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He is an animal

To each their own. Some people are honestly born stupid.

That woman had six children and still looks that good. She try. Looks like they kept trying till they got a boy. Why are Buhari and Babangida dressed a igbo men

I warned everybody before the wedding. Nobody wanted to die so they all behaved

All I can say is God bless you. I don't know why children just cause their loved ones heartache sometimes. I guess I did the same myself

Osondust all is well. Bottom line is you guys know that you can have children. she should not rush into another. SHe should let herslf heal and then you try again. These things happens and must of them do not have a reason for happening. They just do. God is your strength.

Right after I walk up to him and tell him he is a dog I will call my "close friend". It has to be a close friend though

Kokoye I have to dissagree with you. No woman in america can stop a man from seeing his child unless a court says so. Let us be real. Is it true that the courts might look at a woman as the nurturing one of the two by default, yes most times the courts will but that does not mean that a man that has always provided for his children and does nto have a criminal past will be stopped from seeing his children. That is simply not true.

In most of these cases, the men had a history of very violent behavior. No judge in their right mind will give a child to such a person. Even more, most of the men had multiple DUI's on their record. These men were simply bad. Obasanjo's daughter lost custody of her son to her husband here in the states and she kidnapped him and snuck him out of the country. A judge felt that she did not deserve full custody because that man was the one that took careof that child while she was busy doing her politics in Nigeria. There is a warrant for her arrest now. Another good one recently was Sharon stone losing custody of her son to her ex husband because she was just not mother material. The courts ruled in his favor and the courts are usually right in most of these cases.

So please. These were just extremely bitter men. If a woman is working all the time and does not see the children, trust me the man can even use it to make his case. The fact that it still did not work in their favor means that there was more going on. The judge just did not feel that the children would be safe with these men.

The problems in a marriage can never all be one person's fault so I know without a doubt that these men did not cause all the wahala in the marriage but they had serious issues. Issues that drove them on their own to take a life. They deserve to suffer for that.

I am glad I was never in her shoes sha. 14K is not bad but how many carats was the stone. This is my thing. He should have had an idea of what the woman likes before he bought it. At the very keast, he should have known if she is the white gold or yellow gold type. You have to actually put work into choosing the right engagement ring. You just don't pick one up. It signifies something big. This is my thing. It is better to ask her to marry you without a ring and then get her a reasonable one she likes when you can get it than to buy something that she would not ordinarily wear.

Everyone is different. To some people it is not a big deal and to some it is. I am just glad that my husband did his own research before he bought my ring. I appreciated his thoughtfulness because he certainly is not into that kind of stuff. His wedding band was like $100.00 but he took his time to pick out my engagement ring and even got the shape of the stone right and he got white gold too.

I don;t think the guy is a bad guy I just think he like most guys did not think it would be a big deal. He should not let this ruin a good relationship but he should let her know that he is dissapointed and that his feelings are hurt. She could then explain her feelings too.

Osundust are you in nigeria. If you are in the US did the doctor just do the regular ultra sound or did they do the one where they actually insert the camera into the vagina. It is not surprising that at six weeks they did not see the baby with an regular ultra sound machine. Just be strong. There will be many children.

You tried. She would not have lasted that long in my house. When she tells this story tomorrow you will hear about how you never did anything for her.

rice and pineapples. I used to eat that alot when I was pregnant

I hope they give epidural in all these places mentioned

Are you sure it was not bleach? If it was indeed acid that I am afraid for you. Sleep with one eye open sha

I don't understand how a woman will say she is leaving a man and then leaves her child behind. That child is the real bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh.

I really don't know why this is a joke. It is not right to get your pleasure from another's pain. Haba. If you want a good laugh go to the yabbis section

Oh. Makes more sense I guess. She has married him now. So long as they agree. I would not do it but i know people that have done it after marriage at it works for them. You just need to be careful and be ready to put up with whatever they dish. It would be better if he were there still

ROTFLMAO. You just made my day. In one sentence you said my husband has some foreign blood in him (still making your point that it is impossible to have an honest, good nigerian man out there) then in another you say that you want to compare all men to drive your point home. You are confusing yourself. You can compare if you want. There is no such thing as a perfect human being (man or woman) but there is such a thing as respect, compassion, mutual understanding. He is not an honourable man. He is not worth fighting for period.

Sisikill you still sound ridiculous. I am nigerian and so is my husband. Born and raised. You think you are doing nigerian men a favor. You are basically saying that they are dogs and not much should be expected from them. It has to be a joke. The next time we hear someone tell this story it will be by a foreigner that will say something like all nigerian men are dogs and even their women say so. Well my husband is not a dog. He was not a dog when I met him and he will never be a dog. I was not a LovePeddler before I met my husband so I did not settle for a LovePeddler. Give this advice to anybody you know that does not deserve happiness and peace in her home. She is not what a nigerian man needs, she is what a loser needs. The sad part is that even if she ends up with a white guy she will pick one with the same characteristics. She has no self esteem and you seem to think that it is a plus for a woman to be brainless. I feel even more sorry for you because even the Tara herself is now telling you that your head no correct.

You sound ridiculous. Is the naija man God. What is so special about him that she should not have any self respect or self esteem. Is it not that lack of self esteem that she did not have in the first place that led her to make the choices she made. I hope you are playing sha. Naija man my ass. Like who gives a crap about a lying, cheating, irresponsible boy. Yeye. We have a close family friend that are going through this right now. She literally filled his papers for him to get his citizenship, all he basically did was sign the damn thing. They have a five year old son and she has been a good wife to him. Now he is a citizen and he wants to act stupid. She is white but she understands the culture and is respectful to his family. The only consolation here is that she has opened her eyes and thank God she has a wonderful job and does not need his money. Life goes on.

Sisikill you have to translate o.

Tara I don't care if you are white or bluish pink. I can see why he is the way he is, you helped him be that way. He read you like a book. He asked you to work 90 hours a week when you have a 4 year old at home. You keep saying you will fight for your man. Whose man? He is not your man. I won't even say anything else. Goodluck. Experience they say is the best teacher.

Do not stay with your in laws. Honestly it is better to do it after marriage than before. You will be judged on every turn and it is not necessarily because you are a bad person or that they even are bad people it is just the way it is. You only have to look at someone a certain way and you can get them all turned against you. I don't know what your fiance's reasoning was. It cannot help your relationship in any way. Where are your parents though. The man never even marry you and he is asking you to go live with his family. If he was there, I would say maybe but the fact that he is not there makes it a problem. You want to start with your in laws the right way. Familiarity breeds contempt. Be on your own and respect them from a distance. You are not even their daughter in law yet. It's putting the cart before the horse.

I still do not understand why children need cellphones

Plus Queen is not a nice person period. Someone is grieving but she is more interested in pointing out silly things. She needs to counsel herself first. Expert my butt.

Ok Tara this might sound mean but if I was there I would slap you. It does not seem like you are hearing what you are being told. Your husband is an idiot. He does not love you or deserve you. Get over him. Move on. What is all this talk about wanting him back. He does not want you. Pleae do not go commit suicide. You are not the first woman to be played and you will not be the last. I know I sound harsh but it is because I sense desperation from you. When you get that way you forget common sense and do drastic things. Leave him alone. He has made his choice. Even if he comes back do nto take him back. You are not even 30. You have a great life ahead of you. You have not even started living life. You will get throough this but you have to be strong. The woman he is with knows that he is married with a child and she is still doing what she is doing. That should tell you something about her character. She is not honourable and neither is your soon to be ex. I don't know how people could build a marriage on lies and deceit.