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SpecialAdviser:
When I read how Zamfara Governor explained how he got some repentant bandits and Miyetti Allah members to release Kankara boys, I laughed.

Only the north can explain the relationship amongst all these violent groups and Boko Haram.

Only them know how they do all these nasty things. A saying in my language goes that a goat lying on the ground is lying on its skin. What these nonentity northern leaders has been sowing over the years will one day fully germinate. Hope they will be courageous enough to reap what they sowed.

My only anger is that this country has not been restructured to shield my area from the cankerworm of these northern misbehaviours.
Really a shame.

Chai, we have failed and cowards as leaders in the south. This is the right time for our leaders in the south to team up together to restructure this country. No force can stop a united southern Nigeria to demand for a better structure.

Also, the wealth from south is been used to fund this useless insecurity in the north. And guess what? If Buhari comes out tomorrow to contest, he will win massively there. They only care about power as long as wealth from south is getting to north. Shame on all our leaders in the south. Shame.

if u are reading this and u have links to southern leaders, tell them that their people said they are shameless.. They are shameless and have failed us

So u can dialogue with killers like bandits but can't dialogue for the structure of the country and can't dialogue with people who IPOB

Raalsalghul:
This makes sense!

Thank you bro.

haryomikun:
Your points are solid, man.

Thank you bro.

Sarita01:
I truly love what you wrote here, you're being more logical than emotional, most of the comments I've read on this topic was written out of emotions and not simple logic.

it's said "he who pays the piper dictates the tune" and also "To whom much is given,much is expected" These quotes summarizes this topic.

Thank u bro

Lol

A leader that has not shown remorse on his people killed and kidnapped doesn't deserve such. Nigeria is a useless and wasted entity.

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generationz:
Some want to cheat in peace. A woman who contributes equally must also have a say in how things are run compared to a woman who is dependent on you for even the breath she breaths.
Some men can't take that. They feel it emasculates them. They want to go as they please and so what they like so they marry liabilities and provide everything not to feel guilt.

Well, glad u said some men. If a man wants that, has the money for it and a lady is willing to accept that. I don't blame him then. Who I will blame is the person who pretends to accept such only to turn to demon after getting the upliftment she needed.

Also, personally, I hate one way communication. If I'm dating u, you must contribute in everything including vital decisions. If I'm the one to make all the decisions, I lose interest in u as a lady.

If it is about cheating, if I cheat, divorce me. If u cheat, I divorce u.

generationz:
This statement makes it obvious you don't know why many men run from self made women.

But not all men do o. Why if I may ask?

I don't have problem sharing chores o 50/50.

generationz:
You are very correct on being loyal to your benefactor even when your benefactor treats you like thrash, because you are lazy or didn't have a way out earlier, be loyal. If he spent his money to upgrade you, he deserves returns and loyalty.


My question is this as you know several women who work hard for their money, so they are increasing daily. Why don't these men go for them? Why do they have to take a cub, feed it, cloth it and expect it not to use it's teeth to tear them apart when it becomes a lion?

Who is deceiving who? What do these men want really? What are they really looking for?

They become shocked at how foolish they were and how marriage is really an investment but they were blinded because their ego was being massaged by their young sweet thing they controlled with money. Some of them even were benefactors of rich black/white older women and finessed them of thousands to train and upgrade one sweet young beauty to their level only to be shocked when these women show them they have a way out.

Many hardworking ladies who can find themselves are single and languishing. Both African and African American.

You know what hurts, how these shame those ladies for having standards and tell them they'd be single forever.

If you can't marry a lady on your financial level, stop complaining when your little cub becomes a lion and tears you apart.

Well, u made a good point. The thing is. It is my money, right? I decide on where to spend it. The money I worked hard for, I want to use it to buy loyalty, right? Some humans know what they seek in life. Some have taken the risks in life just to make money and just want to use that money to buy loyalty. I really don't think it is wrong for those people. The wrong thing here is that someone deceived them that she will offer loyalty. And end up not offering it.

If only humans can be honest. Well, humans can't be.

As u rightly said, the men are now changing their plans. Most of them are no longer marring from home. Most of them are no longer taking ladies out of the country as they used to do. This year alone, I know four of my female friends who were ghosted by their supposed partner abroad and from the look of things, the guys were scared of marring such ladies who are struggling here and help them out with better future.

Why do we always blame men for everything? The ladies who pretended to be loyal just to get upliftment by a man are the ones to be blamed. Don't start what u can't finish. If u know u can't be submissive, there are countless of men who don't care about submission, go for them. Don't lie that u can be submissive all becus u want him to help ur life. No. That is naturally criminal.

What I do tell our men is this: they better forget about marrying our ladies. Many other men will marry them. Whites don't care about submission, right? White men will marry our ladies. They will after all, they don't care about submission.

So, I keep encouraging our men to settle with other ladies from Asia or East Africa. West Africa and Nigeria in particular tend to have ladies who pretend to offer loyalty just to get rescued by the man.

Also, I know three ladies including my ex whose husbands are based in Europe and left here in Nigeria. They are all scared of bringing them to Europe.

I think the men are changing their tactics too. It will only get worse.

Submission doesn't mean treated trashly. If nature wanted, nature could have made me white instead of black.

As for the made ladies. Many men also choose them. Many men are intentionally looking for ladies who have made it. No big deal.

I personally don't mind o. If u have money as a lady. I don't mind. Why? Because I don't mind to marry such a lady.

We can be equal for real. I don't control u, u don't control me. We are just married and married. I have right to do what I want, u have yours as well. We share bill 50/50. We share home chores 50/50 or hire a helper and jointly pay the staff.

I don't mind. There are many men who don't mind too. So not fair when u say men run away from the made ladies.

Also, these women can as well walk up to men and woo them into marriage. Sincerely, we are all equal and no big deal if the ladies keep wooing men too for relationship and marriage. Sincerely, no big deal. I think this is another part the ladies who are made should learn too.

Obagreatdatoye:
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This is why we are begging for Nigeria to be restructured. Nigerian states are so richly blessed that no one will hungry when oil money stop flowing. For now, the current system is giving state governors free money. Paying state governors for doing nothing becus the state governors have no real powers to influence factors that really and truly makes a state to really grow and develop. They don't have control over those vital stuff. Those vital stuff are controlled by FG. This makes ur govt to be paid for free.

Take for money given to governors as security vote is useless becus we can't hold governors accountable for Insecurity in their states since they don't control any of the security institutions in Nigeria.
Nigeria runs the most useless political system ever all because she wants to remain united. Nigeria is scared of breakup. Nigeria forgets that when things are normal, no one will even talk about break up. The money Nigeria states can be making from tourism is mind blowing. But hey, it can't work well becus FG controls major factors such as rail, resource, electricity, security, etc. I would have loved to be there but I could be kidnapped on my way going to ekiti state. It is not the fault of ekiti state that Insecurity is high becus ekiti has no control over this.

Who are benefiting from Nigeria current useless political system? The ruling class o. From east, west, noth and South. The ruling class are the ones enjoying the system and as typical black men and women, due to our natural greed, these ruling class will never wish to adjust this useless political system. They are eating from it.

Who are suffering from the useless political system: the masses. The rest of the masses are the ones suffering it o.

What can be done?
The rest of the masses must team up and come together to demand that the ruling class change the system so that the system will work for all and not for the ruling class alone.

How can this be achieved? By force. The black man is so greedy and extremely stubborn in power. He needs serious force to bow out. The masses can achieve this thru extreme determination and force their leaders to adopt a new political system.

JovialJune:
In Nigeria, men are kings because the law favours you all, In the abroad, equality is king, and our women use it to their advantage.


The problem you guys have with wives from naija who went to the abroad is your failure to lord over her as it was in naija, y'all still want a lady of servitude who will abide by your rules and wishes cos of what you're used to forgetting obodo oyibo nor send you

It's simple, when you bring your wife over there, just know it is no longer a master slave norm but an equality, relinquish your right as being the head, you'll live your life peacefully,

I have peeps over there, and they're doing just fine.

lol, not as u have painted it. And also, these ladies should start hustling to go out too!

If anyone picks u up from poverty, clean u up, and brush u up to a better life, u owe that person loyalty. That is the least thing u owe the person. If u cant be loyal, forget about the brush up he is doing on u.

See eh, it is simple law! He who brings you out of poverty and struggle and present u with a better life lords over u. If u cant be loyal to this simple sacrifice, pls, refuse accepting the help and help ur own self by ur own self and lift ur self out of struggle by ur own self.

It is madness and deceptive for a lady to pretend to be loyal and all submissive just to attract a man who will brush her up and lift her out of hell called Nigeria, take her to a better society, then she brings out her demon. That is deception and should be met with brutal force.

If u dont want submission, hustle like men and make ur own money and ur own life. Then marry and the man will know that he added nothing to ur life financially. U guys will truly be equal.

In that western worlds, their women hustle like men, and their women dont rate men mainly based on the size of their pockets. Their women dont see men as means to escape struggle.

U cant eat ur cake and have it!

If i have to sponsor ur university from my hard earned sweat, help u open a business, marry, pay ur bills until u can take care of ur self. U owe me loyalty. I did that becus u were loyal. If when u arrive, u suddenly stop being loyal, it means u deceived me and it should be met with brutal force.

I know ladies who hate to be lord over, they refused any form of help from men o. They hustled and got to the position they wanted all by them selves like men do. They got married and are quite fine.

When most women start running the home financially, they also exhibit the lord character on the man too. It is a natural force. To solve the problem. Both genders should work hard.

Exc2000:
Why end it? Your people are living in peace, our people are not complaining infact we continue to accommodate them many decades after relocation of FCT

No, your people are complaining every day bro. We are mocked here on daily bases. They always forget that Lagos was the capital for decades and till date, many companies and FG agencies still have their main operational offices in Lagos. It is normal for people to migrate to lagos and states around lagos. In every country, there is always a city known as the business hub city. Fortunately, Lagos is the business hub for Nigeria. It is what it is and people will migrate to Lagos more and states around Lagos. If not for how Nigeria is, this shouldnt be a problem but my brother, with the way the two tribes fight often, it doesnt even make sense keeping Nigeria the way it is.

Best is for the union to end. It will surely end one day. In our life time or in the future. It will surely end. This was a union born out from 3 major nations and fussed into one brutal unitary system. For nigeria to avoid deadly break up like some other countries did, Nigeria needs either practice USA true federal system model or adopt the UK 4 nation model.

Exc2000:




Lol


No wonder Ibos get angry when you tell them Lagos is Yoruba land, and they attack Yoruba leaders like Tinubu for absolutely no reason

Many of them grew up in Yoruba land

*Ojukwu lived all his life in Lagos and his first time in Ibo land was when he visited his Aunty in Enugu after graduating in Oxford


*Okonjo Iweala had her Secondary School in Ibadan before relocating to US for masters

*Allen Onyeama of Airpeace grew up in Lagos and schooled in Ibadan

From Chinua Achebe to Nnamdi Azikiwe the list is endless most of them got training in Ibadan, Lagos and other Yoruba land,





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Yea, becus we run a unitary system where Lagos was the capital for decades.

So, if u wish this to end, we must either separate the country so that no region will go and live in other region without visa.

I dont want to be part of paying this loan. Or best still, any region where the investment is going to should be the ones paying the loan na. Na wa o. This is unfair.

gurunlocker:
Of course we know..... The police should do their job and not just stay on the highways to take bribes.


Even after the protests, do you know the number of people these animals have yet again killed, even though they are not yet fully back to the highways?

The entire Nigeria is wack. Our value system is bad. We are bullies naturally

gurunlocker:
SWAT do not patrol, that's another avenue to start your crazy menace again by collecting bribes on highway and killing people.


SWAT is only for Special operations and they go back hidden after the operation.

Who do u guys really need to handle the increasing crime rate in the country? Seems some of u don't know that Nigeria is extremely crime prone and measures will surely be extreme.

Teewhy2:
everything in uganda is always weird, why give the organizers permission to organize the show initially.

During lockdown, Naira Marley attended an event and performed. He was also arrested but forgiven.

These things happen.

Even Jennifer, the actress, also broke the lock down rule and she was taken to court. Una don forget? So why are we acting like these things dont happen?

sylve11:
Forget all these your raking. Nothing go still happen. How far with South Africans on Nigerians?

Dont mind the guy.. What else do we have as a country aside bad mouth on twitter? At night, we go back and start our noisy generators and watch our kids kidnapped

Nigeria is just one big fat for nothing nation whose main strength is bad mouth on twitter

If only Gowon had respected Abori accord, the country would have flourished.

Today, look at Nigeria millions died for her so called forced unity. The country is now a place almost everyone is scared of living.

If u see how youths are planning to run leave the country next year eh.

SilverNorGold:
We have unscrupulous southern elements pretending to be Northerners just to mock us, even here on Nairaland. Members like Kaduna1stSon, Yenefer, etc are examples. They start by praising our beloved father, President Mohammadu Buhari and Northerners and then subsequently unleashing their anti-North agenda.. They don't mean well for us. So they can continue to fool themselves..

That said, I strongly condemn the Kankara GSS attack. The government should do everything possible to arrest the situation and bring the perpetrators to book! More military personnel should be deployed as a matter of urgency to ensure that all civilians are safe and sound. Nothing must happen to anyone otherwise the repercussion may not augur well for the government.. But I strongly believe in the leadership/capability of President Mohammadu Buhari and I am 100% sure he'll handle this issue professionally and intelligently, being an experienced, brilliant and intelligent retired General.

While we await the outcome, I appeal to my brothers and sisters in the North to remain calm and patient.

God bless Nigeria.

U need to have a taste of what ordinary Nigerians go thru in the hands of these bandits due to failed system of govt.

My brother, forget it. She won't change. She even ran away. She has gone to meet her lover. She is happier there than with you. If she had waited, wept and sincerely repent and ask for forgiveness, u may forgive her.. But she ran away. That is rubbish. U want to go and look for someone who wronged u?


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mcquin:
A group of Southerners made them that powerful by reinforcing their grip on power.

As long as we continue to be foolish in the south, the entire southern Nigeria is a conquered territory by the Fulanis.

Christains mumu! Dating married men is bad but gossiping, hatred, stealing, fornication, etc are not bad!

Marry more than one woman if u can afford it! Nothing is there!

BastardWike:
Tinubu will be the first person to defend the herdsmen killers and ask where are the cows?
It beats me how a militia from the North will be killing people recklessly in the SW and everyone keeps quiet. Then I ask, can a SW affiliated group kill someone in the NW, let alone a prominent Hausa or Fulani without dire consequences??

This master/slave relationship is more real than imagined. SMH, so freaking pathetic!!

Calm down, they are doing same to other regions. The fulanis are the most powerful ethnic group and even minority.

gabazin080:
make money first before you typed that sh1t. poor people too commits suicide, besides its better to cry in a Lamborghini than to cry on a bicycle.
just type RIP and move on

Make money, first, make money first is the reason a ministry spent N116 million on biro in one year. Our value system on money is too rotten. We are all suffering it as everyone tries to make money anyhow just to be respected in the society.

Nigerians, we are extremely corrupt today becus of our value system.

The constitution took away powers from the masses. Nigeria is a mess

Lol.. Davido and even Wizkid don't know how to sing. These two sing rubbish. Music is all about lyrics and the rhythm. None of the two have it. They are popular mainly becus Nigerians and sub saharan Africans love beat more.

I heard that Nigerian soldiers are known to kill people and take their body away.

Wow.

Black people killing them selves since 1800.

The media is dead under Buhari. So many unreported death. It is a shame the media is this weak.

victor2fresh:
All the sudden the assumed dead kidnappers are arrested again and being charged to court when I'm almost certain they will come out..

This country dun tire me, make una do donation for me to leave nau I don't want to stay again na by force..?

Go and read the story again. Not all were killed. Some escaped bro.

Hahaha hahaha haha.. Foolish country. See how these old men dey use Nigeria play football.

Abeg, if u are outside Nigeria, congrats. Even if u are suffering, it is better than this useless country with terrible and selfish leaders. Look at the reasons they gave. Lol.

Those of u who defend these politicians, u hail una o.

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