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Ujujoan I have been in the same situation. Two and a half years and he said he was was scared of marriage. He said that we had something wonderful and we should remain together forever unmarried. I was in love with him but saw it as a betrayal because we always talked marriage and then all of a sudden he wants to just shack up. Keep in mind that his mother had a very bitter marriage with her husband and he wa exposed to all of that so that made him scared to marry. He felt that marriage complicates issues and we were perfect the way we were. I left him and even when he came back begging I could not let him back in. Why would I marry someone that would question his decision with every fight or one day say that I pressured him to marry me. 2 years is enough time to find out if you want to be with someone. He has flat out rejected you. Let him go. It will be tough. It will hurt like hell but just let him go.

Even in your house Pennywise. If you raise a vicious dog and invite people over and the dog mauls a child, you could end up in jail. Your friend needs to pay someone to train his dogs to be guard dogs.

The woman knows

There is no domestic thing I do that my husband does not do. I would not have married him otherwise. I know that alot of Nigerian men are like that and they feel that it is their birth right to be useless in the home. I can't imagine such a life. I am not saying that my husband does housework as much as I do because honestly he can think he has cleaned up the kitchen but then I have to go over it again but he tries. I don't need him to wear an apron anf become Martha Stewart but he needs to be useful around the house. My father is no stranger to the kitchen so I can't imagine marrying the kind of man that cannot tell a tomato from an apple. I pray for my mother in law everyday. It is all because of her.I still believe though that if you give anybody (man or woman) the opportunity they would just as soon not do most of these things. So before you jump into a relationship with someone and this is a big deal for you you better deal with that before you say your I do's

There is not one good thing about it.
My husbands mother supported her husband taking a third wife after the second wife left cause she did not want people to blame her for the other woman leaving (Don't ask me how that makes sense)

My Mother's older sister found a third wife for her father because the 2nd wife was getting too cocky but the third wife turned out to be a doormat so it really did not help their situation

The whole polygamy thing is a joke and usually ends up with a lot of dysfunctional issues. Not that monogamy is always rosy but why add extra wahala to it

No love and money do not go hand in hand. Why should they?

makes a lot of sense that it is borrowed from the hausas. Alot of etsako culture is intertwined with northern culture

If something is wrong then it is just wrong. God has given us all the ability to be compassionate. Using passed down culture as an excuse does not hold. It is just like saying that people that killed black people in the past should not be jailed today becasue back then blacks were technically not considered 100% human in america. It is just the wickedness of a husband and his family in an effort to instill fear in this young girl that drove them to do this to her. I hope some lawyer will hear her story and take up this case or someone that has money will pay someone to have each and everyone of them tried for murder and aggravated assualt. They will sit in jail and weigh if what they did was right or wrong. What a tragic story.

there are so many nigerian tribes that I have no clue about. I thought this had to be somewhere in the east and I wiki-ed it and it is actually technically Yoruba

Oka is corn in both Igbo and Etsako

Alobasa is onions in both Etsako and Yoruba

Uzoma - Good Road
And my other middle name means "I am not like them" (the rest of the world)

Sisikill I m rolling on the floor on that story. She said "out of love?" . Whoa. I guess I have not been to enough Nigerian parties to notice. I will look out for it next time and have a good laugh. I can't imagine throwing a party and someone gets out a doggy bag when no one has even started eating. The person will be very politely told to respect themselves.

I noticed that my response to this thread was removed. So who moved it.

Since Nigerians are allowed to marry more than one wife then why will he go to jail. He did not marry the second wife in Finland abi. The story does not make sense. He certainly did not break the law in the US and he did not break it in Nigera or Finland. He has a second wife but that is not against the law in Nigeria and he did not bring a second wife to the US. Somebody correst me if I am wrong

Amebo. Honestly this is just crazy. You want to go to someone else's house to start trouble. You are going there to start something that she will have to deal with for the rest of her life. It is none of your business if the woman sees you as disrespectful afterall what is she to you. You really are just being a pest in that marriage. Who are you to decide if she respects the man or takes him for granted. With friends like you who needs enemies? Unbelievable.

Thank you Deepzone but I will rather save my prayers for the victims. Let the devil take care of his own.

I don't see what the bullshit is in this. It is the truth. Actually this article is quite rosy. Nigerian women (I will say maybe 75%) think this way. They do not expect much from these men, then they get bitter and are unbearable to live with becasue they thought they were doing the man a favour by letting him be totally useless. As a matter of fact most of times those men are raised that way and the wives continue the tradition.
When you see a nigerian man with a strong mother that did not take any mess, he cleans, he cooks, he adores his mother and sisters then you are lucky, hold on to him. Let it be heard. You do not do these men a favor by treating them like retards. You can all start insulting me now.

How stupid is this title. He killed his children and his wife and satan are to blame? May he rot in hell.

I am still laughing about the people collected entrance fee. Only in Nigeria sha

Actually he should be killed. He will do it again the first time he gets a chance.

I did not put words in anybody's mouth. She said that she got what she got because she ran her mouth. That means she deserved it because she would not shut up. Can I say it any other way to make it more clear

The fly the sad part is that most of these people will rather live like that in some foreign country(did somebody say cambodia, damn) than live like that in Nigeria. Honestly I think we all need to rethink this our stance. we have foreigners all over nigeria making it big but we are in other peoples land improving it and some of us are actually living like pigs just so what? You can say you went to obodo oyibo. It is sickening.

Sistawoman you are so off point it is alarming. It does not matter that she ran her mouth. I would not want my husband to get shot either but saying she deserved to be raped because she told a police officer to Bleep himself is irresponsible and senseless.

Have some pride. Nigeria cannot be that hard that people are subjecting themselves to this kind of treatment. Why live in a place like that?

Name one risk apart from possible injury that is a very slim chance by the way. My mother used it, my best friend's mother used it and it is being used more now in the US. It is better because when you decide to start having kids again you simply take it off and you can start having kids right away. Don't tell women to stay away from something that has more benefits than the other poisons you have to swallow everyday and force your body to do what it was not designed to do.

She cab have au IUD inserted. I think they call them IUCs in nigeria. There is no medicine that actually pumps hormones in you. It is just a physical object they use to stop the sperm from catching the eggs LOL

Na wa oh. I just readit again. They arrested the car owner? What nonsense? That woman needs to lawyer up. This is ridiculous. Senselessness in all its glory

The parents of the children were negligent. The woman that parked her car in her garage has every right to leave her doors unlocked. The sad part is that that poor ten year old will probably be blamed for it. Both set of parents should be in custody.

A guy once said that to me. He said he would give me the world or die trying. It was so corny. We had not even known each other for 2 weeks though I went to high school with his twin sister. I actually laughed it off but he did not give up. He got married though and whenever we would run into each other I would tease him about it and he would be so embarassed. Funny as hell.