₦airaland Forum

victorVIC1:
@ OP, your wife is a good woman. She's pushing to see the entire plans you both had from the get go come into reality. The reverse is the case for a lot of people, who get there and completely cut off from their family.

flokii:
@OP Didn't you guys agree on relocation before your wife left for studies?..

In whatever you do, don't sell off your properties here in Nigeria cos it might be the only thing you'd fall back to.
When your wife completes her studies and secures a good job or pay rise, then you'd see her true nature. She'll want to be the one controlling you and be making all the decisions.

Summary of it all.. Plan well and have plan B in case things go south.

Aremwayne:
This is becoming something else, Ecowas need to step in an act fast.

Hope4Naja:
Hello, what is your opinion on the amount regarded as Low Income, Middle Income and High Income in Nigeria

Low Income (N30,000-N150,000)
Middle Income (N151,000-N400,000)
High Income (N401,000-N800,000)

I see anything above N800,000 as the elite class

o123456789:
The reason is because they believe by 30 years all ladies must be humble and settled, which is form of a prison to them, no more hookup, indiscriminate sex, drugs, double dating etc. So they still have some years before 30 to be wayward.

RawSex:
The fear of 30 is real

Even me as a guy is not finding it funny

I will pause my age at 28 for the next 6 years, too much pressure on a male figure and the country is not helping

easyfem:
Pple dey go show , na work work I dey do


Lord help me

addmole:
Bro I am not a SIMP. I just try to respect the boundaries of marriage and my family. But I am being pushed. i JUST HAVE TO CRY OUT. I have reported issues so much to my pastor, her parents - no one wants to listen to us again.

addmole:
She was not a virgin before I MARRIED HER. Infact I know her ex. Though she doesn't cheat on me. She loves to be alone, make money, cruise, vibes with her friends, family. But not with me. Dont cuddle her, don't tickle, don't laugh with her. She gets angry with every little thing. Doesnt apologise. I once cheated on her but apologised. But now, she's starving me of sex, coupled with the height of disrespect from her. Last time I CALLED her elder brother about our frequent quarells. He just said he would talk to her. But he never did. Her mother shouted at me, if i wanted to divorce her, i should go ahead. So much quarells. I am tired. She even left the family prayer whatsapp group i created. OMO, I don't know what to do. I am just tired.

Lonestar124:
Move to which frontpage, the responses you have received so far, so you can make use of it...

I hate men that can make a self decision without listening to others opinion....

Jennyclay:
is that the job you do?

Originalsly:
I'm not saying what the wheelbarrow pusher did was right ... but some people have to pay to learn. As I see it ... she is one of those people who judge people by status.[b] To her ... a barrow pusher is a nobody ... she does not respect his hustle nor his time ... he is her houseboy. She got him to push her stuff out .... not to have him be waiting around for her to haggle and shop. [/b]Serves her right.... guy be losing jobs waiting for her.

Originalsly:
I'm not saying what the wheelbarrow pusher did was right ... but some people have to pay to learn. As I see it ... she is one of those people who judge people by status. To her ... a barrow pusher is a nobody ... she does not respect his hustle nor his time ... he is her houseboy. She got him to push her stuff out .... not to have him be waiting around for her to haggle and shop. Serves her right.... guy be losing jobs waiting for her.

Jennyclay:
Aside that sef,… the way these wheelbarrow pushers walk very fast ehh! One would think they want to run away with your stuff

If I go to the market and I need wheelbarrow to push my stuff, I always beg and even pay them not to walk too fast.

ahnie:
Exactly my dear.
Time don reach wey we go dey carry chain go market dey chain and padlock the barrow pushers .
Lolx

AskNgige2:
Hehehehehehe

And that thing is annoying..

We wey de do bolt suffer same thing from them, u will carry them and they will still Wana branch and keep buying while killing your time

Oh, they Do same for Uber too
if I were in your Shoes, I will tell you Point Blank, No Branching and No Buying except in Traffic

ahnie:
Some women are negligent,you would see the barrow pusher at the front and madam will be at the far back buying pepper.


I see them alot.

Leggodeals:
Men like crying that women can't look past material things but even men can't look past the artificials in women.

We, ugly women have been quiet and watching on the side for so long. We have a voice too but make we observe finish first. Our pretty friends get picked first all the time. They take the best of men and leave us with scraps. Or should I say men give them their all and fall back on us.

The day the[b] ugly women association of Nigeria[/b] will reclaim our voice, no man in this country will have peace, the internet will scatter. Men must look at our potentials of being pretty and stop choosing pretty girls above us.

Dreadlock69:
We know dey for 5 month . I just dey with my phone , scrolling through my contact list on what app the phone start to shake and called her number three times without me knowing.
She called back I don’t even know what to say.

myyansh68:
Why would I be pained? ..
I rejected them, not the other way around.

Again
They are not faithful Partners.
Can't help a Woman, without requesting for sex

myyansh68:
En pain you!.
Nigerian Men lazy
Can't work always looking for the easiest ways to success.
Jealousy.
Competitive among peers.
Marry a rejected American grandma for poverty lifting.
Scammers.
Ritualist.
Fathering a child, but can't take responsibilities as or to be a father. Even your White Chicks Cheque and Bread and butter are now aware of this.
Harvesting organs.
Drugs and Human trafficking.
Rented to promote hoodlum when elections are knocking at the door.
Rape.
Can sleep with mad Woman for money
Can't take rejection.
Taking bad characters to foreign land. e. g Cult.

is this okay or should I add more salt to the wound?.

WannaHowzit:
Just this week on radio i heard single Nigerian women struggle to find housing in Lagos when they want to rent 😳😳😳

I'm a South African man and that shocked me.

DevilishMan:
Who go pay for the drinks?

tensazangetsu20:
To have bleeped at least 50 olosho with smelly pussy.

tensazangetsu20:
I have this Chilean friend I met online that has been begging me to try their food and all she has recommended has Been wack. Chilean food is tasteless. Omho I go just buy rice once I move into my house. Also saw a fire service truck. Here they come to an emergency in less than 5 minutes

tensazangetsu20:
One thing I noticed here is that their apartment blocks are multi storey and rental cost are cheap. Agbadorians go dey shout tinubu built Lagos but they can't afford to live in eko Atlantic and that's all they chant as achievements

Boyjaco:
Send your kids and wife abroad put your kids in a very affordable school and wife let look after the children

crown2525:
My candid advice is that just build yourself here, later you can relocate your family abroad and go visiting!!!

ideamonster:
OP, Luckily for you, this video that addresses all your concerns was on Nairaland frontpage this monday. Japa. still worth it?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAiqIyuG0hM

Here, fourteen people discussed all the things you have to take into consideration to make your decision to relocate including the three highly controversial pathways to residency. I suggest you listen till the very end. It's a very practical conversation, highly educative and thankfully, they aren't selling you anything. Pay particular attention to what the geologist says he had to do when he relocated. You can thank me later.

All the best.

Reinamaria:
A person that really wants to japa will not need people's advice to do so. 🙄

Hidewell:
Mine is Odyssey. What of you?

Kobicove:
The girl's family probably see her as their ticket out of poverty if she's able to relocate abroad with her nursing qualification.

This dream will be cut short if you marry her and keep her here in Nigeria, this is the reason why they are resisting...

My advise is that you slow things down or abandon mission all together!