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You be grateful to your mother's ancestors. She just told that she is a hoe, then plow with it. Lobatan

TigerTears:
Good day my fellow nairalanders, so I'll just go straight to the point. There's this girl I started dating some months back(like 4 months ago) and we've been doing really really good because she loves me and I love her too and we open up to each other on almost everything we do. She actually told me the reason for her break up with her EX was because she opened up to him that she slept with a guy and it was because she was drunk but her ex couldn't take it and they just broke up. Fast forward to today that she was supposed to come back because she left town to see her sis, she just told me that she has canceled that her ex is coming to pick her up that they want to hang out. I was just confused and couldn't even comprehend what she told me. She said they broke up but they're still friends and anytime he's in town he usually likes that they hangout, and that she'll be with him for like 5 days before she comes back. This is after I've left all I'm doing to travel down and see her, like the journey is roughly 18hrs and she's telling me this. I'm just confused I don't know what to do at this point, please my people help me with some advice please I'm in confusion. Mods please help me push this, I really need help

Frankly speaking I think you are right. When I remember my simpton years and how I was deceived by all and a particular narcissistic, slut of a girl, I cringe and mourn.



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Well spoken bro. The ladies use their mouths, the men their hands. Frankly speaking, most ladies are the provocateurs through emotional and psychological abuse they subject their men to which to me is far grave than physical abuse. Mind you, some ladies physically abuse their husband too. Understand, every man loves his wife most in life, resentment comes in when you persistently demean and undermine his authority. Let those damage women continue to deceive you with Gender Equality nonsense, OYO.

donleo92:
Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?

Your village people at it again

Richsteemit:
Good evening. Have been praying for God to give me a good wife and job. God answered my prayer I got a job last month. But I'm in love with d boss of my work place. She posses everything a woman suppose to have. Guys should I shoot my shot? I know it is very risky. Money is not everything. May be God wants to answer the two prayers at a time

I refuse to be emotional slave to any woman.

MamiTer:
Hello good people of nairaland, I have a pressing issue and I really need your help.

A couple of years back I broke up with my boyfriend whom I really loved due to distance barriers. Getting over him was difficult for me so I had to go into a relationship with one of my toasters in order to get him off my mind.

I achieved my aim after a couple of months but the current guy was unwilling to let go, I didn't love him and couldn't get myself to love him despite trying to. I know I was selfish and opened up to him but he insisted that I would warm up to him with time and grow to love him.

The relationship was far from perfect, I was in it solely for what I benefited but we weren't compatible and it was from one issue to another. We were always at logger heads all the time. He insults me and my family at any given opportunity and talks down on me using secrets I shared with him as leverage each time we quarrel. He shredded my self-esteem.

He was insecure and attacked my male friends at any given opportunity including my lecturers, he would access my social media accounts and send derogatory message to any male contact he feels is making a pass at me.
All these attitudes made me fed up with him and I decided to breakup for good.

Early this year I met a guy online and somehow we vibed together quickly, we met physically for the first time and it felt like we've known for ages. Everything moved so quickly with this new guy that I started developing serious feelings for him. I was scared because I never knew I would feel something like that again after I broke up with my other ex.

This new guy makes me happy and treats me like a woman, anytime spent with him is always memorable and I don't feel like leaving. The chemistry that we share is super strong and everything seems so perfect.

Now to my issue, this new guy is a fresh graduate and not yet stable, I don't have issues with his financial status because he made me realize a Lady can actually be happy without money being thrown at her. But I'm still scared of going all full into the relationship he might go for service and never come back to me. I don't just want a repeat of my previous relationship that got shattered after my ex relocated.

On the other hand, the other guy is hell bent on getting me back, he's been pleading and sending people to beg me even though I told him I've moved on and has even had sex with the new guy but he still wants me back.

I'm confused and don't know what to do, my heart is with the new guy but the other guy is making things so difficult for me and almost driving me insane. Can I still grow to love him?? Though I've been unable to after almost a year.

Should move on with the new guy?? I've known him for barely two months but it seems I've known him for ages, my feelings are exploding and I can hardly control them which is making me scared.

I'm sorry for the long epistle but I had to let it all out.
Please advice me.

Am sorry you have lost already because He recently graduated from the University of Redpillers. Don't worry can always catch another Simp.

orohbiro:
I met this guy last year at the shopping more we became an item, he even bought me iPhone pro max on my birthday he has be showing me care and all that.

But for the past 3 weeks the attention has reduce I think he is seeing another Lady he normally send me money month Ending to make my hair but he didn't send me money this past February he work at a construction company I don't want to loose him and I don't want to fight with another lady because of a man if I find him with any.

What should I do please and getting tired of the whole thing. It took him 2 months to win my heart.

Feminists in action! Mediocre men in silence, don't worry they will destroy you all. As for, I will hold my own!

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IamKizzbrown10:
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Good evening house, need your opinion concerning something that just happened to me yesterday.

This is the thing, there is this young lady who happened to be my colleague at work, not the same office though. I can say we had only spoken once.

She walked to my seat posing like she would tell me something in the ear only for her to kiss my cheek with a smile on her face then walked away.

Other people were around but I guess none noticed. It was weird because nobody had boldly flirted on me like she did.

Please i don't want to just jump into escapades with her, rather I want to know the whys behind her action and what I should do.

Thanks you.

Coward out out of hundreds of them alive efcc could only guts to name the dead.



Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, EFCC, in a statement it issued on Monday, failed to name ‘a top military officer’ it claimed enriched himself corruptly.

In the said release published on its Facebook page, the EFCC said the unnamed military officer acquired several landed properties valued at over N3, 007, 000, 000 (Three Billion and Seven Million Naira) through proxies.

One of such, the EFCC claimed, was late General Aminu Maude.

Other proxies used by the corrupt officer are...https://thecornetnews.com/efcc-hides-name-of-top-military-officer-caught-in-n3-7bn-corrupt-acquisition/[/quote]

Just 3 out of thousands outstanding Nigerians? This country is a scam!


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A Lady slaps a guy proposing to her in the public

What exactly can we called this public embarrassment

Slap the Simp out of son of a bitch!

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Not condoning murder in any way and at the same time against jungle justice too. But if women had kill these men would these idiots talk of setting them ablaze? Men are men's problem in this fake culture.

https://tribuneonlineng.com/man-allegedly-killed-22-yr-old-girlfriend-in-anambra/[/quote]

WeAREallPERV:
Me and my gf have been dating for almost a year. We are often active in sex but i always used a condom anytime we have sex. I love her a lot and i dont want her to get pregnant because both of us are still young & am still serving... But recently whenever we are making out in bed she wants me to put it in without a condom even if it is just for a few seconds, but i always said no because i really do not want her to get pregnant because i know all the precum and stuff. It has happened quite a few times recently but i kept on saying no and we end up using a condom.

I'm afraid i can not satisfy her satisfaction in terms of sex and she may want to break up with me.. ( is there a chance that she would get pregnant if i put it in without a condom just for a few seconds just to satisfy her??

This question is so imbecilic from a do called graduate as you claim to be. Abi e RI nkon ni?

Me often advice young men with this simple phrase 'NO ALLOW ANY LADY USE YOU BORN O" Because many of them ladied are not ready for marriage, all they ma want is kids and liberty to Bleep and extort men them around. OLOSHO

uote author=Abetterperson post=109975278]I don't really fancy married at all, it as to do with my upbringing I never grow up in a stable home and I found happiness when my parents were apart rather than together. I really don't like the idea of marriage because I see it as a cage, mind you im not totally against it I just think it wouldn't suit me, I never grew up in a family home so I don't know how to build one.

A guy asked me out and I agreed only on the condition that we wouldn't get married, he refused saying what's the point of the relationship if it wouldn't lead to marriage, even though I don't like the idea of marriage I do want to feel loved and wanted, I still do want kids and some sort of companionship, as crazy as it sounds I just want a baby daddy, I wouldn't have a child with him because I want to money, nop I'm already trying to establish myself, I really want to be financially independent so as to take care of my kids
Now the main reason I don't want marriage is because of my Independence, I don't want to answer to anyone at all and I know it will be difficult if I'm married to someone because in every marriage there is a level of dependence that is needed to make the marriage work, whether you are a man or woman u don't just do what you like especially when there is a child involved, secondly I'm thinking about the emotional stress my kids will go though if the marriage doesn't work, I don't want my child to grew up with memories of dad beating mum, mum shouting at dad, mum throwing a knife at dad and incase I do divorce I don't want my child to be in a state of depression, thirdly most Nigeria men treat their wives as trash, I Know what I'm talking about they don't value their wives, some see them as property other than an actual human being, some think of their wives as house maids and will refuse to do anything in the house or even allow the woman to get a help, some are also serial cheaters and don't see anything wrong with cheating because as they put it "I be man". Now I know that some women are equally as bad but I'm just stating my concern as a woman after all I'm not going to walk down the alter with a woman by my side.
So that's all I need my Independence, stability and control, people are saying I will regret but I really think it's for the best for me, I feel like I have a lot of time to think as I plan on having children at 28 but I don't know if my opinion will change then.

I'm I stupid for not wanting marriage?[/quote]

Op. Encouraging you to be spiritual itself is a harmless cousel but the fact that over the years inept, unskilled and ill-educated ladies hiding under religion to "catch" gullible young men is disturbing.

Mums instrictively love us, but sometimes If you bow to mum's pressure, you may not necessarily pick a wrong mate, but you are most certain to marry at the wrong time.

Oga hold something before you marry because outside is not easy after marriage o!

Thanks

NwekeUG:
Actor Zubby Michael Receives A Plot Of Land As Gift On His 37th Birthday (Photos)

Popular Nollywood actor, Zubby Michael, marked his birthday on Tuesday February 1, 2022 and has received gifts good wishes from his colleagues in the entertainment industry, IGBERETV reports.

One of his fans, whom he identified as Nana Atiku gifted him a plot of land in Abuja.

Describing the gift as his best birthday gift ever, he shared a photo of himself posing with Nana on his Instagram handle.

He wrote;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CZb_EBjMQG7/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Other Nollywood stars like Mercy Johnson-Okojie, Patience Ozokwor, and a host of many others have hailed the actor on his birthday.

Sharing a video of herself and the actor on Instagram, Ozokwor said,



https://www.instagram.com/tv/CZbONRrp6z8/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

See video below.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CmgLhCYbyns

No wonder the big money splash lately by this actor, could this lady be behind these!

horpe25:
Hello nairalanders,
This is a true story i met this amazing lady last month we exchanged numbers and we started talking and later find out she is married but with that we started dating along the line we fix an appointment to yesterday and she agreed to pay for the hotel and it went smooth but what really shock me is that she told me my stuff is too small i still havent overcome the shock i am since yesterday what should i do should i let her be or we should continue

I don't understand! You are sexing another man's wife and still muster guts to seek counsel here? No wonder this country is backwards, because we have so many inept chimpanzees like this OP! You are cursed with leprosy!!!

Chai! I respect you guy!

I met a girl recently where I went to chill. I got there and ended up not spending a dime for myself. So when I approached her she asked for a plate of pepper soup which I got for her 500 naira. Lol

The next day while we were chatting she told me she was out of data so I transferred 500mb to her from my SIM since I subscribed 40 GB.

PS that's how I transfer data to people daily. Both guys and girls. It depends on the first two people who ask me since there's a limit.

When I went there later she was singing that she was hungry. I didn't wanna answer her because she was beginning to piss me with her beggy beggy attitude lol. After much consideration I gave her 2h to buy snacks and she got it.

Today she told me she's always bored whenever she's at work so I felt I should go check on her. I started taking some bottles of beer while chilling with her. Not long she started telling me how she's damn hungry lol. I jokingly told her she hasn't come to know my house yet o yet she's always telling me to do this or that for her. She just told me "I nor dey come person house". I then asked her "yet you bill people abi?" She said she'd return all I've spent on her. Las las I've collected my money and she has stood up from my table to be alone. In her presence I've bought drinks for two guys.

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Any psych doctor in the house!

if lucky to be recruited, you with your Distinction ND ... you be a Private soldier, i.e no rank. Am an insider

Good

Both the father and son know the bone of contention here. Most likely,they have been caught up in a Love Triangle. Don't trash the red flag for your best interest!

I cring anytime I hear the name Christiana! This girl was a match from hell itself. First: hard to get, second; excessive financial demand, third: inexustible therapeutic lies, fourth: mastery in emotional manipulation, fifth: fucking my colleagues with such a marvelous stealth, six: fucking some members of her family, seventh: confession of witchcraft. She pretends to be Church girl, I swear if this girl stabs you to death her innocent look, lies and tears may make pple still mob your corpse to hell!

oObviousely you are cause of the seperation OLOSHO!

thank you sir!

men are suffering o, are the men right activists in this world?

Did you seek our counsel when you xhere enjoyn ur sexual sin, why trying to drag us into murder sin? Olosho!