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Topup,
I quite understand you. I am not taking offence. Keep it up.

Seriously, I need problems! But not the kind that deepzone want to offer! Her own won't allow me to pursue more problems again. I read about her and one Northern guy and how the guy had been running about, trying to remove the wahala.

On a serious note, great men ask for challenges. They ask for problems (not troubles o) and they solve problems. When a man get to a point where he think all his problems are solved, then, it is clear he is useless to the growth of the community. Communities develop, but face their challenges and solve them. In so doing, they become better and better.

So who is afraid of having problems?

I goes with $$Rhino, she may not even know the meaning of the words. One thing I can tell you is that she can be real. Don't run away from here just like that. All you have to do is get to know her better. If she is in love, the relationship will grow. If not, it will manifest. Just play along and see what she is up to. You may be lucky to find true love.

Just don't lead her to your bedroom until you are sure you know her. By the way, I am assuming you are a grown up guy. Ok?

What is your definition of pretention? What does lying and double-dating got to do with pretending?

You see, you can be yourself and still double-date, lies. You can also pretend and tell the truth, and remain faithful to your partner. It is relative.

Whether you pretend or not, your real nature would eventually come out.

Sometime, I think it is good to pretend when you are investigating someone. It depends on the circumstance. However, I hate chamelons!

Doyin13,
nice to know you are still around. What would you add into the guy's Eko?

@poster,
you didn't say much about your background. Tell us a bit about yourself and your past r/ship. Any umpleasant experience or unusual upbringing,

It would be easier to know your problem that way.

Analyse what?

Why are you afraid? Are your family members tribalists? What about his famiy?

Tell us more. Tribe shouldn't be barier to love. But when it is likely to be, when it is likely to tear you apart, then don't even start what you know you can't finish.

Hmmm?

Hmmm

what if 20 something guy actually read newspaper but with closed mind?

Fallacy!

Lol

i am looking for better problem jo. Anyway, I thought agony aunt ought to help with the no-problem?

By the way, is deepzone a problem? If yes, pass it on!

Na wa o! Deepzone! You failed the first test of wisdom. Sorry!

Topup,
I hope you aint the poster of that statement. I pray not, 'cos you would soon join deepzone.

Take a look at my words and analyse them again. Draw inspiration from them.

I wonder why deepzone enjoys vomiting negative words as if she has no vein connecting her mouth to her brain.

When you replied a harmless post by calling the poster SILLY, it either show the depth of your understanding or your just enjoy attacking people. You don't even know me!

Anyway, I am cool!

But if the woman want to return, he must try and win her confidence and find way of drawing closer to her. It is not right the her mother run her home anyhow. The mother might be the one urging her to burn candles and speak like witches. The trouble with that young family is not going away after their reunion. It would remain as long as the wife continues that way. I am sorry for the man for having such creature as wife.

Morality is useless, when the heart is unforgiving, corrupt, and turbulence.

Ha! That is serious o! Please tell the husband to let the wife go! I don't see much usefulness in re-uniting with her if she is what you just said.

I think the rape case is a blessing in disguise. Let the man forget her and stop sending people to her. Two things can happen:
1. The wife would long to return to him when she is tired.
2. The two of them may part permanently, which is a blessing anyway.

He should act as a man and give her ultimatum to return home after which he should close her chapter for good. Believe me, that husband should count himself lucky. If they married in court, then let the go their way. If it is traditional, then it make thing easier.

Anyone that resort to spiritual means to settle score is dangerous. I can't even bear to live with her.

To be on the safe side, the husband must NEVER fight her again or exchange word with her. If she come to forment trouble, he should just be calm and avoid stepping on "Iya oshoronga". I am sure the lady can go to any length to deal with him if he is not careful. He must however start praying fervently to ward off any occultic attack on him.

Above all, in the light of your last post, I suggest he let sleeping dog lie. No more begging. Let her go!

From what I read, the lady indicated the man is unwilling to marry the pregnant woman.

Dear agony aunt,
Please I am in deep problem.

My major problem is that I have no problem. Please help!

Filis,
I don't know what it mean. Maybe the yoruba guys can help.

Rolemodel or postmodel?

Whatever, who is a rolemodel?

From the report I got of the man, it is evident he is charming the women. It was garthered that he is a tradomedical practioner whose clients are mostly women. He won't find it difficult to get another wife as long as the charms are working.

It is a pity that many people that opposed moderate polygamy are now lining up behind this man and treat him like a hero of sort. Rather than protecting him, he should be sent to have his head examined. Responsible people should condemn his action instead of treating him with red carpet.

It is sad that some of those children would be "imported" to lagos to lead lowly life alimanjirs are known for.

So why is the NASS quiet? Are they saving it as impeachable offence that can be use to oust the president in future?

Hmm,
the wrong people? How are you so such you are right? Definitely, you must have missed a point. Maybe it you using the wrong approach. From your post, it is evident why you can't have a steady relationship. Gosh! It seem you always expect to fail, and you are reaping your expectation in great quantity.

Change of attitude, character and mentality would change your circumstance. Regardless of the people around you, your situation is greatly defined by who you are and NOT who they are.

WHEN YOU STOP WEARING MASK, YOU WILL START SEEING WHAT YOU TRULY ARE.

Be wise!

No one had said it better. Nice one from Ayo.

Profesional prostitutes are AIDS free, yet they conduct their trade in undignifying manners.

Seriously, polygamy isn't about AIDS. Sorry.

Tell me something better! The man is bewitched though. His need medical examination.

Lol

ban, ban, ban!

Then God help Nigeria!

There are two difference law in Nigeria. The Lawless Law and The Animal Law.

Rule of law my foot. Yar'adua is the most confused president in the world today.

I doubt if he is the one ruling Nigeria.

New face of cheating! What a husband!

I found that guy a player. He is eating his cake and having it.

The creditor must have reason for that action. I am sorry for the bride. Though I think the creditor should have handled it differently. It is a bad omen and would haunt the bride and groom for life.

I don't see much breakthrough in it!

It is an attempt to criminize women folks.

Do you really need advice?

Do unto others what is done unto you!

That is the only way to show you mean business.

Well, women must stop turning their properties, and business to their husband. The best any wise woman should do is to do it in both names. Or better still, in the name of the kids.

Even though I am a man, I believes, it is wrong for lady to hand off everything she owe just like that. Just for love. Without trusting the husband. I think it is a great mistake. A cheat of a husband for that matter.

Please do what I asked you to do. Let him follow you about. Let him ridicule himself. People will do justice on your behalf when they start seeing how foolish he is.

4 month is not enough?

Cnnigeria,
that is neither provocation nor injustice. Your case is very common. Serious, though.

Most children fell in the wrong side of life because their parents insist on taking certain decision for the children that ended badly. Yet, we know that many children had become great because their parents "forced" them to do things that made them great. It is relative.

When there is a clash between a grown up child and parent, then it must be dealt with with utmost maturity. Admittedly some parents are stubborn and are only interested in their own good.

Sometimes, they tend to reason in the light of their own growing years forgetting that time changes.

My suggestion to you is to sit your mum down. Don't fight her. I did the same when I was faced with that situation.

Ask her:
why she think the particular lady is best for you and what she saw in her.
Why she imagine that your feeling don't matter.
What she will do if you marry the lady and ended up having problem with the lady. Will she be happy?
Why she think you are not grown up enough to know who you love etc

Keep her busy with questions that would make her think deeply. Let her know it is not in your interest , or hers for you to have a broken home. You must also realize that you are taking responsibility for any choice you make.

Evaluate your lady, if she is what you want, then you have to "sell'' her to your parents. Try your dad or an elderly who can influence your mum. Let them trash it. Talk, listen, to them. But DO WHAT YOU THINK IS THE BEST FOR YOU.

@iice,
that is great!

Is taking the email addresses off nairaland the solution?