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It must be different in the UK because 3 is old for a child that might need early intervention. Is she showing slowness physically or cognitively? She needs to have her Pediatrician recommend testing. Probably bahavioral. Waiting till 3 is not a good idea unless of course you have no other choice. Tell her stay positive and not take no for an answer from doctors. They always claim to know it all but the mother is usually always right. Good luck to your friend.

So you are the first born. That's why they are making shakara. Why don't you take a chinese man the next time you go home and tell them that this is who you will marry no matter what. Make sure he is short, ugly and have nothing going for him. After you insist for one year and fear has really sunk in turn around and bring any Nigerian man even if he is stark raving mad they will welcome him very well. LOL. I am joking o. Don't go and give your parents high blood pressure.

Lady Dee how old are you? You have to consider a few things. I have seen parents reject suitors after suitors until the girl turns 35 and then everybody is wondering what is wrong with her. You parents reasons do not carry water unless they know something and are not saying to spare you some hurt. Otherwise pray on it and use wisdom in making your decision.

First of all someone has shouted over and over again "THEY ARE RATINGS" (whatever ratings means). So these are not only area boys they do not even have the right to arrest anybody. Palmwine you are wrong with the info you got and I can tell you why. The man who gave an interview a few days ago to defend the arogodo man or whatever his name is said that the reason the woman was attacked was that when she was out of the car and saw a whip in one of the men's hand she grabbed it from him and that provoked it. So if their spokesman is saying this then what is this hearsay palmwine is talking about.
What other side of the story do we need to hear. All I know is one woman was beaten mercilessly by three full grown men and stripped naked. The only other side that will begin to make sense is if you say she won the heavy weight boxing championship in boxing for 7 consecutive years and she was fighting one soldier that was 3 feet tall otherwise you are no better than these thugs to try to make sense of their behavior.
At first I was shocked when I saw the video. I honestly could not believe it and then it was just anger and then just ashamed that when they are counting nigerians, they count savage barbarians like this with me. Honestly people should be ashamed to say they come from a country were something like this has happened for almost a week now and not even one government official has come on national tv and said we will not stand for this, we will pursue this to the very end. This video is beeing played on CNN. Somalia and Sudan are even better. Disgrace of a nation.

Leyla sorry. I thought you were leilah. She always is bashing her husband but yet stays with him

chaircover how old is your friend's daughter

BabyJinx abeg don't make me laugh. With everything you have to have a plan especially with money and the family. It does not have to be a strict plan but there MUST be a plan. It seems complicated because you have not tried it. Every few months we go through our plan and make sure everything is still working smoothly and if it is not we redo the whole thing over. The financial part of a marriage really has to be run LIKE a business partnership only this time with love involved.

na2day abeg leave Leyla. She is another world. That her husband is all kinds of things o according to her yet she stays with him. The man must not be that bad abi.

So you want to act like the victim here. You that said you will take a child to Okija shrine and you are talking about someone not being well mannered. You do not even deserve a nice word from anybody. In this day and age were people are making a point to understand better the plight of people and families living with mental retardation and developmental disabilities you come here and make a joke of such a heart breaking and sad situation and even inserted smilie faces into your thread like something is supposed to be funny. You know what, I get it now. You are clueless. You will never get it and for the sake of that child I pray that you never cross his or her path. Mohawkchic can educate you. She is better than me on this issue. I will just spit and walk away from you.

I agree with not letting just anyone around your children. I have already discussed it with my husband. Not even uncles are allowed in my childrens bedrooms. They have no business there.

steve you are a fool. Do you make children? Do you know that this is a very real possibilty? It is no laughing matter and there are people who love their children no matter what. People like you will lock up a child in a room and starve the child to death

If I had millions of dollars I will dedicate a portion of that money to build a jail and prosecute and put those parents in that jail. I will also set up a trust for these children. So sad. The kind of things that people do in the name of religion is terrible. Sometimes I wonder how God will judge. Where will he start. I keep saying that there are various levels of hell. Some parts have to be hotter. The woman that poured caustic soda on her child cannot be on the same level as the person who commits suicide. Some sins should not be forgiven

Lucabrasi you miss my point. I am not blaming the mother that raised a child and then was forced to sell her child into a life of suffering and painful death. I am talking about the traditional leaders and anybody else that kidnapped and sold people. I am not saying that AAs do not do what you say they do, I am saying that it is no worse than what africans do. I don't know what your experience has been with AA's but you seem so angry whenever the topic comes up.

Whatever you do, do not get pregnant again. As soon as this baby comes out get a shot. The man is as ass. Focus on yourslef. If you get worked up, you can hurt yourself and even your baby. He is not worthit. After you have had the baby and had time to think it through then make a decision. The worst time to make a decision is now. God bless you and good luck

You guys are too funny. God help people on this site. Not only are you guys stating the ethnic group but the proffession. Nigerians get bad mouth sha. Anyway I think Yolanda Adams looks somalian, joy Bryant looks Nigerian, Jennifer Hudson will pass for and Igbo chic any day. Cece Winans looks like my former sectional head and her name would have been something like Patience or something like that. Patti L'abelle before the nose job looks like a bini woman and Aretha Franklin looks like one of those old Yoruba women that still hope from one party to the other because they don't have anything else to do.

shotster you can call me insecure all you like but the fact remains that I speak the truth. Slave trade would not have been as successful as it was were it not for the greed of africans in power. Keep fooling yourself. I don't care if it also happened elsewhere. It is irrelevant to me. My father has told me stories of how people were picked to be sold into slavery and my husbands has told me the stories his grandmother told him. The king of the village basically let it be known that every family had to sacrifice a child. So when your time came you know you had to sacrifice your child. If you hid your child you would wish you even sold yourself to the white men. The king got paid and life went on. Only very few villages stood up against the white men. Soulja boy might be stupid but he has said what he said. I chose to call Lucrabasi out because he has made other statements about AA's that I thought were inflammatory. When we say "this is what I do not like about AA's", "they are too into bling" etc the fact is nigerians are veyr much the same way. As a matter of fact we are no different from AA's. When you point 1 finger at someone you point 3 at yourself.

Only in Africa. May her soul rest in peace.

Lucrabasi I am calling you out because you want to use it as an excuse to spread your hate. If he had said thanks to all the africans that sold their brothers and sisters out just for some mirrors and other material things that the white man dis not even consider worth having would you not still have used it as an excuse to insult the fact that he is african american and the reason why you have issues with them. Maybe he should not have said thanks to the white slaves who were happy to take african's off the hands of other africans who did not feel that their fellow humanbeings deserve life like the white man deserves life. Are the slaves in africa today doing better than souljaboy. Souljaboy might be daft and used a bad example but he is not telling a lie.

Lucabrasi abeg be quiet. Is that any worse than Olu maintain glorifying 419 when it has already tainted nigerians overseas irrepairably.

There is this beautiful word in the dictionary. Oh how I love that word. It is simple to say and even easier to interprete. wtf. Tell him NO and if he does not get that then you can always say HELL NO. You better nip this crap in the bud.

He is old enough to be spanked. I have chopsticks that I use. It is small but it does not feel good. He clearly understands what you are saying but he is testing you and testing to see how far he can go. This is an opportunity to teach.

The fact that someone can boldly place an ad like this in nigeria tells you alot about the character and senseless of the people in charge in nigeria

Leilah there is a difference. Those women only have to pick up the phone and call the police. If they choose to stay that's their wahala. Heaven helps those who help themselves

rhodacious thanks for sharing and being honest

2 combined with 4 is definitely a reason not to marry him. I think her family might be up to something. 4 years ke. If they wanted to prove her family wrong then in four years he could have landed a good enough job or a degree to show that he can take care of a family. Love is not everything. While the final decision should rest on those getting married, the family has a right to an opinion but should not force their views on their child.

I can understand your hurt. I think your dad has not dealt with what you did to him. He might not even have forgiven you for the heartache and fear you put him through. I am sure he even felt that he was a failure because of the things you did. I know you have changed but I still understand your dad's apprehension.

Benincity people are waiting to hear how you do it. Abeg teach us this new trick o. I am all ears

Well you said she is getting better fast. I think that they can wait a few more months. I am saying this of course not knowing their story. We don't know if the woman is already pregnant, we don't know if they have already waited a long time etc. I think they should do their best to get the woman there. Hopefully she has a good relationship with her daughter in law