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@ Poster, if you really want this relationship, then you have to set the rules in that relationship, the way it is now, it is either you let her be; forgetting about the whole relationship or go ahead with it, put the past behind and trust your fiancee, what has happened has happened, there is no way one can turn back the hands of time. I would rather you talked to your fiancee and let her know how you feel about the whole situation and set up.

BlueDiva:
Truth be told your MIL might not be happy her DIL is a foreigner.
Anyways, you are lucky your in-laws live in a different country.

Is your husband sending money to his family to the determent of his own immediate family?
If no, let it be, if yes, talk to your husband about the need to spend more on you and the kids.

At the end of the day, you don't have much of a problem.

Exactly my thoughts, the MIL might not have accepted you (poster) as her DIL, hence her cold attitude towards you.

OH!!!! NOOOOOO!!!!!!!! THIS IS SO UGLYYYYYYY for a wedding dress.

debosky:
They are simply reflecting the commonly held Nigerian mind set - if a woman is dissatisfied in a marriage, she should 'pray and shower love' on her husband. If a man is dissatisfied, he can leave. Underneath these responses lies the notion that men can find new wives but divorced women will struggle. Only men have the reserved right to decide when a marriage continues or is terminated.

OK!!!!! SIT DOWN THERE LET ''PANT BE WEARING YOU''.

^^^^^^^^^^LMAO wETIN SHE DEY FIND?? SHE FIND TROUBLE!!!!

I don't understand ''the big, big secret'' her hubby is hiding, Abi he is into 419 or armed robbery ni? because if it is infidelity, the woman would have known by now that her hubby has been cheating on her. Anyways, if he is beating you weekly like you said, you really don't need anybody to tell you to pack and leave with your children.

^^^^^ And you think is easy to lavish one with love, when that person is hurt? or having a feeling of disgust for the partner?

Charcon, is it not better you find out the secret thing your hubby is into, before you start accusing him.? I think when you have that so called ''secret thing'' he is doing, then your fighting him would be justified.

Now the everyweek beating is another story entirely.

Personally i will let my present boyfriend deal with the situation, i will not want to put myself in the middle of that mess, the ex looked for trouble and he caused what ever he is getting.

He will be fine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@ Poster, once, but i have broken hmmmmm!!!! Precisely 6, 7 8, they were not intentional though, i had to just move on.

^^^^^Lol

Big deal!!!!

dolly a:
i ate biscuit flakes with milk n sugar this morning n it was soooo yummy
@ronkebp, thanks for the recipe

My dear, am glad you liked it, the taste cannot be mistaken, love it to pieces.

ok!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My muchkin, punchkin, my little soldier, me love, My bububu, my son, especially when he is running from me or his dad, i just sit there and SMILE. I love him to pieces.

Uche am so happy for you, yeah my dear, loosing it is something but maintaining it is another, so it is easier when it becomes a life style, i have an 8 months goal, started October, have lost 15 pounds so far, and i still have more to go. My friends are seeing the result, the way they are screaming i am not seeing the scale scream, lol, anyways i am in no hurry though.

HOW IS EVERYBODY

LOG YOR Yesterday, 35 minute Bollywood dance. it was tiring but fun i had to pull myself through.

Working on your relationships especially when comparing it with other peoples', i don't think there is anything wrong with it, the way you go about doing it, is the problem. We all need wisdom in everything, especially how to treat our partners and when to raect to things, even how to react. Sometimes pulling out your hairs would work, while other times, just keep quiet and let it pass.

My mum used to tell us kids, to pick only those good qualities from her relationship with my dad and leave out those things we do not like, and it has been working for me. What works for A might not work for B.

The best thing is to make God/Christ or whoever you worship a solid foundation for your marraige.

My observation!!!!!! and this is not to raise any sentiments.

SEE HOW MEN BOMBARD THE POSTER, IF IT WAS A MAN THAT CAME ON HERE TO SAY THE SAME NOW, YOU MEN, (to be fair 95%) OF YOU WOULD SAY THAT IT IS NORMAL, THAT MEN ARE ''WIRED'' TO CHEAT. YOU HAVE ALL FORGOTTEN THAT WE ARE ALL HUMAN BEINGS AND HAVE BLOOD RUNNING THROUGH ALL OUR VEINS. WHEN WE ALL START SAYING THE TRUTH TO ONE ANOTHER IRRESPECTIVE OF GENDER, I THINK NIGERIA WOULD BE A BETTER PLACE.

^^^^^ I don't agree they go hand in hand, sleeping around is not flenjoring, partying and going out with friends are fun, having guys ask you out and you leave them with the mystery '' i wonder what that chic is going to feel like under my duvet?'' is fun, i don't see sex, especially on the field on Nysc camp ground as fun.

I just wonder why and how people equate having fun with sex?, you can flenjore enoughly without sleeping around ke.

If you think you are not meant to be then don't go with the marraige, most times the answers lies with us, we only get comfirmation from others.

LMAO, POST COLONIALISM in disguise.

Why would i cling to one guy when i can have 100s' of guys during service, abeg poo happens but not intimacy on the field.

ok!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!one guy? before or after marraige?

@ Poster, you can say that again, no matter how long you remain in spinsterhood before getting married, you will still miss it, unless you were not having fun as a spinster, But it is a stage and that stage has happily passed.

I like that, though they are not necessarily ''marraige compartible''.

You already know!!!!!

^^^As long as he has ''estates' that i would be inheriting, _{(just kidding})

Why not??

That reply is just the best!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and come to think of it, majority of Naija 'boys' that date all these white chicks either do that because of ''green card'' or because they are ''easy'', ''less stress babes''. Isn't that something?

Should there be