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Chai uv got vibe man! Wud like us roll.

God save us men

you need injection as drugs only dnt wrk. so dnt waste ur time,money and risk ur organs. go to health centre or experienddced chemist. as for her, take her xhere you treated and cure. you can blaim it on toilet infection. beside, you can never bet ur heart on a lady.

[quote author=badboyTee post=109387109]After defaming my guy that he his a criminal this guys still have the authority to come beg him to pay now

See their message on what sapp

"From L CREDIT

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OR

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PAY THROUGH THE APP OR REQUEST FOR THE ACCOUNT NUMBER AND PAY NOW !!!

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Nairalanders should he pay or not after what they done [ahahaha they are to the wrong dude! the send letter of apology to all your contact firrt!]

Ogt1:
Good day Nlers?

I have a teaching job which pays 30k monthly for now. I am not paying for an accommodation as I have a free accommodation presently.

I got a contact who connected me to a proprietor in cote d'ivoire who needs teachers. He said the pay will be 90,000cfa monthly. He offers to allow me stay in the school residence for a period of 6 months till I find my own residence.

I want to know if 90kcfa will be enough to live comfortably in cote d'ivoire after paying for house rent which I inquired is paid monthly and can be as high as 30k-50cfa monthly.

Will this be a better move than the 30k job I have presently?

How much is 90kcfa in naira?


Kindly advise.

Thanks.

yes you go and sufer.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

"if the foundation is destroyed what will the righteous do?"First take charge of your emotion because you are more likely to say and do things you will regret in no time. Secondly, do not involve family and friends they will ignoratly destroy the marriage. Thirdly, the solution is(1) therapeutic and (2)spiritual. You need two reputable professionals(1) psychologist/guidance & counselor (2) Man of God. You both need visit this places. Lastly monitor his progress. Do not forget the bedroom skills. Cheers!

ngoziwrites:
So, I met this great guy online. After 2 weeks, we met in person and everything was perfect.

It's almost 2 months since we have been together.

He asked me out while we were together and I gladly said yes. (I have met a lot of players�). So while we were together, a discussion popped up and he said he can't discuss anything related to marriage until after 6 months. I pretended not to hear.


I don't know his financial capacity but I know he is doing okay. He controls the family business. They sell trucks, trailers and all. He is also a landlord in one of his father's houses at Festac. We stayed at a hotel. 25k per night. He paid for 2 night and I paid for one night. But during these times, we went to his house.

He said he didn't want me to come to see his place because it's the first time. And he said the house is very hot too.


Our communication is great but he doesn't look like he wants marriage soon. He has said things like marriage is hard work. He has also said in 10 years time, people will hardly be getting married.

Then one night, we were talking and he said I "see my wife as my responsibility"
I will take care of her and of cos, I am okay but I will still be very very rich, so I can't bring in any woman to suffer now" .. That's what I am sure I heard but I was scared to ask him to explain further or repeat himself.

He is actually okay, he has two cars but importantly, he has sense and he is very hard-working. But he is very principled and we have actually had several instances where he doesn't pick my calls at night. It happens often but I am starting to trust him, because sometimes I call by 5am and he picks and says he slept off. Sometimes we would be chatting on WhatsApp and after I call him 20 minutes later, he won't respond. He is not married!

So, I currently earn 450k monthly and I have been able to save something meaningful, so I can start a good business before getting married or after. I haven't stated because I don't know which one yet. I started a restaurant business when I was 23 but it failed.

If I ask him and he says 1 year, of course, I can wait. I will be 26 years next year April.

We will seeing for the 2nd time next week. I plan to ask him when he sees himself getting married but I am scared and the way he carries himself makes me reluctant to ask such.

About two weeks ago, I wanted to even surprise him with gifts. I asked for his account number and office/home address. (He picked me up the last time I traveled to see him, so I don't know the address". Well, he didn't give me these details. He said when it's time I will have them.


Two days ago, he said a friend's younger brother is getting married. He laughed and said people just dey marry. He has once asked me "You dey find husband?" jokingly-

I would like to settle before 27. Is it bad that I am thinking this way? If he says he is looking to get married in 2-3 years, i think it's a bit far. 2023 is still fine. But the problem is he doesn't really sound like marriage is on his mind. He will be 32 next year April too.

We vibe a lot. But he says I love you sparingly. Sometimes I say it and he doesn't respond, he will say tomorrow I will tell u or no, I told u yesterday.

But we are really really cool. I like him a lot and he likes me but I think I like him more. He gives me attention, I don't have to ask.

If I was 23, I won't have a problem waiting 3-4 years. But since I am ready mentally, financially, I am looking for someone who wants it within 6 months to 1 year. I can still try to do 2 years if I get someone great.

You see the problem. You need to ask yourself when you want to marry and not him. You are even thinking of marrying a guy you are not free to out your mind with, all because of what you hope to benefit. Just calm down o

Meektunz:
I did a DNA test and found out that my first child isn't mine. But my major concern is how i can confront her because she is a drama queen & can do anything like destroying my house and other unpredictable things. Confronting her with the result has to be far away from the house. Someone said i should tell her that we are going to visit her parents and when we get there i can let the can out of the bag and let her remain there. But my fear is that she can go any length just to make my life miserable or even to hurt me. How best can i handle this?

See this were, your wife is currently cheating on you with other men! Come, an old uncle use to tell say, "if you dey fear make neibour no hear una, your wife go carry you do yeye"

You have commited adultery and worse you concerned about how the reaction of her husband would be rather than what God's reaction would be.

Firemanromance:
It's been on my mind for sometime now, but am starting to get really really scared now.

Been divorced 9 years now.
I never saw any need for a woman again, even sex did not come to my mind. All I wanted to do was just take care of my children and that was it.

About 4 years ago, I had a major project that made one of the new generation banks send one of their staff to my office frequently, she was married.
It was the first time I took noticed. We struck out well,had a very good rapport and we liked each other. After about 3 months, she would look for an excuse to spend time at my home till late in the night.
The job passed without any issues.

From then on, I noticed most of the ladies around me were married. Business and friends, if I was not having a boy's night, I would probably be either in a movie center or at the beach or somewhere and the companion would be a married woman.

Last month I got another job, for a very different company.
The inspection agent happened to be a woman, married.
When we moved to site, her room was next to mine. Since I was already alert, I changed accommodation with my relive 4 cabins down, just to put some space between us.
It has started again, she is the one that brings my food from the mess room.
She comes to hide in my cabin saying she doesn't want to mix with drinkers and smokers, and me I am a professional chimney with PHD in the matter, when I tell her that I'm a chimney, she would fine excuse that am cool and jovial.
Last week the unthinkable finally happened,
3 times.
And it looks like she likes my style.
Captain called both of us this morning to ask if anything was going on as it was against company rules.
We said no, but it looks like people already know.

Am scared and don't know what to do.
We both have the same rotation cycle, same period on site and off-site.
I don't want this one coming to my house, her husband's rank can land both of us in very hot oil

Let me guess, Ops you are kidding right? Now this is the thing, you love this girl and probably contemplating spending your life with her. The prob is she most probably don't love but sees you as a leverage to make good of her life. She manipulates you with coded lies and prolific sex to do her bidings. Don't think you can guit her into believing she owes you gratitudes, rather she believes is rewarding you with good sex. Marry her at your peril.

yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

It all depends on your long time goal. Do you wanna advance your academics and create a future for tomorow or you just looking for money to survive right now while you hope tomorow shall be give you what it wishes.

Witnesstony28:
I am faced with the choices of staying at my present place of work or doing my bike business full-time.

If you remember I narrated how my place of work is under paying me (30k/month) and I was able to save 10k on monthly basis from it and I got a loan from my girl's mum and added to get a bike to ride after work (a secondary School).

I stay in the School compound without paying rent and others utility bills.

So on the 1st of this month the owner called and told me that because of the School reputation, they wouldn't want their teacher doing bike work and that it's either I resign from the School or drop the bike (alternatively I should find someone's going to do the bike business for me and bring me returns).

At The initial point I wanted giving it to someone, but on a second thought, I decided to do it by myself cos one person I asked to do it was telling me he will pay 1k/day meanwhile when I go out after work, I normally make like 2k - 3k from 3pm to 6pm and the guy is telling me he will remit 1k for working from 7am to 6pm.

Now I need advice on this. Cos I have been thinking of quiting and focusing on the bike work for the moment. I make way pass 6k on a good day but at that school we are paid 1k/ day.

My only challenge now is getting accommodation to pack out and focus on my stuff. I have also thought about entering into transport business since I started this bike work and I also intend going into delivery business too.

Pls what do I do?

Lalastica pls can you help me post to FP so I could get more opinions.

Thanks .

Please turn it down Doski

We need join hands with the authorities to hunt SOBs down!

Singles just be careful of these ladies. They aint interested in marriage. All but to get babies of you, move out under the guise of domestic abuse and sleep around for money, fun and fame. You see them everywhere, you are cautioned o.

This malams can't stand you talk to their hijaby sisters but go after Christian girls. Its unfortunate she died foolishly!

saphiere:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/dailypost.ng/2021/11/30/adamawa-youth-remanded-for-impregnating-girlfriend-killing-her-with-abortion-drugs/%3famp=1

You have already intuited the smart decisionnbin your lasts paragraphs so why are here to get confused advised? post=108063633]Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise[/quote]

Bro don't mind this fool. Adults don't change,they transform. One thing am sure of is that, if you allow emotions to ride your judgement and you marry this lady, tears, regrets and insecurities awaits you.

chatinent:
Huncle, you separated and the hanty tapped current outside, it's damn legal. She didn't cheat...she owed you no loyalty then. You weren't dating while you separated! Don't get me wrong, I aint taking sides. I also understand some people are notorious for cheating...like na follow-come.

What's cheating is when you both are together.

All you need do is cool down tell am to block off the dude since you are back again.

By the way, I don't support her lying it is her customer. Some lies girls mah dey lie to protect dem current relationship, dem no know say na grenade and when man find out, e fit hard to add up..which breeds suspicion and distrust.

You should be more interested in more important things as you both medical and spiritual compatibility and miscibility.


Make I poke your bubble small..whether you are betrothed, dating, or engaged, you are still single unless you are married. Yes, na me talk am.


Inasmuch as I don't support distant relationships beyond national boundaries at all, if I feel I must leave the country, baba, when I balance in a year or two kindof, I go kuku come marry am...cos the same way you dey feel she fit dey cheat there is the same way she mah go dey feel how you go see all those petite, smirnoff-shaped, rich, and lovely white girls finish come still marry her mbgekishly.

You sef reason am.

This life na balanciaga.

[quote author=Tenshades post=107510519]You're not alone...

When you don't have money, they won't disturb you at all.

E tire me o egbon!

If its social media flamboyancy, leave me out. I can describe my fb account as dormant. My whatspp is almost resctritely for communication. My SM is Nairaland.

Excuse me if am not in the right Trend. I have observed over time that money hardly laps money in my account. Its like someone calls friends and "friends" to start making demands("borrow","gift","invest" almost immediately i get little cash. I am neither rich nor flashy. Take yesterday for instance, i was thinking of how to meet up with my family Xmas and January school fees financial implications, suddenly an allowance owed me by my work place was paid. I was to say the least, excited because i never expected it soon. This morning, i received a call from a former neighbour whom we had not met and spoke for almost two years asking for a loan of 50k. Am i Fintech and why do i often get calls like this whenever i hope to save a little box in my account. Is it a phenomenon? Am i the only one in the Web? Please am confused!

Northurmate:
Cc: Northeast Reporters

https://www.facebook.com/637228206760552/posts/914095065740530/?app=fbl

you just wasted my 5kb....rubbish

Chai ���

Evidence1000:
My name is David. I'm a 24 year old young man. I'm in my final year in one of the universities in the south west.
I'm addicted to gambling. Like, I can't just help it.

The craze for this thing started sometime last year. It has eaten deep into me that it now dictates my mood. The only time I can be genuinely happy is when I win money from bet9ja virtual. If I should loose, it makes me very sad to the extent that I see myself as a useless person.

I've gone to the extent of using my school fees to play virtual and that of my course mate that trusted me so much. Though, I was able to pay my course mate's fees without her knowing the truth, I'm unable to pay mine till now. I always have this mentality that I will win.

Whenever money enters my hand like this, no matter how little, it is to head straight to Bet9ja shop or online. The urge is usually very strong. Sometimes, it seems like there's a force pushing me to do it.
Before this lock down, I accumulated a debt of over a hundred thousand naira in a Bet9ja shop in my school environment which I'm unable to pay till now.
I know the owner of the shop would be waiting to pick me up with police when I resume. I don't know what to do.

I need help badly. I've prayed to God severally but it's as if nothing is happening. I've even promised God not to play Bet9ja again but I keep on seeing myself still playing it.

Right now as I'm typing this, I just came from a Bet9ja shop where I lost money. Money that is not even my own. Sometimes, I feel like taking my life so that everything will just end but if I remember the pain it would cause my mother, I'll just hold back.

Please for the people that were once addicted to gambling, how did you stop it? Is there any remedy for it because I'm in need of it badly?

I can't sleep at night anymore because I'm always thinking of debts that I've accumulated which has run into over 300,000. All thanks to Bet9ja virtual.

Someone advised me to get a job that would keep me busy so that I won't have time to play virtual but there are no jobs. I don't mind doing any, even if it is a menial job till school resumes.

Please I need your advice. Feel free to bash me because I deserve more than that even.

Please I'd appreciate if you can move this to front page.

Young Man this is no problem at all. I will show you how to be free from it. Its going to practical, and 100% free of charge. I won't have the procedure taken for a stunt here so call me on this number 09016492838 ASAP and let's get started. I was there and my "shoe" was bigger, but now am free, healthier and happy!

sexylassie2:
Anti business Nigerian govt.

Dstv subs in Nigeria are the lowest in Africa.

So the only reason, they put the law was because of startimes a govt company.

They want to collect things for free without paying.

Socialist government, that is why this country will be forever poor.

We know you are DStv employee. But we support our government on this matter!

Mvici:
I Lost Confidence In My Girlfriend The Moment She Asked Me To Marry For My Mother.

I had a girlfriend some few months back before the covid 19 outbreak, that was after we went home from school due to the strike and the pandemic, we both are in the same school which is IBB university lapai, in our final.

So at home this faithful day, I put a call through! We both were talking, laughing on phone, so she ask about my mum, I said she was fine and she now ask abt her loneliness because no one at home, I told her but I'm still here with her, she ask what if school resume and what if we should go for our service next year, she now told me to marry another man for my mum.... lol... telling me who knows" that my mum might like the idea if I should table it with her. Gosh! I actually laughed about it then on phone with her but inside me, it wasn't funny at all.

The next day, what she told me was still bordering me, so many things were just running on my mind...so even if by mistake I wife her in future and the Lord decide to take me when we have a grown up child like me, who is planning on becoming a graduate this year and have even spent 30 years in marriage already....she won't even mourn me for long before accepting another man's proposal or bleeping with another man or probably her one time ex.

I decided to ask my mum with play, mum be sincere to me, you and my dad have been married since far back 1986... U both were in marriage for about 30 yrs before he past away few years ago, may his soul rest in peace..this is 5yrs now are you considering on marrying any one or having any kind of body movement or even can stand the presence of another man in your life?

Guess what her reply was....
Mum said my dad was the only man she know in her life and that's how it going to remain by God grace, period! and I shouldn't ask her such again with cry/smiles on her face because she has me and I will give her groundchil........

Seriously I don't know why I brought this here but pls tell me, any girl that can ask a 52 Year old woman to re_marry even after she has a child, isn't it clear that she can't stay without having sex to anyone as long as her husband is on a peace keeping mission or even travel abroad?

Thanks everyone.

Trust me the girl suggestion sounds normal and innocent. You may feel that way because you can not stand another man being in to mum. Please you may find another excuse to dump her if that's your plan but not this silly shit!

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

Except you beat on her and she feels her life is threatened, a woman who walks away from her home shall always walk away at slightest instance.
This is what you need ;

Direction; do you want her even if she repeats this thread in the future OR not.

Options; by sending her money for the upkeep of the children (feeding, fee, miscellaneous). This will give you moral advantage against her and in people's "court of emotions". This is not optional!

Execution;.by going to beg her to stay OR sneakily remove your children from her and file a permanent separation and custody suit against her.
Do not let emotions and anger overshadow your sense of logical reasoning, Do not be hard on yourself, things like this are part of life. Do not call her be calm and arrive at what you want.

Adekdammy:
http://saharareporters.com/2020/06/22/exclusive-eight-month-pregnant-nigerian-woman-trafficked-lebanon-and-locked-office

This greedy women will get themselves in difficult situations only to win weak men's sympathy with their shabby crocodile tears. To hell with them

mrfranky:
Please Mods help push this to front page i need more advise please...

Have been caught up in a difficult situation. I have been dating this my lovely girlfriend for more than a year now. She is beautiful, humble, kind and a good girl. She is from a good family too. The parents are not too rich just average and doing very well. They are 2 girls and 3 boys and the elder sis is more of a slay queen i.e so beautiful and refuses to marry so the mother is hoping on this my girl to settle down, always encouraging her to settle down.

Now I am 29 years and I really love this girl and she loves me more than i actually love her, always ready to do my biding. She is just 22 and I wish to marry her someday but my finances are low. I have met the father and he said he doesn't need anything from me only things for the kinsmen or whatever but my parents are the opposite. Infact my dad won't even entertain my thought of getting married now because despite am staying alone, i still get small stipends from him monthly so he knows am not financially independent.

To cut the long story short.. My girl is pregnant again after several abortions in the past and she is refusing to take pills. She wants to keep this one and is urging me to come pay her bride price so we can move in together. This was not my dream way of getting married. I don't have a problem with her keeping the child but I just cannot marry now with my monthly salary of 40k which am struggling to feed and pay bills.

Please I need advice.
Pls no insult I knw the abortion act is wrong n never intended for her to take in again but it keeps happening...

Help me please i dont want to lose this lovely princess because she promise to end the relationship if she has to take another pill.

She loves you; yes(clap for yourself)
You love her;yes(clap for yourself)
She is pregnant;yes(clap for yourself)
She refused to abort it(clap for yourself)
Your salary is 40k a month (clap for yourself)

Now listen youth.
Is she a graduate or trade person?
Is she working?
Howe much does she earns in a day or month?

Trust me you are both not ready for life of sorry, regrets and tears now. It is a noooooo nooooo area for now!

diasporaman:
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=3625230554202940&id=100001480944261

Tales that make our girls visionless and indirectional. Their only hope is to one day marry a rich guy they will milk-dry. Weeere

diasporaman:
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=3625230554202940&id=100001480944261

Tales that makes our girls visionless and indirectional. Their only hope is to one day marry a rich guy they will milk-dry. Weeere

Faradez:

Pastor doesn't have name? May you be punished for your blasphemy!

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

What advice do you want from us after you had gone ahead with the wedding? Oh! You us to 'ginger' you to divorce her? You know what youth? Enjoy your Hall of Pain!