. So if you like, drive to your in-law's place in a G-Wagon; you will probably get a commensurate list.

Kebbiprince:
Which future, when Britain is fast losing its economy, don't be deceived, stolen money maintains the UK

Uhmmm, massive industrialisation is what sustains the UK, dont be decieved too. By the way, I'm not sure how these fit into the bizarre exchange rate of £1 to over N5000 .

Hmm... never knew £1 = N5,270.... Could these Punch editors be seeing the future?

Gilbertase:
the sacrifice isnt him leaving, it is the trail he left when he was leaving. If my fathet says, dont marry this woman and i stand my ground and go ahead and marry her, it is better for me, than to go ahead and marry her and intimate the whole country while doing all that about how my family sucks. The NOISE is where he was very very unwise. Who the hell ia OPRAH wey he dey report the royal family to? Why would he insult his own heritage like that for a woman who isnt even cohesive with HER OWN family?

Oga, you aren't a member of his family and you and I haven't got a clue what he goes through. He's been lamenting and subtly rebelling against the family way back before he even met his wife; he's also previously lamented what his mom went through in the family. With all this as public knowledge, you still think his current actions are a fallout of the wife he married just yesterday?

Like I said, he wears the shoe and knows where it hurts.

Gilbertase:
what you dont understand is in the very very near future, she will leave this marriage too, and only then will Harry learn just how shameful it is to publicly villify your own family and heritage, a heritage that preceeds his great great great grandfather, because of babe. He should ask himself what earth-moving sacrifice that Meghan has made for him to warrant this sacrifice he has made. Woman wey i go do this for, maybe she go gats dash me like 7 of her vital organs..and even then, i wont bring the british royal family to public ridicule, i will simply do whatever i want to do without making any NOISE.

Silly lies and excuses..they didnt accomodate you, but they allowed you marry the prince, they were present at the wedding, they formally acknowledged your child. If they didnt wanna do any of these who will challenge/question the head of the freaking great Britain!? Her own family dey dysfunctional, she dey complain about another family. Same family that raised the man she wan die on top put. Harry will soon realise his folly, and na here we go read am, when the soup don done. Wetin concern Meghan with sanctity of marriage??

What sacrifice did he make? Leaving the royal family, the wealth, the prestige and all the toxicity and depression that comes with it? Do you realise there are people who actually just prefer a quiet simple life?

Not everyone fancies all that boring royal lifestyle (which so many out there like you admire from afar). Prince Harry has never really comformed to the royal life, so with or without Meghan, he didnt seem like someone who ever wanted all that royal burden.

Arrant nonsense!

Matawalle claims he's aware of some politicians and elites who are involved. Instead of naming the damn politicians, he's calling out a gate man?

Bola146:
1 million kill you there na by force

1 million to chop ram suya

MummyD2020:
Oga, you and I know very very well that is was not this bad. You are the one suffering from amnesia. IT WAS NOT THIS BAD. Acknowledge that

Over 300 kids were kidnapped in Chibok and thousands of other lives were wasted on a regular but you think the man was wrong for speaking up against insecurity then? So because the kidnapping is higher now, are you saying those who criticised or protested against the insecurity and loss of lives then were stupid simply because it was ONLY 300 that were kidnapped?

HotPoundedYam:
oga we gather match det time. come and lead us,
make Dem test their bullet 4 yourh body

You want 90 year old man thats been protesting and taking bullet and sleeping in prisons since the 60's to also come and protest for you? #LazyYouth

MummyD2020:
Someone should remind this man that he is part of the problem when he supported Buhari. So he should enjoy the change. Mteeewwwww

What even prompts this manner of reasoning in people? Did we not have large scale kidnapping under GEJ's time? Or are we just suffering from selective amnesia? The man criticised the govt then for insecurity, and now the man's still criticising govt for insecurity. But I guess you'd have felt better if he had remained quiet then and licked the ass of GEJ.

inoki247:
Lead wetin he don rent appartment for DSS Lodge be that...

Himself know say he no be like olden days wey he dey go Ojota go du Occupy Nigeria occupy anything now dem go du am any how...

That man you try to insult from the comfort of your laptop has been leading protests since the time of your grandfather, even under some of the harshest military regimes. The man has also spent years in prison as a result of protest. Yet at 90 years old, you want to insult him for not protesting for your lazy self?

slimjosh231:
Okay Prof, we hear you. The question is, are you going to lead the protest??

Man has been leading protests since the time of your grand father, your father and in your time. Yet you want the 90 year old man to still lead protests for you in 2021? Is that how useless the youths of Nigeria are that everything has to be done for them?