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Wizee: @debrief08 nicely said, u deserve a good kiss.

Upon the entire issue wey dey ground, this is the only contribution you can make ba ?
. . . .. . hmmmmmmmmmmmm

luluosas: Yes. American University of Nigeria, Yola, (AUN) is the place.

Wow, then am probably not more than 500m away from you.
am presently carrying out some installations at the health institution very close to the school.

Heard you've got some very wild students in that school quite unlike the glorified private secondary schools we have down south

Akshow: mine was terrible. It was during my third year in the university. I was stayin in this face me i face you students off campus crib. My neibo then, we call him prof was goin out wit one sugar mummy. She must be close to fifty and she comes regularly to crash in his room. That fateful day, another neibo came into my room that mornin and dragged me out into the compound. Thinkin it was only prof in his room, we started the normal yabbin of each other while standin at prof's window. The other guy brought up prof's matter and was like 'you no notice say prof de fat this day' me and my Big mouth come carry the talk blow out of proportion. I say e easy to de bang old woman? Abi you no know say she go de replenish prof blood for bangin her condemn p...sy. And some very other nasty joke. We de there de talk Na im madam open prof curtain, look us, say Una well done. I almost died of mbarasment. This is a woman we always hail, wey go cook come for boys. Na so i kneel Down begin beg sisi mama. Can't forget that day

funniest post of the year

Leadn: What's with Tiwa's protruding tummy??

I hope nobody is playing with my wife to be

Its Don Jaazy agaaaaaaaain !!!!!



na joke O

topsyking: The elders in my villa are sensible and nos when to talk and be quiet....they don't just talk for the sake of talking..they tink well..before talking...dey don't vomit rubbbisssh like wat u just said my denrele

Is he your partner ??
you seem quite defensive about him.

I think the advices here have been wonderful and on point.


@Debrief , Ileobabtajo - Sorry if it seems am digging up old dirt but isn't this what was causing the ruckus in a previous thread ? We somehow now seem to be on the same page as regards always having to probe deeper into sensitive issues before reaching conclusions/giving advice

debrief08: Sorry for what happened dear. Calm down, let me ask a few questions first.
Did you block him? Did you hold him? Did he hit you?
You don't have to answer but before I give advice I would like to know what happened before the pushing

Wow, how come your first guess was what actually happened.
Its like you've started consulting crystal balls now abi ?

If you are worried about Abuja cab drivers, then try Jos !!!!

luluosas: This may be through but, how many of those companies have their WiFi free? The company I work in Yola have WiFi but, you need the IT department permissions to connect to it.
So long as public WiFi is not availble in Nigeria, this new feature from RIM is big setback here. Thank you.

You work in Yola and you have WIFI ? do you work in ABTI ?

I stayed in yola for a while earlier in the year and actually know that there are very few places where you can get WIFI.

moreeni: May be these men are looking for sparks of the heart.I'm not yet 30 but signing out of a marriage that happened because both of us have been together forever.The problems with mine wouldn't have been if only we loved each other like Lionel Richy sang about. It is always better to wait until one finds the person that will make life and everything inherent worth it.

Wow . . . .don't tell me you're getting a divorce.

Its your life, you make your calls but I'll urge to give this time and if possible pray over it.
Remember, life is not always greener on the other side.

maclatunji: You no lie.

Et tu Tunji ? Don't tell me you also have issues.

Upon all your popularity on NL , I expected you to have done better.

With all these opportunities coming your way daily, don't tell me you've been missing the goal.

kinnkw: WHO IS THIS GUY??
What is the Future of telephony? didn't you read other peoples post at least to educated yourself a little before displaying your ignorance?

No need to resort to insult. You are actually the one who needed to read my post before posting your retort.

I don't use a BB and care less about them. What am actually sayin is that - in the very near future, we will all be making calls without necessarily being charged per call but rather on a subscription basis.

The issues of poor internet/WIFI in Nigeria are temporary issues. I work in ITand one thing I realise is that once there is a will, there is a way. Once a model is seen as viable. Technology will always find a way to align itself to suit that particular model

I have always thought about this but never had the technological or financial werewithal to pull it off.

The truth is, say what you will - This is the future of mobile telephony.

The earlier we realise that we actually are not supposed to be charged for talking !!!!
Its an anomally.

The worst that should have happened is to have a subscription based model where once I buy the phone/ and mobile line, I might only need to pay perhaps a periodic subscription fee nothing more !!!

Look at other business models like the TV or automobile. Once I buy them from the owners. I only spend to maintain the devices and in the case of TV - probably pay for cable TV subscription and Car - pay tax to govt for maintaining the road and security but I am not charged directly each time I switch on my fone or each time I drive my car.

It should be the same for phones too.

Kudos BlackBerry - maybe I might be eventually convinced to get one afterall

I've always felt that Europe and America might fall (as the dominant world powers) in the next generation. Especially europe

The coming generation seem not to have the discipline and attitude (to work) of their forbearers - you can say they are living on past glory. They mostly grew up to find things very easy for them but really do not know what it takes to achieve it. Call it the spoilt kid syndrome.

The future belongs to Asia (the far east - they have the workforce, the middle east will always have their oil, at least for a while) and Africa (if we can curb our corruption and leadership issues)

All these news is getting really weird and uncomfortable.

It starting to remind me of Isaiah 8 v 21 - 22

Distressed and hungry, they will roam through the land; when they are famished, they will become enraged and, looking upward, will curse their king and their God.

Then they will look toward the earth and see only distress and darkness and fearful gloom, and they will be thrust into utter darkness.

ATMC: D commandment is not to work on sunday but then there's a higher command and dt is love god and ur neighbour, which if u do has covered d sabbath day issue

Na wa O. No wonder most atheist know more about Christianity than christians. The last time I checked the Sabbath was on Saturday and even Jesus worked, walked and healed both on Saturday and Sunday so which one is your own.

Thief ! Why not ask God to cure your kleptomanic urge and addictive shopping before coming out to bad mouth other people.

The funny thing about africans is that they/we commit the worst of crimes and then turn around and claim to be closer to God than every other person

fellis: I think I have, I have had dreams where certain things happened and then when I wake up, these things happen the way I saw them in the dream. For instance when a family relative died, I saw it in a dream the night before, when I lost a significant amount of money with my wallet I saw it in a dream the night before, when I flunked a test I also saw it in a dream and so on and so forth.

I don't think it was just a coincidence because those things happened the way I saw them in the dreams.

For example the wallet dream showed me the EXACT same wallet I lost and the EXACT same part of town where I lost the wallet.

The the test I flunked was also like that, I saw myself and those who also flunked the test standing in one part of the building and the others who passed were in another part.

Apart from dreams, I also get brief flashes or thoughts/images of situations. These flashes contain scenes of things that end up happening in future. I get these brief flashes when I am in a certain state of mind; they come when I am at that state of mind one gets while falling asleep and not being fully awake.

Stop smoking marijuana

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We live in a generation with a short attention span.

Most likely in four years time, Obama will be so unpopular that a democratic government might become unelectable especially if the GOP presents a viable cadidate

Don't hit me, am not exactly an expert on American policies though.

berem: They failed to mention Lasu-Iba road especially Obadore Bridge and Village axis.

This sure reminds me of a ritual killing that happened at village bus stop immediately after Lasu along Lasu-iba road.last year when I was going home from work,I was in a public bus at about 10.15pm,passengers in the bus including me saw a motorcycle lying by the side of the road.the driver slowed down and lo and behold we saw a hefty man without shirt dragging the owner of the bike inside the bush.we couldn't do anything cos no one was armed.meanwhile there were some s.tupid policemen on that road collecting 40naira from each bus drivers as the stopped.when we reached the first road block which was far from where the incident was happening,we were telling the s.tupid policemen that a ritual killing is happening.we told them the particular location.Guess what the edioots said to us? "Una dey craze! Why una no go catch the ritualist by una self? Shey make we leave this money wey we dey collect go kill them abi? Oya make I give una gun to go kill them.abeg waka pass joor" we were all shocked!! At the end,we all knew the biker guy eventually died.

So what's the assurance that the police is really serious to fish out the ritualists?? Why can't the police track the ritualists at these mentioned places?

So you know the Nigerian Police isn't reliable and willing to fight crime, yet you blame Aluu and curse them for not handing over suspects to the police. The folly of Nigerians

Why do I feel that this thread is talking directly to me ?

Its addressing a major issue in my life right now. Kudos poster, I'll keep this open in a tab for a while

myviewr: SHUT UP what have you done for the flood victims your selves your bashing other people. or are you not a human being

Despite the criticism, I quite agree with this viewpoint. You are also human and a citizen of Nigeria. What have you done before pointing fingers ?

and don't you think clebrities (so called) are in a bit of conundrum when it comes to charity ? Must everybody make noise and inform ambrosini593 after they've donated for a charitable cause.

If giving is done in the open - it is show off.
If it is done in secret, - the person is seen as selfish because no one know about what he/she has done

musKeeto: Great thread... very informative.. but first I need to buy a car...

DANILSA: PLEASE KINDLY JOIN THE THREAD FOR PEOPLE THAT USES LEG

You wicked no be small

Well, I've been having this blinking D drive indicator - So I pulled out my diagnostic gadget and this error about 3rd pressure switch malfunction came up.

Took it to the mech guys late on Saturday and while he was still trying to fiddle, I told him I suspect that the 2nd or 3rd pressure might be malfunctioning since the gear was still shifting properly .

The guy whipped out his diagnostic tool, did a scan and also came up with the 3rd pressure switch issue. Boy, He must have been dazzled . he looked at me incredulously, thinking who's this car whiz coming to my shed for repairs. Anyway, to cut long story short. The guy must have been so impressed/struck that he told me the real price of the pressure switch.

Am on my way to have it fixed (couldn't do that on sat). I'll keep the house posted

@Nonylove,

I guess the general consensus from most respondent here is that you surely have more to worry about with this arrangement than a few cups of rice and packets of cornflakes being stolen. That is a secondary (or even tertiary) issue.


Although we can't dictate for you but the strong advice is to go for a professional help, with specified working hours. With that you'll have more control over things that happen in your home. It will involve making sacrifices - sure but I guess you have one family and you'r only going to pass through this precarious phase once, so why not make the best of it.




N.B. - Why does every post of yours make me sense that unless you act quickly, something unsavory is going to happen.
The tone of your post makes it sound as though you are worried about the whole situation. Why not follow your intuition and act now.

debrief08: Most of them are 7-7, 24/7? there should be a day off na
If you will take my advice, try to work out a schedule around 7-7 because with that you avoid drama and unnecessary issues. too much familiarity breeds contempt.

True words.
If you keep someone 24/7 ? - Will you be paying her double salary ? - one for day and the other for nite ? Unless you intend to bring in someone as part of your family, then am not really sure you should keep anybody 24/7, 356. They have destinies too.

As much as we know there is so much poverty around and people will do (almost) anything just to feed, and have a little money, I feel the issue of house maids amounts to nothing more than exploitation more often than not (Well, might not apply to the poster here but this is more of a general statement)

debrief08: When we advice that people stop looking for cheap labor with adolescent girls and hire professional maids they will say no be so.
If you are not ready to deal with teenage drama and raging hormones then hire a real maid, with spefic work hours on pay and who you can deal with professionally. If you insist on getting a live in teenage then handle it the way you will handle a misbehaving teenage that was your blood.
We just want them to come and work and don't consider this stage of their lives a stage we as women have all passed through but because we were in the comfort of our homes our mothers handled and managed us well, when it is a maid it is national headline.
Girls at that age will be intrigued by boys, have you spoken to her about s3x, pregnancy and contraceptives? Are you just orried about your stolen food? Having a live in teenager is beyond paying school fees and paying agent, God will hold you responsible for her formative years, that is why I advice those always claiming "help" to either go the full lenght or leave the child with their parent and help.
That girl may get pregnant, contract a disease or get invovled with bad company that will ruin the rest of her life and your concern is stolen food. Anyway, its the Nigerian way, as long as she works her life and what she does with it no concern you.
Sit her down and talk with her, tell her about s3x and what she needs to know, if you insist on a teenage maid be ready to raise a teenager

We had house maids for some time while growing up and have always been a bit uncomfortable with the concept of house maids as practiced in this side of the world.
I think I go with Debreif on this issue.




And by the way - @poster - what are you doing with a 24 year old woman, who is not a relative, sharing your house with you 24/7 ? ? ?

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Ihedinobi: @coogar, dude, I'm a lil too mad right now to finish pp22-25. But I'll try. Before I go back my effort though, I think that it is very necessary that I tell you that what I have read so far from you is the most insensitive, anti-intellectual drivel I ever had the misfortune to see with my eyes. Smh

coogar: you better swallow cyanide and complete the misery of your misfortune, you unrepentant pederast!

chaii
Of big heads, soft bones and fat bellies,
what won't I see on Nairaland !!!!!!

coogar: no, if wasn't - i only pointed out how biased your comments were.....



next time, improve your copy and paste skills! endeavour it's more balanced. a lot of people come here to read some of the comments and it's imperative we point it out that women can be as abusive(if not more than men).....a woman who verbally abuses her partner to the point of the partner assaulting her physically is as guilty as the husband. there should be mutual respect between the two parties!

So long bro, you trying to teach 'balance' to peeps who have indicated they r patently opposed to it ?
what's the point of balance if it will end up making us think like Psychotics, p.edophile, ra.pist and serial killers - to paraphrase some earlier post I read

debrief08: Show where I bullied her please?
Secondly lol @ defensive. I had explained my reasons for leaving severally still a few people still insist there must be more, some came back and ask specifics, I answered, still there must be something, even you used the word "slow" and suggested I was guilty of being too "nice" (forgive me if that wasnt you, it is a long thread), any way, I ignore what i feel doesnt apply and respond sometimes to specifics, you ask a question or you say something wrong about me I respond and it has become defensive. lol
Bare in mind I am only responsible for how I behave and not how others behave or respond.

(Screaming) no be me o, no be me o. I always try to avoid being the judge of people decisions and actions as long as you were well informed before taking them. I can give my opinions (even if atimes it is contrary) but to call you slow and guilty of being too nice - definitely not my style

debrief08: Lol abeg oh, [b]I dont exert any influence, [/b]I am responsible for my words alone. Abeg try not to credit me with actions or words that are not mine.
My own here na to answer questions people ask, I no dey influence any one or any trend, If I make some sense to people toh it means I get small brain, but that should be seen as control or influence

You'r jokin right ? I thought you were a professional counselor or something actually ? Really, that's exactly the reason why your responses should be filled with moderation. people take things in so many different ways based on our different personalities and background.

debrief08: Please kindly show where I said any woman should divorce here? It is not my fault that people just conclude on issues when it comes from certain people, all I have said is that the traditional advice of cook, clean and turn more mumu doesnt always work, and I also said no one should be judged for their choices, where in these 22 pages did I advocate divorce?
I was asked questions i answered, I made my choices and stand by it because it worked out for me. When People were here shouting "divorce is not an option " consistently nobody talk cabal, now some of us just comment on a thread and some people come and scream divorce then falsely accuse me of being the one saying it. Find where I advocated divorce here for me abeg

Funny enough, I wasn't specifically referring to you per se. It was just my observation on the general direction the thread tried to drift to atimes.

Maybe the mistake was making that point in the same paragraph where I quoted your name (sorry for that - it surely can sound like singling out). I did that cos I felt in a way, you were probably the preponderate voice on the thread and hence exert more influence in the trends - my opinions

debrief08: Oga Pak, you conveniently left out the fact that she her self was bullying Cotton and I had to defend her because she kept hammering on the fact that cotton must have done something to trigger abuse when the woman was literally crying here.

As it not been argued here that any form of bullying/abuse is not justified regardless of what the 'abusee' might have done to trigger it ?

I'll give you the credit that after your first response, you actually stepped back and gave her what you felt was the necessary education, which she duly conceded to and you seem to be the only person that noticed that there was something ironic about the way she exited the thread

debrief08: You do what you feel is right I will do my own part. Let us forget the hundreds of posts that I have given what so many consider good advice when I dont dance to the tune of some it becomes preaching divorce, I hear, preach ya own I preach my own, no gag me, and better believe no one can bully me to silence.
Thank you for your compliment, but I will give advice as I see fit for every situation. Thank you

It will be unfair to say I have never acknowledged the good advice/good intentions of the principal players on the thread. And am not anti-divorce (neither am I pro-divorce). Religous ppl can say whatever they want. I believe people should do what is right for them but believe me sis, as a participant and most importantly an observer/learner - this thread does sometimes start to sound like a 'divorce if you can booklet'.

The essence of balance/moderation is to ensure that sometimes in our pursuit of what is good, we don't unknowingly cross some bounds.

And what's it on this thread about always feeling criticism is a sign that someone is against you ?? Believe me your greatest asset in life are people who are willing to criticize when necessary especially when its positive.

I will always appreciate ftmom, she came in on the thread criticized a prevailing notion, we saw much sense in what she said and we'r all the better for it.