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I think we should not be hasty in making judgements.

People that write others off just because they come from broken homes are wrong .......

so also those that say it doesn't matter.

Broken homes affect kids while growing up and they more often than not carry the effects to adulthood and it might reflect on her relationship with the opposite sex and marriage.

She's only said her side of the story - have you heard from the other side ?? Are there traits that she must have demonstrated in the relationship that might have given prospective in-laws cause for concern. I for one, am tempted to think so based on her write ups.

It's not just about - the person that will love you will come - she probably also needs counseling.

Now this is what I call issue based!!!!

Am sorry to say, but that's what she signed up for when she married Tuface!

He was like that before you married him (and you knew it).
You're even lucky it's not a completely new lady.

Most musicians of this age are short sighted.

The arts and sciences are the vestige we leave behind for posterity to remember us by.

I wonder what legacy these guys will have in 20/30 yrs, when they refuse to work on their repertoire and only seem to enjoy partying and taking pictures for instagram and looking to make some quick dough from their popularity

Save for the likes of Asa, who sings music for the ages, these guys will just fade in no time. Was listening to Christy Essien's classic Seun rere the other day and I am like wow ! these song is still banging after almost 40 years

Hope he's as talented as Jay jay....
but why Arsenal ??
Anyway sha Arsenla has a reputation for developing young talents

hollandis:
I watched Stoichkov's goal in the USA 94 first group match NIGERIA VS BULGARIA,though we won by 3 goals to nil,i am still bewildered as to why the referee disallowed an all but important First half goal by bulgaria legend,hristo stoichkov.In the match he was awarded a free kick and he scored a beautiful goal,if the referee had allowed that goal ,we might not have had that famous victory(or maybe not).

People have come up with all manner of answers and it centered on direct or indirect free kick,i feel the ref had an axe to grind against bulgaria because if no answer to this question exists ,i will be forced to believe that the ref awarded us that match,or fifa played politics.I have watched free kicks being scored by CR7,JAYJAY, PAUL GASCOIGNE,THIERRY HENRY etc,though it was placed at opposite end of the field. Recall okochas goal against west ham?the free kick was similar except that why one was towards the left side of the field ,the former had his ball placed to the right side,and since the distance to goal was almost similar ,i reckon that okocha' goal shouldn't have been allowed because hristo scored a similar goal which the ref immediately disallowed.(without battling an eye lid)

If no answer exists,i will be left with no option other than to halt any form of hype to the SE squad.

There are some infringements that warrants and indirect free kick rather than a direct one regardless of the position of the foul or the distance from which it was taken.
Obstruction and a goalkeeper handling a back pass are examples of such an offence.

If a player scores an indirect free kick, it is disallowed. So no politics here.

Agbonivbare's death once again highlights the relevance of this thread.

May he rest in peace and I hope his remaining teammates will live a good and long life!

Sagamite:
This is more of a case of "your friend is a professional fuuktard" and less of "women are wicked".

Abi O....and I don't get, if that your friend is not a gay partner (apologies for my sarcasm) why don't you just leave them and focus on your own life ??

At least you'll have less people coming to your office asking for lunch and barging and shouting on you.


On another thought........
Lifetitudes is probably right, the girl likes you and you have not and have never given her the needed attention. And from little I learned bout women, that kind of 'likeness' does not leave easy. So you can make your 'insecure' friend's accusation a self fulfilling prophecy....but that's if you wan do wicked !!

Just vote according to your conscience cos it's difficult to determine what's true and what's a lie these days !

Yeah the guy's name was Omar Ben Salah - Omar Ben Salah. he played on the left wing while Donald sie played from the right. Tchiressou and Alain Maguy pulled the string in the middle. Bassole only made the game against Nigeria at Tunisia 94 cos one of them was unavailable can't remember which.

And there was the wunderkind - Youssouf Fofana, who never really delivered on his promise of greatness

stagger:
You forgot to mention that Amuneke hit the crossbar in that game as well. Siasia famously claimed he did not see Yekini and to be fair to him, Yekini was slightly behind him on the left and goalkeeper Losseni Konate had advanced very quickly off his line towards Siasia on seeing the danger, thus cutting off the angles very quickly. Agbonivbare made so many saves in that game as the Super Eagles simply sat back and absorbed all the pressure. Recall that they left Lagos on the morning of the game to Abidjan to avoid being bewitched by the Ivoriens. No way the 2nd goal was his fault as the pressure on the SE was simply too much.

I can remember that the game was played some days before my resumption back to boarding school and it was not televised live on any Nigerian station (we only had NTA and govt owned stations back then).

But the game was shown immediately after the famous 7 O' clock news. But by that time I had listen to the live commentaries and my sadness would not allow me watch the full match again.
I can't even remember Amuneke playing in the game. Of the 6 men in front of the defence, I remember 5 - Adepoju, Christopher Nwosu(his only appearance for the eagles), Okocha, Siasia, Yekini.....so yeah he could have been the sixth guy.
I was aware of Siasia's excuse but somehow, I don't believe him. Yeah Losseni Konate - the guy who benched the legendary Alain Goumane for the breif period Phillipe Trouser was in charge of the elephants.
Agreed Agbonivbare really made a lot of saves in that game at some point my friend famously claimed we were playing 9-0-1 formation. With only the goalsfather upfront but I still think he could have done better with the strike but kudos to him, he did his bit.

As an aside, this convo brings to mind the great Ivorian side of the 90s. For me as a team (not based on the popularity of players) but if judged as a collective unit they were better than the ivory coast of this (or should I call it the drogba generation).
They had Alain Goumane (and Losseni Konate) in goal. For the records Goumane is the only goalkeeper to win the nations cup without conceding a single goal throughout the tourney.
Then there was Aka Kouame in defence, and the young guel tchiressau and the ever calm Segey Alain Maguy in midfield and of course the boisterous Mitchel Bassole. Not forgetting the giant 'child beater' (chai I don forget hin name - but one huge guy who was arrested in france back then for beating his child until his bones broke) and Donald sie olivierre. Abdoulaye Traore and Tiehi Joel played in attack while Ahmed Quattara was on the bench. It was a fantastic hard to beat side !!!!

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stagger:
USA 94.

1st round: Nigeria did not concede a single goal to South Africa or Congo home and away.

Wilfred came in during round 2 to replace Peter Rufai on the strength of his wonderful performances in Spain. He conceded 2 goals to CIV away, one to Algeria in Lagos and Algiers, and one to Cote D'Ivoire in Lagos. These were all solid goals which cannot be termed silly goals.

So tell me: where did the goals come from? Everyone knows Rayo Vallecano are perennial relegation candidates in Spain. Has nothing to do with their keepers.

First, let me acknowledge your good great knowledge of Nigerian soccer's recent past....however I need to set some info straight.
Agbonivbare took over the number 1 slot from Alloy Agu. Agu kept a clean slate in the first 3 games against minnows South Africa (then) and Benin. Rufai was only called in for the last formality match of round 1 because Nigeria had already qualified and westerhoof decided to field am experimental side of home based players and castaways.
Westerhoof would later employ a goalkeeper trainer who restored Rufai to the number 1 position and relegated Agbonivbare to number 3 behind Agu. Ike Shorunmi was fourth, hence did not make the team.
Two, Agbonivbare was indeed culpable in at least one of the goals against Cote d'voire in abidjan.
It was Okocha's first game for the SE and Nigeria had gone ahead via a Yekini thunderbolt from an unstoppable run from the right side of the ivorian box. Nigeria missed a chance to seal the game when Siasia selfishly decided to go for glory rather than pass to Yekini, he would lose his place in the SE for that error.
( How many ppl realise he did the same thing vs Argentina at Usa 94, he should have returned the 1-2 to Yekini but tried the difficult lob direct to goal, this time around he was lucky and I admit it was a beautiful goal)
Anyway. Cote d'voire came back to the game via a penalty by Ben Badi - the irrepressible Abdulaye Traore and a smashing effort by the local bomber Ahmed Quattara.
Agbonivbare parried a cross/shot right back into the six yard box of the eagles ( a no no) and Quattara wasted no time in slotting in.
Memories that will never fade from my mind.
All in all Wilfred Agbonivbare was a great short stopper. May he Rest in Peace.

I remember creating a thread wondering why the great 94 team members seem to be dying in their 40s. Someone insulted me but this new death makes it more worrisome.....
Oliha
Yekini
Okafor
Agbonivbare

Here's the link to the previous article
https://www.nairaland.com/1342478/why-members-nigerian-usa-94

It's an issue I have had to battle with.......

I grew up in a home where everything was open....phones, books, rooms anything.

My dad even encouraged us going through his books and documents back then cos he was an avid reader and had a vast collection and wanted us to know as much as possible about his past. And we the children were open about everything, nothing to hide!

Fast forward to school, both Sec school and Uni, I only had friends that I could trust to a large degree, infact there was a point when two of my friends had my email address password......

Long story short, it's more of a shock to me that in relationships ppl are scared of their better half checking their phones considering my background.

All my partners have always known the lock pattern of my phones and the password to my computer system (which I even use more than my fone cos of my job)

I remember my gf at some point seeing some things she didn't like on my system and telling me about it but that's part of life, I'm human and don't intend to hide myself from anybody.

There are some negative things I've said about myself that people actually didn't believe I did. So really am human and I embrace both my negative and positive sides. If you don't love me at my worst, then you don't deserve my best.

Got nothing to hide, though I ain't perfect!

GboyegaD:
Better. You can home school them.

So you believe in beating people (Secondary school students) like animals ?
That is why our kids act so emotionally scarred when relating with adults.

If you've ever seen 'kids say the darnest thing', compare the responses of American kids when interviewed in front of cameras to the typical Nigerian child who acts as though he wishes the ground swallow him.

Though I admit this nations cup seems boring but 'qualifying' for the confederations cup is not the goal of the nations cup. The glory is in winning the cup of Nations itself!

talktofemi:
Knew the tall building you mentioned but cant remember the name.

Stayed at white house in stadium. Studied Applied Geophysics.

White house ! I use to have a lot of pals in white house.
Applied geophysics wasn't offered as a course when I was there.

rokiatu:
lol I don't relate my happiness to only a man really, I believe we are solely responsible for our own happiness. But no doubt he make my life brighter, he's a wonderful guy. I couldn't ask for better. But I'd don't think am happy because he's my first love but rather because he's the man for me.

You have my respects!
I wish younger women (and men) will learn from this.

You are responsible for your own happiness and if you are not happy with yourself, nobody else can make you happy neither can you make someone else happy!

talktofemi:
Yeah. LAU

He was 1year my senior.

What course did you study and where were you staying.

I Stayed in ...... (Gosh, I can't even remember the name of where I stayed in school again !!!) It was a tall building close to high court area sha

GboyegaD:
It depends on how disciplined you are. If the student errs and you think the best punishment is to flog then, so be it.

Wrong ! everything should be done in moderation.
You don't just beat people like animals. If any teacher beats my kids like that....... anyway my kids wont even go to such schools

talktofemi:
The guy in the middle wearing a black top is my bro.

Same uni, same town and same neighbourhood!

You know the guy in the middle ?

I remember we attended the same uni too.

He was like 4 yrs my junior in Uni back then. LAU

ceo4eva:
President Jonathan and his entourage today paid a visit to the Royal Palace of the the Shehu of Borno, Alhaji Abubakar Garbai El- Kanemi. Jonathan condoled with the monarch over the unfortunate incidents perpetrated by Boko Haram sect, and assured that very soon, peace will be restored in the state.

The President was in Maiduguri for his re-election campaign rally.

Here are some photos from the visit:

You had four years and you couldn't restore peace !

Now you are telling us very soon !!!!

Please the marines are listening to you right now !!!

Airforce1:
[b]A woman is incomplete without a husband


God bless her marriage[/b]

What does this mean ?

A woman that is incomplete without a Husband is incomplete with one !!

if you are a christian, the bible says "and you are complete in HIM (Christ) who is the Head of all principalities and powers.
Couples are meant to complement not to complete the other !!!

Why not end the current subsidy regime instead ??

Looks like some demonic impartation too me na wa O!

Hope he's not dabbling into unnecessary spiritism without knowing its consequences!

Stop complaining!
Hit the gym bro !!!

RedBenson:
Why should they give the man 12 strokes and the woman just 6? Two of them committed same offence weighed samely. Why different punishment then?

Anyways, thing like this had happened abt 7yrs ago. Was coming back from church with a brother in a car around 12:15am, as soon as we beamed light into the dark lonely street, we noticed some strange movement inside a parked bus in the street. Being who we are, we immediately drove and on getting there, we swiftly came down and opened the bus door immediately. Behold, this duo were busy fuccking themselves real hard. To cut the long story short, after all the "why did you, why must you", we made them to confess thier sins before God and accept Jesus Christ as personal Lord and Saviour of which they vowed never to try it again. Was a very funny situation. Funny things happen in this country.

You are drunk funny

IBB might be right in the sense that the amount stolen in his govt might not be as much as those being stolen today and most importantly the number of people draining the national coffers in a military rule is infinitesimal compared to a democratic dispensation but our main grouse with IBB was the fact that he created the institutionalized corruption we see in governance in Nigeria today.

His government was the pioneer of modern day financial degeneration as we know it in Nigeria today. You built the system IBB.


And that's the more reason why I feel though GMB is not a perfect man but he is the kind of leader we need in moments like this !!!

mike0806:
Bro. I know say you homeboyz go Don tell u about am before marriage but u know gree.
Pack ur things and run when u can. That girl na bad market baba.
Na ni gi nokwa oo. Ur on ur own bro. If them kill u na u loose pass. GOD BLESS YOU AND keep YOU SAFE

Stanleyafam:
You dated for 2years and still went on wt the marriage..did she hide these characters? Or were u blinded by love?
Talk to her cos of the child u guys brought to the world..try to sort things out and pray

You are talking about homeboyz when the man himself confessed to knowing the kind of person his babe was even before marriage!

After our traditional marriage on December 2013,I had some financial challenges,and then my rent was due for renewable,she offered to assist,at first I was skeptical about it ,because I know her kind of person,knowing full well that she will use that to ridicule and abuse me in no distant time. But,then,I didn't have any alternative,so I allowed her pay d rent. Now,she's claiming ownership,saying ..."which house,the one that I have been paying the rent or another one"...

But make I no blame the guy sha been somewhere close before. In a relationship where almost all my 'homeboiz' told me to run men but o boy it wasn't as easy.
Infact at some point we had an issue and she told a friend that she pitied me because I am just a cool person who had no idea who he is dealing with (choi !!! I don suffer ).

OP sorry fa! but it's a big lesson for all concerned

Though I am not a fan of unnecessary or illegal checkpoints but in this case the primary fault lies on the truck driver/owner(S).

If the truck was in good condition with the braking system in perfect condition and the driver driving the way he should, then the incident would probably have been averted.

With or without a police checkpoint, this kind of accident could also have occurred along a regular traffic hold up.

But then, RIP to the dead, sad way to begin a new year!

donnypool:
H

R.I.P my friend, nairaland will surely miss you

Bro!!!!! You harsh O !!!!!!